A hospital is not a hotel. This is not a complicated concept, but for some reason I didn’t get it. I have no idea why, but I was expecting hotel-like amenities during my hospital stay. Maybe I was anticipating a less medical experience because I didn’t consider myself “sick?” I’ve only been in a hospital on one occasion, and then just as a visitor for an hour, so I guess I wasn’t really aware of how they operated.
After delivering the Trikester at 2:22 AM, my first thought was, “I’m famished! Let’s order room service!” Mr. Tricycle had to break it to me that hospitals don’t do room service. The cafeteria was closed, and I’d have to wait for breakfast to get a meal. We had bananas, granola bars, and coconut water, but I really wanted a cheeseburger and fries.
We did eat some great meals during our stay – Wegman’s grocery store makes a fantastic Thanksgiving dinner that we devoured for lunch on Thursday
When we finally made it to our recovery room at 5:00 AM, I was (still) hungry, and exhausted. Other than a cheeseburger, the only thing I wanted was sleep. I was not expecting visitors every thirty minutes. Where was the “Do Not Disturb!” sign for our door? People constantly stopped in to take the baby’s temperature, check my butt for hemorrhoids, drop off paperwork, etc. I should have expected this. As people pointed out on the boards – I was at a hospital – medical professionals were just doing their jobs – I had no right to be grumpy about the interruptions.
Mr. Tricycle’s bed. Poor guy.
Another misconception was the hospital’s devotion to personal comfort. In my fantasy, we’d have a cushy double bed so we could cuddle as a family. That was far from the case – I had a narrow, standard-issue hospital bed wrapped in plastic and Mr. Tricycle had a folding vinyl chair that tried to eat him on multiple occasions. We had to ask for sheets and a pillow, and it took a couple hours to get them. The accommodations were great for hygiene and economy, but not so much for comfort.
People on the boards talked about all the great free stuff they got to take home from the hospital. They weren’t handing out the goodies during my stay. In fact, the nurse told me that each patient was only allotted two pairs of the infamous mesh underwear. If a woman needed more, they were expected to wash them out in the sink. Huh? What? I was grateful to have packed my own shampoo and soap; I was thinking there’d be freebies like a hotel, and only threw it in at the last minute. No gratis toiletries at our hospital – I even felt bad asking for a second towel for Mr. Tricycle.
Just like a hotel, I expected the hospital to have free TV. What else are sick people supposed to do? Apparently it’s not considered an “essential;” to watch the football games on Thanksgiving, we paid a connection fee of $3.50, and then a daily charge of $5.00.
I’m being picky; my room wasn’t comfortable and there weren’t any amenities, but I received wonderful care and can’t complain about any of the professionals we worked with. Ultimately, the health and safety of myself and the Trikester were the number one priority, and on that account, our stay was exemplary.
How was your hospital stay? Was it plush or bare bones?
kiwi / 542 posts
Hah! I am in the UK, so it sounds like heaven to me…
Once I push baby out I have to go onto a ward with 5 other women to recover. My DH won’t be able to stay with me and will have to leave straight away.
All my postnatal exams will be carried out with nothing but a thin curtain (if I am lucky) separating me from the other people on the ward and their visitors.
I would count yourself very lucky. I would kill to be able to have DH stay with me. Even on a crumby chair. And have the dignity of having my postnatal checks done in my own room.
kiwi / 614 posts
I was lucky to have a private room, but the amenities kind of stopped there. Dh had a cot to sleep on, and towels and other toiletries were not provided. However, I wasn’t expecting them to be. I received a list of things to bring from the hospital so I knew they weren’t going to have shampoo and the likes. I wasn’t expecting much more than what I got and was pretty happy with the experience overall, but I do agree about the constant visits from hospital staff. I wasn’t expecting that and it could be kind of annoying when you were trying to sleep, or when you had a sleeping baby and suddenly had to wake her up to see the doctor. I understand they are just doing their jobs and they have a lot of people to take care of, I just wasn’t prepared for this aspect of the hospital stay.
