I’ve always had horrible vision. I started wearing glasses in early elementary school and wore them full time until I got contacts my freshman year of high school. Since then I have worn contacts full time.
Before I got pregnant with Wagon Jr., my prescription was -6 in my left eye and -6.5 in my right, and that had been relatively consistent since college. Pregnancy messes with your body in so many ways, so about a year after his birth, I wasn’t shocked to find out that my eyes had become -7 and -7.5. I updated my contacts and glasses and continued wearing contacts full time.
Then after I had Lil Miss Wagon, my eyes didn’t just take another huge dive in prescription (all the way to -8 and -9!), but they were also looking very red. I wasn’t experiencing much pain or discomfort, and it didn’t seem to make a difference whether I was wearing my contacts or my glasses, so I just ignored it. Then my eyes started becoming very tired, especially at night after a long day of staring at a computer screen at work. I was feeling a lot of pressure behind my eyes, and I knew something was probably wrong when I couldn’t read words on the TV anymore and I started seeing double.
I went to see an opthalmologist who diagnosed me with severe dry eye. I started on a routine of 4 different kinds of eye drops: a steroid drop, a prescription drop called Restaysis to help me produce more tears naturally, a gel drop for nighttime (apparently I sleep with my eyes slightly open!), and artificial tears to instill every hour of the day. All of a sudden I became an eye drop expert (a previously foreign section of the pharmacy I quickly conquered! Holy moly are eye drops expensive.) and my nightstand was totally taken over. In addition to my drops routine, my opthamologist instructed me to start taking fish oil supplements and using hot compresses on my eyes each night. I was determined to fix my eyes and keep them in good health.
After a month, I revisited the opthalmologist and she was pleased with my progress. I asked her what had caused this… in my decades of full time contact wearing, I had never experienced dry eye. She told me that many moms who breastfeed for an extended period of time experience dry eye because your body chemistry changes so much with all the hormonal changes of pregnancy, postpartum changes and breastfeeding. She also explained that since this was my second time breastfeeding, that could have pushed my eyes over the edge. Another optometrist I met later on in my eye health journey told me that anecdotally, women who have girls tend to get dry eye. She guessed that I had had a girl when I told her about my postpartum dry eye!
(I should also note here that after I had weaned myself off of the steroid drop, my eyes basically went back to square one with a huge rebound reaction. I panicked and then googled and realized it was very common. It was frustrating to have to basically start all over again, but I learned an important lesson about steroids..!)
After my eyes were finally getting to a good place, I tried to wear my contacts to attend a wedding and my eyes did not react well at all. After that, my opthalmologist diagnosed me as contact lens intolerant.
That was surprisingly devastating to me. I hate wearing glasses. I have a flat nose with no bridge, so glasses without nose pads always slide down my face, and glasses with nose pads always gave me headaches. My high prescription always required me to get the thinnest lens possible, making them super expensive and still pretty heavy. I sweat a lot, and dealing with glasses while you’re sweating is no fun at all– the wiping, the steaming up, the slipping off your nose. Plus it’s not fun at all applying makeup with eyes as bad as mine. I’d apply foundation basically blindly, then put on my glasses to see if I had missed any spots. Then take them off to apply blush and bronzer, then put on to check evenness. Then take off to apply eye makeup (with a tiny hand mirror held two centimeters away from my eyes!), then put on to check evenness… and so on. Forget about my best friend, mascara– even a single coat would cause my lashes to hit the lenses. Sob. And, of course, my glasses would get caked with makeup, dirt and sweat throughout the day. Yum.
I decided that this was the time to finally look into LASIK. I waited until my prescription stabilized, more than a year after having LMW. I was so happy when I was told I’d be a candidate at my consultation. Many people are not candidates, or have to get a different procedure called PRK which has the same outcome (and similar cost) but has a longer recovery period (LASIK being a few days, PRK at least a week). My prescription was extreme, but I have unusually thick corneas, so I qualified for LASIK. With my history of dry eye, I’d have to be vigilant about my eye health because the procedure can cause and worsen dry eye.
It’s an expensive, elective procedure that is not covered by insurance, so I put aside the max FSA amount so that half would be pre-tax. I scheduled the procedure for the day after my birthday in February. After more than six months of exclusively wearing glasses, I had my LASIK done and I couldn’t be happier. It was one of the most exciting days of my life and the moment I had been looking forward to happened the next morning: I opened my eyes and, without having to fumble for my glasses, I saw my kids’ beautiful faces clearly.
My LASIK came with a lifetime guarantee, so the next time I will ever wear glasses, they will be reading glasses! The kind you only wear for close-up seeing and you can pick them up at the drugstore for a few bucks. And hopefully that’s at least a little ways off.
