We had our baby three months ago and I’m still trying to work through how I share our birth story. I’ve talked to a lot of mommies about their experiences and read quite a few stories online. In some cases people that planned to have a home birth had to be transferred to a hospital. Those who wanted a natural hospital birth had to get a c-section. Mommies who wanted an epidural ended up feeling everything. Basically, what people expected would happen didn’t always happen.
Our birthing experience definitely fell under the unexpected category. But, it honestly was the most amazing experience. I mean it was awesome. I’m obviously experiencing some labor amnesia, but I do recall feeling really great after. Someone came to my house later that evening and I was walking around in stretch pants and a shirt like nothing had happened. The person complimented me on how great I looked for having just had a baby on my living room floor six hours earlier. Who knows if she was telling the truth, but I gladly received the compliment!
Whenever I’m in a circle of new moms talking about our birthing experiences I sometimes feel guilty about mine. For the most part it happened the way I wanted it to even though it was completely unexpected and we had the small hiccup of having the midwife manually remove my placenta. That’s another post! Our baby came out healthy and she didn’t even cry when she arrived.
As I talk to new mommies now, the big question is about whether or not your child is sleeping. Baby Popcorn got off to a rocky start in this category. When I ask other mommies about how they’re faring, I often hear, “Oh our baby is sleeping really well. I have a good baby.” I’ve seen the reactions from other sleep-deprived mommies who have not been so fortunate and I wonder if there is a better way to share your positive experiences that are difficult for most.
How do you share your positive childbirth or rearing experiences without isolating other mommies?