I looked down at my beautiful girl’s face as she snuggled up against me to nurse. She was 5 months old. We were well established into our breastfeeding routines. She was a fantastic eater. Her eyes started to close slightly and her body started to relax. We had done this so many times. I knew she was slipping off into her afternoon nap. I started to relax and then out of nowhere… chomp.
My sweet little girl didn’t look so sweet anymore. I yelled loud out of shock and pushed her face away from my body. She looked at me like I had done the worst thing ever. She broke into uncontrollable tears. So there we were both crying — yes I admit this one brought on some tears. After she calmed down I allowed her to nurse again, and she fell asleep like normal without any biting. I thought that would be it but it was only the beginning of my saga with my little Vampire baby.
In the months to come I found a definite pattern to my dear little baby’s blood lust. It was unequivocally a teething thing. Each time she would get a tooth she would bite me while nursing several times a day for three days in a row. Then like clockwork a tooth would pop out and the biting would stop. Each time I thought that we had stopped the bitin,g but unfortunately it would start back up again and we would repeat the cycle. There were times that she broke the skin and drew blood; other times it was just enough to make me discontinue the nursing session. Each time she was teething and would get hungry, I would cringe at the thought of feeding her knowing that at some point she would probably bite me.
I started researching what to do with a biter. These were some of the recommendations I found.
- Pay attention to baby’s cues. Biting often happens when the baby is done eating and bored. Make sure if they finish eating to take them off of the breast.
- If the baby is teething offer a teether before nursing. Say things like “please bite this, but be gentle when you eat.”
- Make sure that they have a good open latch at the beginning of each session.
- Make sure the baby isn’t distracted. If the baby is rolling or pushing, give them some time before forcing a nursing session.
- Use positive reinforcement and praise baby for good nursing
- When baby bites calmly remove them from the breast and tell them that they are not allowed to bite while they are eating.
- Do not yell. A baby can get spooked and go on a nursing strike.
- If the baby doesn’t let go, put your finger in between their gums and pull yourself away, or pull the baby into your body. It will be hard for the baby to breathe and they will open their mouth and let go.
- If they bite hard enough to cause lasting pain, the sore area can be iced in between nursing sessions.
One of the suggestions that I had to work hard at was to not yell. It can be incredibly painful when a little one bites down while nursing. Most women can understand that that area of the body is fairly sensitive. I was able to start holding in my yelps of pain and only let out a small gasp each time she did it. I would take her off and put her down on the floor. I often said things like, “you can’t bite while you are eating; it hurts mommy.” I know at 5 months she couldn’t really understand this but she did understand that she didn’t get to eat anymore. I tried teethers and pacifiers but she was never a fan and would just throw them on the floor.
such a cute little girl, such a big bite
By the time she was a year she had 12 teeth. I don’t even want to think about how many times my little vampire bit me, but it was quite a bit. I decided to continue nursing for a while even though she kept biting me, but when her canines started coming in I was a little afraid. I did wean her at 16 months just before those four teeth dropped in.
While I was doing my research, I found that most babies only bite once or twice but quickly learn not to. My little lady has always been a bit strong willed so she didn’t fall into that crowd. She liked to bite and she continued to do it up until I weaned her. I have heard tons of women ask if they have to stop nursing when their babies get teeth. I have always told people no, you don’t have to stop nursing. Most babies never bite. Some do and they can learn not to. Some never learn but they can still be nursed as long as you are willing to deal with the some bites here and there.
Has anyone had a child bite while nursing? How did you handle it?
blogger / nectarine / 2979 posts
Yow. We only had this happen a few times, thankfully. But the first time was a doozie and I couldn’t nurse on that side for a few days.
blogger / pear / 1691 posts
@Mrs. Yoyo: my twins were like that. Once or twice then stopped. I kept thinking maybe she will stop!
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I had a biter- best advice I got was to plug his nose until he released… I probably had to do that about 10 times before it finally stopped for good.
GOLD / nectarine / 2146 posts
DD bit me once, it surprised me/hurt so I yelled out; she got scared and never did it again. DS’ first two teeth just broke through the gums yesterday and I’m already dreading that first bite because I don’t know if he’ll stop quickly like she did.
