Woo-hoo!! We survived the Trikester’s first month! The past four weeks were a roller coaster of emotions, as we experienced some of our highest highs and lowest lows. After the first drop, I wasn’t so sure we’d made the right decision to get on this ride, but now that we’ve gone through a few loops, it was clearly an awesome call.
Mr. Tricycle and the Trikester get to know each other.
I’m already amazed by changes I see in the Trikester. It’s terribly cliché, but he’s growing up so fast! Here’s a round-up of the last four weeks.
Sleep:
The first night the Trikester came home from the hospital we spent an hour trying to figure out where and how he was going to sleep. The Rock n Play? The crib? Our room? His nursery? Swaddled? Unswaddled? We tried all combinations multiple times that first night. During the next two weeks, I soldiered on and attempted to put him down to sleep, but he woke up every forty-five minutes crying, and couldn’t be soothed just by rocking. I really wanted to follow all those doctor recommendations about the baby sleeping in their own crib, but after spending a few hours sobbing in the recliner at 3:00 AM following another sleepless night, I gave in.
This is my all-time favorite view of the Trikester. I love the sweet innocence of it.
I was so not going to be one of those crazy co-sleeping mamas, but that’s what works best for us. The Trikester and I now happily sleep on the couch in the living room (I know, the couch isn’t recommended). I pull off all the back cushions to make the couch wider, using the boppy to fill in the gap, and he then slumbers peacefully on my chest for two, four to five hour stretches, waking up to nurse. The only downside to this arrangement is that I miss my husband! I’d bring the baby to bed, but Mr. Tricycle is such a sound sleeper that I’m worried he might accidentally squish the Trikester. We’re going to re-evaluate our sleeping arrangements at six weeks and then again at two months, and adjust as needed.
The Trikester is a champion napper – as long as he’s sleeping on my chest. He will happily take three or four long naps during the day. Watching him sleep is one of my favorite things – I have so many photos on my phone of him dozing away. We don’t have a strict schedule, but more of a routine: Wake-up, nurse, diaper change, play, sleep. I try to make sure we don’t go more than two hours between when he wakes up and when he goes back to sleep. Over the last two days, he’s just started napping in his bouncy chair. I thought he didn’t like it, but I was making a critical mistake by attempting to put him in the chair when he was already grumpy. I’ve since discovered that if I put him in the chair when he’s happy, he’ll fall asleep as long as I bounce it vigorously with my foot (and continue to bounce for the whole nap).
Eating:
I think the Trikester’s sleep problems are rooted in digestive issues. On a positive note, nursing has gone really well; I use a nipple shield, but otherwise everything works and I enjoy that time together. He’s gained a little over TWO pounds in the last month – he now weighs a whopping 7 lbs 11 oz – a regular brute!
On the downside, he often seems in pain. I know babies have immature GI systems, but I feel like he might have other issues. He’ll be sound asleep, and then wake up crying, scrunching up his whole body as his face turns bright red. It will last for a minute or two, and then his body will relax and he’ll fall back asleep. Earlier this week he had four diapers with specks of blood and an awful sore on his butt. We went to the pediatrician expecting to be told to try a dairy elimination diet, but our doctor said he was “skeptical” of milk protein allergies, and said the blood was probably caused by a little tear somewhere. I hate seeing my baby in what I think is pain, so I’m eliminating dairy anyway to see if it helps.
Disposition:
The Trikester likes to cry; we have lots of photos of the poor baby bawling his eyes out. I think most of his grumpiness has to do with his GI issues. Some weeks (wonder weeks?) have been much worse than others, and I think I see a little improvement in his mood every day, so I’m hopeful that I can one day call him a “happy baby.” He does amuse us with the funniest faces. He has big eyes that are always open wide when he’s awake.
Our baby is a champion when it comes to making funny faces.
Milestones:
The Trikester started flashing a social smile last week, and we occasionally get a little cooing when he’s in one of his rare good moods. He’s gaining weight – we’ve left behind both preemie and newborn diapers, and moved into size one. I’m anxious to try our cloth diaper stash, but his little legs are still too skinny for our cute diapers to fit. He wears mostly newborn sleepers, but many of them are now too short for his long legs and massive feet, so we occasionally size up to 0 to 3 months, which look silly on his narrow body.
Taking the baby’s first monthly photo was challenge! I only have one white onesie in his size, and every time I put him in it, he had a diaper leak before I could take the photo. Once I actually got him in the chair, he refused to cooperate (surprise, surprise), and all I got were photos of him screaming. Oh well! At one month, he screamed a lot, so this photo captures that.
