On our first wedding anniversary after Charlie was born, Bee and I went out on our first real date in almost a year. We had a great time, watching a Broadway show and grabbing dinner. It was a big splurge, but felt worth it.
What we hadn’t counted on though, was the cost of babysitting. We don’t have any family nearby and babysitters cost $15-20/hour where we live. We asked our nanny to stay late for our date, and had to pay time-and-a-half for overtime. When you added it all up, that single date night cost us over $100 in babysitting alone! And that’s not even counting the cost of the cab we had to take because we raced home immediately after the show was over!
So, we learned our lesson. For the next few years after that, we didn’t go on a single date night except when Bee’s mom was visiting. The cost of babysitting was just too high, especially when we realized that we still had to pay for dinner, a movie or whatever else we had planned. It was easier just to stay at home. If we ever wanted to go on a date, we took time off during the day while the kids were in school/daycare. Or more likely, one of us stayed home with the kids while the other one went out to dinner with friends.
Then years later, we discovered two tricks that have allowed us to have evening and weekend dates again… this time, with zero babysitting costs!