Pardon me as I dust myself off and come out of the Hellobee woodwork…September always turns me into a bit of a recluse as I get caught up in the busyness of the start of a new school year. This September I was even more exhausted than usual as I returned to work full-time after two years of working part-time, and as I helped Lil’ CB adjust to a full-day of school, too!
The first month of school is always hard for new Kindergartners. It’s often mentally, physically, and emotionally exhausting and most 5 year-olds have to ease into the transition. As a Kindergarten teacher, I know that the first month of school is all about adjusting and transitioning to a new school, new teacher, new friends, and new routines, and that any academic learning that happens on top of that adjustment is icing on the cake! Just kidding. Kinda.
Lil’ CB now has his first month of Kindergarten under his belt and I’m happy to say that he’s had a great transition! Here are some thing that have helped make that transition smooth:
1. Sleep: More than ever, I am protective of Lil’ CB’s sleep. He stopped napping long ago, but still had an hour of “quiet time” daily before school started. Now that he is at school all day, he no longer has his quiet time, so when he comes home, he’s quite exhausted from a busy day of learning! Since the start of school, we have gone back to a pretty strict bedtime of 7:30. We were more lax about bedtime in the summer, and Lil’ CB was going to bed anytime between 7:30 and 8:45. Once we were a week away from school starting, we went back to 7:30 bedtimes and have stuck with them since. Lil’ CB is out like a light and asleep within minutes if not seconds of me leaving his room after his bedtime stories and prayers. He sleeps for about 11 hours, which means he is waking up at around 6:30am. This gives him a good hour in the morning before we leave for school. And it also brings me to my next point!
2. Maintaining a regular morning routine: While Lil’ CB can go from 0 to 60 in about 1 second flat, he does best in the mornings when he’s had some downtime to ease into the day. Right now, because he’s sleeping earlier, he’s waking up with ample time to slowly get ready. He wakes up, comes downstairs, and lays on the couch with his lovey and chats with me while I make his breakfast and lunch. Then, he eats his breakfast, does his morning chores (feeding the dog and packing his backpack), and heads upstairs to brush his teeth and put on his clothes. By the time he’s done with all of that, he’s got about 15-25 minutes left until we have to head out the door. Since he’s had some time to play and hang out, he’s happy to get going to school without making a fuss or dragging his heels. On the two occasions that he’s slept in a bit later, our mornings were not pretty!
3. Packing favorite foods: Lil’ CB is a champion eater and has been used to eating a packed lunch at school for the past two years. However, in preschool, he ate in his classroom, whereas now, he is eating in the big, giant school cafeteria. And, since the teacher to student ratio is greater in the cafeteria and there are more students in there at once, there is a lot more to distract my little guy. By packing some of his favorite foods for the first few days, I could make sure he was getting a good lunch and also give him something to look forward to come lunchtime. Thankfully, his lunches have been coming back fully eaten almost every day!
4. Limiting weekday activities: When Lil’ CB was in preschool, we’d often go to afternoon activities or playdates because we’d still have a good 5 hours until dinnertime. Now, with school ending at 2:50 and us leaving school closer to 3:45 after finishing up prep for the next day, we’re down to a mere 2 hours until dinner. On top of that, Lil’ CB is exhausted at the end of the school day! Because of that, other than soccer practice once a week, we limit weekday activities and head home, which allows for…
5. Ample play time/down time at home: I swear, when Lil’ CB gets home, it’s like he’s missed his own toys and books and he’s happy to just play quietly on his own in order to decompress from 7 hours at school. We’ll get outside and play, too, but the important thing is that we’re not really doing anything structured. Young children need unstructured, self-directed playtime to balance out the structured routines at school. I always tell my students that their homework is to go home, play, and have an adventure. Plenty of play time allows for a mental and emotional break that will then prepare them for another day at school. In fact, since school has started, our late afternoons and evenings have been so much more enjoyable than in the summer when late afternoons/evenings would often bring on a giant whinefest!
