I haven't blogged for a long time for a few reasons. The logistical reason is that getting used to working from home with a 2 year old at home at the same time has made time management pretty tricky. And emotionally, it has been a hard year in terms of our adoption wait. Since we had done fertility stuff for the year prior and now have been in the adoption waiting process for 10 months now, it often brings me to tears how hard it is for us to add another child to our family. And to be honest, as happy as I am for the other bees here who are having their second and third babies, I often don't feel like my story has much to contribute.
But, as the year winds down, I thought I should write an update on how our year has been in the adoption process. Not only so that you know what is going on with us personally, but also so that everyone here can get an idea of what it's like in the waiting game of adoption.
And what has happened in our adoption process this year? Plenty!
We were officially on the wait list in February. Nothing was really moving the first couple of months, which is totally normal, so we didn't think much about it. We assumed that this time around we would likely wait longer than 5 months like we did for Little Piñata, so we planned for a longer wait. We originally were working with just our agency in Nashville, but soon decided to add the agency that matched us with Little Piñata (it's a few hours away but still in-state).
Then, at the beginning of April, just a few weeks before our scheduled trip to Italy to visit Mr. P's sister and brother-in-law, we got a call from our social worker that there were TWO birthmothers that would be looking at our profile that were due by the end of the month! If we were chosen we would need to cancel our trip to Italy for sure. This was so exciting! And when this agency shows profiles, they literally have 2-4 profiles at most, so this gave us at least a 25% chance in each situation! We were so excited!
This was a little stressful because we didn't know if we were going to be headed to Italy or bringing a baby home! So, I was stressed and praying a lot, and figuring out what it might look like to cancel our plane tickets, etc. But, about 4-5 days before we left we found out that one of the birthmothers chose to parent and another chose a different couple. But, the consolation was a trip to Italy, so we couldn't complain.
But, we also knew that our agency was pretty small, so that it was unlikely our profile would be looked at again for awhile, so in that regard it was more disappointing.