Now, where did we leave off?
My last pregnancy update recapped the first and second trimesters. I thought I’d pop in to share how the third trimester has been going so far!
At this point in the pregnancy, my symptoms were remaining pretty typical. I was gaining weight steadily but still not too uncomfortable. I do recall around 29 weeks that my sleep started to suffer greatly – it was about that time I began to average waking up 3-4 times per night and couldn’t fall back asleep very easily. This resulted in a lot of late night DVR and reading on the kindle!
At 30 weeks, Braxton Hicks contractions started in full force. I began to feel them almost daily, especially when I would be walking or standing for long periods of time, whenever I got dehydrated or if I needed to go to the bathroom. They were essentially painless, just a tightening feeling in my uterus that would happen sporadically throughout the day.
At this point I also noticed a change in the baby’s movements, which worried me at first. I was used to feeling sharp jabs and punches, but around 31 weeks it started to feel more like gentle nudges and squirms – evidently the little one was starting to run out of room in there! My doctor assured me that as long as I felt movement at three different times during the day, we were fine.
31 weeks was a strange turning point for me in the pregnancy. As I began to feel more uncomfortable, I also started to feel more anxious. I was definitely “loving” pregnancy less and less each day. It seemed like I had so much longer to wait, and so many anxious feelings were going through my head each day.
We also found out at 32 weeks that the stubborn little one was breech.
33 weeks – Merry Christmas, and 34 weeks – Happy New Year! These two weeks were a blur as a result of the holiday madness. It was nice to have a distraction from the pregnancy for a bit! Especially with the news that we may not be able to have the natural birth that we dreamed of, it was a much-needed break to focus on family, friends and food.
Here we are at 36 weeks, just one week away from being full-term. It’s hard to believe I’ve been on this journey for a full 9 months!
After trying every holistic measure in the book, our little nugget remains in the head-up/feet-up position. Looking back through our ultrasound photos, we realized that the baby has been breech throughout the entire pregnancy. What is interesting about that, is that our baby is actually the 4th generation of breech babies on my mother’s side. Beginning with my great-grandmother, each woman carried at least one breech baby and had either a complicated delivery or a c-section. My mom labored with me for 28 hours (without drugs!) before they realized I was frank breech; then they did a c-section immediately. This is obviously speculation, but our doctors agree that the shape of our anatomy could definitely have something to do with it!
After much thought and discussion, Mr. Markers and I have decided to not try an external cephalic version to manually flip the baby. Our latest ultrasound indicated that the placenta is in front of the baby, which means that there is more risk involved since they would have to press on the placenta to get the baby to move. Adding that to the existing risks of the procedure, we felt that it wasn’t the right decision for us. As much as I want to deliver this baby naturally, I can’t help but think there might be a reason the baby has remained in the same position for so long.
Mentally and emotionally, the past month has been a struggle for me. I prepared for so long for a specific experience, and it felt like I needed to do a complete 180 right as we’re nearing the end of this journey. Learning to accept this new reality of what our “perfect birth” will look like continues to be a challenge, but one that I’m embracing. My focus remains that if I’m healthy and the baby is healthy, perfect it will be.
If I don’t go into labor early and if the baby doesn’t flip on its own, our scheduled c-section date is the first week of February – less than 3 weeks away! I’m taking this time to clean (and re-clean) our condo, finish up last minute shopping, and generally take it easy. I have no doubt these will be the longest 3 weeks of my life – I cannot wait to meet our little one, and finally find out if this baby is a boy or a girl!
Did your pregnancy throw you any emotional curveballs? How did you cope with it?
GOLD / nectarine / 2331 posts
So interesting about your family history of breech babies!
My LO was frank breech as well and not budging! We weren’t offered an ECV because of low amniotic fluid levels so after some discussion and reading, we opted to schedule a c-section. The surgery went seamlessly with very minimal complications and I couldn’t have asked for a better outcome! I was disappointed to not get to experience contractions/labour/delivery, but we knew we were making the right decision for us.
