We found out the gender this past Tuesday, at the 20 week mark. We are having a BOY, and couldn’t be more thrilled!! The ultrasound tech found him with his hand on his crotch and his wee-wee flashing for all to see. It was hard to miss, and we laughed ourselves to tears. Her exact words: “there is NO doubt that he’s a boy, unless he’s a very uniquely made girl!”
However, that leaves us with a dilemma. You see, we’ve accumulated a boatload of girly PINK clothing in the last two years… so the first thing I did was pull out all the old clothing Toddler Heels grew out of. Then, I proceeded to sort through them, hoping we’d find something wearable for our son. After digging through mountains of clothes, I found only a handful that could possibly pass for boy’s clothing – most of them consisting of white onesies. I feel okay about putting our son in girl’s clothing, but Mr. Heels is firmly against it!
(Left: not even all the clothes from T.Heels’ first two years of life, Right: the pathetic-looking pile of clothes that could possibly pass for boy clothes!)
As a second-time mom, I did not expect to “nest” again this time around. I went all out with Toddler Heels’ nursery by painting her walls, making sure her dresser and crib were matchy matchy, finding the right trim, getting that perfect rug, and searching high and low for bedsheets to match. I wanted things to be perfect. Our situation this time around is a bit different. First of all, Baby Boy Heels won’t even have a room of his own when he first enters the world. Since my in-laws are still living with us, we have zero rooms to spare, and having the new baby share a room with Toddler Heels is out of the question for now. So Baby Boy Heels won’t be getting his very own, newly furnished nursery like his big sister did. Nor will he be welcomed into the world with brand new everything. This seasoned mom has learned that new babies do juuuust fine with VERY little, and I will not be getting things “just in case” like I did with my first (though I desperately want a Rock ‘n Play!).
So my nesting this time around is already looking quite different than the first. Instead of painting nursery walls, we’ll be rearranging furniture in our master bedroom to accommodate the new baby. Instead of taking tags off brand new baby clothes, we’re determined to hunt around at yard sales for some cheap, used ones. In fact, we’re pretty determined to buy as little as possible for this next one. If that means he’ll be sporting his older sister’s pink bibs and Hello Kitty baby blankets, then so be it. There are so many things I would do differently already, but it doesn’t make the “nesting” any less fun! Can’t you tell I’m excited? I can’t believe I’m already “nesting” and I’m only at the 20-week mark!
When did you start nesting? How did you adjust your living situation when baby #2 entered the world?
blogger / pear / 1607 posts
Congratulations!!
I’m totally falling into the first time mom trap of getting things “just in case!” Just in case we can’t get the baby to sleep, just in case the baby’s cold, just in case the baby doesn’t like those bottles . . . . Obviously the second time mom strategy is much wiser!!
hostess / wonderful pumpkin / 16640 posts
Congrats! I definitely plan on being more practical and frugal for Baby #2!
GOLD / nectarine / 2181 posts
At around 8 months when we had to swap the nursery and office since my LO will eventually share a room. We didn’t find out the gender (either pregnancy) so I thought we were going to be set with gender neutral clothing; turned out aside from white onsies we only had about 3 sleepers. I am now going through DD’s clothing and packing it up to take to a local consignment shop to sell so that we can buy DS more things to wear.
hostess / wonderful pumpkin / 17609 posts
Congrats on a little boy :)
I wish they would make more gender neutral clothing so we wouldn’t have this problem! I’m always looking for gender neutral things but my options are “boy” or “girl” so I get a couple girl things and a couple boy things. I figure it’s better to dress my girl in some boy things then my maybe future boy in girl things, and I don’t want to have to buy EVERYTHING over if I have a boy!
hostess / papaya / 10100 posts
Congratulations on your baby boy!
pear / 1524 posts
Congratulations! Boys are awesome! I have two and lucked on on the clothing front. They were also born in the same season (April and then March) so my LO can wear his big brother’s clothes. Although, he seems to outgrow them a little sooner but it’s okay. Still works and if it’s a little tight it’s all good! We’ll make it work! I would do the same if I had a girl – make her wear boy clothes at home and get some cute outfits for going out. I’ve always wanted to have a girl and buy her Hello Kitty stuff!
blogger / nectarine / 2043 posts
Ahhh!!!!!! Congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! A boy will be such a fun addition to your family!
GOLD / honeydew / 8506 posts
Congratulations on baby boy!! One of each, perfection!
hostess / hostess with the mostess / 21142 posts
Congrats congrats! We’re both having boys!!
I went through my lo’s clothes and only found a handful of clothes baby boy can wear too..
Oh wells.. Hoping our family pulls through and gets him lots of stuff! Haha
GOLD / nectarine / 2942 posts
congrats! I also have a girl and now a boy. It is so true that the 2nd one gets the shaft. Especially if he’s a boy. There are just not as many options for boys compared to girls. He uses all of big sisters old bibs and hello kity dishware, and he wears any of her old clothes, as long as they’re not ridculously girly and we’re not going out in public :-). At least for now until he can express whether he cares or not!
apricot / 315 posts
Congratulations! I must say the rock n play is totally awesome and worth getting. Also, this post makes me very happy I stuck out being team green. As a result I have enough to clothe baby #2 for the first 6 months or so no matter the gender.
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Congrats. Follow Baby Cheapskate on FB or go to camelcamelcamel to check the price history of the rock n play on Amazon. They often show up really discounted.
As a mom of two, baby holders are far more important the second time around.
Ask around for baby clothes. We have tons of borrowed hand me downs and I mark them with a sharpie on the tag if I need to return them.
blogger / pomegranate / 3185 posts
@Erwoo – My two will also be born in the same season! If I had two girls it would’ve been so easy to pass down the clothes – my first was born in January, and my second will be born in February.
@purrpletulips – I don’t know how you held off on finding out the gender… it would be so hard for me to do that – I was curious since Day 1!
blogger / pomegranate / 3185 posts
@Leigh – thanks for the tips, I will do that!! I’ve been roaming around Craigslist too. And some friends have already generously offered their boy clothes to us so hopefully it’ll last us at least the first couple months!
GOLD / cantaloupe / 5604 posts
woo hoo! congrats! so exciting! i really really love having one of each!
GOLD / grapefruit / 4834 posts
Awww…. love your u/s story and I had to read it to DH and say “even in the womb, boys already want to grab their crotch!” lol! That’s a great story to tell him someday!
I think I will start nesting big time after our 20 week scan next week. We already have most of the stuff we need, just need to start putting the nursery together.
I think most most become more practical and frugal the 2nd time around! It’s much wiser for sure!
blogger / olive / 85 posts
congratulations!