This is a guest post by Hellobee hostess Andrea!
Potty training. Two words that fill many parents with dread. Disposable diapers are so convenient that many people, at least those in the US, are waiting longer to potty train. DH and I definitely fell into this category. We had dabbled here and there with potty training, but it was sporadic. However, with baby sis arriving in a month, we felt like it was time to bite the bullet. DD was also at the point where she could take off all her clothes and practically change her own diaper (a very comical sight), so we felt like that was a sure sign of potty readiness! But how do you know for sure, right? None of her peers at daycare had been trained, even the ones who were approaching 3 years old (DD is 2 years and 7 months old). Well, as the saying goes, you’ll never know until you try. So try we did over the three-day Thanksgiving break.
For research, I re-read all the Hellobee blog posts on the subject.
For supplies, my first purchase was a bottle of pee and poop stain remover because I was so worried about damage to my carpet and furniture! I went to the supermarket to get juice boxes and popsicles, which would help keep her hydrated and in need of bathroom trips. I also bought marshmallows to use as our pee reward and lollipops as our poop reward.
We already owned a few potties since DD had been going here and there, so I knew which one she liked the best. Her preference was and still is the Fisher Price Cheer for Me Potty. This is a great potty to use because it starts playing a song as soon as the first dribble of pee comes out. Your toddler might start off peeing in little, teeny amounts that would just get lost in the adult toilet. By using this potty, everyone will know for sure if your toddler has peed. Plus, the potty’s music and phrases are just fun.
I made a list of activities to keep everyone entertained indoors for the duration of potty training. I filled a gift bag with potty training presents for DD to open on the first day. It contained:
- Potty Time Potty Watch: It plays music at different intervals that you can set to remind children (and parents) to use the potty. DD was so excited to put it on. It was her first watch!
- Underwear with DD’s favorite cartoon characters on it: As much as it may pain you to buy cartoony underwear, your kids will love it. They will quickly ditch their diapers for the undies.
- Sesame Street – Elmo’s Potty Time DVD: We started each potty training day with a viewing of this DVD.
- Two children’s books on using the potty that we’ve been reading together for quite some time already: Potty by Leslie Patricelli and A Potty for Me! By Karen Katz
- Marshmallows and lollipops
- Potty training rewards chart and stickers
- Pampers Kandoo Sensitive Flushable Wipes
I gave DD a heads up about potty training the night before. I told her about the new underwear purchases, and that was enough to have her jumping up and down in excitement!
We presented her with the gift bag of goodies, which she loved. She immediately wanted to take off her diaper and put on a pair of undies plus her potty watch. We had breakfast and tried to get her to drink a lot of liquids. She’s never been a fan of juice, but I tried the juice boxes anyway. No dice. So we just stuck to milk and water, but she wasn’t drinking a lot. Her watch went off every 30 minutes but she said that she didn’t have to potty so we didn’t make her sit. Finally, at 10:30 am, she was sitting on my leather office chair and started to pee. Oh no!! We rushed her into the bathroom where she finished peeing. YAY! We were really impressed that she had the ability to hold it mid-pee and finish off in the potty. There was lots of cheering, a marshmallow reward, and stickers were applied to her potty chart.
Here’s how the rest of the day went –
12:15 pm: Ran to the bathroom to pee but couldn’t hold it, peed by the bathroom door
2 pm: 1st fully successful pee in the potty!
3:30 pm: Poop in the potty!!!!!!
4:40 pm: Pee accident on her foam play mat squares
5:15 pm: 2nd successful pee of the day in the potty!
