Before I knew I was pregnant, I read the book 7: An Experimental Mutiny Against Excess. After reading this book, I set out a goal for myself to not buy anything but gas and groceries for a year. With this in mind, when I found out I was pregnant, I developed some anxiety about any non-practical things, things soon-to-be outgrown, and general things we would be gifted by excited relatives and friends. I wanted to borrow as many baby items as I could, so I did my research on what baby items I could borrow and what I should avoid.
First I wanted to be sure that anything I bought used did not have a manufacturer recall associated with it. Recalls.gov is supposed to be a good resource. However, there are some items that I would never obtain secondhand.
C A R S E A T S
Car seats that have been in any sort of collision, whether severe enough for the air bags to go off or not, need to be replaced immediately because they are no longer considered safe in the event of a second accident. The plastic can be so easily compromised.
I got a car seat from a friend, who I know was never in an accident. When I took off the padding to wash it, I discovered there was an expiration date. Car seats apparently have expiration dates that are usually about 5-6 years from the date of manufacture. Even without being involved in an accident, the plastic degrades over time and can have invisible cracks and weaknesses. When your child outgrows his carseat, you are actually supposed to destroy it and put the parts in separate garbage bags so no one else can try to use it. There are also options to recycle car seats, but such recycling centers are few and far between and it may cost you money to recycle.
C R I B S
Just two years ago a certain style of crib was banned in the US. That time frame presents two hazards. There are probably many babies out there who are still using these “dropside cribs,” and when they outgrow them, their parents will undoubtedly want these cribs out of the house. A cute vintage find may not comply with Federal and ASTM standards, and it can be difficult to figure out the exact name and model number of a newer crib to check for a recall. Furthermore, hand-me-down cribs have probably been assembled, disassembled, and reassembled numerous times which means there’s a greater chance of missing parts, too.
M A T T R E S S E S
There’s probably a lot more than just pee and poo to worry about. Bed bugs, dust mites, fleas, mold…
B R E A S T P U M P S
A pump you rent from the hospital is a commercial grade, closed system pump, and you simply have to buy your own tubing, flanges, and other accessories to use it. These pumps are also upwards of $1000. Consumer grade pumps are “open systems,” meaning that breast milk can actually make its way to the pump motor, which is not possible to sterilize.
But if you have health insurance, your breast pump is free.* I speak at breastfeeding classes at my local hospital, and the instructors are still hesitant to tell them that their pumps could be covered by insurance. Since January 2013, the Affordable Care Act requires that all insurance companies cover breast pumps at no cost to new moms in the US. You can call your insurance and they may give you an obscure list of places to obtain your pump from, but your local baby boutique, often located at your hospital, will probably be covered as well even if the insurance doesn’t mention it. These stores can check on that coverage for you, check which pump will be covered, and will take care of all the billing. You cannot buy your pump at Babies R Us and get reimbursed because they don’t qualify as a place to buy “durable medical equipment.”
*Unfortunately, some plans in place before March 2010 were “grandfathered in,” and they are not required to comply with the Affordable Care Act provisions. Insurers must notify clients that they have a grandfathered plan, so you can check your paperwork or call the plan if you are unsure. Even plans that are grandfathered in may still have some coverage that could include a deductible or copay.
S E C O N D H A N D B R E A S T M I L K
For a pretty penny, there are certainly reputable milk banks to get breast milk from, and perhaps your very own sister may be a trustworthy resource if she is also breastfeeding. But I’ve seen so many mom groups on Facebook with desperate pleas for donor breast milk from a stranger right this instant. Breastmilk is a bodily fluid and can transmit diseases like any other bodily fluid, diseases that are a lot more serious than the common cold or flu. In light of this risk, I would not hesitate to switch to formula if I needed to.
U S E D G E A R
So what have I gotten pre-loved? I’ve been lucky to borrow a play mat, bathtub, swing, and pack and play from friends. I met a gal who said she lent her swing out to a friend, and by the time she had her second child, 5 families were able to use it! To me, that sounds fantastic. I scored a Snap and Go stroller off Craigslist for $25, and the guy even dropped it off for me on his way to work, and took the time to show me how to use it. At that 3 week mark with an infant and being up all night (finding the ad on Craigslist at 6am while feeding), I felt so blessed!
Clothes! I’ve encouraged friends and family to give me hand-me-downs instead of buying new, and one friend lent me her son’s favorite overalls with peek-a-boo panda bear pocket, which totally warmed my heart. I didn’t really want to get into buying clothes myself, but then I realized I needed to out of necessity because thin cotton outfits with a dozen snaps and 3 separate pieces are impractical and inconvenient. So began the search for enough zip-up fleece sleep and plays to get me through to the next laundry day.
Children’s consignment stores are great, and you can do a Google search for the ones in your area. I was surprised to find that not only are their clothes better quality and in better condition than things I’ve found at the Goodwill in our upscale neighborhoods, but they’re often cheaper, too. There are a lot of huge consignment sales throughout the year in pretty much every state – there’s a compendium here where you can search by your zip code. Just Between Friends is one I have really enjoyed, and they have them in several nearby cities to where I live. Here’s a few things I scored at my first one. I kept an eye out for things she could use down the line, and I love the Jackie O type jackets, especially for when she’ll be able to walk! The yellow one is some brand name from Nordy’s and comes with a matching mod dress.