Was your eye health affected by pregnancy?
nectarine / 2262 posts
Oh my goodness! This scares me so much!
DH and I are planning to start TTC in June/July. I have HORRIBLE vision as it is (-11 and -12), and I can’t get LASIK because my corneas are too thin. I, too, have worn contacts, but I have not been able to for the past ~7 months due to basically the same issues you are having. It is a nightmare.
And if I get a couple of diopters worse and my eyes get drier and redder after having kids… ahhh! I don’t want to think about it.
blogger / nectarine / 2600 posts
Oh goodness this scared me a little too. I have poor vision as well but not as bad as that. I actually am -4.5 in one eye and -1.5 in another, as a child I was both far and near sighted. Since having DD I have a harder time wearing contacts, my eyes dry out a lot. I also BF now and pumped with DS. I havent seen an eye doctor in ages though so now Im worried I should just in case. I dont think I would be a good candidate for LASIK though as I have astigmatism too. *sigh*
I am very happy for you though! What a dream it would be to wake up and see the world perfectly clearly! I envy you and that for sure!
pea / 7 posts
Like MrsAds, I have pretty bad vision already (-8 and -11, so different in the two eyes!), and I’m also not a candidate for LASIK. I’m pregnant right now with our first, and I hope so much that I don’t experience this side effect of pregnancy! I can’t imagine having to go back to wearing glasses full time, and I’m too much of a chicken to do the eye surgery that would be available to me, which would be inserting intraocular lenses like they do for cataracts patients. No, thanks!
nectarine / 2771 posts
I am lucky to have good vision, but DH’s is horrible. He got LASIK last year and it was one of the best decisions he ever made! We are big advocates for it
so glad you got it and love it too!
nectarine / 2262 posts
@BonjourBBB: Yeah, the only surgery I am a candidate for is the IOL implants. Which have great results, but have not been around too long. I think in another 5 years if they have some good long term data I will probably save up and do it. It’s expensive, like $10k, but it would be worth it for me. Because let me tell you, having to go back to wearing glasses all the time after wearing contacts for the past 16 years is so horrible.
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22646 posts
I can’t wait to be done having babies so that I can do this!!! I’ve been a candidate as my prescription stabilized before DS, but they got a lil worse with pregnancy and now I’m slightly astigmatic in one eye too. Anyway – Im so jealous!!!!!!!!
blogger / clementine / 998 posts
I’ve had a few friends end up wearing glasses again a few years after LASIK. Some opted to have the LASIK redone for free, and some decided to finally embrace glasses. I have the same no bridge problem! Everytime I buy new glasses, I always end up picking a pair with no nose pads and then I have to get them custom installed!
wonderful cherry / 21504 posts
I had LASIK done before pregnancy and I’m so so glad. I do have to wear glasses for driving again but that’s it, and I am totally comfortable with that. So far I haven’t had any issues between pregnancy and breastfeeding my girl!
grape / 99 posts
@Mrs. Chocolate: I have an asitgmatism (have had one since as long as I’ve worn contacts/glasses – 18yrs+), and I am a candidate.
I’m so glad this worked out for you. I was a candidate after my first but was told I had to wait 4mo after I was done BF’ing to get LASIK done. Well, surprise, found out I was pregnant with #2 3wks before I was supposed to have it done, so I had to cancel. I just weaned #2, 2wks ago and I’m counting down the weeks until I can have LASIK. I am so looking forward to it!!
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i was told by numerous eye care professionals that you can’t wear contact lenses after lasik. And its pretty much a given that after 10+ years your eyes will degrade again. I think this is my biggest concern. Having to wear glasses in 10 years and no contacts.
pomegranate / 3350 posts
Wow! That is crazy that pregnancy caused such extreme changes in your eyes. How was your recovery from LASIK? My sister developed severe dry eyes as a result of her surgery so I’ve been nervous about getting it. That is really great if it solved all your eye problems!
pomegranate / 3565 posts
No major vision changes for me with pregnancy, though I have terrible eyes. Unfortunately, I am not a good candidate for LASIK. I was so upset!
wonderful olive / 19353 posts
@MrsADS: I too have terrible vision (-10 and – 11), and like you, thin corneas = no lasik. Waaaaaa!!!
