I am really proud of Mrs. Bee’s bentos, and bentos in general. But sometimes I feel like I have to defend the honor of the bento! Bentos often get judged or mocked in Western culture as a time suck, and as something that only Martha Stewart-types would make the time to do. I am here to throw down my half-Japanese card and tell you that bentos are a very efficient way to pack a lunch!
This post was triggered by some comments I overheard recently about bentos. I actually got pretty emotional, which is pretty rare for me. I realized that to me, bentos are more than they may appear in their cute little packages. Bentos are actually a very common lunch of Japan, and the philosophy behind them is deeply woven into the fabric of Japanese cuisine and culture.
I will admit that if you’re not familiar with Japanese cuisine and culture, then bentos can seem a little insane. Instead of just packing one big entree and some snacks, it might look like a bento requires you to prepare 3-5 different things to eat. Then the bento-maker has to spend even more time making the boxed lunch look pretty. But that’s actually not how bentos work in Japan. That’s because the philosophy of Western and Eastern meals is pretty different.
Western meals often center on a single dish known as the “main course” (in America, it’s sometimes called an entree). Here’s how Wikipedia describes a main dish: “The main dish is usually the heaviest, heartiest, and most complex or substantive dish on a menu. The main ingredient is usually meat or fish; in vegetarian meals, the main course sometimes attempts to mimic a meat course. It is most often preceded by an appetizer, soup, and/or salad, and followed by a dessert.”
Japanese meals are a bit different. A meal will still have a main carb (usually rice) and a main protein (okazu, the main side dish that goes with the rice). But meals will also have a ton of other side dishes. For example, a typical Japanese breakfast will be made up of lots of little dishes — many more than are usually eaten in a Western breakfast: “Traditonal Japanese breakfast consists of steamed rice, miso (soy bean paste) soup, and side dishes, such as grilled fish, tamagoyaki (rolled omelet), pickles, nori (dried seaweed), natto, and so on.”
In Korea, these side dishes are called banchan. You may recognize banchan as all those little plates of food you get for free at Korean restaurants. The most famous banchan is probably kimchi, the fermented vegetables (often cabbage) known for being spicy. Japanese love to eat kimchi too, although we tend to eat it much less spicy than Koreans. I like my kimchi very spicy though, which is one reason I was able to marry a Korean.
There are a million side dishes besides kimchi, each of which many families will have pre-prepared in their fridges (or have bought already pre-made by a local store). Because these side dishes are often hanging out in your fridge for a long time, they are often pickled (which results in a low pH that kills most bacteria). This is why so many Korean and Japanese side dishes are pickled/fermented and thus salty/sour! You can’t make and store so many side dishes and have them not kill you, unless you’ve found a way to preserve the food from going bad. (I think Koreans use more side dishes than the Japanese actually, and wonder if that’s why sometimes it seems like more Japanese side dishes tend to be fresh and not pickled.)
Anyway, all this background is just to give some cultural context to Japanese cuisine and how side dish-centric it can be. To bring it back to the bento, a bento is often made up of rice, a protein, and a number of little side dishes. These side dishes are often little things that you make or buy once a week (or longer), and then drop into individual meals. So, making a bento doesn’t mean making 4-5 little meals. It’s really grabbing a carb and a protein, and then adding some side dishes that you already have lying around.
That’s why making bentos doesn’t really take much more time than packing a lunch. The side dishes are the key. They bring your bento to life with variety and flavor.
Bentos are part of a philosophy of cuisine and food preparation that is very practical and time-efficient. Imagine making a bento during the Meiji period in Japan (which started around the time of the US Civil War), before refrigeration was widespread. You would have a bunch of pickled side dishes pre-made (or pre-bought), and pack that into your bento box. Boom, lunch is served.
I guess after writing this all out, I can see why bentos can seem so weird to the casual Western observer. If you’re not used to a side dish-centric food culture, then you might get distracted by all the flash of modern bentos — from cutting cheese into stars, to sticking toothpicks into his mini hotdogs (both of which Charlie loves and help him eat better, by the way). Bentos are about much more than that: they are a whole philosophy of food and food preparation that goes back centuries.