I have since had the unfortunate experience of staying in the pediatric ward with DD and it was less plush than the maternity ward. We had to share a room as there weren’t enough private rooms and cots weren’t allowed in shared rooms so I slept on a recliner (and not one that fully reclined like in your photo) for 4 days with just a blanket, no sheets. But, we survived and DD is better and I’m planning to not have to stay in the hospital again until we have baby #2!
kiwi / 614 posts
@sea_bass: I agree that having your DH stay is quite a luxury. I am so happy he was able to room with me. I’m not sure if it would have been allowed if I hadn’t had a private room. I’m in France, and many maternity wards here don’t have enough private rooms to go around either.
kiwi / 542 posts
@Chastenet: Oh really? Where abouts are you? I was born in France! The care is pretty similar to the UK I think. I am dreading being separated from my husband as soon as I have given birth…
My friend who gave birth recently was on a ward. Her baby was crying so the the midwife told her to take it to the communal toilet to calm her child down, so as not to wake up the other mothers and babies on the ward.
No wonder Mothers come away so traumatized… This is my first child and I’ll have no idea how to care for a newborn. Being watched by all the other mothers with no dignity without my husband there is truly terrifying.
kiwi / 614 posts
@sea_bass: I’m in Paris. I’m just wondering, have you considered a home birth at all? I watch the UK show “the midwives” and I found it so amazing that NHS provides midwives to come to your home and tend to the home birth, on a shift no less, and then to come round and check up on you in the following days. If I was in the UK and wanted to avoid shared rooms in the maternity ward I think I would heavily consider a home birth.
They show you how to give the baby a bath and change its diaper once, after that you’re on your own but it soon becomes second nature.
And about not having any idea how to care for a newborn, don’t worry, you get the hang of it pretty quickly
persimmon / 1135 posts
@sea_bass: I’m in Manchester and agree with you. I’d planned to give birth in the birth centre so my husband could stay with me until discharge, but the baby had other ideas
all in all it wasn’t too bad. I had a terrible night on the recovery ward with no sleep, but was so glad to go home just over a day after giving birth. As for exams, not a single person looked at lady town after I went to recovery. I was asked how things were “down there” several times, but when I said I was fine that was sufficient for them!
papaya / 10570 posts
This is precisely why I want to give birth at home.
kiwi / 542 posts
@Chastenet: Lovely. I used to live in the 6eme
I miss it there!
I am considering a home birth. I live about 100 meters to the entrance to the hospital. So I am really, really close. That might give me the confidence to have a home birth, knowing that I could get to the hospital in about 1 minute, should there be any problems.
@MegWag: That’s good to know. I have heard so many horror stories about my local hospital. Its always so busy on L&D that they move you to wards ASAP. I am glad it wasn’t as bad for you. VERY reassuring! I hope that baby and I are ok and we can be discharged quickly.
hostess / wonderful persimmon / 25556 posts
Ours was a mix of yours and the better ones I have heard about on the boards. No, there were no freebies but I was allowed as many mesh panties and pads as I needed. If I ran out, they brought me more. They just billed my insurance when I used something, Our nurses had a fridge full of turkey on whole wheat sandwiches for the moms who were starving when the cafe was closed so, I got one of those at midnight on my second day. I was billed for that, too.
that was definitely a luxury I was happily surprised to have!
I am always surprised when people say they had time to watch TV while they were there. My husband and I were so exhausted, we just never thought about it. I think it came on once but quickly went off when a nurse came in (we turned it off so we could pay attention to whatever she was doing on this 201st visit…) I could imagine it being different if there was football on and we had visitors who wanted to watch the game while they visited.
We didn’t take anything home other than mesh panties, pads and the leftover diapers. Again, whatever we took home we were billed for so, it didn’t really matter if we “bought” it there at the hospital or at Target. Haha.
