Another month has flown by in the Tricycle household. I know I’m a biased mama, but the cuteness kills me.
Each month just keeps getting better – our baby is happier, I’m more confident, and we’re settling into what only can be described as a (mostly) comfortable routine.
Sleep
I think every Mom agonizes about sleep – I know I sure do! I’ve had the last week off for February break, and the goal for this vacation was simple: get the baby to sleep in his crib at night. The outcome? We’re both really, really tired after seven days of struggling with the concept.
His poor crib sleep isn’t due to a lack of routine; Mr. Tricycle and the Trikester read together every night after bath time.
The first two nights of crib sleep went great. I totally dragged a mattress into the nursery and slept by his crib – embarrassing and crazy, but I knew I wouldn’t sleep unless I was right there to make sure everything was ok. After the second night, things went downhill fast. Although we didn’t alter our bedtime routine, the Trikester bawled every time I laid him in his crib, even if he was out cold in my arms. I tried heated bags of rice, soothing but not picking up (he refused to be soothed), letting him cry it out (but I gave up after 15 minutes), and taking him out of the crib and bouncing until he feel asleep. No matter what I did, he just didn’t want to stay in that crib. After two or three hours of trying, I gave up every night and went back to co-sleeping. I’m not sure if he was too overtired to soothe himself back to sleep, or what, but we soldiered on for six nights, and then I decided it wasn’t worth it. There was no way I could sustain this once work started, so I gave up. Not proud of that, but it happened. So we’re still co-sleeping. End of story. #Mamafail
I love staring at him while he sleeps, so there are advantages to skipping the crib.
Food
Nursing is still the easiest part of our routine, though it got a little more stressful at the end of the month when I went back to work. I pump three times a day at work and I’m making JUST enough to keep the Trikester in bottles. I’m pretty sure we’re going to have supplement a bottle or two of formula during the day, but I’m not quite there yet. Would you go through your freezer stash and THEN supplement, or start supplementing before you ransacked your stash?
Disposition
It’s getting easier and easier to keep this little dude happy. We were out and about with a friend earlier this month and he wanted to know if the baby was always this well behaved. We kind of stopped and looked at each other – yeah, our baby is usually this good. He still has his cranky times – like from 4:00 PM – 7:00 PM nearly every evening, but for the most part he’s easygoing as long as he’s slept and eaten.
Milestones
Our baby just talks and talks and talks. It was like someone pushed a button – one day he was mostly quiet, and then the next he wanted to recite a novel. He’s also started using his hands to grab things with purpose (and we’re a little worried about the safety of certain parts of his anatomy). He can easily lock a fistful of my hair, t-shirt or jewelry in his grasp and then hang on for dear life. He’s also figured out how to put his fingers into his mouth – it started with his whole fist, but now he can usually manage to get specific digits between his lips, though no thumb yet.
Many, many photos from this month feature him shoving his fist into his mouth.
At eleven weeks he rolled from back to belly in his crib. The first time it happened I thought I’d accidentally put him down on his stomach in my middle of the night fog, but the second time it happened I realized the little squirt had done it on his own. It’s only happened those two times, and in both instances he was super mad and thrashing around, so I’m not sure how purposeful the action was. I’m still swaddling both arms for naps and keeping an eagle eye on the monitor, but on the rare occasions he’s in his crib at night I leave his right arm out of the swaddle. Our little dude hates tummy time. We enforce it twice a day, but it hasn’t encouraged him to do the mini push-up that so many babies have mastered by now. It’s little things like this make mamas worry – hopefully he gets the hang of it soon!
A rare smile during tummy time – he’s looking at me in the mirror. Melts a mama’s heart.
Adventures
I headed back to work at the end of month number three – which is definitely an adventure! So far it’s gone well and I can relax knowing Father-in-Law Tricycle is taking care of our little man.
My first day back – notice I couldn’t be bothered to blow-dry my hair (this new routine is demanding!) and the baby is not quite sure why we’re taking pictures before 7:00 AM, poor guy.
