Based on this previous post, I think it’s known that Mr. Piñata and I have been working to update our home study to adopt again! The home study process is what you go through to become an approved potential adoptive parent. I only know the “ins and outs” of domestic adoption, but from what I’ve heard it’s quite a bit more complicated if you adopt internationally. If you’ve heard the phrase “paper pregnant,” it usually means that the couple’s home study has been completed and are just waiting to be matched with an expectant mother. And we are officially waiting now! Yay!
The process has been immeasurably easier the second time around. There is still plenty of paper work, but not as much as the first time. In Tennessee if you choose to adopt again within 5 years of completing your first home study, you only need to update your paperwork. If there’s more than 5 years between each adoption then you have to start over, which is a lot more time consuming and expensive. The first time our application and home study fees came to $2,000. This time we just owed $500 to our agency to update our home study, so it’s nice to start the process with a lower bill.
Here are a few other similarities and differences:
1. The application – This was the same as the first time. We still needed to provide copies of things like our marriage certificate, insurance cards, driver’s licenses, etc. along with references and all of our basic information. This part wasn’t too difficult either time.
2. Essays - The first time we started the home study process we each had to write several essays about our marriage, lives and infertility journey. I think these were so important to process through what we had been through and for the agency to be sure we would be a good fit to become adoptive parents. This time around we only needed to write a one-page autobiography update to share what it was like to be parents. This was a whole lot easier than last time!