I love my child. Like, capital L-O-V-E, love. But these days, taking care of a toddler whose greatest joy lies in testing his limits and throwing tantrums when he doesn’t get his way means that I appreciate my child-free time a little bit more than I once did. We have spent several weekends away from Colin, both while we were out of town and when we did mini-“staycations,” and my-oh-my, every time we do a night of “staycation” I love them even more. Here is why:
1) Travel is stressful. Even without a toddler in tow, airports just stress me out. When you add the time wasted schlepping to the airport, waiting, inevitable flight delays, etc., there is just something to be said for making the best of where you live. Getting a hotel room locally means you maximize your time doing things that are actually fun – aka not flying.
2) It costs so much less than a trip out of town. Saving money on things like flights and rental cars means that we can either splurge on a fancy restaurant we would otherwise not comfortably afford, or an experience we wouldn’t otherwise try. Because we use credit card points to book hotels, the other option for us is just having the world’s cheapest weekend, cuddling in a free hotel room eating packed PB&J’s and snacks and doing uber movie marathons in bed like our pre-parenting days.
3) Unplugging from the day-to-day grind where you live allows you to appreciate it so much more. Whether you are in suburban sprawl, a big city or the country air, not only is there more to see and enjoy at your fingertips than you think, but rather than flying thousands of miles, often I have found that we can find exciting new things when stay nearby or even if we venture only 30-60 minutes away. On our Chicago staycations, we have tried great new restaurants that are far from kid-friendly, and we have lived as tourists in our own city – exploring museums, strolling through less familiar neighborhoods and hitting the beach – without a nap schedule to contend with. Bliss.
4) Grandma and Grandpa prefer having us out of the house. This one is probably not unique to the Confetti household. When the grandparents come to visit, Colin doesn’t always prefer spending time with them, especially when his dad is around. They travel all this way for a visit, and when they are caring for him while we are away, they enjoy having all the attention and all the fun with C. But…
5) Heaven forbid something happens, we are not far away. Thankfully, we haven’t had to contend with any major issues, but if Colin were to get seriously ill or injure himself, we wouldn’t need to worry about medical authorization letters or talking through symptoms and treatments on the phone, switching between pediatrician and grandma. We would be just a short cab or car ride away.
6) Oh yeah, and the best perk? When we staycation, it is easy to bring along our own pillows and get a great night of sleep, sleeping well past 5:45 a.m. and laying in bed as long as we want. Even if we leave after bedtime and get back home by 10 a.m., those couple extra hours make a HUGE difference.
Have you stay-cationed since becoming a parent?
pomegranate / 3768 posts
I haven’t yet but your staycation sounds oh so wonderful!!
blogger / coconut / 8306 posts
That sounds very relaxing!
We had one staycation last summer, but it wasn’t solo. DH took a week off work and we hung out around the house and town. It was so relaxing just not having any sort of obligation!
grapefruit / 4717 posts
We have only quasi-staycationed. Went up to the bigger city for a work party and stayed overnight. I think we’ll have to try another one soon! Thanks for the tips.
blogger / kiwi / 675 posts
I haven’t done this yet but it does sound fun im not gonna lie!
blogger / eggplant / 11551 posts
Yes to all of this! We did staycations here and there when we only had one kid, but its been a lot harder since having #2. I loved stay cations too because even an overnight one made me miss my baby like crazy, and it was nice knowing that she was only going to be a 20-30 min drive away!
blogger / persimmon / 1220 posts
Yes, we have a few times! Sometimes we only go 20 minutes away (since we live near beaches) and will stay at a beach hotel just for one night and we feel so refreshed after! It’s also the perfect amount of time.
apricot / 288 posts
I guess we’ve had two, one was the evening of a friend’s wedding (we actually slept at home that night – M was at grandma’s), and the second was a night in a hotel where we ate amazing food for dinner, went out to a movie, ate dessert in bed while watching tv and enjoyed a leisurely breakfast before picking M up.
blogger / persimmon / 1398 posts
This sounds so blissful!! We haven’t stay-cationed either… and I don’t see it in the short-term. I’ll continue to live vicariously!
pomegranate / 3225 posts
Love, love, love this idea! So wish we had done this before baby #2 arrives.