GOLD / cantaloupe / 6924 posts
Good luck! I think there are a lot of things you can still plan for with a c-section to make it the “perfect birth”.
GOLD / clementine / 887 posts
You look fantastic! Our LO was a stubborn breech baby as well, and the c-section was a great experience. I understand it is not ideally what you wanted, but let’s give thanks for modern technology and the ability to find this out before 28 hours(!) of labor. Your poor mom! Know that it will be a different birth story than you imagined, but a great one nonetheless! Enjoy these last three weeks!
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It can be very frustrating not to have the birth you planned for but as long as baby and mom are healthy, that is what is important. I had to have an emergency C-section b/c the baby was in distress. It saddened me that I didn’t have the experience that I was hoping for, but things turned out ok. Not going to lie, recovering from a C-section was physically difficult for me. Good luck to you, hope it goes well. So worth it when you finally get to meet the little one:)
olive / 82 posts
A good friend of mine had the same situation: she was all systems go for a natural birth… and then her baby was breech. She opted for the version and a) it was terribly painful for her, and b) it didn’t work. She said if she could do it over again she would have skipped the version, for sure.
I had a c-section after 2.5 days of induced labor, so my recovery was difficult (and the first time I saw my son I was so exhausted I could only open one eye at a time…). Two friends of mine had scheduled c-sections and their recovery went much more smoothly. I know it’s not the “ideal”, but it can still be a beautiful birth experience.
Hoping it all goes well for you!
blogger / pomegranate / 3177 posts
How exciting!! I’m only 2 weeks behind you, so I look forward to your pregnancy updates – can’t wait to “meet” the LO soon! Everyone I know that’s had a scheduled c-section tell me recovery was pretty easy, and it was nice for them to know exactly what to expect.
GOLD / honeydew / 8477 posts
Out of all things to be “hereditary”, I would have never guessed being breech was on of them! At least you were informed in advance so you can be mentally prepared for the c-section and still make it THE perfect birth!! Just a few more weeks!!!
hostess / honeydew / 7547 posts
Good luck mama, baby is almost here. Sending flipping vibes to you and your stubborn little one. ;)
hostess / honeydew / 8340 posts
You’re getting so close! Sending good vibes and good luck your way momma!
GOLD / nectarine / 2209 posts
Almost there!!
blogger / olive / 98 posts
i was reading your post holding my breath, wondering if baby had turned. i know it’s not as you planned, but after you’ve done everything you can, you’re exactly where you should be with the C-section. you’re so close….!!!! eeeek
GOLD / pomegranate / 3246 posts
I’m sorry you’re not going to have the birth you had originally planned, but I know it’s going to be just as special :)
I am almost 29 weeks and will find out in 3 weeks if the same thing is happening to me, for different reasons (low lying placenta!).
blogger / olive / 83 posts
thank you all for the support and encouragement!
@Sammyfab: @chrispygal: @Schmei: it definitely helps to hear from other mamas who have gone through the same thing… i know recovery is going to be tough – but it can (and will) be done!
@sslm: good luck! i hope you guys have good news :)
GOLD / apricot / 330 posts
i had a scheduled c/s (not breech but b/c of hip problems that i have) and it went so smoothly. recovery was totally fine – just follow the instructions and you’ll be golden :) i know you’re bummed not to have the birth experience you wanted, but it’ll be great! we were bummed b/c we really wanted to go into labor naturally and have the date be a surprise, but the doctor convinced us that having the c/s scheduled was the better option. So DH and I completely lied to everyone about when the scheduled date was – it was scheduled on a Friday but we told everyone it was happening on a Monday. so in the end, we got to surprise everyone a little bit!
pea / 10 posts
I’m at 37 weeks and really looking forward to labour and delivery, I know its nuts a little, but I’m looking forward to it almost more than the having a baby part. So I really admire how you’ve resolved yourself to getting the c-section. Very zen of you! Good luck with everything!