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I just delivered 7 weeks ago and feel very lucky with my hospital experience. It was very hotel like. We had a private room where I was able to labor deliver and recover postpartum so we never had to move. We did have room service available 24 hours a day (free for me and $3 off guests)! Toiletries were provided – although we did have our own – and they did provide us with a “goody” bag upon discharge, although it included the mesh underwear, extra dIapers and wIpes, etc. They just remodeled the hospital a year ago so I’m not sure it was that nice before!
grapefruit / 4800 posts
Ours was a mix, I delivered around 430 so by the time I got lots of cuddle time in they were delivering dinners and the nurses snatched me one. Not sure what would have happened if it had been in the middle of night but that dinner was crucial, I would have been really really hungry without it. DH bed was also crap so he slept at home since it was only a 5 min drive and figured one of us should get sleep. But they did tests on the baby between 11pm-12 and came and did tests on me at 6 am, i wasnt sure when I was supposed to sleep.
Glad I’m not in the UK!
GOLD / nectarine / 2884 posts
I didn’t mind the doctors or nurses but unnecessary people like photographers made me really upset. The photographer came in during our two precious hospital mandated “quiet hours” (time when all guests are forced to leave). My family had to go but the hucksters were allowed to barge in on us?? I guess at 2 AM your husband wasn’t able to leave for food; I was in my recovery room by midnight so my DH left and got Wendy’s for us. Best spicy chicken and fries ever.
nectarine / 2797 posts
Our hospital was no luxury stay either, but I am blown away by the panty rationing! I bled onto so many pairs of them, no way could I have made it with only two. I did get a little toiletry kit as well. I was lucky to deliver just before 7 am, so I got a breakfast tray within the hour. But we had nothing but a glider in the post-partum room for DH to sleep on, I sent him home instead, because he would have been worthless to me if he had tried to sleep in that chair all night.
admin / watermelon / 14210 posts
i had a ton of interruptions too, but we got an obscene amount of free stuff including chanel perfume, eyeshadow, ralph lauren romper on top of the baby gear. sucks that they were stingy even with the underwear?!
hostess / wonderful honeydew / 32460 posts
Wow! I would find another hospital to deliver baby 2 if you guys decide on having another!
Our hospital was really nice. Free wifi, free cable, a day bed in the delivery and recovery room for dh. Got a ton of stuff for free.. Panties, pads, swaddling blankets (we probably took like 6 of those pink and blue striped blankets home..)
Food wasnt super delicious, but I wasn’t hungry post baby anyway.
But yeah. The nonstop visiting from nurses and etc was annoying for sure.
pomegranate / 3225 posts
Two pairs of mesh underwear? No way!
kiwi / 633 posts
Wegman’s!!! Does this mean you’re in Rochester? BEST GROCERY STORE EVER. I’d love to hear which hospital you decided on and why… I can’t find anything comparing the big three (Highland, RGH, Unity). Congrats on little Trike!!
blogger / watermelon / 14218 posts
This was surprising to me!! Our hospital was a dream. We not only had room service, they let us order enough food for two and it was totally free. In fact, my first meal after delivering both times was a cheeseburger and fries! We loved browsing the menu and basically sampled everything from it by the time we left on the fourth day. Every meal we ordered plenty of appetizers, sides, drinks, and even desserts.
Wagon Sr.’s bed was similar to the chair pictured, but came with sheets, pillows, blankets, and we had towels in our bathroom exactly like a hotel (plenty for two, a variety of sizes). Our bathroom was stocked with disposable underwear (so much better than the mesh panties), giant pads, peri bottles, ice packs, and all the baby items we’d need: diapers, onesies, blankets, cloth pads for the bassinet, etc. Any time we needed more of something we’d press the call button and they’d bring us a fresh supply. I changed my disposable underwear every time I went to the bathroom… I probably went through about 40 pairs!
I cannot believe they charged you for tv. We had free cable and wifi.
GOLD / papaya / 10206 posts
Ours was similar to yours in that there wasn’t a ton of free stuff being handed out, but the food was good and the nurses were nice. I sometimes think maybe I want a homebirth for the next one, but DH isn’t quite on board.
blogger / pear / 1964 posts
@thismustbetheplace: Wegman’s, but not Rochester.
