You may remember that Little Jacks has been taking naps on her dad while babywearing for the last 2 years. She also has slept through the night only twice since she was 4 months old. We were terrified about adding an infant to this mix, and the impact of our new addition on our already fragmented sleep.
I’m pleased to say we’ve had a number of sleep successes lately. I don’t know if there are lessons to be learned for others, but I thought I’d share in case there are tips that might help someone else!
With Jack Jack, we have practiced really good sleep hygiene from the beginning (since we’ve learned from our mistakes). We set a nap routine and a bedtime routine including bath, swaddle, bottle. When she’s drowsy (but not yet asleep), we set her in the crib with the white noise machine on and binky in her mouth. I remember when Little Jacks squirmed or grunted or fussed a little at this age, we’d go pick her up. But we’ve been better with Jack Jack and wait until she’s really declared herself awake and mad before we go intervene. What do you know? She never really gets to that point and usually ends up asleep without so much as a peep.
Jack Jack’s nighttime swaddle and binky. I wish you could hear the white noise!
Here’s our current schedule for Jack Jack: morning nap from 9 to 10, afternoon nap from 1-3 and sometimes a catnap between 5:30-6 pm. Then we put her down for the night very faithfully at 7:30. Previously she was waking at 1:30 am and then again at 3:30 am. At 2.5 months we figured that she now had enough fat reserve to sleep most of the way through the night, so at 1:30 am we now go put the binky back in, pat her, restart the white noise and wait for her to fall back asleep. It’s been working like a charm! Since we started this, she happily sleeps from 7:30 pm to 3:30 am. At 3:30 she’ll take 4 ounces of formula and then sleeps again until 6:30. It’s made a huge difference in our quality of life, and I hope it continues!
Also, something miraculous happened with Little Jacks. About a month before her second birthday, she finally began tolerating being taken out of babywearing and doing the rest of her nap on the bed! She still has a really hard time falling asleep on the bed, so often we’ll wear her for the first 10 minutes of the nap and then transfer her to the bed for the rest of it. This has made a huge difference in Mr. Jacks’ quality of life and I’m so glad for it.
Another thing that really helped was a recommendation by Ms.SK . She suggested these paper black out curtains from Home Depot. As soon as I learned about them, I ran out and got 4 sets. The guy at Home Depot was very skeptical that this was the right solution for us, but we have very tricky windows. I’ve been searching for curtains that will work for our windows since we moved here. These blinds may be the only workable solution for us without investing in custom blinds. We brought them home and installed them in 10 minutes. The result is that Little Jacks’ naps have lengthened from 1 hour to up to 3 hours in duration. She’s been a happier girl and has had an improved temperament since we got them. Thank you Ms.SK!
Example of our windows. We’ve redone the rooms since we took these pictures, but the windows are the same.
Once LJ’s nap routine stabilized, and she got used to having Jack Jack at home, she began sleeping through the night. At first we thought it was a fluke, but it’s real… every night! I have to think that fully weaning her from nighttime breast milk has had something to do with it as well. You see, we had continued her nighttime feed until Jack Jack arrived in the hope that I could achieve a zippylef and relactate to give Jack Jack breast milk, but I never made enough to make it worthwhile (and that’s a topic for another post!). When we finally cut LJ off from that, magically her nighttime sleep consolidated.
Take heart, breastfeeding moms who have nighttime wakers. It will get better!
Have you had sleep success lately? Please share any tips and tricks in the comments!
olive / 63 posts
I honestly feel like this post is an advertisement against baby-wearing-sleeping! It is crazy that she is almost two and has only slept through the night twice! I feel like that is not healthy for you or her! I am so glad that the little one is going to be easier! People get so upset about sleep training but I truly think that a few nights of CIO is SO much better than two years of sleep interruption…..
hostess / watermelon / 14932 posts
I’m going to check out these paper black out curtains! We have a half-window on the floor in LO’s room (slanted ceilings, old house) that I do not want to pay to have custom blackout curtains for! Thanks!
