Now that we’ve adopted, I think we fall into the rather unique category of trying to conceive our second child while having not conceived our first. Alright, it isn’t that unique, but it sounds kind of funny.
While I’m nowhere near ready for another newborn, we have been talking a lot about our other kids. The ones who haven’t been born yet, or we haven’t met yet. We feel strongly that in the future, I will get pregnant. We believe it is going to happen. We have faith.
Now that we have Isaiah and saw how everything was meant to happen, it’s easier to go by faith. I wish I could have said that sooner, but now I know, without a doubt, that everything works out how it is supposed to.
When we learned of Isaiah and his birth mom, we had decided to take a break on the infertility treatments. We were waiting until the beginning of the year to reassess our position and hopefully be in a better place financially to take on the more expensive medicines. All at the same time, our well laid plans were tossed aside for the amazing life we’re living now.
My periods were still incredibly irregular so I went back on birth control. I was on birth control pills for ten years and when I went off of it when we started TTC, I realized that it was just a bandaid for PCOS, and not a treatment at all. I didn’t want to go back on it, but had noticed my PCOS symptoms had dramatically increased while I was off. I wasn’t watching my diet as well as I had been, but the weight gain was still there. I tried to take it off and had the hardest time. I don’t think it’s unfair to say that in order to lose weight, women with PCOS have to diet and exercise a lot harder than others. By diet I mean healthy eating — nothing extreme. I tried low carb diets that are recommended for people with PCOS, and I found out that I really hate low carb eating.
So I went back on birth control pills with hopes of losing weight by regulating my hormones again to where they were when I lost weight so easily in 2007. The goal is to lose enough weight to start ovulating on my own, and hopefully get pregnant without a doctor.
You know what is hard? Losing weight with a newborn. It’s hard to make myself get out of the house and exercise. Eating right is hard because meal times are not what I’m used to. I eat when Isaiah decides I can, and sometimes I’m past the point of hungry and straight into starving by then.
But that’s the plan. Lose weight. Ovulate. Get pregnant.
We’re absolutely open to adopting another child, and we both agree that we will be happy even if we cannot conceive a biological child. We have our child. Any others that come along will be equal and additional blessings.
So I think we’re officially TTC #2. We’re used to waiting.
Have you struggled with PCOS and TTC?
wonderful clementine / 24134 posts
Great post! I can’t imagine trying to go through it all. In the end it sounds like weight loss is the healthy thing to do even if it does not result in a pregnancy.
blogger / pomegranate / 3300 posts
When we adopted James we were in the same boat. PCOS related infertility Didnt mean I would never get pregnant it just meant it has harder. knew I never wanted to do more fertility treatments again but we weren’t protecting so somewhere in my heart I knew there was a chance of pregnancy.
Our grand life plan (which was not at all followed) was to adopt, wait two years then adopt again but without protecting against pregnancy. If it were ever to happen fantastic! If not we would be satisfied with no bio kids. I also believe things happen for a reason. As it happens I did get pregnant but if we hadn’t struggled through infertility I would never have my son.
Good luck on your TTC #2 journey. I know weight loss can be so hard with infants but it can help with PCOS and pregnancy.
blogger / nectarine / 2010 posts
@T.H.O.U.: I agree. There is more than one benefit to losing weight!
@Mrs. Train: our story seems so similar to yours, perhaps we’ll continue the similarities.
cantaloupe / 6630 posts
@Mrs. Polish: I have PCOS and wasn’t ovulating at all. DH and I were a year apart on when we wanted to TTC so I started acupuncture treatment and herbs. I did start ovulation again (confirmed by cycle monitoring at a fertility clinic) and by the time DH was ready to TTC I was in a much better place to try. Thankfully we got pregnant! I’m hoping to try acupuncture again to TTC for #2.
apple seed / 2 posts
Yes, this is very familiar. And I love how you put it, trying to conceive our second child while not having conceived our first. I did not have PCOS, just really bad eggs that gave us 4 miscarriages all due to genetic abnormalities. So we decided to go the adoption route. But we went with an older child, a 6 yr old boy. Recently, we were able to conceive thru donor egg ivf. I am now 6 wks pregnant and hoping that this time, we make it past 9 wks. PUPO! (pregnant until proven otherwise). I wish you all the luck!!!