Good luck with your hospital search!
blogger / pear / 1964 posts
I’m so glad I don’t live in the UK or France – DH’s presence was ESSENTIAL to my sanity. Although my hospital has no cushy amenities, it has the highest level NICU north of New York City, so if something had gone wrong, it was the place to be. Chanel perfume? Sigh. That’d be awesome, though I would have settled for the turkey sandwich at 2:00 AM.
wonderful clementine / 24134 posts
Ours was very nice and accommodating (private room with cot for DH, a few toiletries, tv, etc).
The two things that did surprise me was when I asked for another pair of mesh undies, they said technically you were only allowed 2 pairs (um ok, but I was on my third day there and wanted a fresh pair). Luckily they did find another pair for us as well as some extra super size pads.
I also wish I had known that after delivering in the middle of the night there wouldnt’ be any food until breakfast. The granola bar barely held me over.
Our staff was really nice and let us take pretty much everything from the room (anything opened they have to throw out anyways). You just couldn’t take the baby receiving blanket or the baby shirts (but for some reason could take the baby hat).
bananas / 9118 posts
So glad you got a decent Thanksgiving meal!
Wow, I didn’t realize how plush our amenities were… we chose our hospital just because it had a one of the better NICU’s (and ended up using it), but they had a recent remodel mainly for everyone’s comfort. They loaded us up with goodies to take home and we had all the tv and internet we wanted. They even had cameras to Skype with family far away.
We did have a lot of hospital interruptions, but we got left alone a lot too. It seemed like anytime I had a question, nobody was popping in, and it wasn’t a big enough deal to push the call button.
The highlight of my delivery experience (with the exception of the arrival of my awesome little kidd-o, of course) was the In n’ Out burger that my husband ran out to get for me right after delivery when he ran home to pee the dog and feed the cats. Best burger! They forgot my fork for my Animal Fries, so I just dug in with my hands, I was so starving!
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My room was far from “hotel-like,” but I did have a really great hospital experience. I think part of that is because the nursing staff took pity on me (back story: my father died four days before my baby was born so I told the hospital staff I wanted to try to be home for his services).
My hospital has private L&D and recovery rooms. Because of my situation, the nurses pulled some strings and got me the largest possible recovery room they had so I could have multiple visitors (way more than the allotted amount). Unlike the smaller rooms, which had a lounger seat for the SO to sleep in, this room had a sofa. I didn’t get toiletries or anything, but the nurses made sure I was constantly stocked with the mesh panties, ice packs, Tucks, and some kind of special ointment for down there. They also sent us home with several receiving blankets, diapers, combs, baby wash, formula (that I wasn’t using, but gave us just in case), and Medela nipple shields. I’m sure I was billed for all of this, but (thankfully) I have excellent insurance so I never saw the cost for any of it. The only thing I didn’t get to take and truly wanted was the actual hat they put on my daughter’s head right after she was delivered. I guess it was a biohazard.
I delivered late in the afternoon and by the time I got to my recovery room, dinner had already been served. The nurses made sure I had a meal, though, which was nice because I was starving!
persimmon / 1180 posts
I haven’t delivered yet, so I’m not sure what all they provide. I do know they have day beds for the SOs to sleep in though, so that’s nice.
coconut / 8854 posts
Oh wow! When I plan on delivering, I will go to a hospital by me, and it has a whole building just devoted to women and babies. Their maternity ward is beyond amazing…You deliver and recover in the ame room, and it has a big queen size bed, that way DH can stay with you in the room and sleep in the same bed.
My SIL delivered there, and she said she couldn’t have asked for anything better. Plus my mom works at that hospital! Win win for me!
grapefruit / 4817 posts
@sea_bass: Wow, I didn’t realize that being in the UK (or it sounds like much of Europe), meant being separated from your DH. That would have been terrible! I asked for the “big room” and it had an entire extra bed, couch, and shower for my husband with a divider so visitors didn’t have to be up in my nipple-baring business.
kiwi / 542 posts
@bree72: Yep! Not looking forward to the hospital experience, I must say! We pay for it through taxes, so don’t pay out of pocket for on the day, or through private health insurance. But still, we pay a lot of taxes for this and the service is pretty terrible.