A lot of parents want to give up after Day One, but we thought our results were fantastic! We were especially amazed that she took a poop in the potty. She initially asked for a diaper to poop in and I had a moment of panic. I didn’t want her to hold it in all day so I debated giving in to her diaper request. But I decided to hold off and do everything I could to get that poop in the potty first. I tried giving her a popsicle, but like the juice boxes, she wasn’t a fan. The lollipops were supposed to be a reward, but I decided to go ahead and give her one pre-poop. If I wanted her to sit on the potty for a while, then the lollipop would be perfect since it takes so long to finish. She’s never had a lollipop before and luckily she did like it. Whew! So there we sat. I read her books and played her videos on the iPad while she licked her lolly. We did this for an hour and a half. Suddenly, the music started playing – she did it – there was poop in the potty! I was so relieved and pleased that I didn’t give into the diaper request.
The second day was exhausting! DD really got into this potty thing full swing and could not get enough. She kept running to the bathroom and we didn’t have to do much prodding.
This was the potty schedule:
7:30 am: Pee
9:30 am: Pee
10:15 am: Pee
11:05 am: Pee
11:20 am: Poop
11:55 am: Pee
2:15 pm: Pee
2:55 pm: Pee
3:55 pm: Pee
4:05 pm: Pee
4:45 pm: Pee
I was exhausted at that point so I stopped keeping track. However, notice that there were no accidents?? We were amazed! We also left the house for a quick errand after her 2:55 pm pee. She did say that she wanted to pee while we were out, but we told her that she needed to wait until we were home again. So we were home by 3:55 pm and she peed again. Even though we were not out for long, it was good for everyone to practice the potty routine for leaving the house.
Third and final day of potty training at home. The schedule was:
7:00 am: Pee
7:40 am: Pee
8:50 am: Pee
10:45 am: Pee
11:55 am: Pee
12:20 pm: Pee
2:00 pm: Pee
2:10 pm: Ran to the potty to poop, started to go in her underwear, but she was able to stop and finish in the potty.
3:50 pm: Pee
4:30 pm: Pee
5:15 pm: Pee
6:30 pm: Pee
On day three, we left the house again for a quick errand in the morning and even had an afternoon play date at my BIL’s house! DD’s 3:50 pm and 4:30 pm pees happened during the play date. It was fantastic that she used the potty there as well!
DD returned to daycare the next day and had NO ACCIDENTS there either! We did it! DH and I were incredibly proud of our girl. Potty training was way easier than we could have ever imagined. She’s not having any accidents and she’ll use any public restroom wherever we go (for pees AND poops)! DD will even pee on command, whenever we ask, so I think this is why we haven’t had any accidents. I think it’s important to note that we did not force her to sit on the potty at any point during the training. We gave her control over deciding when to sit and I think that really worked for her. She’s also learning how to hold it in for longer periods of time so we’re not in the bathroom nearly as a much a week and a half later.
Additionally, DD quickly lost interest in stickers for the potty chart and marshmallows/lollipops, so she didn’t even get any rewards for going to the potty past the initial three days.
You’re probably left wondering about what we did for naps and overnight. DD no longer naps so we didn’t have to do anything there! We decided not to potty train overnight because she doesn’t seem ready for that. She sleeps for 12+ hours at night and her overnight diaper still weighs about five pounds in the morning (she doesn’t even drink anything before bed), so we’re going to tackle that after she turns 3. I’ve read that a lot of kids start to stay dry overnight between the ages of 3 and 4 when they are more developmentally ready for it.
So that was our relatively pain-free potty training experience. I didn’t even have to use any of the stain remover!
Have you or will you be trying the three day potty training method?
Potty training part 5 of 14
1. Best Potties by Guides2. Favorite Potty Training Books by Mrs. Bee
3. Potty Training Accessories by Guides
4. Printable Potty Training Rewards Chart by printables
5. Three-day potty training by parenting
6. It's My Potty and I'll Try if I Want To by mrs. wagon
7. Let the potty training begin by Mrs. Sunglasses
8. Conventional vs Early Potty Training by Mrs. Superhero
9. Charlie is now Prince of the Potty! by Mr. Bee
10. Potty Training Bootcamp by Mrs. Cowgirl
11. Style vs. Practicality: Skinny Jeans and Little Boys by Mrs. Cowgirl
12. Easy Does it with the Potty by Mrs. High Heels
13. Enter the World of Potty Training by Mrs. Checkers
14. Potty training a 22 Month Old by mrs. tictactoe
wonderful clementine / 24134 posts
That is amazing! I pray our journey is just as easy!
