Let’s assume I work 8 hours a day (which I do) and get 6 hours of sleep (which I don’t). Let’s throw in another 2 hours for things like going to the bathroom, brushing teeth, and commuting. For those of us who also have to drop off and pick up our kids at daycare, you get another hour taken from your day! That’s 17-hours gone, just like that. But let’s not get too carried away.
For the purposes of this scenario, let’s pretend I’m left with a full 8 hours of “down time” (I’m being generous here) to squeeze in everything else I’d like to take care of in my personal life – you know, stuff like cooking, eating, grocery shopping, and cleaning. Oh, and breathing – let’s not forget to breathe. Whether you stay-at-home, work-at-home, or work-out-of-home, you know those hours literally evaporate at the snap of a finger before a new day starts again. Here are few tips that have helped me take advantage of the little remaining time I have:
1) Take Advantage of the Night Before
These are all the things we do the night before so that we can do less in the morning:
Dinner. I don’t want to end work at 5 pm, come home, and scramble to put dinner on the table. My dinners are really easy so doing it the night before isn’t too much of a time suck. I do a lot of stir fries and crockpot dishes, and I always make sure we have rice in our rice cooker and enough for leftovers. Doing this allows us to just heat and serve right when we come home. One thing I don’t know how to do and really need to learn is how to make freezer meals. For some reason it seems so daunting to me, but Mrs. Polish’ Frozen Meal Plan post inspired me to get moving on that.
Toddler Breakfast. I pour milk into a straw cup, and assemble her breakfast on this stainless steel breakfast plate, then cover with saran wrap so it’s all ready to go the morning of. This way, all I have to do in the mornings is grab everything and put it on the table. No running back and forth for multiple things. I also make sure breakfast is on the table before I wake her in the mornings.
Toddler Lunch. She usually gets dumplings as her main entree for lunch, which I make in the morning. However, I put everything else I want in her bento the night before (fruit, veggies, cheese, etc). It can be time consuming to assemble a bento, but it’s very easy when it’s all ready to go in the morning with the exception of one or two items.
Lunches for me and Mr. Heels. Our lunch entrees are usually sandwiches, or leftovers from dinner the night before. I put everything in our lunchboxes and store it in the fridge so we can just grab and go the morning of.
Bottles for Baby. I mix what I pumped at work the day before and older frozen breastmilk, then divide it into 4 bottles that I keep in the fridge so that my MIL can easily grab and go when she needs them while I’m at work. Once he goes to daycare, I’ll continue to make sure my bottle are prepped the night before.
Pump Parts. I’ve had dreams about forgetting my pump parts at home, so I make absolutely certain the night before that all my pump parts are cleaned, in good working condition, and packed away in my Medela bag. In addition to that, I also keep an extra set of parts at work.
2) Bulk Breakfasts and Lunches
What works for our family is making easy, make-ahead, repeatable breakfasts and lunches. I like to make quiches,breakfast casseroles or baked oatmeal on Sunday nights that will last us for breakfasts through the week. These are extremely easy, healthy, and versatile breakfast options that can be tweaked to your personal preferences. With these breakfast options, all you have to do in the morning is slice and microwave – no mess or clean-up to deal with! If you’re into smoothies or juicing, I would put all the ingredients together in ziploc bags for each day of the week, so all you have to do is throw it all in the blender or juicer the morning of. Lunches are often a variation of tuna, chicken, or egg salads prepped on Sunday night ready to be slathered on bread throughout the week.
3) Divide and Conquer
Ever since I got pregnant with #2, Mr. Heels has been handling Noelle’s bath and bedtime routine. He continues to be in charge of that, so while he’s managing her I’ll clean up and wash the dishes. It may not be realistic to always divide and conquer, but we try to whenever possible! By the time both kids are down for the night, the house is also spic ‘n span!
4) Lists Lists Lists!
I’m a list maker – always have been, always will be. It’s become even more essential now that I’m a mom of two. I also have a terrible case of mommy brain, and I fear it may be chronic, so I need everything written down. Everything from grocery lists to packing lists to to-do lists, you name it I’ve got it. I even have a to-do list for all the things I need to get done “the night before” that I check off as I go along. If I don’t, I know I’ll just forget something crucial.
One list that has come in extra handy lately is our morning routine list. As Noelle grows, she’s become increasingly more opinionated and insistent on doing things her way in her own time. To remedy some of that, I reread Mrs. Jacks’ post on how she sequenced her morning routine with Little Jacks to help us be more efficient in the mornings.
