As I discussed in Part I, I knew I had to think of some special way to tell Mr. Blue when I got pregnant to “pay him back” for proposing in such a great way. Announcing a baby is one of the few opportunities women have to surprise their significant other with life-changing news.
I’ve spent some solid time googling ways to break the baby news, so I’ll be prepared when the time comes. Here are some of the many ideas I’ve come across or come up with:
1. Wrapping the pregnancy test as a gift. Giving Mr. Blue anything that I’ve peed on, even if it is the bearer of good news, just isn’t in the cards for us. Blech.
2. Expectant Mother Parking. This is such a cute idea if you have a place you frequent with parking spaces reserved for “New or Expectant Mothers.” I think it would be fun to pull into the parking space and make some comment about getting such a good reserved space to make sure DH notices the sign. Then, if he says you can’t park there, say, “Oh, yes, I can,” and give him a sweet present (or the pee stick if you absolutely can’t resist).
3. The Bun in the Oven and the Frame Variation. Everyone has probably heard of some form of the bun in the oven announcement. You place a bread bun in the oven and then asked DH to put dinner in the oven or wait for him to discover it. My personal favorite variation is taking a photo of a bread roll and a photo of the oven. Pick out a cute photo of the two of you. Frame each photo and hang them on the wall where DH is likely to see it quickly. Put: bun photo + oven photo = your photo with a caption that says “Mommy & Daddy.” Adorable!
4. Goodnight Routine. This would be great if you get a BFP at night and can’t wait long to break the news. As you get ready for bed, tell DH goodnight. Hopefully, he’s used to this and will respond in kind. Then say, “Aren’t you forgetting someone?” When he looks questioningly at you say, “Don’t you want to tell the baby goodnight?”
5. Onesie Routine. This is another uber popular idea. If DH is really into something, like a sports team, wrapping a onesie of that team, etc. is likely to get a good response.
6. “Find the Baby” Dog Trick. If you have a dog that learns tricks easily, teach them to “Find the Baby” (going and gently putting their paws on or sniffing your stomach). I always tell Blue Dog “Go Find Daddy!” when Mr. Blue comes home, so I thought this would be so cute, but when I tried to teach her, she gave me her “Eff you, Mommmy!” look and just tried to sniff my crotch, which really doesn’t have the same effect. Someone please use this and tell me all about it.
7. Dog shirt. While we’re on the subject of dogs, another cute thing to do if you & DH are super dog people is to make a dog shirt that says “Big Sister/Brother.” Put it on and wait until DH notices.
8. Recreate Your Proposal. Go to the same places, do the same things that DH did for you. Plan what you want to say to “propose fatherhood.” Choose a gift to “propose” with. This could be a baby-related item or it could be something nice that he’ll always have, like a great watch so he’ll be able to time those contractions and remember LO’s bedtime. I absolutely love this idea . . . except that it would involve me having to try to write a song on par with Mr. Blue’s. Eek. Not sure I’m up for the task.
9. Drinking for Two. Go to dinner and encourage DH to order a drink. Order the same thing. When you get your drinks and dinner, push your drink over to him and pull his plate over to you. Say something like, “I’m eating for two now, so you’re drinking for two.”
10. Balloon Room. Fill DH’s vehicle, office, closet, etc., completely full of blue and pink balloons. Get one “Congratulations on your baby” Mylar balloon to put right in front.
11. Anything playing off DH’s interests. Mr. Blue loves baseball, so if I gave him a little t-ball set, a Rangers onesie, etc., he would love it. Whether its sports, music, travel, a style of dress (a la mini cowboy boots, converse, etc.), there is almost always some mini-version that you could get and give DH, slip in his closet, etc. I will definitely incorporate some of this into whatever I do.
12. Photo Op. Go somewhere fun and tell DH you want to take a photo. Set up your “self timer” but really put your camera on video. Then you just need to break the news, and you’ll have his reaction on video.
13. The card idea from Pregnant Chicken: Buy a blank card and write on the outside: Blank Card $2, Fine point marker: $12, Home pregnancy test: $12 Then on the inside write, “The look on your face when you realize you’re going to be a dad…priceless”
There are endless creative ideas out there for telling your DH about your pregnancy, but I don’t think I’ve come up with the right inspiration yet. I know I want to make a day/evening out of telling him, and I’m sure I’ll incorporate several of the things above, but I haven’t come up with a perfect plan yet.