Anyway, that’s all I’ve to say about bentos. There’s a reason they have been around for centuries! They are a very practical and time-efficient way to pack a healthy and hearty lunch. Viva la bentos!
hostess / eggplant / 11068 posts
Amen, brotha! I love bentos! And I will totally make bentos for my LO…And secretly wish Mrs. Bee would make bentos for ME!
pea / 10 posts
I love Bento boxes! Granted Ive never made one, and Penny is too young for them yet, but I fully intend on giving them a go!
GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts
I grew up eating Japanese bentos. Best things ever!!!!
GOLD / squash / 13464 posts
@Rubies: Me too! I would totally be a more healthy eater if Mrs. Bee would make me bentos for lunch : )
pomelo / 5866 posts
My daughter loved bentos from 10 months and she ate way better because of the separation and the variety. Yesterday, I saw a foogo lunch bag marketed as a bento set. It was only 2 thermos in a bag. Pretty design but clearly not what I call a bento. Thanks for attempting to bridge understanding the bento for others, Mr.Bee. Viva la bento!
persimmon / 1255 posts
I’ve actually started packing our lunches bento style and I have to agree that it’s more efficient. I think it’s actually less stressful – instead of trying to create one dish that has the requisite protein, veggies, calcium etc., I can just a la cart them. The huge plus is definitely that there’s more variety in our lunches now. Sometimes, I even pack a soup
ETA: I haven’t made any cute shapes or anything yet since LO eats the food regardless, but I’m not opposed to them.
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Being Japanese and Korean, I completely understand and appreciate the concept of bentos. Kudos to Mrs. Bee for making such lunches that clearly show her love to her son. I don’t understand why people critique them – I think the western diet is pretty terrible and unhealthy and not tasty, but I never voice this out of politeness. People should show the same respect to other cultures.
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
I love the concept too, both the separation of the components and the variety. It’s how I like to eat, myself…. I hope that someday I have time to do it!
cantaloupe / 6730 posts
I think it was good to do an explanation of the bentos. I will admit, when Mrs. Bee first started talking about them, I thought that the bentos were some sort of super-mom technique used to get picky eaters to eat. And I tend to roll my eyes at super-moms, so I skipped over the bento posts. Later I did a google search, entitled “what’s up with bento boxes” and discovered everything that you had written in the post and that it had nothing to do with being a super-mom. Anyways, even though I didn’t actually post anything anti-bento, I’m sorry that you were upset. Like me, it probably was just due to plain ignorance. So good post!!!
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Since a more in depth discussion of bentos came up, I have to admit that I’m confused about where one draws the line between packing a bento and just a regular “western” lunch. – especially since I read Mrs. Wagon’s post a few weeks ago, which might have been a little sarcastic in the use of the term “bento.” Is it the number of items, the decorative nature of them, the side dishes, etc.? My daughter loves her sandwiches cut with a star cookie cutter, occasionally I’ll do something cute with her fruit, she gets little containers of cut veggies and dip, etc. and we do have the “laptop lunch” box with various small containers, but to me that’s just lunch. I’m curious where others see the line and what they consider the lunches they pack to be.
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21628 posts
I think bentos are great. They are way more interesting than the lunches I took to school.
apricot / 464 posts
I think bentos are awesome! As far as the time-suck factor goes, I think it’s like anything else… if you enjoy the process of making it cute, then it’s not work- it’s fun, and it’s great! If you don’t, then it’s going to seem like work… don’t do it!
pomegranate / 3314 posts
I will readily admit that when I see bento posts, my first thought is to be overwhelmed. Not judge-y or anything, just like, oh man, is this another thing I have to do?! At the same time, I’m also impressed!
Given that the Western diet is, in so many ways and on so many levels, kind of an atrocity, I see nothing wrong with learning some lessons from other cultures. While I’m not sure that I’ll ever be a bento-maker on par with Mrs. Bee, I think it’s worth trying to adopt the concept, even if in a smaller way.
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22646 posts
Amen! I love the bento lunch and the idea of numerous side dishes is something that is very homey to me since I am Korean.
I will def attempt to bento lunch for LOs in the future.
