Last month I took the plunge and took my toddler on a plane ride. She’s no stranger to air travel—this was her fifth plane trip in her short life—but it was the first time I didn’t have her dad to tag team during the adventure.
My plan going in was that less would be more. I was flying from Georgia to New Mexico and would be there for more than a week, so I wanted to pack everything we both needed into one carry-on sized suitcase (I hate paying extra checking in a bag, but that changed once I got to the airport). I also lucked out, because at my destination there would be a car seat and pack ‘n play waiting for us (two very large and bulky items that I didn’t have to worry about).
I waffled back and forth between what to take for our adventure in the airport and on the plane (specifically, I questioned if I wanted to lug a stroller with me), and this is what I eventually went with:
- Umbrella stroller
- Ergo Carrier (We use wraps and slings, too, but for an airport/airplane I like using the carrier that clips and goes on quickly)
- Backpack (Inside I had my laptop and all of my personal things—wallet, phone, chap stick, etc.—new snacks and toys for her, and a few extra diapers and wipes in their own separate Ziploc)
- Suitcase filled to the brim with everything the two of use would need for our trip. I left the diapers at home and only took “just enough” and bought diapers and wipes once I got to my destination.
I planned it out to get to the airport super early. It’s about a two-hour drive to the airport from where we live, and I knew Bunny would nap on the way there. Our flight departed right at the beginning of her bedtime, so I was hoping she would walk around a lot and burn off energy. My plan almost worked like a charm.
We usually park near the Atlanta airport at a hotel and then take a shuttle over to the airport. When the shuttle dropped us off near the curbside check, the place was deserted (unlike the chaos inside the airport). I made a split-second decision to check in my bag, so I wouldn’t have to deal with pushing the stroller and pulling the suitcase. Best extra $25 I spent. After I checked it in, I stuffed our Ergo in the backpack, strapped it onto my back, and put Julia in the stroller—we were smooth sailing.
As a military spouse, we’re allowed to use the USO in different airports around the world. I highly suggest checking it out if you’re traveling and have access to a USO—they typically have an area specifically for kids, which is where we hung out before our flight. I wanted to take more pictures of the USO to show you, but my daughter was literally running all around, so I had to keep up with her!
The children’s area at Atlanta’s USO facility
I gave us ample time to go through security, since you never know how long it will take. Before we got in line, I took the Ergo out of the backpack, strapped it on, and put Bunny inside, then I dragged the stroller behind us. The hardest part about security was taking off my sandals while wearing her, but that was a small feat compared to what the complications could’ve been. Security turned out to be a breeze. They swabbed my hands for bomb residue (I was clean!) and tested the milk I brought (took a bit of time, but I planned for that), and then we were back on our way.
Just before our flight started boarding, I found a family restroom and changed little Bunny out of her day clothes and into her jammies. Then we got ready to board.
We boarded with pre-board (where they allow families with small children to get on the plane) and got settled. It was nice since I had a little extra time to get situated, but Bunny got really restless, really fast. Watching everyone walk around while she had to sit still was torture for her. Next time I’ll board at the tail end of everyone and let her wander around more.
I picked an aisle, because I figured I may need to walk around with her (hopefully in the Ergo) to get her to sleep. She naps like that all the time (when not on a plane), so that’s nothing new for her. This time, however, she wanted nothing to do with it. She was exhausted, but didn’t want to sleep. We bounced up and down the aisle and I nursed her like crazy (which is interesting since we’ve been in the weaning process). She eventually fell asleep, sprawled out across me, around an hour and a half into the flight.
All in all, I’d call it a successful trip. She didn’t cry (much), and except for having a really, really lousy seatmate (I’m pretty sure he hated children), everyone was very helpful. I’m glad I spent the extra money and checked in my bag so that I could have my hands free to push the stroller. I’m also happy I brought the Ergo even though I really only used it through security. (When she was younger I wore it through security and during the entire plane ride.)