How did you tell your significant other? What are the best ideas you’ve heard for announcing it to your husband?
cherry / 230 posts
My husband was at work so I texted him a picture of the pregnancy test… I just couldn’t wait. I’m sad I didn’t get to see his face, but by the sounds of it, it was a good thing. It took him until the end of the day to be excited.
coconut / 8305 posts
DH was with me when I tested so there was no surprising him BUT if I did I like the photo spin on the bun in the oven & the “priceless” card the best…. Maybe give the card during a recorded “photo” op so you can really keep the reaction forever?!
hostess / wonderful watermelon / 39513 posts
Our first was a surprise so I told him as soon as he got home from work at 1am. Next time, I think I’ll buy LO a big sister shirt!
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We frequently leave each other notes on the bathroom mirror or reminders for ourselves using white board markers. When he was in the shower one morning after I had the positive test, I wrote “Looks like you’re going to be a daddy! July 2012” on the mirror while he was in the shower. The look on his face when he got out of the shower was priceless; he was thrilled!
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21628 posts
I like numbers 5, 8, and 12.
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When we told the grandparents to be with our first baby, we took a picture of the positive pregnancy test (instead of giving the actual test…eww!), framed it, and wrapped it. Lucky for us, we were telling them at Christmas, so we took pictures/video of them opening it and they didn’t get suspicious. It was great to be able to capture their reactions! My DH found out over the phone – I couldn’t wait to tell him! We had been told on Friday by a fertility specialist that we may never have kids and then my husband left on a business trip the following Monday. It was a rough week, and my expected period didn’t come. I took a test on Wednesday, and SURPRISE! Doctors don’t know everything. And now we have two beautiful babies!
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
Mine was a simple, “Mr. Jacks, come here…. Look at this… what the hell. Oh %$#$!” And then a little more cussing from both of us. Not exactly elegant, but a fond memory now!
grapefruit / 4400 posts
I should’ve done #4– I POAS before bedtime (hubs wasn’t feeling well and was already Nyquiled up in bed), and I had to figure out a way to get him into the bathroom. So I woke him up, told him there was a cockroach in the bathroom, and that he needed to kill it. He was PISSED (because I was being a baby about a bug AND the fact that we now “had cockroaches” AND he was in Nyquil land) and didn’t even see the two pregnancy tests on the counter at first.
apricot / 302 posts
I love the Expectant Mother parking idea, although, I’d probably try to do it and he wouldn’t even notice!
My idea right now is to give him a “Daddy’s Little Tax Deduction” onesie since he’s an accountant.
GOLD / cantaloupe / 6703 posts
For the first time around I gave him a “4th of July” present. When he opened it, I had wrapped up a polo shirt for him which I insisted he try on. Tucked inside was a onesie. He probably would have been a lot more excited if I hadn’t woken him up the day after we moved.
The second time I told him that I wanted to show him pics of a trip that I had been on a few months previous. The last photo was the positive test that said “pregnant.” Both times his reaction was along the lines of “Wait. What? Are you sure?” and then excitement.
GOLD / squash / 13464 posts
Both times I took the test super early in the morning and woke him up and told him right away. He always knew what my test date would be so it would be pretty hard to surprise him. And I’m one of those who is always afraid of jinxing things (I have still bought very little at 18 weeks for this reason) so I definitely didn’t want to buy anything that would be around as a reminder if something bad happened.
wonderful pear / 26210 posts
These are all great ideas! My husband was practically in the bathroom as I was POAS, so there was no lapse in me finding out and him finding out.
wonderful olive / 19353 posts
These are great ideas as I’m still trying to figure out how to announce it to him when I do get the BFP as well.
pomegranate / 3643 posts
I wanted to do something cute so bad! Unfortunately, when I went to the Dr for a blood test (my period was a week late and I had a negative pee test), they told me it was inconclusive and I was either miscarrying or had ovulated late and it was too early to tell. I had to tell him that, so not exactly a sweet moment!
cantaloupe / 6164 posts
i’m a huge loser, and scavenger hunts are my thing. i do a big scavenger hunt around the house for him every christmas to find his “big” present. i have done several for birthdays over the years as well. the morning i found out i was pregnant i got to work preparing my best scavenger hunt yet.
i went to the mall and bought cute little things (dad mug, redskins onesie, baby vans, etc.), had the stores put my wrapped up goodies behind the counter, and wrote up little poems/clues for each store. we spent an hour or so reading clues and finding his gifts, then we went back home, sat on the porch and he opened his presents. he opened the baby vans first and knew right away. i’ll never forget the look on his face.
honeydew / 7968 posts
Would be great if you could write lyrics to mr blue’s song!
coffee bean / 37 posts
I like the idea of recreating the proposal, as DH doesn’t really get subtle so some of the ideas above wouldn’t work.
I also like Photojane’s idea.
), but if I get to tell him around Christmas then I could do something with our Christmas present boxes we fill for each other.
I already have an idea of what I want to do (which I’m keeping to myself
Can’t wait to find out what you do