Neither Mr. Ice Cream nor I live near our parents, which means we don’t have access to regular babysitters. However, we are lucky enough that our parents visit regularly and always encourage us to have date nights when they are here. So the need for a babysitter didn’t come up until Max was around a year old. At that point we finally introduced ourselves to our neighbors and found out they had a daughter who was a senior in high school and loved babysitting. I’ll call her D. The first time we met D we could tell she was a responsible kid. She was mature, polite and well spoken. We were a little hesitant that she was only 18, but we took comfort in that her parents lived across the street in case any emergencies came up. We had no idea how much to pay her but after asking around we decided on $12/hr. When we asked D if that was okay, her eyes seemed to light up like that was more than she was expecting.

We eased D into her babysitting duties, starting off with short 1-2 hour time slots with no diaper changes or snacks needed. Eventually she was giving Max dinner, changing diapers, and putting him to sleep. D eventually left for college and we were back to square one in our babysitter search.

This time we were a little more proactive about our search. We asked friends, neighbors and checked out care.com. While perusing care.com we came across one of Max’s daycare teachers. We liked the idea of someone he would be immediately familiar with and immediately reached out to her. I’ll call her R. She has considerable more experience than D, but we ended up offering her the same $12 rate. At this point Max was over 2 and much easier than when he was an infant. The first time we had R babysit Max we ended up paying her closer to $14/hr, mainly because she was so much more experienced than D, a high schooler, and we felt guilty for offering the same rate. Plus Max had a great time with her and even asked the next day if she was coming over to play.

I know babysitting rates differ depending on where you live, but I would love to know how much you pay your babysitters and what your expectations are.