The best advice I received from people was to bring new things for her to eat and play with. I picked up some small toys that I knew would fit in my backpack, along with some new treats (Teddy Grahams and some fruit chews, for example). I’m also happy I brought the stroller. The Atlanta airport is fairly large and while we’re both comfortable babywearing, it was nice to be able to push her and let her hop out to walk.
Did the whole trip go as planned? Not exactly, but it was better than I expected and it was definitely manageable.
Now that we conquered our first solo-traveling experience, we’re about to do it again in a couple months, but since she’ll be older I’ll probably purchase her own seat, so I’m sure I’ll be back with another tale about how that adventure goes!
Have you flown solo with your little one? How did it go?
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts
Glad that it went well!
We haven’t flown yet and I am scared. R wont want to sit
blogger / persimmon / 1220 posts
Brave mama! I was never courageous enough to do this!
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I flew alone with my little one last month and it was only a 55 minute flight. Going he wanted to see and touch everything (good thing his dad wasn’t there! He would have made me wipe down everything) and going home he slept the whole way! But it was a lot of work. I don’t think I’ll be flying solo again.
pear / 1861 posts
That’s our airport too.
We haven’t flown yet, but she’s 3 so I’m hoping it won’t be too bad when we finally do. I’m so glad to see it went well with just y’all two. I’m a single mom, so it was nice to see it isn’t too difficult alone at the airport!
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Glad it went well! Security didn’t make you take off the Ergo? I flew about three years ago with #1 in it and they made me take it off despite the fact that he was sleeping. I was so annoyed lol.
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I flew solo with my 15-month old daughter across the country (California to Maryland) and it went… fine, all things considered. I had connections to make and there were delays leading to missed connections, which was a major pain, but we rolled with it – what else can you do? I opted against the stroller and was happy I was able to carry my daughter in the Ergo and pull the carry-on. I did check her car seat, free of charge and had a backpack carrier for it that was great (Ergo/ baby in front, car seat in back, pull carry-on and carry diaper bag – I was quite a pack-mule!). She slept through most of the flights, which helped a lot. Overall, it was stressful and I’ve not done it again since, but doable. A direct flight would have simplified things considerably!
persimmon / 1230 posts
I’m glad you had a great trip. I flew solo from Maryland to Florida (and changed planes in ATL) with my then-15 month old in April. It was his third time flying. The first two were a breeze, this time did not go well, probably because he was bigger, mobile and on my lap. We are flying to Florida again on Friday, but this time it’s nonstop and I splurged and bought DS his own seat. I’m hoping that makes a huge difference. Flying solo with LOs is always an adventure! I’m a pro at going to the bathroom with DS in the ergo on my front and a heavy diaper bag on my back!
blogger / pomegranate / 3491 posts
Glad it went so well. We learned the hard way that C does NOT sleep on planes (no shock – just like his mama), so I am glad that J eventually conked out for ya!
pear / 1986 posts
Thanks for posting this! Just in time for my first solo trip with my 13-month old next week (her 3rd flight ever). She isn’t walking yet, but I know she is going to want to be on the move the entire time! Your list for the airport sounds just like my plan. I am definitely checking a bag and her carseat (in it’s original box) because I don’t want to deal with that. And the ERGO/stroller combo seems pretty solid. So easy to wear her through security, but I know she won’t want to stay in the ERGO the whole time. We are doing a morning flight. She is in the best mood then, and will hopefully nap during the second half of the flight. And at least this is only a one-way trip – we are moving! I thought a solo flight (half day trip total) would be better than two full days with her in the car by myself!!
blogger / eggplant / 11551 posts
I hope I never have to fly solo with my kids. You go, brave mama!