I created my own morning routine using only visuals because Noelle can’t read yet (I found images online and inserted them into a word document). It’s laminated so I just use a dry erase marker and check it off as we go along. It’s broken down into 5 simple big steps that are easy for Noelle to understand – 1) Eat Breakfast 2) Change diapers/clothes 3) Brush Teeth 4) Choose Gummi Vitamins 5) Go with Daddy to Car. This particular list has helped condense our mornings into a relatively short 30-minutes.
5) Shop During Your Lunch Break
Sometimes it’s a necessary evil, but I really don’t like spending family time on the weekends grocery shopping. We do 1-2 big Costco runs per month as a family, but other than that, I try to do my grocery shopping over my lunch break whenever possible. This ties into point #4 about creating lists because ever since we started meal planning, I’ve only had to run to the market once a week. Now that I’ve switched to using mostly frozen vegetables for my cooking, there are weeks when I don’t need to grocery shop at all.
I’m constantly racking my brain for new ways to streamline and simplify our routines so that we can have more quality time together as a family, and downtime to recharge. Sometimes it feels like an impossible goal, but we do what we can.
Do you employ some of these methods? What are some things you do to streamline your life?
bananas / 9229 posts
We just moved about a month ago and are trying for LO #1. Both DH and I work long hours but our move puts me a TON closer to work while making his commute a bit longer. We’ve decided to change how we handle some of our weekends chores to help give us more time with one another (and eventually a LO!) – the biggest two things are 1. sending almost all our laundry out to be done (if it can’t be dried, I leave it at home and will do a load per month) and 2. ordering groceries online to be delivered. It really helps cut down on having to do all that over the weekend!
grapefruit / 4671 posts
@LindsayInNYC: I agree about the groceries for sure. Ordering them online is lifechanging. Plus I love that the sites can remember what your list looked like the last time in case you like to buy all the same things over and over again. Genius.
honeydew / 7444 posts
I definitely take advantage of doing everything the night before. It helps out with the stress of feeding LO asap when she wakes up or after we get home from daycare.
Also, the night before i will throw all of the smoothie ingredients into my magic bullet. The morning of, all i need to do is blend and everything is good to go in 30 seconds.
GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts
My biggest struggle is LO not sleeping at night (at 8.5 months, she still wakes multiple times at night) . . . it makes it all but impossible to get basic tasks, like prepping bottles, lunches, and dinner, for the next day done the night before.
pomegranate / 3503 posts
I make meals at night sometimes as well. That way I can just heat up food the next day without having to prep and cook. Sometimes (especially now when it gets dark later), I grocery shop at night too. The stores are much less crowded then too.
cherry / 187 posts
We do order our groceries online (though we have to go pick them up at the store) which saves a ton of time and hassle since we never bring our LO (or, she’s sitting in the car while we wait for them to bring out the bags). We also pack up her daycare bag the night before (lunch in the fridge). When DD was younger, we prepped all the bottles for the next day the night before. On the weekend, we try to make a couple meals that will have leftovers we can eat during the week. We have relaxed a bit, but we used to pick out everyone’s clothes for the week on Sundays too (I still do this for DD).
blogger / pomegranate / 3300 posts
I always feel like I have no time. Next year the three boys will have to be up and ready for school. I’m not going to lie I am a little nervous. I think I might try some of the breakfast options this summer and get ready for the school year.
grapefruit / 4923 posts
such great tips–thank you! i agree that getting as much done as possible the night before makes the mornings a lot easier–we prep bottles, wash pump parts, and get our lunches together the night before. i make two big meals over the weekend that we can use for leftovers, and i have a work-at-home day on wednesdays so i make another meal on that day. we only have one LO right now, i imagine we’ll have to get more organized if we have another like the high heels household!
oh, would love to see your breakfast casserole and baked oatmeal recipes!
GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts
I do everything the night before as well so I would love to see your recipes – same like @edelweiss! And what goes on your toddler breakfast plate?
hostess / wonderful watermelon / 39513 posts
I can’t wait to tell DH that Mr. Heels is still handing bath and bedtime!
blogger / eggplant / 11551 posts
@LindsayInNYC: @plantains: @tipperella: i’ve looked into online grocery shopping, but it doesn’t seem like a very common thing to do here in California. I don’t know anyone IRL that grocery shops online, but that sounds so convenient and I know I would love it (eliminates the temptation to buy impulse junk food too)!
blogger / eggplant / 11551 posts
@Freckles: The magic bullet idea is so smart!
