I suppose you can say the same thing for a first baby, really. As much as you plan, change your lifestyle and make sure you can financially support a little one, I don’t think you ever are really ready for the change a baby makes in your life. Not to mention, pregnancy often doesn’t happen when you plan it, and it is such a blessing to get pregnant in the first place.
I had always thought that I wanted to wait for our little one to be in school before we tried to have another. It would be four years, give or take, and it would allow me to be home with our second little one and have our older one starting her new exciting life as a kindergartner. However, as I realize now just how much your entire existence changes when there is a little one in the home, I wonder perhaps if it better to have one sooner…or maybe later…
I love a good list so I have decided to make a list of the pros of each choice for our family.
W A I T F O R A N O T H E R
~ More time able to be focused on our daughter on her own.
~ Able to be home for her first year of school so I can be involved in her kindergarten year (Canada has one year maternity leave) and even possibly keep her at home for half a day in the beginning instead of going full day every day right at the start.
~ Lil’ Tea Cup will be old enough to hopefully be excited about having a sister/brother and understand more about the situation.
~ More time to move and/or add on to our home to make room for a new baby.
T R Y A G A I N S O O N
~ Little ones would be close in age and can play together.
~ Both in the “younger child phase” at the same time which works out well for naps, activities, trips etc.
~ Able to be home with older daughter during another of her preschool years instead of having her in outside of home care
~ Younger ages of Mom and Dad. I am still young chronologically… my husband not so much.
When did you have your “next” little one or when do you plan to? What factors did you consider?