Back in March, I wrote a post on the book Bed Timing, which says that the most important factor when it comes to sleep training is when you do it. The authors say that because all babies go through predictable developmental stages, sleep training at particular ages ensures the best success. According to the book, these are the best and worst times to sleep train:
0 to 2.5 months – not so good
2.5 to 4 months – good
4 to 5.5 months – not so good
5.5 to 7.5 months – ideal
8 to11 months – really not so good
12 to 16 months – good
17 to 21 months – not so good
22 to 27 months – good
28 months to 3 years – not so good
3 to 3.5 years – good
3.5 to 4 years – not so good
We sleep trained Charlie when he was 4 1/2 months old in a not so good stage, nap trained Olive when she was 8 months old (7 months adjusted) in the ideal stage, and then night trained her when she was 13 months old in a good stage, so we’ve been able to test out their theory. These were the results!
By the time we sleep trained Charlie he was in a full-blown sleep regression, and I can’t help but wonder if it would have been much easier, and saved him weeks of exhaustion, if we’d sleep trained just a couple weeks earlier during a “good” sleep training period. I wouldn’t say Charlie was difficult to sleep train, though he was definitely way more difficult than Olive. But even before reading Bed Timing, I always said that Charlie was ready to be sleep trained before 4 1/2 months, and planned on sleep training my second child earlier.
I waited for the “ideal” period to nap train Olive (5.5-7.5 months), and it really was ideal because she was the easiest baby ever to nap train. She only cried less than 3 minutes, 3 times. She went into her crib awake from day 1 and her sleep improved instantly. I go into a lot of detail on how we nap trained Olive here. Was she so easy to nap train because it was during the “ideal” period? I was able to test that theory again when we recently night trained her.
Olive was 10 months old when we got back from the Philippines, and her sleep unbelievably got right back on track. But then she was sick for pretty much 2 1/2 months straight with 2 ear infections, a respiratory virus, and cold after cold. After she got better, she was still in the habit of waking up at night — often over 5 times a night! I knew the time had come to night train her, and luckily she was in the 12-16 month good period to sleep train. You can read how I night trained Olive in her 13 month update, but the summary is — she was so easy to night train!
The first night Olive cried 15 minutes. The second night she cried 4 minutes. The third night she cried 1 minute. I even kept 2 middle of the night feedings during night training, but she quickly dropped them on her own the first week. That was 3 weeks ago, and Olive has been night weaned and sleeping through the night ever since! She sleeps 11-12 hour stretches, and goes back down in the mornings after I nurse her for another hour or two. It’s been life changing because I’d been waking up multiple times a night for over a year, and she’s finally sleeping through the night. She hasn’t woken up in the middle of the night even once since!
I always thought that Olive would be difficult to sleep train because she can have a really stubborn personality. But maybe sleep training her in the “good” periods really made it much easier. They’ve made a believer out of me!
When did you sleep train your little one? Were they easy to sleep train?
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3. Does When You Sleep Train Help Determine Success? by Mrs. Bee
4. Sleep Training Noelle: Part I by Mrs. High Heels
5. Sleep Training Noelle: Part II by Mrs. High Heels
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7. Sleep Training Part 1 - How We Night Trained by Mrs. Bee
8. Sleep Training by Mrs. Jump Rope
9. The Whens, Whys and Hows of Our Sleep Training Process by Mrs. Pen
10. Sleep at 8 months & How Baby H Started Sleeping Through the Night at 12 Weeks by Mrs. Hopscotch
hostess / honeydew / 7667 posts
Thank you for posting this!
I think we are going to squeak in under the “ideal” section – I want to sleep train after the holidays and my LO will be allllmost 7.5 months.
GOLD / pomegranate / 3570 posts
Hearing that Olive’s schedule went back on track after your trip to the Philippines gives me hope. We were planning to sleep train DD after our international trip back home, at 8 months, even though it’s not supposed to be a great time. Right now would be the ideal time for her, but I’m afraid I’d be doing all that for nothing since we’re leaving in few weeks anyway.
For us it’s more than sleep training, it’s transitioning her into her crib, in the nursery. She’ll be sleeping in a pack and play at my mom’s so I thought that might help with the transition for when we return back home. I’m still battling with the decision, but your post has got me to reconsider. Maybe now is the right time …
hostess / pineapple / 12857 posts
What useful info! Thankfully, we didn’t need to sleep train but this is great info in case #2 needs it!
GOLD / persimmon / 1117 posts
We trained at around 3 months and it was really pretty painless. LO is nearly 7 months old now and she is a champ when it comes to sleeping. I realize I am very, very lucky and am fully expecting that we won’t have it so good the next time around :)
cherry / 109 posts
Can you recommend a good book about nap training? I have the baby whisperer and have read baby-wise and other things online, but can’t get a good grasp on nap-training. LO sleeps great at night, but she’ll only nap when she wants to…and normally not very long. I’ve just never read anything concrete about nap training. Thanks!
hostess / papaya / 12072 posts
I’m not ready to sleep train yet at 6 months. I have a feeling we may wait until that 12 month period. She only wakes up once a night now (more if she’s sick). I’m totally okay with that. This chart is great, though. Thank you for it.
blogger / pomegranate / 3499 posts
I’ve never heard of these ideal sleep windows – such great info!
We sleep-trained Noelle at 6-weeks, and although we all immediately got better sleep and it worked, in retrospect, I wish we waited longer because she really was so little and it was hard. If we need to, I’ll probably sleep train our 2nd at the 2.5-4 month window, before the 4-month sleep regression hits.
nectarine / 2370 posts
We did some half-hearted sleep training between 7 and 7.5 months. DD slept really well for a while after that, but now at 8.5 months we’re back sliding a bit, and we’re been getting up once per night on average to replace her binky. Right after sleep training she would sleep through the entire night on her own.
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At the advice of our pediatrician we sleep trained/night weened at 4 months and it took 2 nights for him to sleep through. He gave us signs though that led us to believe he was ready then. For another baby later may be more ideal.
blogger / pear / 1840 posts
I just read that book and got a bit depressed because we are still a ways away from the next good window :(
GOLD / grapefruit / 4008 posts
I missed this earlier…I had no idea about these windows, thanks for sharing!
hostess / papaya / 10341 posts
That’s interesting that there are ideal times to sleep train.
admin / honeydew / 8650 posts
@Crumbs: you’d be surprised how quickly they get back on track after they’ve been sleep trained once. you could try a mild form and see how it goes? olive barely cried — hopefully your lo will be the same!
@phdmommy: there are no books on nap training that i’ve come across. i had to just talk to real parents and put a plan together myself. i have several posts in the archives on how i did it. i’m working on a feature that compiles all the nap training posts in one place — that will be live soon!
olive / 97 posts
we started sleep training the week she turned 4 months and, fortunately, it only took 2 days! she’s been sleeping through the night ever since (she’s 12 months now). i wonder if we had just made it in the “good” window!
pear / 1601 posts
Nicholas was around 5.5 months and Skyler around the same too but I can’t remember exactly. He never needed night time sleep training just for naps. I don’t think Nicholas needed much night time sleep training as much as naps as well. Knock on wood, but we’ve been pretty lucky in terms of sleep. Skyler doesn’t nap long but he will nap. I’ll take anything over nothing! Thankfully, he’s not unusually cranky except for tonight. First time he was super cranky bc he didn’t nap well today. I guess not unexpected but unusual for him though.
blogger / olive / 98 posts
i’d never heard of bed timing, this was really interesting to me