In the last few weeks we’ve been thrown head-first into the world of toddler activities. Scribble dropped his morning nap a few weeks ago, and it has become a challenge to keep him entertained through his fussy mid-morning phase. Around the holidays we had errands to keep us occupied. But this year we have fewer excuses to get out: I’m trying to avoid unnecessary spending, and illness and weather keep us at home. We try to get outside every day, but thanks to the cold we can’t stay out for long.
I started scanning Pinterest for activities, hoping to find something worthwhile. My expectations were running high; my head was filled with images of Scribble and I peacefully sorting beans.
Needless to say my expectations were dashed!
The thing about Pinterest is…. the photos you see of kids happily doing activities don’t tell the whole story. A photo is just one moment in time. A child smiling beatifically while pushing pipe cleaners into a colander might have been crying two minutes before, or putting the colander onto the dog’s head two minutes after. It can get discouraging. After an activity flounders, I spend an embarrassing amount of emotional energy wondering if I introduced an activity the wrong way, or if Scribble was somehow playing incorrectly. Frankly, what we do doesn’t always look like what that family on Pinterest was doing.
I found myself getting frustrated. I decided it was utter nonsense to feel that my son was “playing wrong.” Maybe he wasn’t thrilled with the idea of pushing the pipe cleaners into the colander, but did it really matter? Did I really want to limit his interaction with the colander to the specific way that I wanted them to interact? Scribble doesn’t need assignments; our home is not a preschool. At 17 months, the whole world is still novel to Scribble; many times, when given new things to explore, he will find a way to play that I wouldn’t have thought of myself.
This is not to say that I don’t value activities for Scribble. But after doing them for a few weeks I just don’t take it personally when they fail. Below are some activities we’ve tried. I’ve rated them out of ten, given you an estimate of how much mileage we got out of them, and written a little about why the activity worked (or didn’t) for us.
Sensory Goo
Rating: 7/10
Time Engaged: 19 minutes (yes, I looked at the clock!)
This is an activity that fared pretty well. Scribble is learning to play with tools. Still, at 17 months, he still sees most sensory items as food, and doesn’t seem to make the distinction between what is gooey fun and what is gooey and edible. Considering that this goo is simply a mixture of food coloring, flour, and water, I can see why he found those distinctions to be arbitrary!
He played with this for nearly twenty minutes before losing interest. By “losing interest,” I mean he stopped caring about playing with the goo in the bowl, and instead tried to carry the goo-covered utensils off into another room. By the time I had cleaned him and the mess up, I had invested more time in the setup than he had in the experience. I still consider this a successful activity, and hopefully his time engaged will increase with age.
Pom-Pom In Paper Tube:
Rating: 1/10
Time Enaged: 30 Seconds
I set this up one day while I was making dinner, hoping it would keep him occupied near me. He immediately set to work pulling the tube off of the wall. So much for that activity! Maybe this one was a little below his level; but at the same time, I don’t know if there was a time when he was physically able to put a pom-pom through a tube when he was also not able to pull something off the wall. Either way, this one was a dud for us. Maybe if the setup was more elaborate, he would find it more fun.
Discovery Basket:
Rating: 9/10
Time Engaged: 5- 25 minutes
Discovery baskets are a huge hit in our house. Scribble’s favorite mode is destruction, so these are easily his favorite activities. They take almost no prep for me to put together, and they keep Scribble entertained for anywhere from 5-25 minutes, if the items I include in the discovery basket are especially interesting. I have also found that discovery bags work better than baskets, as Scribble really likes to open drawstring bags.
I am only critical of discovery baskets for two reasons: First, Scribble has a preternatural ability to know when something given to him is a toy, and when it isn’t, and he will always show more enthusiasm for an item that is not a toy. For example, the above discovery basket entertained him for about five minutes. On the other hand, emptying out my purse would keep him entertained for 25 or 30 minutes no question. He just seems to know when something is “off limits” and will gravitate toward those things!
Second, don’t make the mistake of believing that everything in the basket will stay in the basket. You will find the contents of discovery baskets strewn all around your house.
Scribble and an exploded discovery bag, now commingled with his regular toys
One tip I’ll give for any of these activities is to make the space in which you will do the activities as free of distracting clutter as possible. This is something we battle every day as we don’t have a specific play area in our home. So the key for us is to try and keep the toys picked up so that Scribble can concentrate on what is in front of him. Sometimes this happens, other times it does not, and that’s ok (in the above picture, it had not happened). But I have found that the more effort I put into an activity, the more likely I am to take time preparing the environment that surrounds the activity as well.
Pom-Poms into a Container
Rating: 10/10
Time Occupied: 20 + minutes daily
This one worked well for us. You can’t tell, but I cut a hole in the top of the lid. Scribble enjoyed pushing the poms through, and he kept returning to this toy throughout the week. The only downside is that I eventually had to remove the toy since he wanted to swallow the poms. But I can always bring it back out again!
Goo Bag
Rating: 2/10
Time Occupied: 1 minute (not including setup)
Scribble really enjoyed watching me mix up the goo (just mayo and food coloring) and put it into the bag. But once I taped it on the window he took no interest! So that was disappointing. Plus this requires a single-use bag, which I try to avoid.
Pipe Cleaners into a Colander
Rating: 9/10
Time Engaged: 20 minutes
This was a successful activity for us. Scribble enjoyed pushing the cleaners through the holes. He did eventually grow tired of it and decided to push the colander around in his wagon. But then he returned to the original skill again! So I count this as a success.
Tees into Floral Foam
Rating: 6/10
Time Engaged: 25 minutes
This was a mixed bag. Scribble liked poking the tees into the holes, but he tired of that pretty quickly and then just started carrying it around the house and putting it in odd places. I was worried he would eat a tee or the floral foam, so eventually I had to take them away.
