On a thread some time ago, @Mrs. Lemon Lime, @Blackbird, and @Temperance Brennan suggested that I share how we introduced science, technology, engineering and math (STEM) into our home.
As I was reflecting on how to tackle this challenging topic, I realized that we do have a bit of a leg up in our house considering that I’m a physician and Mr. Jacks is an engineer. One might say that it’s in the air and water around here! Actually, I mean that kind of literally, as it isn’t unusual to hear us talking about the chemical make-up of either air or water. But how did we get to the place where we can talk about these things and have it make sense to our little ones?
I thought back to what we have done with our girls from their earliest moments. The groundwork for being able to talk science at home has really consisted of giving them a great vocabulary with which to communicate all things, and to expose them to the wonders of science from an early age. In order to do this, we started reading to the girls right away. I remember when I first brought Little Jacks home and how awkward it was to talk to this newborn infant. A friend had given us “On The Night You Were Born” by Nancy Tillman and so I picked it up and read it to LJ. It was amazing to see such a small infant responding to the book and the sweet words made me cry… so together she and I became hooked on reading. I was able to read several books to her each day and noticed how much that influenced her babbling and attention. At first we “talked” a lot about what the characters were thinking and doing and what they might do, but it eventually became a real conversation.
The other thing we’ve done with the girls is the use of “Mother-ese.” We made sure we used this type of speech for its beneficial effect on learning language, especially in the first few months of life. But, we didn’t limit ourselves to that. We made the assumption that our girls could understand bigger words and we didn’t shy away from complex sentence structure or bigger vocabulary words. We made sure that we defined the big words we were using. Of course this does result in some unusual conversation patterns, like an 18 month old talking about “attention” or “the plains of Africa.” Jack Jack was a little slower than her sister on language uptake and so we have focused on the mother-ese for longer, but not to the exclusion of more complexity. She’s finally started her language explosion and it’s so fun to see “bigger” words creeping into her lexicon along with the early toddler language.
But it isn’t all about language, we also let the girls experience their environment in a physical way (as safely as possible). This means playing with a funnel or a strainer and different materials (even when it is very messy), digging in the dirt, holding bugs (mama secretly cringing inside while smiling on the outside) and even rocking the rocking horse too hard. I’d love my girls to be bubble wrapped and safe at all times, but they need to experience the physical environment. This is especially true for Jack Jack who is a tactile learner.
We have ample access to science in the home, like most people do. Everything can be turned into science, especially when coupled with an explanation. Long before Little Jacks was able to ask why questions, we created the curiosity that would encourage those questions. From pouring water from one cup to another (different sized cups are great for volume), laundry (physics of the spinning clothes), baking (chemistry), bubbles (surface tension), our bodies (biology), and the environment, we can always find something scientific to engage the kids in. I’m not sure that they understood our explanations early on, but they certainly have come to accept that these conversations are a normal part of our life.
In fact, it wasn’t long until the “why” questions started creeping in to our house. At around age 2, Little Jacks started asking, “What’s that? What’s that?” At first I thought she was seeking the definition of the different words we were using, so I would give her a definition. However, she kept asking even after understanding what the word meant. I realized that this was her rudimentary way of asking why. So, instead of just defining the word, we would give her a definition and explanation. I’ll given an example. I remember one day she was asking, “What’s that?” about a manhole cover. She kept asking the same question even though she understood the definition. I was actually getting frustrated with the persistent questions, so I dove into an explanation of why it was there. Only then was she satisfied with the information we provided.
This experience taught me that it is really important to capitalize on the child’s strengths. LJ is a verbal kid and she really needed to explore STEM concepts through language. On the other hand, her sister is very kinetic and needs to experience science through touch, smell, taste and sound. As much as we can make things safe, we allow her to explore a concept visually and and through her tactile sense. For example, today she figured out how to operate a (very nice) Canon camera with the help of a friend who was very patient with her (and trusting!) By the end of their time together, Jack Jack was scrolling through pictures and able to take a picture.
We also found it important to show the kids the applicability of STEM in their lives. As soon as LJ figured out that math would get her the number of treats she wanted, she was able to add and subtract easily. Likewise, pizza night becomes a study of fractions. We always try to make an interesting word problem out of it! When a friend is sick, we show the girls the importance of medical knowledge and when a cake is baking we can talk about the chemical reactions that are happening to make their yummy treat. We also talk about our days at work. All of us interface with STEM at work (even those who work in arts and social sciences) and it’s important to reinforce that STEM is a big part of everyday life. In our family, we make sure that our children know about how important these concepts are to how we earn our livings and the work we do on a daily basis. Real world applicability shows kids that STEM is a tool that betters their lives.
