A good friend of mine who has two sons said something interesting to me about having a third child. She said, “Some women are just destined to have three boys and I’m one of them.” Though she wants a daughter, she knows that if she has a third child, it’ll be another boy. She can’t see me with three boys (definitely true), but she can see herself with three boys. I always refer to her as a tough mom because she’s able to handle anything. And I know she could definitely handle three boys.
We had dinner this past weekend, and got to talking about sons vs. daughters again. She loves her two boys and would be happy even if she had a third boy. The only part that makes her sad about not having a daughter is that once her sons get married, she’ll always be the mother-in-law. Her sons’ wives will be #1 in their life, as she thinks they should be. If she had a daughter on the other hand, they would only become closer as her daughter got married and had children. She wouldn’t be the mother-in-law.
I’d never thought about sons vs. daughters in that way. Though I’ve always been close to my mom, I’ve certainly become closer to her after having children. And both Mr. Bee and I are so comfortable with having her around, we wouldn’t mind living with her. I don’t know how many women would feel living with their mother-in-laws on the other hand.
Is having a son or daughter important to you? If you could only have one or the other, which would you prefer to have and why?