There is a private wing that I could pay to go to. It would come to $20,000 upwards and we couldn’t claim any of it back on private health insurance. I went and had a look and it was far more basic than your room, despite the price tag. Anyway, there is no way we could pay that out of pocket.
grapefruit / 4120 posts
Our hospital was pretty awesome! I delivered in the middle of the night and they brought me a hot sandwich when I got out of recovery, which was around 3 am. Our last night, they gave us a special dinner with wine and fancy-ish stuff like creme brûlée and whatnot. I mean, it still came with plastic wrap on top LOL. And nothin to be done about all the interruptions! I think I almost showed my bits to the cleaning people a couple of times because I was so used to dropping trou for whoever knocked!
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Wow, that’s crazy! The hospital we will be delivering at isn’t by any means one of the fancy ones or hotel-like, but every room is private and the nurse that gave us our hospital tour made sure to tell us to take home whatever we needed from our room (extra mesh underwear, pads, etc.) and if we needed more to just ask! TV is free, as well as wifi, and they also have DVD players in all the rooms.
blogger / nectarine / 2010 posts
Um, mine was totally plush in comparison. DH had a bed, the food was really good – we both got meals included in our stay, we had plenty of towels, tons of mesh undies, diapers and whatever else we wants. Lactation consultants were at my door within minutes whenever I called, we had toiletries in the bathroom and as many pillows and blankets as we’d like. And our hospital’s hundred+ mom & baby rooms were near capacity when we were there!
ETA: and TV was included, but I used the time there to disconnect since I’m not a fan of the TV and it was MY stay
squash / 13764 posts
I can’t believe they rationed the underwear!! I took home like 20 pairs (and only used like 5). We had shampoo, toothpaste, toothbrushes, towels, and extra sheets and blankets given to us. All in all our experience was pretty good. The nurses were good about not turning on the overhead lights when they came in at night, they just used a little side lamp to check on things. And to be honest, I was up every hour and a half/two hours anyway to feed the baby so their interruptions didn’t really bother me too much. The food was meh, and Dh couldn’t get anything to eat from the nurses, so he had to go forage on his own. He also had the awful chair/bed!
pomelo / 5178 posts
Wow, you got hosed, Trike!
We got a little better accomodations, more free postpartum care stuff, free tv, better accomodations for DH, etc… But the constant interruptions are why I always wanted to leave the hospital within a few hours after birth. Unfortunately, we had to stay about 36 hours with DD, and DS had jaundice, so we were in the hospital for 4 days with him. I’d much rather be recovering in my own home than a hospital, and if we have another, I’m really going to push for an early release!
coconut / 8279 posts
@Mrs. Bee: wait a sec – what?!??
I thought ours was pretty posh – private room, amazing room service (honestly any food you could imagine and it was delicious), tons of extra goodies – though not like @Mrs. Bee ! (diapers, wipes, handknit hats, blankets. It was just before Christmas so had someone delivering hot cocoa and apple cider and scones. And a Christmas stocking.)
I had a ton of interruptions but I was still pretty sick from the pre-e and DS was in their Level II nursery with a collapsed lung.
blogger / eggplant / 11551 posts
Wow, washing your own mesh undies?!!!
Ours was a private room with an ocean view with free wifi, free tv (I don’t remember if it had cable or not – I wasn’t interested in watching tv), no limit to the diapers/formulas/mesh undies/numbing sprays, etc, a pretty wide bed that easily fit both me and DH, three solid meals a day that fed both of us and we got to check it off a form just like you would for room service at a hotel, and a celebration dinner of bacon wrapped filet mignon!!
I didn’t want to leave my hospital after 2 days because I felt so taken care of there. I was surprised at how “hotel-like” it felt. I was actually kind of scared to go home and be alone with the baby!
clementine / 878 posts
My stay was more like what you thought yours would be. Of course, they had just finished remodeling the family suites a year or so ago, and LO was born at 9am, so I don’t know what would have happened if she’d been born before 6am.
After her birth, I ordered a ton of food (burger, pizza, salad, milkshake, onion rings) from the “room service” people. When we reached the family suite, we had a double bed, 2 comfy chairs a small table, sink and a drawer full of gowns/robes. The bathroom had shampoo, conditioner, shower gel and lotion. And if I needed more pads or panties, I just had to ask.