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yes! my 13 month old bites occasionaly. she bit me last night! It’s hearbreaking when she starts crying because I’ve taken her off the breast, but it hurts!
olive / 89 posts
oh yes i definitely remember the first time she bit me, and i yelled really loud and almost let go of her! totally freaked her out. luckily she didn’t do it too often. ouch!
blogger / pear / 1817 posts
Ha, I totally yelled. Both my girls bit when teething, but the both stopped doing it around ten months. That was still five months of occasional biting, but at least it didn’t last the whole nursing relationship.
blogger / apricot / 338 posts
That’s where Monkula came from. My oldest I used to call my Monkey, and then when she started biting (hard! often!) it morphed into Monkula (monkey/dracula). I have a friend who is a lactation consultant and said we could also try nursing in the tub. Sometimes the novelty and relaxation causes baby to not think quite as much about taking chunks of skin along with his or her milk. Worked for us. I tried the “stopping nursing/putting baby down/saying no” thing once or twice, but honestly, she looked at me like I was on crack and it did not deter her one bit. I actually think she found it a little funny that mom would be so… weird. I mean, who doesn’t like being bitten? Lowly does it when she’s coming down with a cold, so if I hear any sniffles I tense up just a tad when I get ready to nurse her. Most of the time she just places her teeth against the nipple but doesn’t really bite down. But sometimes she just gives her all and BITES.
blogger / pear / 1691 posts
@Monkula: Haha. I love monkula! My cousin made me that picture that is linked in the post because
We nick named her my vampire baby. Its going to forever be one of my Halloween decorations. I never heard the bath tub idea. I totally would have tried it.
@Mrs. Superhero: it’s so hard not to yell. I worked really hard to just get it down to a gasp.
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Whenever my daughter is cutting a tooth, I offer her a cracker or rice rusk to chomp on before nursing. This helps her cope with her urge to bite, and also makes her poor gums feel better. I am also very firm with her about biting-from about six months on I would tell her “do not bite mama” and put her down if she caused pain.
pear / 1524 posts
Mine just started biting and I would just pull him away and end the nursing session. It’s usually towards the end of that side anyway so he must be done and just playing. Wish they knew it’s no fun for us!
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Some great tips here.
I woul love for you to link up at the Friday Baby Shower – the linky party for all things pregnancy and baby. We’ve got an extra link up this week for breastfeeding posts.
Alice @ Mums Make Lists x
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GOLD / clementine / 971 posts
@Monkula: “who doesn’t like being bitten”
My LO is a biter and thinks it is funny. I know his cues now so I can usually pop him off but the first time it happened he bit me so hard it bruised :/
blogger / persimmon / 1193 posts
Little M is a biter too, but it’s never a hard bite, more like a nibble. I yelled the first time, but now I just say “no bite, that hurts mummy” and close up shop. He’s usually pretty darn sorry and cries and pulls at my shirt. He really only does it when there’s no milk left, so I can anticipate it.
GOLD / pomegranate / 3677 posts
Wow, I dread this and LO is still a newborn! Sounds so painful…
admin / honeydew / 8436 posts
olive bites me too when she’s teething. luckily she has all her teeth now since i’m still nursing at 17 months. your little one sounds feisty like my olive!
blogger / clementine / 888 posts
Liam has gone through biting phases, as well. Just Sunday I was barely able to nurse him at all because he kept biting me and I had to keep ending the nursing session. Luckily he doesn’t have top teeth yet, so he hasn’t damaged me, but I’m pretty scared for once he does!
olive / 72 posts
My LO hasn’t done it yet, but I’m rather dreading it might happen anytime soon……
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I got a lil biter too… Worst is, he totally loves it and after he lets go starts to smile and giggle :(
So far, the way I dealt with it was, as many others, stop nursing and put him down. That didn’t work too well in the long run. So what I do now is tell him that it hurts and that he is not allowed to do that. I give him my finger to bite for a while, as no teeth are involved just yet. After that most of the time we are ok to continue nursing.
Still I wonder how I will make him understand that giggeling is not really a way to apologize… ;)