GOLD / grapefruit / 4555 posts
I haven’t had a staycation since the littles were born – that’s going on two years now! – but I’m looking forward to trying to plan one soon. I’ve been getting the itch to break away a little. But to be fair, I do get ‘me’ time fairly frequently. Even half an hour by myself makes a huge difference when it means getting out of the house and getting away from the kids.
blogger / honeydew / 7081 posts
We’re doing a day-cation (lol…is that a thing?) next week, and I am SO excited.
A whole night ‘away’? Sounds amazing!
blogger / nectarine / 2687 posts
This sounds blissful!!! Our anniversary is coming up and this sounds like a perfect way to celebrate!
persimmon / 1281 posts
I hope we can do this sometime soon. It does sound like fun, but for now I’m still anxious whenever DS is out of my sight.
kiwi / 511 posts
We haven’t done a staycation, but we kind of came close. We went to my parents house (and it was a full house, 4 from my family, my 2 parents, my sister’s family 5 those where who were sleeping there for the first half of the week, at then end of the week we added my youngest sister’s family 3) and of course my other sister (yes 3 total) and her kids came up almost every day (4 more people, 5 when her husband didn’t have to work) since they lived relatively close.
If you don’t want to do the math sleeping in the house at its max was 14 people. Then add in my sister and her kids, plus 2 aunts it was 20 people and that was before the party!
I did get up with my youngest around 5:30 or 6 everyday but that was because it was normal and I couldn’t sleep (my DH slept in every day) and I handed him off to my Mom (the youngest asked for her as soon as he woke up) and just lounged around drinking coffee. Then once the cousins and my older one was up, they took care of both kids along with my sisters and Mom and Dad. My older sisters loved it because their kids were long past the 2 and 4 year mark they were all preteen and teens. My Mom loved it because well she loves being Grandma and thrives on taking care of everyone. My Dad really has grown into being a Grandfather, he would watch Hogan’s Heros with ALL 9 grandkids, and he would sit at the end of the driveway with his book supervising the kids, with the little ones on trikes and the older ones running back and forth.
While I wasn’t in my house I was home, it was the one I grew up in. I didn’t have to do dishes (the kids and my Dad did them) and I didn’t have to cook (much I did help with prep work when asked but my Mom prefers to do most of it alone) and only had to do a few potty breaks and diaper changes. It was bliss.
My parents refuse to let us help pay our way but that is feeding A LOT of people. I do make sure to send a gift card or two for their favorite restauarnts via snail mail as a thank you and so they cannot refuse them.
blogger / pomegranate / 3300 posts
We are having one this weekend for our anniversary. We have a hotel about 30 minutes from our house and we are planning to go to a museum (that I have been wanting to go to since I was in high school and never got around to going) on saturday. I am very excited for a night away and going to a museum without having to chase after the kids.
blogger / clementine / 998 posts
Most people haven’t done any touristy things in their own cities and it’s often not until some relatives stay that you experience what your city has to offer. It’s nice to just do that as a husband and wife, and not as a tour guide!
olive / 57 posts
What a great idea! Definitely want to give this a try!
blogger / apricot / 335 posts
omg, a staycation is exactly what the hubs and I need!!
blogger / pear / 1563 posts
We’ve done this more than once when we had evening plans and my parents take Little P and it’s AWESOME!! It’s hilarious how we even tip-toe around the house until we remember he’s not sleeping in his room. ha!
blogger / nectarine / 2600 posts
Oh wow this sounds really awesome!
blogger / pomelo / 5400 posts
Haha my ILs would love me to drop through the floor when they’re around so that they can have the kids’ undivided attention. I try to use it to my advantage!