I think I’ve successfully sleep trained Baby Pizza. It’s only been two weeks, so I may be writing this prematurely and regret saying so in a few weeks. We are also traveling this week, so I’m not sure how that will impact Baby Pizza’s recent sleep changes. But I decided to share anyway because I am so relieved that it worked and that she has been sleeping through the night.
I shared about Baby Pizza’s sleep in this post when she was 7 months old and it only got worse as time progressed. The middle of the night wakings were getting especially difficult because what worked to put her to sleep for a few weeks would all too quickly stop being effective and I would resort to trying a new tactic. I used to be able to feed her a bottle, put her right in the crib awake, and she would drift to sleep. But then she started to sit up and cry for longer periods. I started to change my methods so that I could get her to completely fall asleep before I left her room; I was putting my hand on her chest, rocking her, walking around with her in the carrier, and that’s just to name a few.
On one particular night, I was nearing my breaking point. I had just left Baby Pizza’s room at 4am after trying to get her to fall back asleep for two hours. It was the third night in a row that it took nearly two hours to get her to fall back asleep. I climbed into bed, so frustrated and googled something like, “why does my 13 month old not sleep through the night” and came across forums where moms were saying that their 2 year old’s were still waking up frequently in the night. As I imagined still waking up in the middle of the night for another year, I decided it was time to do something about it. The lack of sleep was impacting me in significant ways. I was waking up irritated and exhausted EVERY morning; Mr. Pizza and I were getting more snippy with each other; the idea of Mr. Pizza and I both leaving the girls with someone, even once they were asleep, stressed me out because I didn’t know when Baby Pizza would wake up and what would actually help her fall back asleep. I even started to think that maybe she had some sort of sleep disorder or that I just needed to accept that she was simply a poor sleeper.
I knew I needed to at least give sleep training a try. I kept putting it off, hoping she would be able to figure it out on her own eventually. I read in this post that her current age was a good time to sleep train, so I told myself that I would start as soon as we settled back from our trip. In the meantime, I started to work on slowly eliminating her night feedings (which didn’t seem like it was helping much anymore). I also wasn’t sure how to best tackle sleep training, so I put Solve Your Child’s Sleep Problems on hold at the library since I heard parents talk about being successful with the Ferber method.
I had this all sort of planned out, but then two weeks ago, I woke up at 2 am to Baby Pizza crying. I looked over at the monitor and just turned the sound off. I was SO tired. I could still hear her crying, but my body was not wanting to move. I laid awake for an hour while she cried and then I drifted off to sleep (which I’m hoping happened because she quieted down and fell asleep right around then too).
I was so excited when I woke up the next morning at 5:30 am by her voice. Although it wasn’t my intention to sleep train before my trip, I wanted that night to count for something, so the next night, I did the same thing. I let her cry it out in the middle of the night and she cried for about 20 minutes and fell asleep. Naps were difficult that day and when we put her down for the night, she screamed on and off for almost 30 min. I remember hearing that sleep training is most difficult on the second or third day, so I pressed on. When she woke in the middle of the night, it took Baby Pizza 10 min to fall back asleep.
After that night, I haven’t heard much crying. Every so often, she still sits up and cries, but she has gotten much better and faster at falling back asleep. She has also gotten more comfortable with her bedtime routine. We read a few books and then I sing “Amazing Grace” while I hold her. She usually leans in towards the crib while I sing as if she is telling me that it’s okay for me to put her down. I then lay her down, finish the song and then say “goodnight, I love you” and walk out of the room. And then I see her again 11 hours later!!! Seriously, it’s amazing! Naps have improved as well. Sometimes, she will start making quiet, crying sounds and sit up for 3-5 minutes and then I’ll check the monitor again only to see that she has fallen back asleep. Her naps are now about 1-1.5 hours long.
I didn’t do the Ferber method of checking in at increasing intervals, but I quickly realized that I would have a difficult time with consistently doing his method in the middle of the night when I’m feeling like a zombie. Even though Baby Pizza is sleeping through the night, I have still been reading sections of the book because it has helped me to see some of the obstacles I was creating when trying to put her back to sleep throughout the night.
I’m really hoping the traveling doesn’t change her sleeping habits too much. But for now, I will celebrate this win!
If you needed to sleep train, did your sleep training method go as planned?
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I’m glad that sleep training is going well. I hope that both girls sleep though the night so that you can get rest!
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I am currently going through the same problem as you. I don’t know if I have the strength to let her cry. Plus, my kid is in the room next to us. Excuses I guess. I’m glad it worked for you and baby pizza, and am curious to see how she does on her trip. Good luck!
apricot / 288 posts
We went through this too. We were still doing a middle of the night bottle just past 12 months but wanted to be done with formula and didn’t want to do milk in the middle of the night. So we started giving him a sippy cup with water (or very watered down pedialyte – just for taste) when he would wake in the middle of the night. He eventually decided on his own that he didn’t want the cup and he began sleeping through the night.
Recently, at nearly 18 months, we have been dealing with night waking, some of it travel related, but it seems to resolve itself quicker because we know he CAN sleep through the night.
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Woo hoo!!!!!
pomelo / 5621 posts
That is awesome. Glad you are getting more sleep. Hopefully traveling doesn’t mess things up too bad.
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I had a similar experience with my older daughter, who I worried for a long time ago. She woke up between her nap every 2 hours through out the night and day and was always very hard control. After about 2 week I found a lot information, i decide to change many things to help her sleep better. (food, habit, sound, light). And it’s work.
blogger / apricot / 431 posts
@reyorra: I think that has to be my mentality when I return from our trip if things turn out tough again…she CAN sleep through the night!
@jewel eliese: I would totally sleep the farthest away from her room if possible when doing it. I think I just decided to sleep train that night bc even though she was crying for a long period of time, she wasn’t screaming or gagging from crying so much which she did at times….so I took it as a sign that it will be a good night to try. I think if I heard her screaming too much, I would have stopped. Hope you get some sleep soon!
blogger / apricot / 367 posts
Yay so happy to hear it’s still going well!! Hope you guys have a great trip and a smooth sleep transition!
nectarine / 2243 posts
We did this. If it helps bolster anyones confidence, we also live in an apartment with neighbors above and below and we all survived. I know they probably hated me for 72 hours, but I figured 72 hours was better than YEARS.
wonderful olive / 19353 posts
That’s awesome! My 3yo still doesn’t STTN and only has one handful of times. Unfortunately, DS cries until he throws up so sleep training was never an option for us. He threw up 4x in one night that resulted in 4 baths and 4 bed sheet changes. With both of us working, we said no more to sleep training. DH and I are always exhausted, but don’t know what else to do at this point. Sigh. Pedi said he may start STTN when he’s 5 so 2 more years to go…
blogger / apricot / 431 posts
@Alivoo01: That sounds so tough. On that particular night, Baby Pizza wasn’t screaming or dry heaving from crying so much…so that made me feel like I should sort of take advantage of that particular night. I hope he will STTN sooner than what your pedi said!!
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I have a same problem as you. But I never try to do something like you. But after reading this post, I think I need to do something better for myself. Thank you