We’ve been braver about going out and about, and ate at a “real” restaurant with the baby in tow (does Olive Garden count as a real restaurant?). We sat at the nearly empty bar at lunch time, and got soup and salad for speed’s sake, but we were able to down a glass of wine and enjoy ourselves before the crank set it.
The Trikester is becoming a smiling little ball of deliciousness and we’re so excited to see what new developments the next month brings. I think we’ve finally found our groove as parents. When did you really begin to feel comfortable in your new role?
GOLD / cantaloupe / 5191 posts
Oh my goodness he has certainly chubbed up over the last 3 months! Those eyelashes are to die for…also, my guy still hates tummy time at 4.5 months old and hasn’t done any of those mini push-ups…the pedi said it’s not at all a big deal, especially as long as they’re meeting other milestones, which your little guy definitely is! As for feeling comfortable, I think it was around 12/13 wks…but then wk 15 brought a whole bunch of other challenges (hello, 4 month sleep regression!) so as soon as I felt like I had it under control, everything changed!
hostess / cantaloupe / 7389 posts
Congrats! He looks great and so do you!
If you think you might need to start supplementing soon, I’d start by introducing a bottle of formula a day soon since you never know which formula he might want/need and whether he will drink it! I remember he had/has a dairy issue so you might want to check with his health care provider about this (my son had dairy issues and is on Nutramigen = $$).
GOLD / apricot / 330 posts
What a cutie!! Happy to hear things are going well! DS always hated tummy time too but looking at mommy in the mirror was helpful! We also used the ipad camera so he could check himself out….dude loves anything with a screen.
hostess / honeydew / 8372 posts
What a sweetheart, he is getting so big!!
GOLD / apricot / 428 posts
Oh my word, he is such a cutie!
blogger / pomegranate / 3202 posts
He’s soooo adorable – love his big bright eyes! I feel like you just had him, I can’t believe he’s already 3-months!
coffee bean / 44 posts
I went through my freezer stash first before supplementing with formula. I wanted my little dragon on breastmilk only as long as possible. Right now, he gets two bottles of pumped breastmilk a day and the rest are formula.
blogger / pear / 1608 posts
@buffalove: great idea! He loves screens so it could be a big plus!
hostess / papaya / 10146 posts
His expression in the first picture cracks me up. He’s a cutie!
hostess / honeydew / 9003 posts
OMG i’m biased to this adorable fellow Nov/bday twin baby!!! HE IS SO FREAKING CUTE Mrs. T! :D:D:D
And you look great too mama!! Def nodding my head over here with all the milestones reached (and yet to reach)! A is the same about tummy time~
GOLD / pomegranate / 3743 posts
That first picture…I die! He is just so cute.
GOLD / nectarine / 2332 posts
You look great!! And little Trikester’s eyelashes are amazing!!!
I’m not sure if I’m reading your question right, but if I were in your situation, I’d start supplementing now and slowly dip into your stash so you can continue providing breastmilk for as long as possible. Babies get all of the benefits of breastmilk even with one bottle a day so i wouldnt want to totally deplete my stash before supplementing. Hope that makes sense!
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Our little guy just turned 4 months and I feel like we’re finally hitting our rhythm when it comes to night time sleep and naps. Our first restaurant meal with the babe was Olive Garden too :) The fact that they have those stands to put the car seat in was great!
apricot / 317 posts
You’re not biased – he is seriously adorable!! When I went back to work (after 3 months off), I also struggled to pump enough for the next day during my 3 breaks (about 15-25 min average) – and I was pumping an extra session before bed to get that last ounce or so! I was super stressed about needing to supplement. But after two weeks or so I was able to easily pump enough during those 4 sessions (3 at work & the mini-session before bed).
Now LO is 5 months & I’ve been pumping for 2 months. I started eating oatmeal every morning and it’s increased my supply. So I can pump almost enough during my 3 day sessions and then on Sunday evening I pump an extra 2-3 ounce to make up for whatever I’m missing during the week. So far it’s going okay.
I’m not sure how long you’ve been back at work pumping, but you may find that your supply ticks up and you won’t end up needing to supplement. If you do, I’d vote to ration your freezer stash, for the reason @Sammyfab gave.