The interruptions sucked, but I guess that’s what happens when a human comes out of your vagina.
And I could order as much food as I wanted between 6am and 11pm. When we “checked out” they let me take any panties/pads and cold packs I had left, gave me a numbing spray in case I had discomfort sitting later, and the diapers, formula and other stuff from the baby bassinet.
Of course, we have 3 hospitals in the area that are very competitive, which I think helps provide moms here a better birthing experience. They actually strive for a hotel-esque setting so you’ll CHOOSE to give birth at their hospital.
pineapple / 12053 posts
i wish i would have asked about food service at our hospital orientation, but they did say we could have whatever food we wanted in the room, so i’m sure our bags will include snacks!
i can’t believe they wanted you to wash your mesh underwear though! what the heck?!
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I had room service, free TV, and toiletries in the bathroom, but I also had to pay $400 PER NIGHT for the privilege. The other option was a shared room where my husband would not be able to stay. It was totally worth the money and I’m glad we were able to afford it, but I think it’s pretty ridiculous that we had to.
kiwi / 706 posts
I actually thought that my hospital was almost like a hotel! However, it cost more than a five-star one. My hospital charges an extra $900 a night for a private room. We splurged because we didn’t want our first nights as a family to be shared with another family. We had room service – 5 course meals and unlimited drinks and snacks. Free cable on a flatscreen. A bed for my DH. Free toiletries. Since I had a c-section I would have to stay for 4 nights but I asked to go home early because I did not want to spend $3600!
pomegranate / 3160 posts
So…uh…when they check your butt for hemorrhoids, what do they do if they find one? Just wonderin’…
nectarine / 2667 posts
Wow, those hospitals are a serious bummer – especially the ones in Europe! (I’d have to do home birth or save my money or something, because I could not survive if DH got the boot!)
Every mom in town who heard I’d be giving birth at our hospital said she was jealous. It was very, very nice. All L&D rooms are private, very very large & comfortable, with a shower. All the Recovery rooms are private, with a pull-out couch & a recliner. DH said it wasn’t the most comfy, but it was good enough. The bathroom had a basket full of “care” supplies: undies, peri bottle, tucks pads, dermoplast spray, giant pads, & these ice packs that you crack so they get cold. I just asked for more of whatever I needed and the nurse brought it. When we left we were told we should take “anything except linen”.
I’m surprised about hospitals not feeding mothers! DS came at 7:13pm on a Friday & the cafeteria was closing before I’d be in Recovery, so the nurse brought a huge basket to the L&D room of snacks for me to choose from (crackers, fruit cups, cookies, etc). When we got settled in recovery, she brought me a box lunch (best damns turkey sandwich I ever had! I’m still dreaming of those box lunches!). There was a fridge in a “common” area & I ate several of those box lunches. There was definitely room service – the nurses kept reminding me to order meals. Meals were free for me & $3-5 for guests. The food was decent, too.
There are at least 3 other hospitals in our town, 2 that are closer to home, but I wouldn’t deliver anywhere else even if it ended up being cheaper. In fact, I told DH we can’t move out of this town until we’re done with having kids, because I insist on having my midwife & hospital in the future!
@Mrs. High Heels: I had the same feeling about being nervous to leave the hospital!
nectarine / 2667 posts
@ms.janedoe: they didn’t do anything for me, just told me to use the tucks pad & offered a dose of stool softener (tmi: I couldn’t go #2 at the hospital at all). I only asked to be checked because I couldn’t tell if I had one or not.
blogger / pear / 1964 posts
@ms.janedoe: I have no idea! But for 36 hours, they kept checking! One of my least favorite parts….
kiwi / 640 posts
Wow, that is so surprising! I’m in WNY (so can’t be that far from you?) and my hospital was completely different: room service, all the supplies we wanted, a toiletry gift when we arrived, and free cable/wifi.
bananas / 9973 posts
Glad to have read this and have it match a lot of those suggested packing lists. Did you ever tour your hospital before your stay? I know they do hospital tours for maternity wards and I’ve been to the one I’m going to deliver in a few times when visiting friends. The TV charge though is interesting and the underwear thing is kind of sad! I think our hospital doesn’t limit that sort of thing. Or at least I hope not! hehehe
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Just wanted to jump in about the whole “Europe” thing and tell something about the Netherlands
I haven’t been pregnant yet, but I used to work in a hospital, so I kind of know what goes on (at least in one hospital in the Netherlands).
