I used to be an editor at a large newspaper. It entailed working late into the night, getting random weekdays off, and forgoing many holidays with family. The pay was decent, but certainly not enough to make up for the glaring lack of a personal life.
I accepted all that because, in exchange, I could say what few people can genuinely say in this world: I loved my job. Even in this age of electronic media, there was something so gratifying about seeing each night’s work plopped on doorsteps around town the following morning. And I always got a rush when a big story broke late, threatening to upend our entire evening.
Every night, I waded through an avalanche of words that invariably detailed the failings of humanity. War. Murder. Mayhem. Yes, there were also light-hearted stories and “feel-good” topics, but you can’t ignore the simple truth that it’s often our darkest sides that drive the news. And frankly, it took a lot to make me bat an eye. Journalists have a reputation for being cynical that isn’t undeserved, but it’s really just a defense mechanism to help keep the horrors of the world at bay. Otherwise, we’d go a little crazy.
I’ve been in a little bit of a news detox situation ever since becoming a mom, though. When I got pregnant, if it wasn’t light-hearted fiction or baby-care-related, I just didn’t care. I shock myself by admitting that – I used to pride myself on being well-informed. But after endless nights of roadside bombs and shootings and corruption, I needed a breather. And once Baby Y got here, I rarely read anything but a headline on my iPhone. Sleep was paramount, and the world could wait.
Now that my baby is getting older (sob) and he’s on a little bit more of a predictable schedule (knock on wood) I’ve been trying to crawl out from under my rock. But … the world is different. Or more likely, the world is the same, and I am different. My protective shell has dissolved and I cannot read, watch, or listen to practically anything sad without having a bit of a mental freak-out.
The reason I am now buying stock in Kleenex
Anything that has to do with hurt or dying children is sure to make me go berserk now. I don’t know if anyone followed the heartbreaking end to the Powell saga, but I could barely make it past photos of the boys before fighting back tears. I started a story about a journalist killed in Syria, but ended up dropping it after I read about how she’d watched a child die in the fighting: “We just watched this little boy, his little tummy, heaving and heaving as he tried to breathe.”
I just can’t help it – my mind automatically substitutes Baby Y for any child in peril, and after that, I’m gone. And even when kids aren’t involved, I find myself despairing at the state of the world and yearning to protect my son from all of its evils – even when I know intellectually that such an impervious shield would ultimately do him a greater disservice.
My newfound mushiness extends past the news, too. Sarah McLaughlin and her SPCA commercials – please kill me now. Google and its devious Dear Sophie Lee? Can’t handle it. Pampers and its “Every Little Miracle” campaign. The beginning of “Up.” Every stupid episode of “Extreme Home Makeover.” My former self would scoff at the deliberate lunge for my emotional jugular from all this stuff; my current self is busy searching for another tissue.
Anyone else find themselves welling up at everything, big and small, now that they’re a parent? Please tell me I am not the only one who is a total softie now.
Watch that and don’t cry. I DARE YOU.
olive / 55 posts
Not fair. My baby is barely 6 months old and that makes me want another one. haha.
cantaloupe / 6730 posts
The beginning of Up didn’t get to you before becoming a mom?!?!?!?! I don’t believe it.
blogger / pomelo / 5400 posts
@Grace: I hadn’t seen it until after, and only that part as it is!
coconut / 8299 posts
Damn Pampers. Making me cry at work! What is it about babies that just makes me cry whenever I see one??? LOOOOVE
cherry / 228 posts
I pretty much cry at about anything now haha… def changed after being a mom!
olive / 54 posts
I used to love watching Law & Order: SVU and now cant watch any police dramas after my first kid.
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**movie spoilers for Pan’s Labyrinth and Dear Zachary**
When my husband and I were still dating, he used to joke that he thought I might be dead inside because he’d rarely seen me cry if ever. The one time he did see my cry – after watching Pan’s Labyrinth – he was quite taken aback.
After having our daughter though I feel that everything makes me cry. Sweet commercials, movies, everything. I recently saw Dear Zachary on Netflix – it was listed as a suggestion and it sounded very interesting. Having no prior knowledge of its subject or content I watched it kind of absentmindedly during the afternoon while I was doing chores and then near the end the tears were nonstop. Even my husband was moved to tears. I think it was mostly from watching my reaction but also from the movie.
Obviously I would highly recommend both movies but having a baby has made a huge difference in my ability (or lack thereof) to hold back tears.
grapefruit / 4800 posts
Yes. Very sappy now. I know I could snap out of it but at the same time it feels nice to let yourself experience emotions more fully.
persimmon / 1255 posts
I also sub in my LO when hearing news involving little kids. Needless to say, I don’t like watching the news any more….
nectarine / 2797 posts
Oh man yes, that Pampers commercial. I was working from home a lot around the holidays and would have TLC on in the background and I swear that commercial was on every ten minutes and made me cry every time. And that’s just with pregnancy hormones, I can’t imagine how it will be once the kid is here!
cherry / 161 posts
Oh, I totally hear ya! I used to watch Greys Anatomy and Private Practice and House religiously, but once I started developing pregnancy complications with DS1, I instantly gave those shows up.
With DS2, I was watching Law and Order SVU while on bedrest one afternoon, and they featured the most horrifying episode I’ve ever seen (I will spare you the terrifying details). Since then, I haven’t been able to watch another crime tv show, and I don’t think I ever will. My list of watchable shows has significantly dwindled now that I am a parent – things are just too scary to watch. Nothing like complete avoidance to make the world seem a bit better!
blogger / pomelo / 5400 posts
@mamabolt: Seriously, TLC has that on every commercial break, I think!
@Katm558: I used to watch “Grey’s” a lot, too … I think I mostly stopped after the big mass shooting (though it was a really good episode).
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Hilarious! But I admit that I am definitely more of a softie now, too.
honeydew / 7968 posts
i’ve always been a sap. so i can just imagine how much more sappy i’ll become when i am a mom. =T
kiwi / 729 posts
omg, i used to cry EVERY time i saw that pampers commercial. I told my friend this (she was pregnant with her first baby at the time) and she admitted she cried at the commercial too! ugh. I just showed your video to my husband and started crying again…haha.