Hello Hive! It’s been a while since I have updated you all on our family, but we have had some big changes!
Things have been a little wild in the Lion household for the last few months, for the best possible reason! In February we got a long awaited phone call and brought home two precious siblings to share our home for a while, turning our family of 4 into a family of 6 instantaneously. We were as prepared as we could be, but you can never be fully prepared for bringing a new child (or children) into your life.
I have started to write this post a million times, but writing about someone else’s babies is different. I want to share so much with you about foster care. About how beautiful it is, but also how messy. That room that I posted about last year, it isn’t empty anymore. It is divided in half, and both sides are filled with life. When I reread through that post and remember the times I spent on my knees waiting for and praying for these children, it is almost too much to even put into words.
I hope to be able to figure out a way to share my own story as a foster parent without sharing too much of theirs, because I think that the more the world knows about what it is really like, the less scary it will seem to others who may be able to share their home in the same way, or at least support those around them who enter into this adventure. What I can share now is that our kiddos are 10 and 11, older than the age we had planned on, but we are so thankful for the big age gap. Turns out big kids are pretty awesome, and it has been such a joy getting to know them. Our littles adore them, and they have so much fun playing together. But the gap is big enough that the big kids can also go off on their own and do “big kid stuff” and it doesn’t bother the littles that they are left out.
In a flash, they have been with us for more than 5 months. When they came to us, the social worker said to expect 6-12 months, and at the time that seemed like forever. But guys, I realized today that our time with them is so limited. These little lights in my life, they are only here for a short time. My Facebook feed is full of mommas saying goodbye to their high school graduates as they launch them into the world. And in just a short time, I will be doing the same with these little people that I have come to love so much. I know it isn’t the same. But man, it didn’t take long at all for these kiddos to blend into our family and it feels like they have always been here. Saying goodbye is going to be impossibly hard, but I would not change a thing.
In addition to our family growing, our littles are growing at what feels like lightning pace. Little Lion is getting ready to start Kindergarten in the fall, and Baby Lion isn’t a baby at all anymore…she is now 3 and a half! We have been through a long few years with Little Lion, trying to figure out more about the way his brain and body work (more about that in a future post), and I am very thankful for an awesome year of Pre-K that prepared us for school, an IEP team that loves him and wants the best for him, and the team of doctors we have worked with to help us get to the root of what is going on. We still don’t have definite answers, but our lives have become significantly easier with supports in place and we are so grateful. Baby Lion (I feel like she needs a different blog name now haha) is cheery and cuddly and full of life. We are officially out of the baby/toddler stage, and it feels so free! A little bittersweet, but mostly we are just really enjoying entering into the big kid years. We are hiking and traveling again, and I feel like we are finally getting our footing in this whole life as a family thing.
As for me and Mr. Lion, we both have had work transitions in addition to our move to the country last year. During the last school year I decided to give it a try being back in the classroom, but being a classroom teacher is just too intense with 4 kids at home and I won’t be returning next year. I love teaching, but spending my days with 29 ten year olds all day left me drained and exhausted by the time I got home from work. Add in all the appointments that come with kids with special needs and foster family visits, and I felt like my brain has been on fire for months. Starting in August I will begin graduate classes to add an additional certification to my teaching license so that I can specialize in just one area, so I am looking forward to that this fall! In the mean time I will be working part time from home for now, unless a flexible full time opportunity presents itself. I used to be a person who planned far into the future, but being a grown up in the world long enough has showed me that plans are best held lightly.
Our house is full, loud, and crazy, but so full of love and I wouldn’t want it any other way. I am glad to be back as part of this community and would love to share more of our adventures in the months to come :).
blogger / apricot / 431 posts
What exciting news! Thanks for sharing your family’s story. I am intrigued to hear more about your experience. I completely agree that as you share, it will make the idea of fostering less scary…and probably also get more people more and more open to being a foster parent.
wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts
I would love to know more about your kids’ adjustment to all of this! Foster/adoption has been on my mind for a long time but I feel like it’s precisely because of HB and all the wonderful (and honest) sharing that pushes me daily towards realizing it one day. My one concern too is with 2 working parents, will we really have the energy and emotional capacity to take this on!
persimmon / 1381 posts
Congrats on becoming a foster family! Would love to hear more about your journey, if you’re able to share! I volunteer at a free store for foster families in my neighborhood and I never really knew much about fostering before that.
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I’m happy to hear things are well! I look forward to hearing more from your perspective as a foster parent. Thank you for sharing your story!
nectarine / 2047 posts
Great post! I also would love to hear more!
blogger / grapefruit / 4836 posts
@snowjewelz: I am going to write a post about this. All of the internet advice said to not foster/adopt out of birth order but we think that bringing in kiddos younger would have been infinitely harder, and our kids adore the big kids so it has been such a great experience for all of us.
We both work too and the scheduling of all the things has definitely been a challenge but not insurmountable. I might be able to do a post about that too. I decided to leave teaching because it is the opposite of flexible, but even then we were able to make it work. Social workers have been super helpful with transportation.
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pomelo / 5621 posts
Really good to see a post from you. I can’t believe how big your kids have got. What a crazy but wonderful year you’ve had. I look forward to reading more about your fostering journey.
wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts
@Mrs. Lion: Thank you! I can’t wait! I feel like HB has been such a wealth of knowledge of all things that go BEFORE the actual foster/adoption, so now that I’m “clear” on the front end stuff, I’m super curious actual life! I think adoption is “easier” since it’s permanent but I know with fostering there are so many extra requirements.
kiwi / 705 posts
So glad to see this update! I’d love to read anything you can share about fostering! We are in the process of getting certified and I finally understand why there are so few stories out there, our county doesn’t let us share anything!
apricot / 279 posts
Reading the title, I thought you were having twins =)
congrats on getting to where you wanted to be as foster parents, how wonderful you are doing this.
blogger / grapefruit / 4836 posts
@Snowybreeze: We essentially did add twins, just not the baby kind
The kids are very close in age, same grade at school, share a room, and are essentially parented the same you would with twins
Far less sleep deprivation though!
blogger / grapefruit / 4836 posts
@JCCovi: It’s an interesting line to walk. I will be sharing more about my own experience than theirs, but I definitely have to read everything I write through lots of different filters. I really want to share because I think it will really help people have a better understanding and may help others navigate the system, but its a delicate balancing act for sure.
coffee bean / 38 posts
@Mrs Lion – Thank so much for sharing. We just closed our home today after being an open home for over four years. Being a foster home is one of the best decisions we have ever made.