GOLD / pomegranate / 3022 posts
We took our first meal out this weekend too! Fastest eating ever, though he didn’t actually make noise he was definitely fussing towards the end. Such a cute 3 month photo!
hostess / cantaloupe / 7304 posts
He is so super cute!!!!
Sorry the crib experiment didn’t work. Do you guys use a noise machine? Swing?
LO sleeps in her crib and she’s just about the same age as Trikester. We started her out in her bouncer first. She slept in that for a few weeks. Then we put the bouncer in her room for a few weeks. Then we went to her sleeping in her crib, in her room.
It is hard to break out of co-sleeping. I know LO would HIGHLY prefer it over anything else. But neither of me nor DH can get any restful sleep that way.
blogger / pear / 1608 posts
@mewtill: I’m just starting my second full week back – so there’s still time for my supply to increase – thanks for giving me hope! I pump 3x during the day and then on one side in the middle of the night. I’m making JUST enough but I think he’s hungry…can’t tell what’s hunger and what’s a change in his routine. I’m having oatmeal every morning too (hope the heaps of brown sugar don’t counteract it) so we’ll see what happens.
GOLD / persimmon / 1061 posts
love these photos! and you’re right, he’s a total cutie. sounds like you guys are making great progress (the crib transition can wait). we just passed the 6-week mark and are dealing with a colicky baby–i read your posts and only hope that things get better for us also. just curious, did you find that any of the colic “cures” from your last post were useful? we’re using simethicone and biogaia (just started the latter 2 days ago), and our ped recommended that we add gripe water to the mix. he has such bad gas and it makes for a lot of crying and fussing!
blogger / nectarine / 2043 posts
He is growing up so fast! I love that first picture sooo much!
blogger / pear / 1608 posts
@edelweiss: Out of everything on my “colic cures” the three things that have helped us the most are bouncing on an exercise ball, wearing him in the Ergo, and using a probiotic (I switched to Edo’s Choice at Mrs. Stroller’s recommendation and have been happy with it). I don’t know if any of the other things made a difference. Hang in there – it gets better!! Six weeks should be the peak of your colic roller coaster.
Oh – one other thing that works well is getting him into the “wind relieving” yoga pose (on his back, legs spread, knees bent and pulled up to his chest with his thighs pressing on his belly) and then rolling him from side to side. I think his colicky issues were all about his belly peoblems.
pear / 1502 posts
He is so freaking cute!! Gorgeous eyes and eyelashes that I would kill to have!! He has such a grown-up looking face, I love it!!
GOLD / persimmon / 1061 posts
@Mrs. Tricycle: thank you so much for your response! i bounced him up and down like we were on a yoga ball during one of his crying jags tonight and that definitely helped calm him down. i will try the rolling from side to side in addition to the “frog legs” (that’s how i’m referring to that yoga pose). it really helps to hear from folks who have been through this–as you probably remember, it seems like there’s no end in sight right now.
blogger / pear / 1608 posts
@edelweiss: seriously, invest in a yoga ball – they’re like $15 at Target. It was the one thing I wish I had purchased sooner. The ball saves your thighs and it’s easier at 3:00 AM! We would swaddle, shove a pacifier in his mouth, cradle him, and bounce. I spent many evening eating dinner on a TV tray and the yoga ball just to keep the crying at bay. It gets better – I promise! Now, at 15 weeks, we can go a whole day with no tears. Hang in there, mama!
blogger / pear / 1608 posts
@highwire: yup – I actually ran TWO white noise machines. :) He’s actually been taking 2 hour naps in the Rock n Play for Grandpa, so I’m thinking I might try him in that again at night. It might be a good in between step.
GOLD / pomegranate / 3221 posts
Holy eyelashes! What a cutie!
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I’m going back to work in a few weeks right after he hits 4 months and I’m so nervous!!! Any tips for leaving him for the day? I’m so scared I’m going to lose any quality time with him since he’ll be just about ready for bath, bottle and bed by the time I get home from work!
PS – he’s beautiful!