One of my friends recently experienced a miscarriage, and I was so heartbroken for her.  I felt helpless standing idly by while she went through what was one of the most trying times of her life.  I knew there was nothing I could do or say to take the pain away, but wanted to show my support in some tangible way.  She isn’t local to me, so I wanted to make sure everything it contained traveled well.  This is what I came up with:


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1.  Magazines – I included 3 magazines in the care package – US Weekly, People, and Cosmopolitan – just some mindless guilty pleasure mags to take her mind off things and doesn’t require too much brainpower.

2.  Something sweet – I chose Haribo gummi bears and Swedish Fish because they are yummy and travel well.

3.  Something salty – She is a chips addict, and loves Flamin’ Hot Cheetos so I packed some up for her (plus I heard these chips are not as common in the east coast as it is in the west coast – is that true?!).

4.  Something healthy – I went with KIND bars because they’re delicious, healthy, and have minimal ingredients.  It was also my way of telling her to be kind to herself.

5.  Chocolate – Chocolate deserves its own category!  It was in the heat of summer though, so I wanted something that wouldn’t melt in transit.  These mini Kit Kats fit the bill.

6.  A 6-pack of travel Kleenex – When you have tears, you need tissue.

7.  Korean Face Masks – These are lightweight, and don’t take up a lot of space, so they’re great for long distance transit.  I wanted to give her something that would make her feel pampered, especially since she was crying a lot. I chose Snail, Green Tea, Collagen, and Coenzyme Q10.

8.  Tea – I gave her a box of Yogi Calming tea.  Something herbal and decaffeinated to help her relax after her long days.

9.  A Journal – Writing can be so therapeutic in times of deep pain.

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Some other things I considered, but ended up nixing was a book on loss and healing (because she’s not a reader), a trinket from Etsy (because I didn’t want to give her such a permanent, physical reminder of her loss), and a candle (because I didn’t want anything too heavy or that could break in transit).

For this particular friend, these would not have been the best options, but I just wanted to throw those ideas out for others who might want to put together a care package. I also elicited a ton of great ideas from our board members in this thread.  They threw out wonderful suggestions such as chocolate/fruit baskets, flowers, ice cream packed in dry ice, lotions, creams, bath products, and coffee.

What would you put in a care package for a friend who went through a miscarriage?