I’m pretty sure my procrastination level has reached an all-time high lately. I haven’t been keeping in touch well with my friends. I haven’t been planning new and fun things to do for the kiddos. I certainly haven’t been keeping up with my house cleaning. So, what have I been doing then??
We are in desperate house hunting time. We’re supposed to close on our current house next month and there’s literally nothing on the market for us to choose from to buy. We’ve seen it all and passed it up for whatever reason, and analyzed everything 6 ways to Sunday to see if there’s some way we could make it work for us. I search all of the housing sites, Craigslist, then go back and look at the houses we’ve already seen (in case they’ve changed somehow in the last couple of weeks??!!). I literally feel like months have passed by without me being fully present because I’m so engrossed in finding our “dream”/”forever” home. I’m so tired of houses, you guys.
I’m in a rut.
And I need to get out, badly…for my family, and my own mental health. So, here’s what I’ve discovered about getting out of a mental rut in case you’re in one of your own!
1) Determine what needs to change: For me this mainly involves putting my phone down and stepping away from the housing apps. I find myself being much more attentive to my kids and the house if my phone is nowhere near me. The amount of time I spend looking every day isn’t healthy for my life and isn’t really helpful either, so that’s number 1. I also need to change my stress level about finding a house. Something somehow will work out – I know that deep down, so I need to calm myself instead of spending all day on eggshells about a new house coming on the market. I might even look into a yoga class for myself!
2) Set attainable goals: I know that I’m not going to be able to change all of these things at once because I’ve been doing them for quite a while now. I think I’ll first start by cutting down the number of housing apps I have on my phone to 1 (I won’t tell you how many I currently have). I’ll also set a goal for myself of only checking this app at times that make sense for my family, such as when the kids are eating lunch, taking a nap, or otherwise preoccupied without me. I will not make an excuse that they seem preoccupied without me (even if they’re asking me to play with them) in order to check my phone. Honestly, my husband and our agent are as obsessive as I am at this point – so if something does come on the market they’ll probably know right away too.