I need to start interviewing nannies asap, and to make sure we find the perfect candidate, I’ve compiled a list of questions to ask during interviews. In the past, I think I’ve just been way too casual about interviews simply because I didn’t know exactly what I wanted in a nanny as a first time mom. But now that I have a little experience under my belt, I think I have a pretty good idea of what we’re looking for. The most important qualifications for us are someone who: has experience caring for a newborn, has experience caring for two children at the same time, loves being a nanny, is flexible, is punctual, whose child rearing style is in alignment with ours, and someone I get along with since I working from home. This is what I came up with:
Our Requirements
– When can you start?
– What salary or hourly rate do you expect?
– What kind of flexibility do you have with scheduling?
– Would you be willing to work extended hours, and occasional evening or weekend overtime?
– Are you open to doing a nanny share?
– Can you do some light food preparation for my toddler?
– Can you cook purees for my daughter when she starts solids?
– Would you be willing to watch my toddler son when he’s sick or daycare is closed?
– How do you feel about light housekeeping duties like loading/unloading the dishwasher and the children’s laundry?
– Are you allergic to cats?
– Would you take an infant CPR course?
– Would you submit to a background check?
– Would you like to be paid on or off the books?
– Are you legally authorized to work in the United States?
Your Experience
– Why do you like being a nanny?
– How would you describe your personality?
– How long have you been a nanny?
– How many families have you worked for?
– How old were the children you cared for?
– Have you ever cared for two children at the same time? What were their ages?
– What age range are you most comfortable with?
– Why did your previous job end?
– What additional duties did you perform in your past jobs (housekeeping, laundry, dishes, errands)?
– How did your previous employers handle your lunch/food?
– Have you ever had to help with a morning routine or a bedtime routine?
– What were your hours, benefits, pay, raises, overtime, paid holidays, vacations in your previous job?
– Were you punctual and/or did you miss a lot of work for illnesses and/or personal days at your previous job?
– What qualities do you look for in an ideal employer/family?
– What would you have changed about your last job?
– Are you good at communicating when you have any issues re: your job?
– Do you still keep in touch with the previous families you worked for?
– Are you comfortable working for someone where a parent works at home?
– Have the previous families you worked for been very laid back or very hands on?
About You as a Nanny
– Are you familiar with this neighborhood and all the local activities?
– Describe a typical day with my 3 month old daughter.
– What types of activities would you do with my daughter when she’s older?
– Do you tend to stay home more often or be out and about all day?
– Do you proactively make play dates?
– Do you actively play with children (eg at the playground) or do you supervise them playing?
– Have you ever had an emergency situation while caring for a child? How did you handle it?
– Do you have children of your own?
– Do you use baby carriers?
– Do you think having a routine is important?
– What do you think of sleep training? Do you have any experience with sleep trained infants?
– How do you get babies to fall asleep?
– What would you do if my baby refused to nap?
– How do you handle discipline?
– What is your philosophy on food and snacks for children?
I think it’s difficult to tell if a nanny will be a good fit until you really see them on the job. And then there is an adjustment period as the nanny gets used to the baby and the family, so it may take a couple of weeks before everything falls into place. But since I work from home, we can hire someone on a trial basis without worrying too much about leaving our precious Olive with a complete stranger. Hopefully we find someone that we love and can eventually consider a family member.
Is there anything I’m forgetting? How did you approach the nanny interviewing and hiring process?
Hiring a Nanny part 2 of 5
1. The Nanny Search Begins by Mrs. Bee2. Nanny Interview Questions by Mrs. Bee
3. The Nanny Offer by Mrs. Bee
4. The Nannies Guide by Mrs. Pen
5. Interviewing for a nanny by Mrs. Chipmunk
pea / 19 posts
I just went through the process and did alot of research on questions that I need to ask. Some other questions that I thought were important to ask was their views on discipline (ie. when to use time outs and properly explaining why a time out was given) and especially nutrition. Last thing I want is to have a child loaded up on sugar or given fast food/ pizza for lunch everyday. I also realized that you can ask all the questions you need but in the end to make the right decision, you really need to spend a trial period with them to decide if they are right for your family especially the baby. You want to check to see if they are consistent throughout the entire trial period, listens and takes to instructions carefully and whether the baby overall takes a liking to the caregiver. My experience was one of the nannies interviewed well and looked perfect on the resume but for some reason the baby was just uncomfortable and cried all the time (even after given a bottle) during the trial period. In the end I had to go with my mommy instinct and decided she was not a fit for our family and baby.
admin / watermelon / 14210 posts
@misskoo021: yes i think the gut instinct is definitely important… perhaps the most important factor in hiring a nanny.
discipline and nutrition are also very important questions. i didn’t include them because we plan on putting olive in daycare when she’s around 1.
nectarine / 2964 posts
Wow this post is great!