Another thing we’ve found really helpful is to foster critical thinking skills. Science and technology continue to progress because people ask good questions and systematically study their environment. So as our girls get older, we’ve found ourselves turning the questions around on them. So if they ask, “How does an airplane fly?” we’ll ask them “How do you think it works?” For one, it’s totally a blast to see what they think, but for another, it helps us guide them through the answer. So we can ask questions like, “Why do you think it has wings? Or engines?” It’s great to see them puzzle it out. I think allowing them to figure things out helps them remember better, and I was pretty proud last February when LJ was explaining the fundamentals of airplane flight to a 6 year old.
Of course I was pretty rusty on lift and fluid mechanics when it came to explaining flight to a toddler. I expect that other parents might feel the same for many topics. That’s why it’s important to go to good sources and show your child where to go to answer a question. I often hear myself saying to the girls, “Let’s go look that up!” For airplanes, I was able to find a really nice website that had video, diagrams and text to explain the principles we needed. I know that we’ll need to re-visit some of the more complicated concepts many times, but I feel like we’re giving them the tools to find answers on their own in the future. This process, I have to say, has also encouraged reading interest, because it’s so much more fun to find the answer your own self!
We also spend time testing the hypotheses the girls generate. When LJ noticed that magnets only stick to certain things, we ran all over the house trying to stick magnets to various items. In the end, she got the idea that the magnet would only stick to certain metals. When she was done figuring that out, we went over the idea of “ferrous” metals. Now when her magnet sticks, she knows that it’s sticking to a ferrous metal. Hypothesis testing is also great for kids who aren’t very verbal yet. Jack Jack does a lot of hypothesis testing when we set up the right environment for her. We might put cups of different sizes on the open dishwasher lid and then allow her to pour and note when the water overflows in a smaller cup or the level is low in a bigger cup. Even if she can’t express the volume concepts, she’s internalizing them (and improving her motor skills at the same time).
An engineering solution that Little Jacks designed to help Kitty sit up straight. She tried several things before finding that the straws worked best to prop Kitty up.
When we feel like things are getting stale at home (or I’m exhausted and lacking inspiration!) we’ll head off for a field trip to the Natural History Museum, the Zoo, the planetarium or the Discovery Museum. Going to these places often generates new questions, a new sense of wonder, and more inspiration. Often, too, our museums have learning sessions for young children where they can learn about bugs, stars, dinosaur bones all taught by enthusiastic college students.
Finally, provide your children with a sense of mastery. These are tough concepts and we want our kids to keep pushing further and continuing their interests in the field. In order to maintain that interest, we have to provide a sense of satisfaction and a job well done. This doesn’t necessarily mean providing a lot of praise (which is a topic for a whole other blog post), but it does mean providing the child feedback on how hard they are trying and providing a sense that they came up with an answer or solution. We may do some really challenging work sometimes, but we also often revisit works that have previously been mastered. It’s been great to see Little Jacks teaching her sister some of the things that she already knows. Talk about a sense of accomplishment!
All about how to teach STEM to kids
Engineering activities for kids (best for Kindergarten and above)
Preschool science projects (I love this site!)
Stem in the early years (fairly technical piece for those interested)
Bay Area STEM resources (for those fortunate enough to live in the SF Bay Area)
Sesame Workshop STEM initiative (I don’t know if you’ve watched Sesame Street recently, but there is a huge focus on STEM and our family loves it!)
So, I’m curious, what kinds of STEM activities are you doing at home? Do you have any good STEM resources to share with the hive?
blogger / nectarine / 2600 posts
Wow you have shamed me good I can barely make it through the day with both kids fed and relatively clean some days let alone do all that you have done to enrich your childrens learning. Good for you I hope one day I can try some of these things out. On the plus side their daddy is a physics/math teacher so they will eventually get heavy doses of both Im sure when they are older
cherry / 212 posts
This is a wonderful post! Thank you for sharing. I hope my DrH and I can implement similar principles in our LO’s life when they get here.
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
@Mrs. Chocolate: no shame! In the early days, it’s just about showing up ;). The rest I just started integrating gradually, with language being the first focus.
pear / 1998 posts
When I grow up and have kids, I want to be just like you Mrs. Jacks! Seriously.
I learned so much from this post and can’t wait to check out all the links.
blogger / nectarine / 2600 posts
@Mrs. Jacks: No no I wasnt upset just so impressed with the thoroughness and quality you put into your girls education! I hope I can achieve something significant one day with my two This is a great post
pomelo / 5178 posts
Fantastic post! I love how many real world examples you gave of ways to integrate science discussions into your day to day life, and I am so impressed that you’re also introducing information literacy and research skills to your girls at such an early age.
way to go, Momma!