GOLD / grape / 82 posts
Great post! I love bentos. It gives a great opportunity for kids to try lots of different foods. I used to make a getto version that just involved a divided tupperware container, but it gave my kids lots of different options and variety. My newest LO will definitely have more stylish lunches now that I have this great blog to reference. And I love a cultural tradition – they are so important. Keep it up Mr. and Mrs. Bee.
pea / 5 posts
shoot…bento’s are a college student bestfriend too! haha
btw..just realized that Mr.Bee is the only dad on here….
cantaloupe / 6669 posts
I think bentos are really cool! I just don’t think I will ever do them. I am a kind of lazy person, and even though I understand the side dish mentality, since I come from a Western background, sandwich + carrot sticks + pudding cup = much easier lunch to me.
GOLD / wonderful grape / 20289 posts
I never knew all of that…. but ever since seeing bentos I have loved the idea of them. They give kids so much variety instead of eating just a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, chips and an apple every day.
GOLD / pomelo / 5167 posts
I think bentos are cool and I love seeing all the pictures, but I have to be honest (even if I want to try it out) I’m not sure I could do it. Not that it’s not doable, just maybe it’s not a thing i do. Maybe it’s because I wasn’t raised with the “small portions of many foods” like you mentioned in your culture and maybe just because my parents never really packed my lunch…. but I don’t see myself making lunches like that…. I mean, when you really look at it, I make Mavrick’s meal with 3-4 parts of stuff… maybe if I just packed them differently I could call them bentos. Who knows…
Sorry if I offended anyone in my lack of bento knowledge… I just got triangle shaped sandwiches and cheese cut in cubes when I was young.
clementine / 861 posts
Thank you for giving us the history behind bentos, Mr. Bee. I think that some people have thought that they were the product of over-achiever moms but I think that they make a lot of sense (and are super cute).
blogger / watermelon / 14218 posts
Who’s bashing bentos?!?! I personally LOVE bentos in general!! If we ate more Korean-style, I’d definitely be doing bento-style lunches. But we’re much more American (entree, side dish) in our eating and cooking.
pomegranate / 3503 posts
I started packing bentos myself at some point when I was bringing lunch to work. It just made lunch a bit more interesting. I also found that it’s a great way to portion control and to have a balanced meal.
persimmon / 1255 posts
@Kate B. I agree that it’s pretty ambiguous where the line between reg. Western lunches and Bentos is. I’m not an expert but the one difference I can see is portion size. Bentos have a small sampling of a multiple foods while Western lunches usually feature entree + snack + dessert.
I find that when I pack Bento-style, I tend to pack healthier since the containers can better accommodate fresh fruits and proteins. Otherwise, my lunches tend to be too carb-heavy.
To each their own, what works for someone isn’t going to work for another.
hostess / wonderful honeydew / 32460 posts
Don’t mess with the BENTOS!!!!! Or the RAMENS!!!
admin / wonderful grape / 20724 posts
KATE B. – I guess there are a few schools of thoughts when it comes to bentos. One is that a bento is any foods put into a box with compartments. That’s kind of like calling a California roll sushi because it’s wrapped in seaweed. It’s not inaccurate, but it puts a primacy on presentation over content.
The more traditional definition of bento puts the focus on content as much as presentation. In this post, I was trying to emphasize that the content of a bento has often historically been many pre-made side dishes, and that if you have a lot of side dishes in your house then packing a bento is really quick and easy!
It’s interesting: t when Eastern concepts are first imported to the West, the initial focus is often on presentation and technique. A lot of Karate students in America first focused on breaking boards and kicks, for example. In a similar fashion, Yoga has been transformed into something quite different with a focus on poses and form.
Over time though, the concepts do eventually come over in their entirety — philosophies and all! I’m sure bentos are well on their way in this process!
pea / 18 posts
I make bentos for myself and my husband (well, he makes most of the side dishes and I put everything together in the morning), and they’re a great way to feed yourself a balanced meal without having to resort to buy lunch everyday. We’re adults, so I don’t put much (or any) emphasis on the appearance of the food, other than that it look tasty–no cucumbers cut into flower shapes or anything, just good food–and I like it a lot better than when I used to just pack myself a sandwich and a couple of snacks and call it a day.
Of course, I would definitely like to make cute bentos for our child when he’s old enough, because… well, they’re cute.
blogger / pomelo / 5361 posts
DH and I are about to move further from work and will have to start packing our lunches. I was just thinking the other day that Bento-style lunches would make it more fun. Now I just need to study the bento posts for ideas of sides. I would have LOVED bentos when I was a kid, so I’ll definitely try this with our someday LOs.
