I had high hopes Baby Y would have a seamless transition to our new home since he’s a good traveler and sleeps OK on the road. But after about a week in our new digs, sleep is still spotty.
What makes it harder is that before our move, he had been sleeping through the night for about a week – something that had never happened for more than a night or two in his whole life! Was that the beginning of the new normal? I may never know.
We’ve kept as much the same from his old nursery and nap/bedtime routine as possible, but the kiddo has also been battling a cold. Combined with new surroundings, it has made for a challenging week. I’ve been coping, but I’ve had to bust out my two last-resort, baby-must-sleep methods more often: the car nap and desperation co-sleeping.
What my backseat has looked like lately; checking out the new digs.
The first few days after moving, though, we were in the car once a day. Sometimes I feel like I’m in a warped version of “Speed” – hitting the highway usually means better quality naps, while stop-and-go traffic can be risky. Silver lining: At least I got to familiarize myself with our new city!
Desperation cosleeping, though … oh, how I hate it. Friday night, Papa Y and I planned to meet one of his colleagues for dinner and drinks. The plan was to put Baby Y to bed and leave the monitor with my in-laws, who were in town to help watch the kiddo while we got settled. I got ready – nice clothes! makeup! hair blown dry! – before I put Baby Y through his bedtime routine.
Of course, when I put him in his crib, instead of peacefully flopping onto his tummy to snooze, he looked at me like I was insane and SCREAMED. I left the room in hopes that he’d work it out. No dice. Went back in and comforted him, then left again. More screaming. Papa Y went in to try to soothe him with his favorite tune, “Here Comes the Sun” – nada. My mother-in-law tried to shoo me out the door, saying she’d play with Baby Y some more, but I knew that would only make a bad situation worse. The kid was tired.
Papa Y left without me, and Baby Y finally conked out in my bed (after pulling my hair and scratching my face for about 10 minutes, of course). I ended up silently eating my dinner – a peanut butter sandwich and a banana – as he snoozed beside me in the dark. So much for a nice night out!
The past couple of nights have been better, but I won’t say much more than that for fear that I’ll jinx our progress. I will say that the late-night nursing sessions I hoped we’d dropped for good have returned.
Have you moved with a baby or a toddler? Any advice on how to ease their transition?
GOLD / wonderful grape / 20289 posts
Oh no, that sounds awful! Hopefully he’ll get used to the new place soon and start to sleep. We moved right before LO was born…. and hoping to never have to move again.
clementine / 889 posts
We haven’t moved, but we take weekend trips almost every weekend. I think it’s helped DS to adapt to new environments more easily. After a few rough sleep weekends in a row, we started leaving our house later on Friday nights, at DS’s bedtime, letting him fall asleep in the car, and then transferring him to the pack n play when we arrived. It’s also been really helpful to lock ourselves in the bedroom for some quiet playtime and a bottle before naps. Once he is away from the commotion of everyone else, he will settle down and go down for a nap (or bed time) much more easily.
We have lots of experience with car naps though. DS had a run of ear infections every 3-4 weeks through the winter, usually following a few days after a cold started, so we are well versed in car napping. I found a place not to far away that gives him enough time to fall asleep so I can pull over and park, but that has an easy on/off to a loop without traffic lights so if he stirs I can do a loop or two to keep him asleep and then park again. I only do it when he is asleep, and as he’s gotten older, he been better at sleeping even when he’s not feeling well.
blogger / nectarine / 2010 posts
Yikes! It will get better soon, he can probably sense that you’re unsettled and is picking up on it. There are different smells and noises to get used to too, I imagine. The last time we went to my parents’ for an extended visit baby S was still in his bassinet, which I carried with us and he did well with the new surroundings. This summer, however, it will be a new place and a crib (he’s in the cradle here and his bassinet was in the crib there last time). I’m a little worried, but we’ll have the white noise machine and really, he’s got no option, we’re going for 2 months!
kiwi / 551 posts
Ugh, we are moving tomorrow and I am worried about how that will disrupt his sleep. We aren’t sleeping through the night yet though and I’m hoping his new, darker room will help him nap better in his crib. I purposely put off sleep training until after the move. We’ll see how it goes!
blogger / pomegranate / 3300 posts
Yes I have moved with toddlers. I moved last summer with three two year olds. I have to say it was pretty hectic. It took about a month for them to really get back on track. I don’t blame them too much. I was six months pregnant and my husband went away on business the day after we moved. It took me forever to get boxes unpacked and find what we needed since I could not pick up boxes. I should not admit to it but there are some boxes I never got to and remain piled in a corner of my husbands office.
We had tons of fits and bad behavior that I thought was over with. Bed time went back to a battle and naps have become nonexistent. What I would reccomend is fighting your battles now to get them back on schedule. It might be a few days or weeks but if you set your routines up they will stick in the new place. We changed our bed time a little and told our boys this is how it is at the new house. They seemed to get it, we just had some adjustments to make. I tried to remind myself that I wasn’t settled yet so they probably weren’t either
Good luck. I know it’s not easy
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21628 posts
I hope things get better!
blogger / pomelo / 5361 posts
I was actually thinking about you this weekend. We were just moving across town, and I was so exhausted and stressed out. I kept thinking, “How did Mrs. Yoyo do this with a baby!!?!??”
I hope everything settles down soon, and I’m sending you good thoughts for full nights of sleep soon!