GOLD / grapefruit / 4555 posts
Glad the trip went well! And thanks for the info on flying with littles.
blogger / nectarine / 2010 posts
We flew solo at 18m but I left the stroller behind. I was a Regan though, which is way smaller and he’s a small boy. My plan for him to nap during the flight was a total fail, but didn’t end up being a big deal in the end. I checked our car seat (free) and asked if they checked bags for military and they did. It all depends on the airline and the person checking your bag, but I’ve found that 75% of the time they’ll waive the fee for spouses if you ask.
Since we have a big dog and no one to take care of him, when DH is flying Little M and I drive home to my parents often. I much prefer flying to 12 hours in the car with a 2 year old. I need USO entertainment in my back seat!
blogger / pear / 1563 posts
That doesn’t sound too bad at all! We had a horrible flying experience at 11 months when Little P did NOT fall asleep on the way to the airport like we planned, but it sounds like yours was great!
blogger / nectarine / 2043 posts
Granted, we haven’t had any place to go, but this is been something I’m pretty nervous about (go figure, I’m a seasoned traveler and everything!). It’s probably for naught, and I’ll definitely use these tips once we get there.
blogger / kiwi / 675 posts
Our cross country flight went really well when G was 21 mos. Im not sure how it would be with 2 though. gah, I don’t really want to try it anytime soon!
pomegranate / 3225 posts
Brave mama! Glad it went well.
blogger / honeydew / 7081 posts
Glad it went well!!
pomelo / 5621 posts
Glad the trip went well.
I’ve flown solo numerous times with DS and find that people are usually really helpful. Last time at 15 months I found the most challenging since he didn’t want to sit still and getting him to stay in my lap was difficult, until he fell asleep then it was fine.
blogger / clementine / 750 posts
@Katrocap: Glad to hear that changing planes worked out for y’all—we ALMOST went that route and then I chickened out at the thought of doing two plane rides! I’d love to hear about him having his own seat next time—I think that’s my plan for this next trip.
@GreenThumb: Good luck with your flight and your move! And yes, I’m so, so happy I did both the stroller and the Ergo.
@Mrs. Stroller: Oh my goodness, they’ve waived the fee for you just with your dependent ID? I’m definitely trying that next time—it never even crossed my mind! BTW, I didn’t know you’re a military spouse, awesome
@Mrs. Carrot: Yup, seasoned traveler here, too. It was honestly hard for me to throw out all of my normal flying rituals (for lack of a better word) and put my focus completely on her. I love flying and missed that total break from the world I usually had (before kids) when being on an airplane.
@ALV91711: These poor kids have zero desire to stay in one place at that age! I’m actually surprised the “infant in arms” age is 2 since their mostly all mobile (and so long) by that age. When she slept, she was sprawled out on my lap and practically in my seatmate’s side!
blogger / nectarine / 2600 posts
Good luck I also hope I never fly solo!
wonderful olive / 19353 posts
Yay for a successful trip!
I have flown solo with DS a few times, but it was when he was younger. Haven’t done it recently when he’s more mobile! Eek!
blogger / clementine / 998 posts
IVe heard people say its worth it to buy the extra seat, did you? Thoughts?
blogger / pomegranate / 3300 posts
I haven’t flown with my kids solo but I didn’t fly my nephews from DC to Los Angeles for my sister. They were 1 and 3. That was a pretty crazy adventure. Looking back I think, wow I didn’t even know what I was getting myself into but it was fine. I think mother anxiety adds a whole new level of worry that I didn’t have with my nephews.
blogger / persimmon / 1398 posts
That sounds like it went *really* well! I’ve flown solo with Mini … but he was older. And it’s completely exhausting. Luckily, I’ve had awesome seatmates everytime who, at the very least, calmed me down when things went awry.
blogger / nectarine / 2687 posts
that is so cool about the USOs! i flew solo with CB several times starting when he was about 22 months and that was hard enough — major kudos to you for flying with a younger tot!!!
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Thanks for posting. I am flying solo in one week with my 15 month old from Maryland to California on a non-stop flight. Your information is helping me since I tend to be an overpacker. I will add a couple new toys to my list and new snacks. Last time