@MsLipGloss: That’s so hard… so do you do everything in the morning then?
@Mrs. Train: I have no idea how you do it between 4 kids! In the midst of managing two, I always wonder how it all works with even more kids… there doesn’t seem to be enough time in the day.
@edelweiss: @Andrea: I’ll try to whip up a recipes post!
@Andrea: She can be picky so I offer a variety. Lately it’s yogurt, fruit (grapes and berries), and a mini quiche (I make these ahead and freeze so I always have some on hand). Sometimes I’ll toast a pancake for her in the morning.
GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts
@Mrs. High Heels: I get up early . . . I am usually up between 5 and 5:30 with LO every day (including weekends *sigh*) and I do as much as I can with her at that time (like prepping bottles and getting my pump parts collected from the drying rack and my cooler ready) . . . I hand LO off to my MIL at 6:15ish, and I usually do a couple of things in the kitchen, and then get ready for work (I try to be out the door between 7:15 and 7:30). When I get home, I throw a load of laundry in as I come through the door (I come in through the mud room in the back of the house, right by the laundry), and then I take LO and we play, she eats, gets a bath, sees Daddy, and then it’s off to bed. Rinse and repeat . . .
To save time in the a.m., I am using dry shampoo (a lot – I probably only wash my hair 3 times a week), I keep things as picked up as possible during the week so that there is never a big mess, and try to get big things done on the weekends , like groceries *augh*
ETA: My MIL watches LO during the day, and she is a big help with washing bottles and pump parts, and sometimes making dinner. I am usually eating something in the dark after LO falls asleep because there is not enough time to eat dinner before bedtime. And, I also have cleaners that come every other week because I just can’t do it all (the floors alone take a half a day to steam – all hardwood, top and bottom).
guest
Just like you, Mslipgloss, I have an 8.5 month old that wakes several times at night! I sleep with her, so I’m not so much bothered by night wakings after I go to bed because generally she goes right back to sleep, but it’s the times when she wakes up between her bedtime (7) and mine (9:30) that make it so difficult to get anything done in the evenings! My husband works at night so I am alone on mommy-duty during that time. Everytime I put something in the oven or on the stove or just get going on the dishes, etc, she will wake up and then I either have to turn the oven/stove off and begin again after I get her back down, or I risk burning everything. I can be very hard to juggle everything. Then, baby girl and I both get up at 5:30 or 6 AM (when she wakes naturally) and so I have my little side-kick with me until I go to work.
I am very lucky to be getting 2 showers a week right now!
blogger / persimmon / 1220 posts
Love this Ange! Will definitely be using some of these tips when A goes to daycare in August.
Just yesterday I used my lunch break to shop for the week.
It just feels like go go go all the time and I only have one kid!
GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts
Sarah: YESSSS! That is my life. People just don’t understand how difficult it really is. Heck, my MIL didn’t really get it until she saw it up close and personal. I feel so depleted most of the time . . . I love my baby girl more than anything, but at some point, I have got to get some semblance of normalcy restored!
Oh, and just for insanity of it, I should also add that if my LO could, she would sleep with a boob in her mouth at all times.(!)
grapefruit / 4669 posts
I have definitely learned the importance of making lists and doing stuff the night before! I used to do things during naps, but recently have been having computer time instead, haha.
blogger / persimmon / 1398 posts
I’m a list maker too… I cannot function without it! I do need to be better about preparing lunches the night before though. That would make the morning MUCH easier. I really want to get on board with the whole online grocery thing… but I’m just not there yet.
pomegranate / 3053 posts
Doing things the night before definitely helps speed things up the next morning, especially with lunches. Breakfast is typically pretty easy with yogurt, fruit and milk for both of my boys. I replace yogurt with mini waffles, mini pancakes, or french toast sticks (frozen ones, of course!).
pear / 1614 posts
I love lists. And I hate those nightmares about forgetting pump parts, or leaving milk sitting out accidentally, or any number of pumping disasters
Thanks for the ideas. I work 10-12 hour days or more, but DH is a SAHD which is awesome. I try to help him be more efficient without being a nag, I don’t want to tell him how to spend his time but for example it is really hard for me to eat dinner at 730-8 after putting LO to bed when I get up at 4:30 most mornings. I have tried hard to figure out where all my time goes… 6 hours of sleep, 1 hour (round trip) commute, 10 or 12 hours work… seems like I should have more free time, why do I always feel rushed?!