Adventures:
A few weeks ago we made a trip to the pediatric emergency room. Needless to say, this was not the highlight of our month. I had been feeling awful for a few days, and finally decided to take my temperature. When I realized I was running a fever and had all the classic flu symptoms, I panicked and worried that the Trikester might also be sick. Learning to take a baby’s temperature rectally is not a fun parenting lesson (watch out – babies poop when you stick stuff up their butt!). We got thermometer readings of 99.4 and 99.6, and our pediatrician recommended we bring him in. Luckily, at the hospital, everything checked out just fine, and after buying another thermometer we realized the one we were originally using was off by a degree. I was so worried I was going to pass whatever I had along to him that I wore a mask for 48 hours any time he was in my arms. Eventually something clicked and I realized that my “flu-like” symptoms, accompanied by redness on one of my boobs, were actually caused by mastitis. Phew! I was so relieved knowing that what I had wasn’t contagious, and was therefore thrilled by the ten days worth of heavy-duty antibiotics my OB prescribed.
We went on our first road trip this weekend to celebrate Christmas at my Dad’s. The Trikester did fine on our two-hour car ride, though we stopped once to nurse when he woke up from a nap and got fussy. We had a house full of visitors for the holidays, and everyone showered him with presents. He got teddy bears, clothes, puppets, books, and an inaugural Hess truck (thanks, Mr. Tricycle).
The Trikester isn’t all grump. Occasionally we get a happy, content baby.
Even though taking care of the Trikester is hard work, I love our little man more than I ever imagined I could. I can’t wait to watch him grow and develop.
Did you have a fussy baby? Please tell me they grow out of it.
pomelo / 5073 posts
No advice because I don’t have a lo one here, but he is just precious!!!
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22646 posts
Ahhhh I die with cuteness overload!! What a cutie!!!!! And yayyy fir survivng the first month!
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They totally out grow it. Month 2 was key for our young grump.
blogger / pomelo / 5361 posts
He is so cute! I love his big eyes. I hope he grows out of the fussy phase soon.
blogger / watermelon / 14218 posts
Totally grow out of it. LMW was so, so, so fussy. But now I can say she’s actually a pretty easy baby. Just hang in there and survive…!!! Six week fussiness peak… after you get over that hump you will see the l ight at the end of the tunnel!!!!
pomegranate / 3225 posts
i love his little faces!
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My little one is 4.5 months old. She is doing so much better. She was incredibly fussy for the first few months. She was diagnosed with silent reflux early on. After some formula changes, medicine, and time she is doing so much better. She is still on zantac but is generally a pretty content baby. She just started sitting up and I think that is going to help with the reflux a lot.
If you haven’t tried the rock n’ play I highly recommend it. Our little one sleeps 11 hours a night in hers. We are worried about how to transition her from it to the crib in the near future.
blogger / eggplant / 11551 posts
The first 6 weeks were definitely the fussiest for my baby!! I slept with her on our chest the whole time and felt like it was groundhog day every day. We found out our sleep issues had a lot to do with reflux too – I didn’t know about the Rock ‘n play back then, but if you have it I would give that a shot. What we did was we used a wedge that slightly elevated our LO while she slept and it really helped her sleep. We also used Gripe water and I cut out all dairy and soy from my diet because she had a lot of gas too. Hang in there, it does get better!
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
He is precious! Your doc can be skeptical of MSPI, but it definitely exists (MSPI mama here). I think docs don’t really want people to undertake it unless there is a convincing case because it is so onerous to the mama or winds the kid up on an expensive elemental formula… and if that can be avoided, well that’s great.
admin / watermelon / 14210 posts
it’s amazing how quickly you forget how hard the newborn stage is once you’re past it. i’ve already long forgotten and i’ve been through it twice! it will definitely get easier in the coming weeks (though it may get a little harder before it gets easier). i think it was around 8 weeks for us.
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22276 posts
You have got a cute little guy on your hands! So sweet.
blogger / pear / 1964 posts
@Amanda B – We have a Rock n Play. He’ll sleep for short amounts of time in it, but not long stretches.
blogger / pear / 1964 posts
@Mrs. Bee: @Mrs. Bee: @Mrs. High Heels: @mrs. wagon: thanks for the encouragement!! I’m not feeling especially overwhelmed by the fussiness, but I’d like to enjoy my baby a little more.