This summer we found that gardening was not only an entertaining family activity, but also a great way to spur scientific exploration and discovery. The kids learned so much about why/how plants grow, bugs/animals, dirt/rocks, and healthy eating/nutrition. It was so much fun!
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
@Honeybee: I didn’t even realize that we were doing information management, but I guess that’s exactly what we’re doing. Maybe you should do a post on toddlers and information literacy!
pomelo / 5178 posts
@Mrs. Jacks: See, you were investing in your girls’ knowledge without even realizing it!
honeydew / 7488 posts
Thanks for challenging me to be more thoughtful in the way I parent. As a STEM-loving person, I want my children to love and appreciate the concepts and field. But to be honest, I feel a little down because often times when my DD asks me questions (and she is a never ending question machine at age 5), my instinct is to try and answer as quickly as possible because it leads to more “but why” and “but what does that mean” questions and my patience is so thin these days. Something to strive for, I guess!
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
@T-Mom: I know! We said we’d never be the parents to get frustrated with “why” questions, yet sometimes we do anyway! Turning the questions around on Little Jacks and asking her why has been very effective at changing the course of the conversation. I think they actually know it’s annoying and do it for that reason
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
@Honeybee: I should say that we spent a lot of summer in the garden this year as well, thanks to the honeybee family
kiwi / 689 posts
I can’t wait to show this to DH. He’s an engineer and is always talking about how excited he is about the prospect of introducing our daughter to natural history museums, programming concepts and so on when she’s older. I think he’s a little frustrated with the baby stage and there’s a lot of great suggestions here for fostering scientific thinking from the beginning.
wonderful grape / 20453 posts
I love this! I can see E’s little brain turning as she tries to understand things. I look forward to helping her learn about the world around her. And I’m sure I’ll learn a lot in the process (for example, my knowledge of making an airplane fly extends to Bernoulli’s Principle only!)
I can’t believe your kids are learning about ferrous metals, though. The building blocks of my career are forged of steel
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
@Elderberrygin: I tried to remember back to the baby days do I could recall how we set the stage for what we’re doing now.
@blackbird: You are doing great to remember Bernoulli! I’m always glad when Mr. jacks can step up for the physical sciences while I’m running to the internets to get my facts straight
bio sciences, I’ve got Mr. Jacks covered, so it all works out.
blogger / pomegranate / 3300 posts
Excellent post. I just love everything you write about! I love her straw invention for holding up her bear. That’s awesome.
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
@Mrs. Train: I feel like I’m preaching to the choir with you
bananas / 9973 posts
This was an amazing post and I am bookmarking it for myself, as well as sending it to DH. I didn’t even realize what STEM was until a couple of weeks ago. *so embarrassed*
I’d also never heard o Mother-ese, so thanks for that link! I hadn’t realized that “baby talk” is better for them to pick up words. A friend always told us she didn’t speak baby talk (and her child is really smart and always much more mature that his age) and I would tell DH we need to talk to DD like a normal adult. Definitely taking this whole post to heart and head.
wonderful pea / 17279 posts
Thanks for writing this. Just goes to show parents really are our first teachers and learning happens all around us. I can’t wait to use these techniques with my own child.
GOLD / papaya / 10166 posts
I grew up as an engineer’s daughter, and I was intrigued by math and science. Both, DH and I, are in IT. I would love to see our daughters excel in any of these fields, but I had no idea how to introduce the concepts to them. Thank you for this. It still feels overwhelming, but I know she has the drive, so the least I can do is try to keep up with it
blogger / persimmon / 1231 posts
So awesome! I can’t wait for Little Deer to grow so we can STEM together
pomegranate / 3779 posts
This is an awesome post. Both DH and I are engineers, so encouraging STEM education is close to my heart. I love the examples you gave and recognize some of the tactics as things my dad did with us growing up. (Especially turning the questions around to us and asking why we thought something was the way it was.)
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
@shopaholic: I think a combination of mother-ese and adult talk is probably best. We probably transitioned LJ a lot earlier than Jack Jack
(and don’t be embarrassed about not knowing STEM)

@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I hope you have fun with it when the time comes
@BabyBoecksMom: I feel like our whole job is to keep up with the needs of these kids!
@Mrs. Deer: Reading is the earliest step
@stine_ciro: Didn’t you hate that technique as a kid? Little did you know that it was shaping your future!
wonderful grape / 20453 posts
@mrs jacks-The reference to Bernoulli is from an episode of Friends (where Phoebe dates a scientist). Saw the clip in my head, didn’t convey it well. I don’t really know what it is aside from the vague airplanes/aero category lol
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
@blackbird: ok, the geek in me wants to link you to he Bernoulli principle wiki page : http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bernoulli's_principle
But friends references are good too
pear / 1718 posts
Love love love this post! Such great suggestions!