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While a lot of these tips might seem like no-brainers, they have made Lil’ CB’s transition to school a smooth one and they are also ones that I often recommend to Kindergarten parents early in the year. And I’m hoping and praying that a smooth transition into Kindergarten means he’ll continue to have a great year!
squash / 13208 posts
We only have 1/2 day and the he does K Enrichment at DCP but I must say for the 1st time in his 6 years of life he is sleeping well!! School must be why!
persimmon / 1472 posts
These are great tips! DD isn’t in school yet but we recently transitioned her to full day daycare and I think we need to work on the morning routine. We’ve been trying to let her sleep in but that resulted in meltdowns so my husband has been trying to wake her up and get her ready more gradually, which helped. It makes sense now!
The homework part worries me a bit. I have friends with kids in pre-k and kindergarten that is getting homework sent home daily if not 2-3 times a week, which seems like more structured time (especially when the parent doesn’t get to work on the homework with them until close to dinner/bedtime due to work schedules). How do the kids get to wind down and prepare for next day when they are doing homework for an hour every night on top of school? It seems like pre-k and kindergarten has gotten so much more aggressive. I’m sorry if I am rambling but since you are a school teacher, I just wanted to see your thoughts on how to handle that balance when homework starts.
admin / watermelon / 14210 posts
Our problem is that we don’t have enough time in the mornings and evenings. We usually have to wake Charlie up about 7:50, and get out the door by 8:25, and I wish we had more like an hour because we’re always rushing!
Also in the evenings after dinner and bath, he barely gets any time to play because we go into his room at 7pm to read books. He’s in an after school program that he absolutely adores, but we can’t pick him up earlier than 5:30 which means not that much evening time.
Such busy lives our little ones lead!
squash / 13208 posts
@littleveesmommy: My Kindergartener gets 1 homework sheet on Wednsday and that’s it.
The principal told us at orientation that for the older kids teachers keep it to 10 mins per grade level – so 10 mins in 1st grade and 20 mins in 2nd, etc.
This year they are experimenting with the 6th graders and not doing any homework! ALL work will be performed in the classroom!!
GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts
I am also wondering about homework. DD just started getting daily homework in pre-K. She’s been too pooped to do it after school so we’ve been squeezing it in every morning. It’s hard! CB doesn’t have any homework?
kiwi / 511 posts
My oldest is in full day daycare (pre-k program) and he still gets his nap. He also gets “Homework” it is a packet of work that is not required and sometimes we get to it and sometimes we don’t. It is mostly practicing writing his name and some colors etc. Nothing too bad, he doesn’t mind doing it since I got some TMNT pencils, but if we parents don’t have the time it just doesn’t get done no biggie.
He will go to all day kindergarten next year and I read through our districts kindergarten packet this year. They don’t have an official “nap time” they do provide quiet time so we should send in a blanket/mat combo for our student.
blogger / nectarine / 2687 posts
@littleveesmommy: @Mamaof2: @Andrea: at our school, we do not send home homework in Kindergarten. and to be honest, i hate homework! in fact, i wrote an entire post about it last year! http://www.hellobee.com/2013/02/07/the-case-against-homework/
i find homework to be too overwhelming and ineffective at this young of an age! homework should not be a chore and should not be something that is labored over. if homework is sent home, it should be quick and independent. and since there is not much that can be authentic, independent work at 5 and 6 years old, i don’t think homework has a place.
unfortunately, many teachers feel pressured to send homework…but i don’t think it would be wrong to speak with a teacher about any concerns you have about homework!
blogger / cherry / 247 posts
we’re a few years away from this, but the way you’ve laid it out seems really approachable and not scary!! thank you.
GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts
@Mrs. Cowgirl: the teachers have said that we could request no homework, but it really does only take 10 minutes max so I’ve been dealing with it for now. I’ll definitely speak up if it gets to be unbearable!
We also experienced the same thing in the summer with the evening whinefests. Why do you think that is? It was so bad that I thought we were going through some terrible 4’s phase, but things have gotten back to normal with school, whew!
blogger / eggplant / 11551 posts
Kindergarten is right around the corner for us, so thanks for this! I would LOVE for Noelle to go back to a 7:30-8 pm bedtime. Right now she sleeps at 9:30-10, and it’s probably because 1) she’s still taking a 2 hour afternoon nape, and 2) not enough stimulation.
I hope we can work towards adjusting that bedtime as she gets closer to school aged years.
admin / watermelon / 14210 posts
@Mrs. Cowgirl: charlie actually had homework in pre-k, but he hasn’t had homework yet in k other than a project so far. i hate homework too and hope he doesn’t get any!