Where I used to work, one of the lead researchers worked in the field of infant media viewing. Needless to say, I’ve become hyper-aware of our family’s media diet! When Mr. Jacks and I got married, we made the decision to not include TV as a regular part of our lives. We stream Netflix, our news shows and Modern Family, but otherwise we are proud to be TV-free. We thought this would make it easy for us to follow the AAP recommendations on screen time with our kids. We had no idea how challenging it would be!
Research shows that the average age that children begin TV viewing in the United States is now 4 months of age, if you can believe it. The average 12 month old watches 2 hours of TV daily and it only goes up from there to an average of 6-8 hours a day in older children. The AAP, on the other hand, recommends no screen time for children under the age of 2. These recommendations stem from the fact that before the age of 2, children are not able to make sense of what they see onscreen. Also, studies have shown that when a TV is on in the room, adults decrease the amount they talk to their children, which can contribute to speech delays. Further, in animal models of infant TV watching, it’s been shown that watching 6 hours of TV a day results in risk taking and hyperactivity.
A 2011 study showed that executive function (umbrella term for cognitive processes such as planning, working memory, attention, problem solving, verbal reasoning, inhibition, mental flexibility, multi-tasking, initiation and monitoring of actions) is impaired in children who watch fast paced cartoons. Couple with these findings the increased risk of obesity, sleep problems and increased risk of hypertension, and you can feel completely overwhelmed with the competing interests of living in the real world and optimizing your child’s development.
In a sense, it was pretty easy with one child to avoid any type of screen time. There were 2 of us to devote attention to one child. But with 2 children, suddenly watching a video now and again with Little Jacks (who is almost 2) seemed like a great option for a 10 minute break, especially now that she is so active! Most of what she views is educational songs like “Phonics Song 2” or vintage Sesame Street clips, and we limit her to only 3 segments per day (which ends up being about 9 minutes daily).
So what can you do to optimize your child’s development with respect to electronic media?
-No screen time until age 2. Of course I take a harm reduction approach and say limit your younger child from screen time as much as possible if you are going to allow viewing before age 2.
-What you watch matters. Fast scene changes, use of the “orienting reflex” (loud sounds coupled with bold flashing visuals that cause a child to turn their attention to the TV), and nonsensical narratives are lower quality and hard to make sense of for toddlers. Try slow steady narratives like Mr. Rogers’ Neighborhood.
-Model good media habits. It’s tempting to work on the laptop or text during dinner or even have a TV on, but try and remember the message that it’s sending to your little one. We need to make sure that we unplug and step away from technology both to provide more quality family time, and to teach our children to use media as a tool, not something that controls us.
-No screens in the child’s bedroom. This seems like a no-brainer with infants and toddlers, but you’d be surprised how many children have TVs in their rooms. Having a TV in the room has been associated with poorer quality sleep, increased violent behaviors, anxiety, and poorer school performance.
-Keep track of ALL screen time. Screen time includes video game consoles, phone apps, iPads, Kindles, TV, or other handheld games. It’s really easy to rack up lots of time if you don’t think of all the different ways our kids see electronic input!
The fact is, though, that our media diet is evolving much faster than the media research field. No one has yet studied iPad use or use of phone apps with young children yet. The science is several years behind the innovations. Also, our children are going to have to live in the real world and interact with technology on a daily basis in the future, so it might be unrealistic to say no screens at all until the brain is more fully developed. The best we can do is avoid electronic media until the age of 2. Then limit it to no more than 1 hour daily going forward into childhood, and select shows that are paced and cut to resemble the real world. Even if you can’t adhere to this strictly, any reductions or modifications you can make will benefit your child!
The last picture I could find of Little Jacks interacting with technology during Halloween 2011. LJ can easily manipulate the iPhone to get to YouTube and play her favorite video. Impressive and scary!
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pomegranate / 3414 posts
DH and I also have a limited media “diet”; we stream netflix but mostly after LO is in bed. The most TV she has seen is probably the news shows we watch/listen to while cooking dinner.
blogger / pomelo / 5361 posts
I guess my mom wasn’t as crazy as I thought: she only let us watch 30 minutes of TV a day even after we were in school and only one cartoon a day on the weekends.
admin / wonderful grape / 20724 posts
@Mrs. Blue: Which cartoon did you choose??
blogger / pomelo / 5361 posts
@mrbee: Well, I always tried to game the system by choosing Punky Brooster, but then picking chores like dusting so I could be in the living room while my brothers watched the Bugs Bunny Show.
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22646 posts
Okay seriously LOVE LJ’s costume!! so cute.
DH and I want to minimize screen time for as long as possible, though we are afraid of how hard it will be with how media-driven society is today… Thankfully DH and I aren’t HUGE tv/tech ppl while we’re at home, so hopefully that will help us to minimize media usage around future LO.
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
@mrsjyw: LJ acts like she’s deprived. Whenever she sees a tv in a store or something, she’ll plop down in front of it!
blogger / pomelo / 5400 posts
I have a feeling this will be a point of conflict for us. Papa Y grew up with the freedom to watch whatever, whenever (and had a TV in his room) whereas I was limited to PBS for certain periods, at least when I was little.
grapefruit / 4120 posts
I was a total TV junkie as a child (had a TV in my room and the whole 9 yards) but I have gone to the opposite extreme as a parent. Aside from the reasons you mention, I also feel that I want my child to LIVE his life and interpret reality without a steady diet of TV telling him how things should be. If that makes sense.