Thanks for shedding some light on the cultural aspects!
persimmon / 1205 posts
I love the idea of bentos and while the cutting into shapes, arrangement, etc may take some time, I really never thought the variety would be an issue or take more time. Personally I love variety in my meal and think it’s a great way to encourage kids to try and enjoy different foods. I have great aspirations to bento for our LO. We’ll see how I do a couple years from now.
hostess / papaya / 10540 posts
I love this concept and am definitely moving towards doing this for LO. @ohapostrophe actually has some great ones on her blog today are are perfect for LOs that are the same age as ours.
bananas / 9357 posts
I never even heard of bentos before I joined this site. I love the idea! And I’m definitely storing it in the back of my mind when the time comes to pack a LO lunch.
cherry / 190 posts
My daughter just turned one and stays at home with my husband during the day but I have ordered some stuff to start making bentos for her. I think it will be a great way to ensure that she eats balanced meals and snacks throughout the day- even when I’m not home.
hostess / wonderful apple seed / 16729 posts
Thanks for the all the info. Bentos are new to me and was never exposed to them til HB. I always thought they were cool way to expose my future LOs to different foods. Thanks for explaining how easy they are to assemble.
olive / 63 posts
I’m all for these cute little meals, but geeze, now this all seems so serious. Do our kids’ lunches really have to have some huge philosophy?
GOLD / pomelo / 5167 posts
@chicagowife: haha!
admin / wonderful grape / 20724 posts
@chicagowife: I guess I just grew up hearing about bentos a lot, so they came to have meaning to me. After the Tokyo firebombings and then the end of the war (WW2), my mom’s family struggled to survive and was forced to sell off its possessions to buy rice and other food. Bringing bentos to school was actually banned from many Japanese schools as a result, since it highlighted who could afford food and who couldn’t. My mom couldn’t afford much, and would dream about eating bentos. Instead, she and her brother would catch insects in the field to supplement their rice rations.
I grew up hearing a lot about all this, and have always been drawn to bento lunches. I didn’t go into all that in this post though, since I just wanted to share a little bit of the background behind bentos so people could get a sense for how practical it can be to pack a quick bento.
So yah, basically this is how I feel about bentos!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=graC0isA82w
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This sounds great! I’m allergic to vinegar, otherwise it’d be great to have that kind of pickled side dishes to keep around.
wonderful pear / 26210 posts
At the end of the day, though, the child is the consumer, especially when you get to elementary school and fitting in matters. If they’re the only one in the class with a differently packed lunch and they are embarrassed to eat it in front of their friends, it doesn’t matter that you as the parent want to send a bento and while they are demanding peanut butter and jelly (or whatever) like everyone else.
That’s why I continue to think it’s a great idea and would love to incorporate some elements, but only time will tell if the lunches are consistently eaten.
GOLD / olive / 65 posts
I’m excited to try making them when Paige starts needing a lunch. It looks like a great way to get a variety of healthy foods exposed to her in a fun and inviting way. She’s more apt to eat healthy this way…”little bits of everything”…they say that it’s a healthier way to approach eating. If there’s something she’s not fond of, at least there’s other choices and variety. I’m all for it!
pomelo / 5628 posts
I’m completely white, but I LOVE the idea of bentos. As soon as I saw Mrs. Bee’s bentos I wondered why I hadn’t been doing this for myself for ages. I like tapas, I like variety and I will absolutely make bentos for my kids. They’ll probably be “western style” with cut up pb&j and carrots, etc, but they’ll be the same in spirit.
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So true – in a hilarious sort of way I’m a bit defensive about bentos. ^^; They’re so much more simple than people make them out to be – I feel that they really “speak” the love of the maker to the receiver.
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I love bentos! I can’t wait to have kiddos and make simple and also fun bentos for them. This post is so great. Really helps to understand bentos more. Can’t wait to read more of your posts on this. Thanks!
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@looch – maybe you live in a much less diverse area than i do, but in middle and high school, i had a wealth of asian (and asian-wannabe) friends who all brought their lunches to school and brought them in bentos. in fact, it was the “all-american” kids like me who wanted to bring in bentos too, not the other way around!
i think bentos are an awesome way to encourage healthier eating, but also to inspire a love of food and creativity in your kids. kudos to mr. bee for trying to educate the masses! can’t wait to pack happy and satisfying lunches for future bbs :3