We are looking to hire a nanny for our infant (will start when he’s 3 months old). We don’t have a huge budget, so we may have to hire someone that doesn’t have too much infant experience- maybe 2+ years max, as a mom, part-time nanny or just as a daycare teacher.
There are a few other candidates that I can see too, but they literally don’t have infant experience (they probably worked with 1-2 year old kids) so I am not sure I should waste the time to meet with them. What do you guys think?
Is it crucial for someone to have infant experience even they may have had experience as being a nanny / daycare teacher? Would you prefer to have a nanny who has infant experience as a mother/nanny but no early childhood education background, or have a lot of nanny experience with toddlers, have an early childhood education background, but not too much with infants (maybe as a babysitter/daycare teacher/floater)?
The last thing I want is to hire someone who just stares at my baby for 8 hours a day. (Because my cat can do that too)
admin / watermelon / 14210 posts
@irene: personally i would prefer someone who has infant experience/is a mom over someone who has a childhood education background. you just don’t know what it’s like taking care of a newborn until you’ve been there yourself.
grapefruit / 4049 posts
hmm I wouldn’t totally rule out nutrition and discipline since she might take care of your eldest sometimes too. also nutrition plays a role in the first year too especially when they start solids. will she be willing to make homemade purees? how will she deal with a baby refusing to eat?
My former nanny told me she shared Cheetos with my then 11 month old once. I thought that was fine once or twice but I did also tell her I’d prefer if she just stuck to giving her Gerber puffs and Cheerios…. she didn’t listen though and it drove me up the wall especially because we had already talked about it. Needless to say there were other things that we didn’t agree with and she didn’t stay our nanny for much long after that!
admin / watermelon / 14210 posts
@NYCaliMama: ah sorry to hear about your experience! i guess charlie’s nanny was great about feeding him healthy food so i didn’t think about it too much since i made most of the purees he ate.
i’ve added some questions in there re: discipline and food. hopefully it helps someone else too!
grapefruit / 4049 posts
@Mrs. Bee: that’s great your previous nanny was a good one. I would’ve never thought about my nanny’s own snack habits affecting my LO until the incident. I eat cheetos too, but I wouldn’t want my nanny doing it in front of LO and sharing them with her. I made the mistake of not communicating about stuff like that up front. It’s tough finding and working well with a great nanny!
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This list makes me feel like a slacker mom! Fortunately we love our nanny, even though we didn’t put her through a rigorous application process.
Living in a developing country makes it much less expensive and easier to find someone. We ended up going with the same person who’s been cleaning our house for a couple of years. No childhood development degree (no degree at all, not even high school), but she loves our baby and he loves her and that’s what’s most important to us. Those first relationships a baby has are so important and should not be broken unless truly necessary.
We tell her what she should do and, for the most part, she does it. So I’d say don’t count out good “raw material” — the right person can be trained. Then again, I would never expect her to make playdates — in fact, they are not to leave the grounds of our building except in case of emergency.
grape / 90 posts
How long do you have them do a trial for? Just a few hours? A full day? Are you supposed to pay them for their time?
I’m in the middle of looking for a nanny for my twins. I just started interviewing a couple over the phone. So I was wondering about the next step. TIA!
admin / watermelon / 14210 posts
@milkteaandpolkadots: we did a trial for a full day with two different nannies, and paid them for their time.
this time around we don’t have time to do a trial so will prolly just hire someone. i just interviewed the first nanny today!
grape / 90 posts
@Mrs. Bee: thanks, Bee!
apple seed / 2 posts
@ mrs bee and others: did you use a nanny agency to find your nanny? if so which ones do you recommend for NY/NJ area. starting a nanny search and its been tough. thank you so much!