I know it’s inevitable for him to watch movies, TV, etc. but I’d like to postpone as long as possible. Same way I feel about sodas, etc.
I read a great book that I could relate to a lot. It’s called “The Big Turnoff,” by Ellen Currey-Wilson. It’s about a mom who was addicted to TV trying to raise a child with NO TV.
PS Have to admit I let him play on the iPad for maybe 30 minutes a week, although I am not proud of it.
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21628 posts
Some of the stats you mentioned are pretty alarming.
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22646 posts
@Mrs. Jacks: aww qt… she’s so clever! I totally imagined her doing it! LOL
pear / 1787 posts
This is a great post. I grew up relying on TV for entertainment and I don’t want to raise my kids in the same vein. There are great quality shows and films out there, but a lot of it is just crap.
My friend’s son just turned 5 and he’s had a TV in his room for several years. She somehow makes it so that the only channels he can access are things like PBS, Disney, and Nickelodeon, but it’s scary how much that kid relies on TV and adores it. He has his favorite shows, knows when they’re on, and on which channel. He is smart and sweet and wonderful, but I often wonder how he’s going to be affected by the amount of TV he watches/the importance placed on TV in his household.
GOLD / wonderful grape / 20289 posts
DH and I talk about this a lot- my 6 year old niece has a kindle and we’re both strongly against stuff like that for LO. I feel like she’ll hate us because all her friends will have one, but I just don’t like it!
wonderful clementine / 24134 posts
Great post. My concern isn’t so much screen time for my LO (she’s not even 1 yet) but the amount she is exposed to in our house. We always have our TV on and usually a phone or laptop out as well.
admin / wonderful grape / 20724 posts
Great post! Will have to take your point about fast-paced cartoons to heart and limit Charlie’s exposure to those. Thanks!!
pomelo / 5178 posts
We did so well until we had DS. I honestly don’t know how parents juggle two or more kids without at least a little screen time! DD knows how to use YouTube on my phone, and I rely on it almost daily to entertain her for a couple minutes when DD and DS are being demanding at the same time. Right now, our rule is that she can watch up to 15 minutes of YouTube videos (Sesame Street clips or song sequences from Disney movies) daily, but I often watch news in the morning and at night, and she’s definitely exposed to that. Maybe something I need to reevaluate for the future.
It is hard because I come from a household that watched a lot of tv; my parents always have the tv on, for background noise at least, even if they aren’t watching it. It’s definitely been a struggle for me to learn to limit tv and make better viewing choices; I don’t want my kids to grow up addicted to tv like some of my family members are.
pomelo / 5866 posts
Both DH and I came from no cable tv families. We rarely ever watch basic tv, maybe a dvd every 2 weeks. We do short youtube videos in the morning. I love ‘Fruit Train’. We tried longer cartoons but figured what’s the point if she’s not ‘getting it’. Anyway, we found that putting on her favorite music CDs help LO relax (i.e. not cling) and open some books. Lately, she’s been into dancing so it’s a good alternative to keep her from becoming sedentary in front of a screen.
hostess / wonderful honeydew / 32460 posts
Wow! LO gets about 5 minutes of screen time 1-2 times a week! I only let her watch a cartoon on youtube while I cut her nails.
DH and I watch TV or watch our shows online after LO is down for the night
Hehe. I love your little ladybug. She’s SO cute!
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Littlejacks is a doll! Oh and I do the cut the nails and watch tv like chopsuey too!
coconut / 8305 posts
@Mrs. Jacks: Great post! We do try & limit G’s screen time but at age 9 he gets WAY more than what’s recommended. He spends hours playing outside daily along with our couple of hours of school a day & lots of drawing & lego time but still that leaves 30 minutes 3x a week for games & probably 1-2 hours of cartoons/shows/or a movie a day.
That does lead me to a question though, How do I limit P’s screen time when I have both kiddos here & G is watching/playing something?! Eek! Right now she pretty much gets the same screen time b/c we’ll be hanging out in the same room. She’s normally playing with toys or I’m playing a game with her one on one but still, she is drawn to the TV and does hear/watch whats on. =/
I’m really glad to read this though b/c it gives us a starting point on limiting all of our screen time!
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
@runsyellowlites: I don’t have a great suggestion for you since I would imagine that it would be very difficult to limit one without limiting the other (unless you are willing to be in another room with the little one).
I would suggest either restructuring things so that everyone complied with the infant recommendations or being in a different room. We solved the problem by not having a TV, but I understand this isn’t an option for everyone
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What are your favorite ipad games for babies? I’m super nervous about flying home with my 8 month old son (by myself!) for Christmas. We have food challenges so I can’t use purees etc to calm him down. I’m hoping to slowly introduce him to a few games before him and I leave. He currently doesn’t watch any tv or use any electronics. I just downloaded the infant baby game Color Dots, but I was hoping for some other ideas!
Thanks!
Corrine