I teach Science to grades K-3 so this topic is near and dear to my heart as well.
For anyone who is looking for an easy and fun STEM project for slightly older kids, the Imagination Foundation is hosting the Global Day of Play on October 5th. Inspired by a youtube video called “Cain’s Arcade,” they are inviting children from around the world to design, create, and build things using cardboard and other repurposed materials. We just started this project with my third grade students on Monday (they are building arcade games). They absolutely love it and have already learned so much through play, inquiry, and exploration. Plus, it’s fun for grownups too…
pomegranate / 3388 posts
Love this post! I’m a college professor in a STEM field, and it always pains me so much to see the many students who enter my classroom who are just plain terrified of science and math. The fear is definitely not innate. It is taught over the years by the adults in their lives (teachers included) who also fear math. By the time they get to me it can be extremely difficult to turn them back on to the idea that science and math can be enjoyable. If more kids were taught about the fun side of science and math from an early age, I’m sure this would be a different story.
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
@QueensBee: thank you so much for sharing resources!
@skibobrown: We’ll just have to change that attitude one Hellobee family at a time! Oh and I totally love how many STEM professionals participate in Hellobee
pomelo / 5866 posts
Read your article and it totally sparked activity in our household. Just did a little sink and float activity and then a colored water mixing activity and recorded it in our handy dandy notebook. I am so grateful for your inspiring, detailed post and resources and can’t wait to keep the conversation going on how to stimulate learning/thinking about the world around us. I was totally NOT into physical science until recently and barely tolerated life science but have developed a liking and deep interest (I’ve been missing out!) in recent years. You CAN teach an old dog new tricks, and what better time to start exploring than with our growing children. (The Night You Were Born was a gift and a hit in our household as well.) Thank you!
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
@808love: what an awesome easy and informative activity you guys did! I can’t wait to try it! Your little one (and her mom!) are so creative!
pomegranate / 3053 posts
Thanks for an awesome post! I never even heard of “STEM” but have done many things with my kids that are related to STEM. Now that we’re slowly getting settled into our new home your post inspired me to do more with my kids. It’s been a rough 4 months and I can’t wait to get back into doing things at home with my boys again that doesn’t involve toys, especially since most of their toys are en route via a big container ship right now.
blogger / grapefruit / 4836 posts
Love love LOVE this! I think a lot of people hear STEM and immediately think of technology…”what apps can we buy for the ipad that will “teach” our children” when in reality that isn’t what STEM is at all! Great post! I can’t wait to do some (or all!) of these things with LL as he grows!
blogger / nectarine / 2600 posts
@Mrs. Jacks: So I showed my husband this post yesterday…turns out he teaches STEM as a physics teacher who knew not his wife
lol Anyways he loved Little Jacks straw kitty set up very clever he said
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
@erwoo: I can’t believe your finally getting settled! We need updates
@Mrs. Lion: I agree. Since we don’t let our girls have screen time (aside from Sesame Street), we don’t use aps or what others would consider traditional “technology”. When we do add tech, I have some ideas about building circuits and lights and more hands-on tech… and at a certain point, I’m sure we’ll eventually introduce them to aps.
@Mrs. Chocolate: That’s pretty funny!
cherry / 110 posts
Awesome post! I love it! Too bad I know very little of science. I didn’t even know what a ferrous metal was. You learn something new everyday! I’m all for encouraging exploration and experimenting, but I don’t have the knowledge base that you do. Yes, there is Google, but it wouldn’t have even occurred to me that magnets stick to only some metals, let alone trying to look up why.
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
@Viola: And that’s the joy and wonder of kids, because things we just accept as “normal” are so interesting to them. Why does the boat float? Why does the magnet stick? Why is ice cold?
You can just follow your child’s lead and look up things based on their questions
pomegranate / 3053 posts
@Mrs. Jacks: I know, and yet I still don’t feel settled b/c most of our stuff is still in transit…. in typhoon season too! I’m a bit worried. It’s still a little hectic these days but hopefully once we hire a helper my life will be a little to a lot easier and I will have more time to HB!
pineapple / 12234 posts
@Mrs. Jacks: you’re super mom. Seriously. I strive to be like you!
grapefruit / 4997 posts
@Mrs. Jacks: I am so grateful to you for posting these tips! My baby is 4.5 months so I am hopeful that we can start her on this path early on and go from there. I bought that book “On The Night You Were Born” after reading this entry. What a sweet book. I am going to include that in all of my baby shower gift baskets from now on! Thanks again for posting about STEM.
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
@Kimberlybee: I’m glad you like the book!