The nurse will give you something to eat and drink after delivery, If you had a uncomplicated delivery you are up and walking out of there within approx 4 hours (unless its nighttime then you can stay and sleep if you’d like). Dad’s aren’t allowed to stay and sleep unless there is some exceptional situation, but since you’re probably going home soon that’s ok.
Now, before you think mom’s are left in the cold, here in the Netherlands there is this set-up where mothers are supported at home for the first 7-10 days by a qualified “kraamverzorger” (maternity nurse or something?). She helps you with everything, such as diapers, breastfeeding, bathing, sleeping, etc This care is included in our standard health care package, so available to everyone.
blogger / pomelo / 5400 posts
Our hospital actually did have room service, though only at certain times. They would actually call up and see if we wanted anything sometimes. I also had free TV and all the mesh undies I wanted. However, the room was pretty dated and the couch DH slept on looked pretty uncomfortable.
grapefruit / 4731 posts
What a fun post.
I kind of knew what to expect from reading a bunch of stuff but yeah the food schedule was confusing and I wasn’t sure when they were going to give me foods! We ended up asking family to bring us food because the hosiptal food was just alright.
We also stayed till they kicked us out, which we were told to do. We were glad because at the time we were so confused on what to do with our baby and were grateful for all the help from the nurses!
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts
ugh not fun!!! It does sound mostly similar to our stay though too… except we didn’t have to pay for TV or wifi!! not that I really watched TV because my meds made me wonky.
There were a lot of places to eat and a market near our hospital, so DH always ran out for food: chipotle for dinner, bagels for breakfast and snacking during the day. I ate ONE meal at the hospital and it was disgusting. It tasted like fake food.
another reason I am soo disappointed I didn’t deliver in my birth center.
I’m glad DH could stay with me but his “bed” (couch) was soooo uncomfortable I felt awful for him and there was no way to cozy up on my bed because it was so narrow.
I HATED being checked on all the time when I was FINALLY able to fall asleep… really?!?!
pear / 1698 posts
Wow, our stay sounds plush compared to others! We had room service, free Internet and tv, a large room (we stayed in the same room for labor and recovery-so no having to move), a bed for DH, in room jacuzzi, and a daily warm cookie and milk service!
pear / 1787 posts
Wow, I’m sorry you had that experience!
This is why I’d like avoid giving birth in a hospital. Even at the “plush” ones, they interrupt your attempts at sleep constantly.
@Cherrybee: +1
GOLD / wonderful pea / 17697 posts
Yikes. Ours wasn’t plush, but definitely not bare-boned either. All L&D rooms were large and private with a shower. The recovery rooms were also all private, but much smaller. No on-call room service but we had a menu for each meal (3x a day) that a meal lady brought around for me. DH got one free meal during our stay. I had no stomach for real food until around midnight the first day and DH was able to get some seriously delicious turkey sandwiches from the hospital cafe, which was open 24/7. Otherwise the food was good but nothing spectacular.
He had a big fold out reclining chair thing. All rooms had cable, DVD players and free Wifi. We were encouraged to take anything out of the room except the linens…if I wanted more of anything I just needed to ask.
