Even before we had kids, Mr. Sunglasses and I debated whether they would go to French or English school. In 1977, Quebec passed a provincial law called the Charter of the French language (Bill 101), which states that French is the official language, from signage, to language to schooling. The language of instruction from kindergarten to secondary school is French, but learning English as a second language is also mandatory for all children attending French school beginning in elementary school.
Luckily, at the request of parents, children may receive instruction in English if they fall in one of these two situations:
- a child whose father or mother is a Canadian citizen and received elementary instruction in English anywhere in Canada, provided that that instruction constitutes the major part of the elementary instruction he/she received in Canada;
- a child whose father or mother is a Canadian citizen and who has received or is receiving elementary or secondary instruction in English in Canada, and the brothers and sisters of that child, provided that that instruction constitutes the major part of the elementary or secondary instruction received by the child in Canada.
We are both French Canadian but because my father went to English school when he was younger, that meant I was allowed to as well. Mr. Sunglasses, on the other hand, went solely to French school and learned very basic English, per the school curriculum. Today I am fully bilingual — I read, write and talk in both French and English — but unfortunately Mr. Sunglasses cannot say the same.
Since Mavrick was born, we decided that I would speak to him in English and Mr. Sunglasses would speak to him in French. That way he would learn both languages easily. Now at 2.5, Mavrick is slowly starting to speak but understands both languages fully. (How amazing is that?) We decided to continue doing the same with Sienna, so I’m speaking to her solely in English.
Both kids are surrounded more by French speaking family and friends than English, so when we started to really consider what school the kids would go to, my first thought was an English school. Mr. Sunglasses prefers French. Ah the joys. I tried to explain to him that everyone around the kids are French and they will speak better French than English to begin with. His view on it is that it’s easier to learn English than it is French, which is true with so many verbs and conjugation rules in French.
Personally throughout my life, I felt so privileged to be bilingual; it’s allowed me to get more jobs and better pay too. Everyone I come across always tells me how lucky I am to speak both. It’s very rewarding and I want my kids to feel the same. I don’t want them to have obstacles with language when they get older.
After going back and forth and hours of discussions, we finally agreed to opt for English school but with French immersion, which means they will have more French than standard. I think we are both happy with our decision; it just took a while to get there.
Are you raising a bilingual child? How do you divide speaking English and another language?
GOLD / honeydew / 8474 posts
I’m Chinese and the hubby is Cambodian. I plan on speaking Chinese to our LO and the hubby will speak Cambodian. Meanwhile, the hubby and I will converse in English. I know visiting family will result in them conversating in their respective language as well. I’d love to send them to Chinese school as they get older to learn to read and write. I hated going to Chinese school growing up, but am so glad/thankful my parents forced me to.
persimmon / 1477 posts
Favoriting this, as it will likely come up in the future! I am from the US, but DH is from Ecuador. I speak both English and Spanish fluently, while DH only speaks very basic English. We speak Spanish together at home. I want our future kiddos to be fully bilingual, but I haven’t seen many HB posts that talk about this. Would love to hear more from others and get a take on their experience!!
GOLD / pomegranate / 3695 posts
I think it’s great that your kids will be immersed in both languages! We’d like ours to learn both Spanish and English; we’ll see how that goes.
blogger / pear / 1606 posts
Such a cool opportunity! I wish I was better with languages!
GOLD / pear / 1680 posts
I have French language rights and think it would be foolish to have that end with me. Plus we live in the Nationals Capital – if they don’t have French they’re at a severe disadvantage, at least in this area. PLUS, the French Catholic board is the best board, so ….. French Catholic it is!
GOLD / nectarine / 2489 posts
I speak in English and Korean to LO, and DH speaks English and Cantonese to her. We plan on sending her to French immersion because they don’t teach French until the 7th grade in Alberta! Ridiculous.
GOLD / nectarine / 2915 posts
I’d like to send my kids to french immersion. Same reasoning as you, except reverse. They will be surrounded by english and this way they will be bilingual, which has all the advantages you pointed out. My only concern (which I’ve heard from teachers), is that their english might suffer. I’m pretty strong in english, so I’m hoping that I’ll be able to compensate for that.
Also question – there was a ton in the papers last year about students being denied the ability to go to english school in Quebec. With doing the English school/French immersion combo, will that still allow for your kid’s kids to go to English school if they so choose?
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I would take issue with your husband’s claim that English is the easier language to learn. (I went to English school in NS, but did french immersion from grades 7-12, and am now employed as an English teacher). English has so many idiosyncrasies and its rules contradict themselves all the time. French, while somewhat complicated with gendered nouns and conjugation rules, is still a lot simpler since the rules appear to actually be consistent and logical :)
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My son is only 7 months old, but we’re hoping to raise him bilingual. My husbands only speaks to him in Italian (his native language) and I speak to him in English. We live in the U.S., so of course the baby is more exposed to English. However, none of my husband’s family speak English, so it’s very important to us that he learn Italian so he can have a relationship with his grandparents and cousins. I’m hoping that between my husband speaking Italian at home, Italian TV/radio (as the baby gets older), regular Skype chats with his Nonni, and extended trips to Italy, he’ll learn both languages.
olive / 99 posts
I will teach my son English, will my husband will speak primarily Hindi, so that our son will learn both languages. Obviously, he would learn English here in the U.S., regardless, but my husband will speak Hindi so he can become fluent.
GOLD / pear / 1772 posts
I would love to have my kid be bilingual… I learned another language by living overseas for years but I would have liked for it to come naturally. That being said, I would still want my kids to be in English school! I have never even considered something else.
coffee bean / 25 posts
How wonderful and lucky you and your children are! I am not fluent but plan to teach my children French, and they will also go to a school that offers it as a choice (eventually).
hostess / honeydew / 7543 posts
We’re lucky to have French Language Rights so our daughter will be going to French school when she is old enough. Both DH and I used to be fluent but have fallen out of practice. I hope when she starts school we will pick it back up fairly quickly.
GOLD / cantaloupe / 5115 posts
That’s great that they will know both languages! Question–do you and your husband speak your respective languages to your LOs when around each other as well? Another words, do you speak English to the kids while around your husband, even if that means that he might not understand what you’re saying? Or is it just when you’re alone with them? My husband is fluent in Russian and would love our LO to be, but he only speaks Russian to him when alone with him, because I don’t speak Russian.
blogger / papaya / 11708 posts
I always wished I was bilingual! I dated a guy who was born/raised in Cote d’Ivoire so he knew English and French equally. I was so jealous. We had decided if we got married I would learn French and our children would speak both… well we didn’t end up together and now the only languages DH and I speak it English.
apricot / 267 posts
I’m thinking of brushing up on my French so that Baby Quiche is semi bi-lingual. I love that your kids will know both languages – how great!!
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I’m German and my husband is American. Our daughter (9m) is being raised bilingually and so will any future children. I speak exclusively in German when I am talking to her and DH English (most of the time; he’ll use a German word here or there, which really bugs me because his pronunciation is atrocious!) I’m hoping that once she is ready for kindergarten we’ll be living somewhere with a German immersion school–we move around a lot due to my husband’s work. I can’t wait to see if her first real word is in German or English!