pomegranate / 3008 posts
Great job! We chose to do a non-rewards based method and followed Jamie Glowacki’s “Oh Crap. Potty Training” book. We did night and day training at the same time and have been very happy. My son was younger so it took a little longer to get the hang of it but he was a role model for a number of other kids in his toddler class at daycare.
hostess / wonderful watermelon / 39513 posts
Amazing! I will definitely bookmark for the future!
hostess / wonderful persimmon / 25556 posts
Great job, @andrea!!!! One of my co-workers recently did this with their almost 2 year old son and it has worked out well.
grapefruit / 4049 posts
@pelikila: love the title of that book… I’ll have to check it out, haha! good for you guys with potty training!
@andrea: awesome job!! isn’t the sound of pee or poop in the toilet so wonderful?! haha… I remember when it would happen for DD 1 I wanted to just jump for joy!
pomegranate / 3008 posts
@NYCaliMama: I like her style and method. It is very down to earth and calls it like it is. http://www.jamieglowacki.com/
hostess / wonderful honeydew / 32460 posts
Awesome!!!!! We’ll try the 3 day potty training when LO’s ready. She’s starting to show signs so hopefully in a couple of months.
pomegranate / 3314 posts
Wow! Can I just say I am impressed? And also a little relieved that it might not be as painful as I fear? LO is only 7 months old, but I’ll admit I’m already dreading it – to the point that I’m thinking she has to be potty trained before we try for #2 (no pun intended – ha!).
hostess / eggplant / 11068 posts
I will totally be trying this out when the time comes!
GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts
@pelikila: Now that’s a winning book title! I’ll have to check it out for some additional tips when I have to potty train #2!
@mediagirl: Woohoo! Glad it worked for your co-worker, too!
@NYCaliMama: Yes, music to our ears! And she quickly ditched the little potty because it became uncool that it doesn’t flush like the adult toilet. Hooray! I was hoping that I wouldn’t have clean the little potty for much longer because who wants to do that?
@meredithNYC: LOL to the #2 pun!!
honeydew / 7488 posts
@andrea: congratulations! tha’ts awesome that you were able to get over this milestone before LO2 arrives. This method worked for us too. DD was mainly motivated by mini m’s, but after she got the hang of it and realized how great it was not to have to sit in a wet diaper, rewards weren’t even necessary any more. I think girls tend potty train very easily since they like to be clean. i’m not sure about boys, I guess I’ll cross that bridge when I get to it.
blogger / watermelon / 14218 posts
Woohoo!!!! yayyyy what a great job!! So ideal. We had the opposite experience– a difficult day training experience (with accidents weeks afterwards) but for night training, all it took was one pee. He woke up crying and everything was drenched. We cleaned everything up and put him back to bed, and he’s never had a night accident since! Ok, I take that back, once when he was sick I think he had a nightmare and peed. But his pajamas and sleep sack contained the pee so I didn’t even have to change his sheet… haha. So I think he started to pee then woke up and held it.
GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts
@T-Mom: I was surprised that it worked because she never complained about dirty diapers. I think the underwear got her going. She just loves her girly underwear!
@mrs. wagon: That is amazing about the easy night training! Since we potty trained, she has been waking up with way less pee in her overnight diaper (and was even completely dry once this week) so I think we’re heading in the right direction already!
blogger / watermelon / 14218 posts
@Andrea: “PENIS DOWN!!!” ;D
GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts
@mrs. wagon: That’s going to be in my head all day now, thanks!!
blogger / watermelon / 14218 posts
@Andrea: I can put another one in your head if you want… whenever we are trying to remind him to point it down (I do NOT understand why he always forgets) he sometimes looks right in our faces and earnestly says “don’t touch my wee-wee!” I really really hope he doesn’t repeat that elsewhere…..
GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts
@mrs. wagon: I can totally picture his face while saying that, too cute!!
blogger / watermelon / 14218 posts
@Andrea: “Don’t touch my wee-wee, mommy. Don’t TOUCH it.”
GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts
@mrs. wagon: then stop touching it already!! LOL!
blogger / watermelon / 14218 posts
@Andrea: hehe… he starts saying it before I’ve even started reminding him to push it down. Ok I’m sorry. Enough about my son’s wee-wee.
GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts
@mrs. wagon: You’ll have to show this to him some day. Bwahahaha!
hostess / watermelon / 14932 posts
@Andrea: WOOHOO! good job to you dh and dd! that is fantastic..I hope it’s that easy for us when the time comes!
@Andrea: @mrs. wagon: omg..you guys are killing me. lol.
grapefruit / 4120 posts
Just curious if you’re worried about regression once your second babe arrives? A lot of people told me not to bother potty training with another on the way….
blogger / nectarine / 2687 posts
we loved the three-day method! it worked so well for us! so glad it was successful for you and your little lady
cherry / 226 posts
I was curious if there’s any mamas who tried EC but failed? I am doing it with my 13 mo old, but it’s slow. We catch most poops because they are easier but not all pees. I am thinking of surrendering and waiting till he can talk to me, since he hasn’t been consistently doing the sign language, he tells me after the fact that he made pee or poop and not before.
pomelo / 5866 posts
@Teachermama: we did part time EC and then had to take a break for about a month around the same age because she started a potty strike. Not a complete failure, just a pause. Dd remained dry at night after 1 year though so we did andrea’s 3 day method at 20 mos and it totally worked. It has been 3 months now…still going!
GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts
@sloaneandpuffy: The thought has crossed my mind, but I do think she’s really gotten the hang of it. It has almost been a month and she’s had no accidents at home and only a few at daycare, probably because she’s too busy playing or the teacher could not take her to the bathroom right away.
@Mrs. Cowgirl: yes! I re-read your blog a few times before doing our 3 days.
@808love: wow, I didn’t know your DD was trained at night so early on. Amazing! I will probably try the 3 day method earlier with DD2, around 18-20 months, like you!
pomelo / 5866 posts
@Andrea: Yes, I think starting even earlier may have worked out for DD but I wanted to do it on one of my breaks from school. We had visitors at 15 months, at 18 months we went on a trip so I waited until my next break.
Since DH and sitter’s support was critical for follow up, I had to be sure they were ‘ready’ too. I didn’t realize their attitudes and resistance would be a slight obstacle. Potty training at this age makes people act funny and say ‘oh you have plenty of time, what’s the rush?’ or ‘she’s stressed, that’s why she caught a cold or was fussy’. But seriously, if you and your child are physically and mentally ready, you just have to ‘go for it’ and convince people to take it seriously. So anyway, I’m glad to hear from some like minded bees. Before HB, it was all just ideas in a book. I liked reading the blogs about people recently going through the 3 day experience for encouragement.
GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts
@808love: Even though it’s only a short period of time (3 days, 5 days, a week), it can be really draining so you’re right, support is everything. This method seems to be really popular on HB. Not surprising because it seems to work really well!
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
Good post! I hope there won’t be any regressions when little sib arrives. We had a bad potty regression when M. came, but then again Lala was only 21 months, so it was to be expected!
cherry / 226 posts
@808love: Thanks for the encouragement….LO went poop & pee today & yesterday, so I understand it will take time when there’s a strike. I am just glad to hear that the 3 day training can work. By the way…I was looking at your screen name, are you from HI? I am, I live in Kona.
blogger / persimmon / 1220 posts
@pelikila: I’m going to buy this book!
pomegranate / 3008 posts
@Mrs Checkers: Awesome! She now has a once a week radio show so check that out too. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/ohcrap/2013/06/11/potty-training-more-questions-more-answers