The day after I got my first BFP, I was in my friend L’s wedding. Since I was pretty sure I was pregnant, I didn’t drink at the rehearsal dinner or wedding reception. It was great to be able to think about being pregnant without feeling like I was imagining it.
The next night, we celebrated our second wedding anniversary (we celebrated one night early), and went out for a really fancy dinner. I will never forget that night! We were so excited and happy.
On Tuesday, I left work and had a little bit of time before I had to be at my new school for a meeting, so I stopped by Babies ‘r Us to just walk around and look. It was fun to think about registering, having a baby shower and decorating a nursery, and I enjoyed every minute of it.
However, the high didn’t last long. On Wednesday, I woke up to pretty bad cramps. I remember laying in bed thinking that I was probably about to get my period. I tried to visualize the embryo sticking as I laid there, and I waited a long time to get out of bed because I just knew what was coming.
During those five short days that we thought we were pregnant, Mr. TTT and I had discussed that if we lost the baby due to a miscarriage, we would still be happy(ish) because we’d know that we could make a baby. Plus, there are things that can help with the sticking part and when we got pregnant again, we would do whatever we could to help it stick. So when I did get my period that morning, I was sad, but no more sad than I had been before we ever got pregnant.
My husband and I both stayed home from work that day, and I cried for maybe an hour. We went out to breakfast and played with our dogs outside and comforted each other. It wasn’t a great day, but we made it through together and came out stronger on the other side.
After getting some blood work done and talking to my doctor, who confirmed the miscarriage, he advised us to wait one month before trying Clomid again. I was anxious to get right back on the baby-making track, but understood that my body needed time to normalize. He prescribed me the Clomid after my break cycle, just before my insurance changed over and I selected a new doctor who I liked way better. This time, Clomid was much easier. The bloating and cramping wasn’t nearly as bad as it was the first time.
At the end of the cycle, we got another BFP! But this time, there were no pictures or high fives. We were very cautious and guarded because we didn’t want to be disappointed if it went away again. Fortunately, it stuck and, as you know, I’m now in my third trimester!
We were very lucky and appreciative that Clomid worked for us, because it doesn’t work for so many women. I did not use ovulation predictor kits while I was on Clomid. After the first round, before I got that first BFP, the doctor did a blood test to check my hormone levels to see if they were consistent with normal ovulation, which they were. I was able to stay on the lowest dose for the second round because my levels were good, and I didn’t need more medication to help me ovulate normally, like many women do.
My doctor told us that having more sex wasn’t going to help our chances, and that we should stick to a pretty strict every other day schedule (starting on day 10, I believe), which we did. He also said that I should drink a small glass of wine before sex, but my husband shouldn’t drink at all. He said that not only would the wine help my mind relax so I could enjoy the moment, but it also helps certain muscles down there relax so the swimmers had the best possible chance of making it to their final destination. Another thing I did, which was just based on things I had read, was after sex I stayed laying down and brought my knees up almost to my chest and waited for 15 minutes or so. Who knows if any of those things made a difference (for the record, we were on vacation when we conceived the second time and my husband had wine that night), but I wanted to try whatever I could to increase my chances.
Trying to conceive was quite a journey (it took us 14 months to conceive), but I like to think that things happen for a reason and everything has worked out for the best.
Have you ever done anything to increase your chances of getting pregnant?
pomegranate / 3225 posts
Your story gives me hope! I’m hoping to get a BFP soon after miscarrying my first at 12 weeks.
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21628 posts
I’m glad Clomid worked for you. My husband and I are dealing with infertility. We just found out a month ago and by the end of February we should be starting treatments, I just don’t know what they are going to be yet.
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Such a crazy journey you had, but I do believe in some odd way that things always do work out for the best, even when we can’t see it at the time. I’ve read a lot of stories from women who were in similar situations as yours (and know a lot from the TTC boards) that got pregnant accidentally or super easily after going through hell to have their first child. Supposedly they say that childbirth can “reset” your system sometimes. I know two pregnant bloggers that took over a year to concieve #1 (with fertility treatments), and are accidentally pregnant with #2!!
honeydew / 7968 posts
awww. glad clomid worked for you. i was really really hoping it would work for me. i did stuff pillows below my butt to lift my hips up for about half an hour. didn’t help. lol.
bananas / 9118 posts
So glad that things worked out for you guys!
It took us 10 months to get our BFP, and during that time I literally tried everything non-medical, and nothing was working. I went to the doctor after month 9, and was told to lose a little weight, work out and make myself as healthy as possible. That month we went on vacation and I stopped trying all the other things- this was of course the month that we got our BFP.
I am sold that losing a few pounds and taking a break/vacation was the solution for us, and I also agree that things happen for a reason- timing was perfect with work and finances- it truly worked out for the best, if it had happened any earlier we would have had some struggles.
blogger / apricot / 366 posts
Even though your first BFP didn’t turn out how you expected, it so great that you were able to get pregnant again so quickly! And that you were able to have such great results with Clomid.
When we were trying, I was putting my legs in the air afterwards, was super careful at the gym (what if I went for a run and “shook” the baby out of me…yes, I’m a crazy person), drank very rarely…just tried to do the things that I thought might help me overall. And, wouldn’t you know, the month I got pregnant there were no legs in the air, I was drinking more than usual and just generally living my life. Life is crazy sometimes