My sleep was constantly interrupted, but I figured that was just par for the course.
pomelo / 5093 posts
Wow! My hospital sure as heck had an open cafeteria in the night, and you even ordered it like room service. And a far more comfortable bed for my husband. I guess I got lucky.
cantaloupe / 6630 posts
@sea_bass: @MegWag: Yay for UK bees! I’m from York but I live in Toronto at the moment and was sooo glad to give birth here, I was actually pretty terrified when hubs lost his job a month before my due date and we thought we’d get kicked out back to England for delivery…
admin / watermelon / 14210 posts
@rachiecakes: my private room with charlie was $700/night but it was worth it because i had a c-section. i had a very large private room overlooking the east river in manhattan. it had a bed for mr bee and he did all the diaper changes because it was so painful for me to get out of bed.
that said… with olive i didn’t get a private room, and i felt the experience was almost as good (except mr bee couldn’t spend the night like he did with the private room). i still got an obscene amount of loot including more chanel makeup!
mrs tricycle — you’re inspired my next post. private vs regular room!
kiwi / 542 posts
@travelgirl1: Oh YIKES! I would be freaking out too! I am not looking forward to the hospital I must tell you.. Reading all these north american posters I am getting hospital envy
Glad your husband got his job sorted out!
persimmon / 1135 posts
@travelgirl1 & @sea_bass: I feel like the UK is getting a bad rap here! Yes, it’s different. There are some things that aren’t as nice, but I felt like the midwife-led care was so much better (for me, at least) than the US’s medical-led model. The after-care kicks US’s butt! Home visits for the win! And the biggest win is the column is that it is F-R-E-E. I mean taxes, yes, but you pay taxes, insurance, and out of pocket in the US. So if I don’t get a bag of freebies from the hospital, I don’t mind
GOLD / apricot / 341 posts
I had my first baby in Atlanta, GA and my second in Stockholm, Sweden and the hospital comfort was good in both cases. In Atlanta we had pretty great room service but my husband had an uncomfortable cot to sleep on (for the 5 nights we were there after the birth). In Sweden there were two hospital beds pulled together into a double bed which was nice. I had 2 unplanned “C”s. But in Sweden we spent our second night at the “patient hotel” where everybody stays after normal births. It’s a simple hotel set-up with double rooms and a cafeteria. You can come and go as you please and spend time outside etc. The doctors and midwives come to you as needed but it’s a much less medical-feeling environment.
GOLD / apricot / 341 posts
Oh, and surprisingly you get much better goodie bags here in Sweden than in the US. In Atlanta we went home with tons of formula (and tons of diapers, pump parts, under pads, toiletries and everything else that was in the room). In Sweden we had all the hospital stuff and huge goodie bags with baby clothes, toys, packs of diapers, wipes, breast pads, maxi pads, baby food and coupons and offers of more free stuff to pick up in store. It’s illegal to advertise or give away formula here.
hostess / papaya / 10540 posts
I think my people knew they screwed up big time with my delivery, so they gave me the only big recovery room. That was super nice and appreciated. The staff in recovery was pretty great, except for the interrupting cow that would not leave me alone at night. And I swear I lost weight from the sad food. I would have killed for a real cheeseburger while I was there, lol!
nectarine / 2085 posts
Maybe someone has mentioned this above, but a lot of restaurants that have delivery services will deliver to hospitals.
grapefruit / 4669 posts
Yikes, no TV? I think our hospital is a little cushier than yours, but I’ll definitely go into it with the mentality that it’s not a hotel–maybe I’ll be less disappointed if so! Sorry your cheeseburger craving couldn’t be immediately satisfied; that’s a huge bummer!
blogger / pomegranate / 3201 posts
We were very spoiled – we had our own room with two beds, so my husband got to stay and didn’t have to sleep on a chair. However, we did get a little annoyed with all the interruptions in the middle of the night. Once, a nurse came in to give me a vaccine at 2am, after we had spent an hour trying to settle the baby to sleep. My husband told her it could wait until morning. Maybe that was rude, but we were exhausted and couldn’t take it!
blogger / pomegranate / 3201 posts
@Mini Piccolini: I really wished there was a designated place where we could have gone outside at our hospital. We were there from Wed to Mon, so I missed the fresh air!
GOLD / apricot / 341 posts
@mrs. tictactoe: I know what you mean! With our first baby, he ended up having to be under lights to treat his jaundice and he was only brought to me for 30 minutes to nurse every two hours. We had been cooped up in the hospital for 5 days at that point and would have so liked to just pop across the street for a bite to eat since we anyway couldn’t be with our baby – but I wasn’t allowed to leave the building.