Parenthood is exhausting, but I’m really proud of the way Mr. Ice Cream and I are raising M. It’s fair to say that most days we are raising a pretty happy kid. That’s why when Mr. Ice Cream had a work related trip to San Francisco, we jumped at the chance to drop M off with his grandparents, Pops and Bebe, in Chicago. But this was going to be a trip loaded with firsts – first flight, first night away from home, first extended time away from us – so needless to say my anxiety was at an all time high. But like most things in life, reality rarely meets expectations.
THE FLIGHT
Expectation
A number of people gave us the advice to travel early, but we didn’t really take it to heart. When M was 4 months old we took him on his first road trip to Chicago (14 hours). Even though we split the driving across two days, the drive was anything but easy. M had just started sitting up and was not happy being strapped in a carseat. That problem has only gotten worse now that he is older and is in perpetual motion.
I kept telling myself that all kids are different and that one friend’s horror story wasn’t necessarily going to translate to M. But in reality there is no way to know how your child is going to react to a new experience. I naturally assumed the worst and tried to plan for everything.
Reality
We gave M a dose of Tylenol in the morning in case his ears bothered him. We arrived at the airport early so M could run around. Two outfit changes later M was rubbing his eyes as our flight was being called to board. Everything was going as planned, then an announcement came on that our flight was delayed for an unknown amount of time. For the next hour and a half, we used every trick to keep M awake and entertained. Somehow we succeeded and boarded the plane with an exhausted baby. M fell asleep before the plane took off and woke up as the plane was taxiing to the gate at our destination. I breathed a huge sigh of relief. We made it through M’s first flight
TAKE AWAYS
- I don’t know if the Tylenol was necessary, but until M can tell us the pressure doesn’t bother him, I don’t see any harm in giving him Tylenol before a flight.
- Don’t worry about getting your child an exciting new toy. You are going to have an unbelievable amount of luggage already. If your child is like mine, then the on-flight magazine or whatever is in your purse will be exciting enough.
- Check your bags!
- Special Snacks. While special snacks are great, they only distract your child for about 5 minutes.
CARRY-ON ESSENTIALS.
Here are the items that helped us the most.
- Munchkin Disposable Changing Pads – We use the changing pad that came with our diaper bag but these disposable pads were perfect for traveling.
- Take & Toss Sippy Cups and Take & Toss Bowls with Lids
- Muslin Swaddle Blankets – Our swaddle days are over, but these blankets are thin, pack easily and are perfect to lay your baby on in the plane.
THE HANDOFF
Expectation
The plan was to drop M with Pops and Bebe near baggage claim and circle back through security during our 1 hour layover. Since Mr. Ice Cream was on a work trip and therefore couldn’t miss our next flight, we decided I would take M and his things down to the meeting point, then rush back up through security and (hopefully) join Mr. Ice Cream on the flight to San Fran.
Reality
We walked off the plane and Pops and Bebe were standing there waiting for us (with a huge bag of Garett’s popcorn!)! They were able to get guest passes to go through security. We kissed M goodbye, he happily reached for Pops and left us without a tear.
SLEEPING IN A NEW ROOM
Expectation
M is a pretty easy going baby, but he had never spent the night away from home. We were confident he would have a great week with his grandparents, but we were nervous how he would sleep in a new house and a new room.
Reality
Bebe went above and beyond to make M’s room away from home comfortable. And he slept like a baby. Here are some of the details she added.
Max’s room at Pops and Bebe. I love the mobile Bebe made from old ties.
Rocking chair that used to belong to Mr. Ice Cream.
Once we were in San Francisco, Mr. Ice Cream and I fell into our child-free days amazingly easily and had a great and relaxing time. How did your first trip away from baby go?
cantaloupe / 6730 posts
You can get guest passes to go past security? In a post 9-11 world? What kind of magic is this??
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22646 posts
We went on our first trip away when DS was 18 months for a week in the Caribbean. It was MAGIC. My mom who is our primary caretaker watched DS for us… we’re so grateful because we both needed a “just us” trip. We had wifi at the resort and were able to text/etc to check in. DS had a great time and so did we!
nectarine / 2173 posts
We’ve had a couple 1-2 day overnights away from LO in her first year. I consider them trial runs for a longer trip in the future.
blogger / apricot / 250 posts
@Grace: I was surprised too! I didn’t look into it because I assumed it wasn’t possible. But they just asked and showed an email with our flight confirmation.
pomelo / 5084 posts
I really love that framed print! Did your in-laws make it??
blogger / apricot / 367 posts
Sounds like a great trip for everyone
And so sweet how your in-laws made everything welcoming for your son!
cherry / 108 posts
One word: jealous!
My husband and i have yet to do an overnight together and my oldest will be 3 in july
Now with me nursing a 4 month old, it’s going to be a while longer!
P.S. I looove how thoughtful the grandparents were in making such a beautiful room for Max! Jealous again! Lol
pear / 1521 posts
Love the nursery at your parents!
It was great timing reading this post as we’re about to take our first trip without our LO in a couple weeks. She’s staying with my parents for the two nights we’ll be gone, luckily they watch her at their house already twice a week so she’s used to being there.
Question, what sort of contact did you have with your LO while you were gone? I have been thinking about facetiming but not sure if it will be confusing for her or harder for us!
blogger / nectarine / 2043 posts
@petitenoisette: how old is your LO? Mine was a bit past 2 when hubby and I first went away (3 nights) and we did FaceTime her. She understood that mommy and daddy were on a trip and was really excited to say hi and tell us about her adventures with bubbie (grandma).
nectarine / 2436 posts
My goodness, what a beautiful nursery! My mom has a used Pack n Play filled with dangerous “toys” for the baby (He’s 11 weeks.) Sigh.
pear / 1521 posts
@Mrs. Carrot: She’s only 13 months so not too chatty!
I figure we can always try it and if she gets upset Grandma can probably quickly distract her and she won’t remember!
blogger / apricot / 250 posts
@petitenoisette: We debated Facetiming and end up trying it. We were all nervous but honestly Max was so busy with his new toys he barely paid attention to us!
blogger / apricot / 250 posts
@wrkbrk: My mother-in-law is incredibly crafty and creative! I was blown away when she sent pictures of Max’s room, especially since we only gave them 3 weeks notice!