What are some of the best things you’ve acquired second hand?
blogger / pomegranate / 3491 posts
As one of the first in our social circle to have kids, we were not lucky enough to have borrowing and hand me downs as an option. I got a handful of clothes from my SIL, but after both of her boys had worn them, most were a bit too pre-loved to last.
blogger / nectarine / 2600 posts
I was also one of the first to have a child so we didnt get too many hand me downs though I love shopping consignment stores for clothes, books, and toys. I also got my first swing as a hand me down from my friends sister and it lased through Drake but broke when we got it out for Juliet so it lasted 2 children only
GOLD / wonderful pomegranate / 28905 posts
Just a quick note that Ameda Purely Yours is actually a closed system. So that would be OK to get used and buy new parts. IF you needed a secondary one for whatever reason.
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Some insurances that have been grandfathered in still are able to not cover breast pumps. Just an FYI that sadly some mommas may still have to pay out of pocket
grapefruit / 4923 posts
ditto on @locavore_mama:–i have a hand me down ameda purely yours. it eventually died and luckily my insurance offered the same one. getting my pump through insurance was a breeze–i called, they asked whether i was nursing or pregnant, and i received it in the mail within the week.
my friend, however, is covered by insurance that requires ordering the pump in the last 2 months of pregnancy, with a doctor’s order. i find this to be ridiculous, but just putting it out there as an FYI that some insurance companies make it harder.
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As far as I know pumps are only covered if your insurance plan is new. Has the exception for grandfathered plans changed? Last I knew, if one’s insurance plan was already in place before a certain date (like an employer sponsored plan could be, for example) the provision didn’t have to be enforced. It might be helpful to clarify this, thanks!
pea / 13 posts
My insurance only covered a $15 manual pump, which is helpful to have for pumping off a little before feedings (I have a bit of an oversupply and a super fast letdown), but is not the same as a double electric! I had to buy my own since it’s essential now that I’m back at work full-time. Make sure you call your insurance plan before you give birth–I had to call before I delivered to even qualify for the dinky manual one! Very frustrating. We switch to a new insurance provider in January and I plan to call to see if I can get a better pump!
pomelo / 5258 posts
Like pp my insurance only provided a cheap, single, manual pump. Since I had “breastfeeding issues” the hospital discharged me with a hospital grade pump rental for 30 days. The rental fee was covered. I still had to buy a double electric myself.
pomelo / 5678 posts
Lots of babies being born at dh’s work. One was 3 months before us so we got some handmedowns. That is about it! However I am a minimalist. ..
blogger / pear / 1563 posts
Pretty much all of our baby stuff was used! And all in great condition and awesome! Like you we got our carseat from a friend and I was meticulous about checking the expiration date on them. My parents wanted to borrow an old one from a friend, but it was 5 years old so I told them it was a “no go.”
honeydew / 7504 posts
My insurance (which is VERY good insurance) will only reimburse $50 for a breast pump. It is not covered at 100%. And I would not rely on a boutique or a vendor to check your benefits – call the member services number on your card and check them for yourself! And if they tell you that it’s covered “if medically necessary,” then you need a script from your doctor.
grapefruit / 4187 posts
My insurance covered a (crappy) breast pump, but not until I had the baby and added him onto my insurance. It was too late by the time it arrived which was a ridiculous 10 business days after placing the order.
blogger / grapefruit / 4836 posts
Yes! I completely agree. All of the things you mentioned as no-go’s we got new, and almost everything else we got (and still get!) used! We did buy our stroller new, but only because we couldn’t find one used and we knew we would wear it to death so it would be a good investment to start fresh. Great list! I think a lot of new moms are scared to go used…it can be so tricky to know what is safe!
persimmon / 1331 posts
All of our nursery furniture is used! The dresser/changing table and glider were from Craigslist, crib from a friend, swing from a consignment sale. My sister’s friend gave us 8 (!) boxes of used clothes from NB to 18 months! For as quickly as babies will grow out of stuff, I tried to keep things as cheap as possible, just because, I felt, why spend so much on stuff you won’t use for very long?
We bought our car seat/stroller travel system new because DH nor I would use a used car seat either for the reasons you stated and our stroller is not very popular in this area (B-agile), so there were no used deals around. But I think it’s good to be resourceful and cheap where you can!
ETA: as others have stated, insurances vary greatly on what they cover for breast pumps and their requirements to get one. We are lucky and our insurance covered a Medela PISA equivalent, and could be ordered 30 days before my due date!
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I would also like to advise to wait until after your baby is born to buy things. When I was pregnant I ran out and bought every little thing, I have to say the breast pump was the biggest waste of money, I work from home and my son ended up rejecting the bottle so all the milk I pumped ended up getting wasted. Plus the ameda pump was not very efficient, I ended up having a strong let down so hand expressing was faster, cleaner and quieter.
The point is, you never know what kin of baby you’ll have and how your body responds to motherhood.
admin / watermelon / 14210 posts
i have bought and sold so much used gear it’s ridiculously awesome. i always try to buy used if i can, but avoided all the things you listed as well. the best resource by far has been my local parenting listserv for used gear, but not everyone has such an active one locally.
guest
Donor breast milk is a wonderful option that should not be dismissed so lightly. I’ve provided donor milk to three babies besides my own.