You may not know this about adoption, but in many states it takes months to make an adoption officially legal. In our state of Tennessee, you cannot make an adoption official until the child has been in your custody for at least 6 months. So, if you do an agency adoption, after the birthmother signs papers to terminate her parental rights, even though the child is in the adoptive parents’ custody, the agency technically has parental rights until you go to court and transfer rights to the adoptive parents.
It sounds complicated, but in my opinion, it’s a good system. We had to have at least two home visits from our social worker in the course of those 6 months to be sure that all was going well. I like this because it gives birthparents and everyone involved the assurance that the adoptive parents have the support they need, and that they are also caring for the child and meeting all of his/her needs. After those 6 months and two visits have passed, you also need to hire an attorney to represent you in court so that a judge will sign the paperwork to officially change the name (and birth certificate even!) of the child to be forever in your family.
And today was our day at court! It’s not often that going to court is a joyous occasion, but of course it was today for us. Our Sweet P if now legally and officially our daughter and her name has been legally changed to have our last name. My parents, sister, and our social worker were able to come too, so it was so wonderful to have family there to celebrate with us (and take pictures). The judge asked us questions to be sure we would raise her as if she came from my own body, and of course we gave an enthusiastic ‘yes’!
We had the same judge that finalized Little Pinata’s adoption too!
We are so happy this day has arrived and are so grateful for our official family of 4!
admin / wonderful grape / 20724 posts
CONGRATULATIONS!!!
Wouldn’t it be amazing if all families had to go through a legal process to determine that they were taking care of their baby’s needs, and they had the support they needed? It seems unfair that only adoptive families go through this level of scrutiny!
Amazing news, and what a great picture with the judge!!
pomegranate / 3779 posts
Congratulations! In our county, they do all of the adoption finalizations on the same day and bring balloons and cupcakes so it’s a big, happy party. I’m glad y’all had a happy day in court!
eggplant / 11716 posts
Awww….congratulations!!
pear / 1770 posts
Congrats! What a wonderful photo!
grapefruit / 4997 posts
Congratulations! You have such a beautiful family.
pear / 1622 posts
Congratulations! Love the photo!
blogger / pomegranate / 3044 posts
Hooray!! The kids are getting so big!
pomegranate / 3225 posts
congrats! So exciting!
blogger / nectarine / 2600 posts
Yay so happy for your family!!
kiwi / 511 posts
Congratulations that is awesome. Court dates are so exciting when they are happy like this.
blogger / pomegranate / 3491 posts
Congrats!! You have such a beautiful family, and I am so happy for you
pear / 1696 posts
How wonderful! Love the photo of your family
blogger / nectarine / 2687 posts
Such wonderful news!!! So happy for you guys!
kiwi / 558 posts
Yayyyy! Congrats to your “official” family of 4!!!
blogger / eggplant / 11551 posts
SO wonderful!!! Congratulations!!!!~!!!
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Congratulations! What a special day!
pear / 1558 posts
Congrats!! What a special day for your family.
pea / 9 posts
Oh so exciting! That´s a wonderful picture!
blogger / persimmon / 1225 posts
Yay, congrats!!
coconut / 8079 posts
Congratulations!!!!
pineapple / 12566 posts
Congratulations! What a beautiful family!
blogger / pear / 1563 posts
@mrbee: Yes, agreed! @mrs.shinerbock: Oh that’s so sweet! There were two adoptions the day we finalized. The rest was divorces.
Thank you all so much!
GOLD / wonderful pea / 17697 posts
@Mrs. Pinata: Congratulations!!!
grapefruit / 4731 posts
Congrats!! Such a beautiful family!
blogger / kiwi / 588 posts
A huge CONGRATS! Lovely family pic!
blogger / apricot / 367 posts
Congrats! Your family is so beautiful!
apricot / 377 posts
You guys are gorgeous! Congratulations. So wonderful!