Always glad to hear hopeful stories!!
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts
Aw he is cute! I’m sorry he’s been fussy- perhaps it’s colic? It seems so common,
Also don’t fret about cosleeping- it was the only way we were able to get Cobi to sleep for the first couple months. In the first two weeks Mr. Pen and I took shifts holding him in the rocking chair all. night. Long. It was tiring! When we finally caved to cosleeping, he slept 5 hours the first night! It was a blissful time I remember sooo fondly!
During the days he napped on me in the moby until he was six weeks old, when he then started taking naps on my bed.
At 3.5 months we bought him a crib and amazingly enough to took to it like a charm- he started napping and night sleeping in the crib.
Good luck! I do think cosleeping in the early weeks is beneficial- there’s a reason they call it the fourth trimester
I think baby needs the same comforts as in the womb.
blogger / cherry / 247 posts
you’re doing so good!!! the first several months are guerilla parenting: do WHATEVER works! the three of you will get into a routine you’re all comfortable with when the time is right. for now, if chest sleeping works, go for it.
oh. and it does get easier
good job mama!
hostess / watermelon / 14932 posts
what a cutie pie!!
blogger / nectarine / 2010 posts
Pediatricians are notorious for not understanding how a mother’s diet affects the baby. I don’t mean to make such a broad generalization, but of the 2000+ women in my breastfeeding support group not a single one of those with babies who had GI pain had a pediatrician who thought an elimination diet would work. All of those who went on an elimination diet had very good results. I suggest looking at Kellymom.com for elimination info and going ahead with it. The little tear is probably from irritation from his milk. I have been very attentive to M’s dietary restrictions and it’s made a huge difference.
You may want to consider a temporal lobe thermometer. Our pediatrician recommended it and OMG it’s the easiest thing in the world and um, no poop. I took M’s temp about 50 times last week…worth every penny
Mastitis totally sucks. I had it for the first time when M was 10 days old and landed back in the hospital. I had a girlfriend who had it over a dozen times and that’s the only way I knew that I shouldn’t think flu first (which of course I did and was emailing her telling her I had to flu on Xmas eve when she schooled me!) His fussiness might also be because he’s hungry. Each time I had mastitis my supply in the affected breast dipped significantly. It came back with diligent nursing and pumping, but when I look back at my daily diary I definitely see a pattern of crummy sleep the first week or so after getting it. I hope you’re feeling much better now.
The trikester is adorable! Love the update!
blogger / persimmon / 1398 posts
What a month! And what fun photos! While we never had a newborn here, I’m with Mrs. Scooter. Whatever it takes! Seriously, that is how we survived the first 8 weeks of parenting… even if our baby was 9 months at the time! You’re doing awesome.
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21628 posts
Happy 1 month! He is adorable.
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My daughter is 4.5 months, and has had reflux and gas since birth, which made her very fussy. Around 3 months things got much, much better and she is generally a pretty happy baby, unless she’s tired or hungry:) you sound like you have a good attitude about it. I was at the end of my rope around week 5, when I was told they peak at week 6 with fussiness (weeks 5 and 6 were tortuous). We also started her in the rock n play at 4 weeks and she started sleeping 9-11 hours straight every night, which was a godsend- we also swaddled her in the miracle blanket.
blogger / pear / 1964 posts
@Mrs. Stroller: Gotta love those pediatricians (Mrs. Jacks excluded). Actually, a friend is a pediatrician and his son has a MSPI, so some do recognize it. I’ve been off dairy for a little over a week, and I seriously think it’s making a difference. His fussiness should have been at an all time high this week (6 weeks old), but it is in fact at an all time low – I’m convinced – Mama’s diet does make a difference!
We have a temporal thermometer – I bought the best reviewed one I could find on Amazon, but when we went to use it that night, we were getting really inconsistent readings. We ended up borrowing the rectal one from a neighbor. I might need to double check the directions and make sure I’m using it correctly.
blogger / nectarine / 2010 posts
@Mrs. Tricycle: good luck with the dairy free diet – I know it was a very broad generalization since mine agreed too
I didn’t like our thermometer at first, but now I do. I did have to read the directions each time I used it since I was using it infrequently. It just occurred to me that maybe it’s not as accurate when their heads are smaller??? Maybe it doesn’t touch completely? It was spot-on this time, but was off by a few degrees when he was tiny. That would seem odd though, I guess.