Lately, I’ve been feeling like I’m on a roller coaster ride. All these sudden changes makes me want to hang on for dear life, close my eyes and scream during the twists and turns. I love these little ones God has trusted me with, but I feel so overwhelmed lately. It’s been 10 days. It’s been wonderful and crazy at the same time.
The thing about adoption is that you feel so disconnected for the first while. Since we are fostering to adopt, there are so many things we can and can’t do right now. It’s hard to feel like they are ours during this time. Instead, it seems like this state of limbo. Like you’re babysitting, not so much parenting, if that makes sense.
I have been blessed with an amazing two year old boy. He has such amazing character. He’s smart, expressive, helpful and so loving. But like so many two year olds, I am trying to figure out how to handle him during the ups and downs. I am trying to teach him right from wrong. I am trying to equip him with good manners and respect. It’s so much easier said than done. When we first got him, he was already such a good boy. I’ve learned so much about him already, but there’s so much I still don’t know. Here’s what I figured out so far:
I feel so lucky when I take a step back to see how much this little man has accomplished so far on his own. I am in awe as to how smart he is. Even though he came from such a rocky foundation, he is learning more and more everyday. He is such a good listener and helps me with so much. It makes it that much easier to handle two new babes.
We also have an adorable one year old girl who is keeping us on our toes. She is beautiful inside and out. Her smile can melt your heart! She too, is an amazing little lady:
Everyday we learn new things that I add to these lists. When I start to feel overwhelmed by my role as a new mother, I just need to step back and realize how lucky I am. I was given these two brilliant babies. They are so sweet, so good. I have an opportunity to invest in their lives. It excites me to realize that adoption gives children a new hope and a better future.
I’ve heard it so many times. Being a mother is one of the hardest jobs, but it’s the most rewarding. Indeed, it is.
GOLD / cherry / 182 posts
It sounds like you’re doing an amazing job! It’s got to be quite a transition from immediately immersed in the terrible 2’s. Hang in there and give yourself a lot of credit for being a wonderful mom.
GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts
It sounds like your kiddos are amazing and so are you!
blogger / pear / 1964 posts
Phew! I can only imagine what kind of transition it’s like to go from no babies to two! Sounds like you’ve got everything under control so far.
GOLD / olive / 69 posts
Thanks ladies!! Honestly, we were very lucky. Their previous foster mom’s did an amazing job teaching them all these things. When we first got them, I could tell they were already taught so much! Wish I could take all the credit!
The transition was an eye opener, but we feel so encouraged by all the support we have around us. Thank you for your encouragement as well
xoxo
pomelo / 5178 posts
They really sound like they’re right on track! Good for you for recognizing and appreciating all they’ve already accomplished.
Keep up the good work!
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21628 posts
It sounds like you are doing a wonderful job.
pomegranate / 3658 posts
I think I was thirteen before I learned to put my dishes in the dishwasher.
blogger / pomegranate / 3300 posts
I know I’m late to respond to your post but my four have been running mearound like crazy the last couple of days. I wanted to tell you the feeling of “baby sitting” is totally normal. I was so guarded when we found out our adoption was going to be contested. It felt like every parenting decision I made was under a microscope. Sometimes I felt like a nanny, the birth mom would tell me things during our visit, like to cut his nails. It took just shy of a year to finalize his adoption. But let me tell you, the day you finalize and the state says they are yours and you are mom will be the greatest day. I felt like it was the day I was “allowed” to feel all the motherly feelings I was having since day one. Good luck and hang in there momma!
GOLD / olive / 69 posts
@OCEANIS723 Thank you SO much for that! It’s so good to hear that some of those feelings are normal and that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Right now, it totally feels like we are nannying. Some days are better than others, but I can’t wait until we can officially be there mommy and daddy. It will be so nice to finally feel like a mommy and not so much the nanny
XO