My eyes are really dry and up until the past few weeks, my contacts have been bothering me, but I still wear them bc I can’t stand my glasses. Hope I’m not going down a path of glasses only…. (>_<)
pomegranate / 3921 posts
YIKES! This is terrifying–but I’m so glad your story has a happy ending! I have never looked into LASIK, but my eyesight currently is how your started out. (No babes yet.) I do have astigmatism, so I’m not sure how it would work for me. Pregnancy does crazy stuff to us, huh?
blogger / pomegranate / 3491 posts
I had a similar prescription (-8.5 and -9) and had LASIK pre-pregnancy. Such a game changer for life, as I too had become intolerant to my contacts after college. So glad it worked out for you!!
kiwi / 558 posts
I would be interested to know how you decided where to go for your procedure? I feel like in a big city it’s hard to narrow down your choices for where to do the LASIK.
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interesting! I had dry eye issues postpartum also. I never used to have any trouble with my contacts and now I have to take them out right after I get home from work because they get so dried out. My dr. said this was common also.
blogger / watermelon / 14218 posts
@Mrs. Chocolate: @mrsjyw: @LaurenEC: @mfa_lady: I also had astigmatism but was still a candidate.
@bonjourbb: @MrsADS: I had one practice tell me I wasn’t a candidate for LASIK because of my high prescription and they tried to sell me on IOLs (or ICLs, the implantable contact lens) instead, which is double the price, has not been around for very long, and obviously seems a little more radical since it’s how cataracts are removed. They showed me a marketing video of people swimming, etc. and even tried to sell me on getting LASIK in my better eye and an IOL in my worse eye. After confirming with two other reputable practices that I was, in fact, a candidate for LASIK, I said no thanks to that practice!! They just want to do more IOL surgeries to get more patients under their belt. But I do think that if I was not a candidate for LASIK or PRK, I would have considered doing this in the future. I was lucky to be qualified as a candidate for LASIK and I feel for you if you are not
@Mrs. Chipmunk: I will probably be hesitant to take advantage of the lifetime guarantee my practice provides, because if I have to get an adjustment, it would be a PRK instead of a LASIK procedure. So I’m crossing my fingers that if my eyes do worsen again, it won’t be too much and I’ll just have to wear glasses for driving. I know I’ll have to start wearing reading glasses when I get older… but at least they won’t be bifocals! And I can get them at the drugstore for cheap.
@Angela L: My center has a lifetime guarantee, and many centers provide that (or you can purchase it as an option with your procedure). But the reason I waited until later in life to pursue LASIK was because I wanted to know people PERSONALLY who have had it for more than a decade to make sure it was still something I wanted to pursue.
@skipra: My recovery was fast and easy!! Because of my history with dry eye, I’m fully expecting to have to deal with dry eye for the rest of my life, but at least I don’t have to worry about glasses as well
I’m only a month out right now, but my comfort level is excellent. I actually went to the eye doctor this morning for my 1 month post-op check, and she said my eyes were very dry, so I’m upping my artificial tears and possibly restarting the nighttime gel drops since I sleep with my eyes slightly open, and that exposure really makes dry eye so much worse.
@HTownMom: I don’t mind sharing at all! I had several (free) consultations with centers and eye practices, and I also asked for recommendations from friends and eye doctors. The center I chose is a national chain called The Laser Center. Wall me if you want more information!!
blogger / eggplant / 11551 posts
I had LASIK done before ever getting pregnant, but after my pregnancies my vision has worsened, and I’m either going to have to get LASIK done again, or get glasses! I wish I had known back then that pregnancy could really change your eyesight too, then I might’ve waited to get the procedure done, but these past 7 years of perfect vision have been wonderful!
Pregnancy and postpartum hormones seriously do a number on your body… I developed a bad gluten allergy after being pregnant with Jaren!
blogger / pomelo / 5361 posts
Happy seeing! I think the concept of LASIK is both freaky and amazing. I want Mr. Blue to have it done because he is all kinds of blind without his glasses or contacts.
pomelo / 5791 posts
This hits so close to home, it’s scary. Before having DS (who is my first), I was a -10 in both eyes and have been for YEARS. Since having him, I’m now -10.5. Not a huge change, but any change at 33 with such poor vision is scary! I pray pray pray they never tell me I’m contact intolerant, as I have the EXACT same problems as you, Mrs. Wagon. The heavy glasses, trying to put makeup on without seeing, mascara in the way….I shudder to think about the loss of contacts. I am also not a candidate for LASIK because of my corneas, and also, I’ve had retinal detachments. Sigh. I pray your surgery goes well and that I don’t have this problem after more children!!
honeydew / 7488 posts
My eyes have gotten so dry as well after two kids. I was lucky that I was able to go back to contacts after exclusively wearing glasses for about 3 months (as directed by my eye doc) but I’m a lot more careful now and try to wear glasses when I can . I’m so glad LASIK worked for you. I am super scared to do it even though I know many people who have been happy with the results!