Hellobee

Given that I’m on public transport much of the time here in Taipei, I’ve fallen even more deeply in love with Audible and have recently been a huge fan of Dr. Laura Markham’s, Peaceful Parents, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling And Start Connecting. Originally, I was searching for tips in nonviolent communication, since growing up […]

Dear Fellow Mother About to Get Divorced, You love your child SO much. You love your child so much that you stayed in a marriage long after you knew you should leave, because you wanted the very best for your little ones — not because you love yourself least. You are strong. You are courageous. […]

This morning, I opened up my underwear drawer and stopped — my husband and I currently live in a high-rise apartment building in Taiwan, and we’re also preparing to get a divorce. It can be challenging to be sharing the same space with the person you’ve decided to part ways from, and we’re doing this as […]

Growing up in a Chinese-American home, I wasn’t ever taught that I had needs worth validating. My needs were supposed to be whatever the adults in my household believed they should be. It’s no wonder then, that I’ve had problems into adulthood from relationships to career opportunities expressing exactly what I want — sometimes, I […]

Growing up, my parents raged at each other — and us. It set a precedent for not understanding anger or how to deal with it from an early age, so that the only thing I thought about being upset was that it was dangerous to feel that way or be around that energy. As I […]

When we moved off of Kauai in Hawaii, we got ourselves a gently used 1984 Toyota Warrior Winnebago (that we named Summer) to drive around the mainland of the United States. My then-husband, 1.5 year old daughter, and I packed up everything we owned, placed them into the cupboards of a 24’ van, and set […]

A couple of months ago, I was playing with my three-year-old daughter in her bedroom, then walked out to the living room to pick out several of the crystals I have decorating our home. I quietly put them in my hand, went back into her room, then told my daughter to close her eyes, use […]