Dried Food Sensory and Sorting Tray
Rating: 5/10
Time Engaged: 10 minutes
This was less successful than I would have liked just because Scribble kept trying to eat the pasta and the beans! He did eventually start to put the pieces into the heart tray, but it took a little while to coax him, and then he lost interest a few minutes later.
Parents of young toddlers, what are your go-to activities for slow days? Have you experienced any real stinkers?
apricot / 364 posts
Thanks for the reviews. I’ve considered trying some of these as well. However, I’ve only gotten as far as giving her the whole set of metal mixing bowls and a wooden spoon. She fake stirs or uses them as a drum set or stacks them. Total win because it takes no effort and she thinks she’s helping me cook.
grapefruit / 4923 posts
thanks for the ideas and reviews. the other weekend i busted out some eco friendly art supplies that i was so excited for my LO to use, just imagining the sheer number of minutes for which he would be occupied…the crayons went straight into his mouth and he couldn’t have cared less that they could be used for coloring. on the other hand, having him sit in our empty dishwasher could easily take up 15-20 minutes.
blogger / grapefruit / 4836 posts
Thank you for this!!
ll isnt quite old enough for these yet but we will definitely be giving them a try!
nectarine / 2771 posts
These are great! Looking forward to trying them.
apricot / 498 posts
I feel the same way about activities for the twins. I spend so much time putting things together, building excitement as I introduce an activity for it all to go downhill when Elmo is found somewhere in the room. They seem to be having the most fun lately standing on chairs in the front window and watching the cars and the snow fall. I will say the Aqua Doodle has been a big hit at 18 months.
blogger / nectarine / 2600 posts
Wow this is a great list. I missed the boat for this kind of stuff when Drake was little and now if I tried one of these for Juliet when she was a bit older Drake would just get in her way or take it or whatever
GOLD / nectarine / 2884 posts
@hilary: We have done a lot of that too! We never got around to putting locks on our cabinets (more of a lazy decision than an educational philosophy one) and he gets into the tupperware every day! It was only around 15 or 16 months that I sensed he wanted something more focused.
@Ms.SK: It is hard! You spend so much time setting something up only to have it rejected, and then you wonder if you did it wrong? And yes, most of the time he just sorta wanders around his playroom grazing on toys!
@edelweiss: So true. I also tried crayons and playdough, and I haven’t gotten a lot of mileage out of either of those things. He does like bath crayons, but I think that has given him the idea that he can draw on any surface. Paper isn’t interesting to him! I think it is amazing that we are talking about twenty minutes as if that were a long time. When I started doing these activities I had delusions of playing for an hour. LOL! First time mom.
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts
You are such a creative mom! I love this post.
blogger / pomegranate / 3201 posts
This is SO helpful! I always see activities and want to try them, but fear it will be too much work and not enough fun. I’m definitely trying the pip cleaners and poms now!
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22276 posts
Love this, thank you!
pear / 1849 posts
This morning LO (16 months) really enjoyed putting cupcake liners (reusable) into the cupcake tray. Took them in and out several times. Then did some pretend “mixing” in each liner. Only kept him busy for maybe 7 minutes, but we’re on our 2nd snow day in just 3 days, so I’ll take anything I can get at this point!
blogger / nectarine / 2010 posts
There are some good ideas here. I think there are some things here you should re-introduce in a few more months. I can definitely see Little M at 26 months getting into a few of these!
pea / 20 posts
Thank you, I’ve been struggling with this, too. We tried the goo bag and it completely flopped. Now I’m wary of trying anything else. That said, at 18 mo she loves her one color of play dough. I roll it out and she pokes at it with different utensils and cookie cutters. It was good for at least 30 min of supervised play today. Score!
pineapple / 12053 posts
Ha. I laughed at the 1/10 for the poms and paper roll. Thanks for the list! I like the toddler activity threads we have going and this adds some more!
blogger / clementine / 998 posts
the pipe cleaner one looks great!
grapefruit / 4903 posts
This is such an awesome review! We actually had good luck with the pom pom – tube activity. It held her interest for 12 minutes while I cooked dinner, which I call a win. I love the reminder about pinterest showing one snapshot though!
blogger / pomegranate / 3300 posts
I participated in a busy bag swap with friends and I have several of these activities. I try a lot of things and just hope they work for at least a few minutes. Lilly really likes the pipe cleaners one.
blogger / persimmon / 1231 posts
This is an AWESOME post! I’ve realized in the last week or so that I need to step up my game. The same ol’ toys just aren’t cutting it. Definitely going to give some of these a try!
blogger / pomegranate / 3491 posts
I love this honest round up. All the “Pinterest-worthy” things I see, I think – wow, C would do that for like 6 seconds! Love how many things you tried, and totally bookmarking it, since the 5 degree weather here in Chi doesn’t seem to be disappearing any time soon….ugh.
blogger / eggplant / 11551 posts
Such great ideas, thanks for the honest reviews!
blogger / nectarine / 2608 posts
I’m sort of the opposite because I’m pretty zen with whatever comes up and not too terribly organized. I’m more likely to come up with an activity as an extension of something one of the girls seems to like or want to do. Sometimes I think I could benefit from being a little more proactive in seeking some of these things out. Loved the list. And especially the honesty.
guest
This describes my toddler perfectly. Half of the “toddler toy suggestions” just don’t work for her, cause she just tears them apart. Thanks for writing this so candid.
guest
Thank you for your review!! my son is 21 months and I see all these pinterest post that make me feel like a bad mother bc I don’t have my son doing all these activities. I will try out a few this weekend. Has there been a new post or more you had success with? I’d love to know =)