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Please know that I am not an expert in any way whatsoever but I thought I’d give you one piece of information that I have found super useful. I noticed that you said you “restart the white noise” at 1:30am for Jack Jack – it was my understanding that the white noise should be continuous all night long, not one that turns off after a certain period of time. I think the point is with the continuous white noise is that if they wake up/stir around they will hear the noise and it will be just like the environment they fell asleep in and then they (hopefully!) will go right back to sleep. Just a suggestion/thought/idea!! Glad things are working much better for you!!
wonderful clementine / 24134 posts
Thanks, we are still EBFing at 9 months and still not consistently Sleeping through the night…. I’m ready for some rest.
blogger / pomelo / 5400 posts
@Thehistoryofus: Neither does Baby Y at 11 months
He usually only wakes up once, but I still have to nurse him about half the time, I’d say. Though that is an improvement over all the time.
blogger / watermelon / 14218 posts
hurrayyyyyy for sleep successes!!!! Your routine and methods with the binky and white noise for Jack Jack is exactly how we got Wagon Jr. to sleep through the night. Instead of night feedings, once he was OKed by the pediatrician to go the night without nutritionally needing a feeding, we just gave him the binky instead and he’s slept thru the night ever since!
The two pics of Little Jacks and Jack Jack are SO adorable. Nothing better than the sight of a peacefully sleeping child!!!
pomelo / 5178 posts
Ok, you’ve definitely inspired me to work harder on DS’s sleep routine! I admit that I have gotten a little lax (probably why he’s not sleeping as well as he could be), but I’m recommitting myself and I’m going to work harder at this! I’m so impressed that Maisie puts herself to sleep and only gets up once a night at 3 months old…
And yay for Lala! I’m sure it’s such a huge relief to have her (finally!) sleeping through the night and napping somewhere other than on you/Mr. Jacks!
hostess / wonderful honeydew / 32460 posts
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS POST!!! You give me hope!!!
My goal is to have LO sleeping through the night before baby #2 arrives.
ps. LOVE the pic of Lala sleeping. HAHA. I cross my legs in my sleep too! (according to DH).
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
@chicagowife: In a sense you’re right, I don’t recommend babywearing for every nap… but our nighttime issues and our daytime issues were really two different things. During the day, Mr. Jacks was working at home and had no time to put little Jacks to sleep, so if an alternative didn’t work, he went right back to what did work. The nighttime issues were more a product of having the milk source (me) in the bed next to the milk eater
It’s nice to have it all sorted out now!
And as for CIO, it may work for some, but definitely wasn’t an option for us. LJ would only escalate and never calm down… It was far more awful than some lost sleep
Crummy sleep due to babies is a lot nicer than being on call all night! (And I’ve had interrupted sleep a lot longer than I’ve had babies… due to my call schedule). I do think Mr. Jacks and I will look back on our sleep challenges fondly in the future!
@sorrycharlie: They’ve really worked for us!
@Colleen: I agree- the sleep sheep is not the ideal white noise machine, but it’s what we’ve had until recently.
@Thehistoryofus: It’ll come!
@Honeybee: With as much as our little ones eat, I really do think they should be able to sleep a 5 hour stretch. I was so complacent with Lala’s sleep, figuring it would just sort itself out, that I didn’t want to make the same mistakes a second time! It’s been really nice to have such a reliable sleeper this time around
Good luck!
@chopsuey119: My goal with this was to give hope. You can do it! Isn’t that sleep position funny?
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If you have an iphone or some other phone with apps..there are some great white noise apps out there..we use one all night and it works great. they come with timers etc. but we just leave it on all night
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
@Leslie We tried the iPhone. It worked great except that our docking station is really far from the baby. I guess we could put it closer to the baby without having it plugged in? How do you use it?
So we’re still working out the kinks… Also, I have a really hard time sleeping with white noise. Guess we have a household full of troubled sleepers!
apricot / 498 posts
@ mrs. Jacks I am so happy the shades were easy for you to use and seem to be making a difference. BTW I love the windows in your house. They are so unique.
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My phone will last through the night without being plugged (which is what we do). I turn on the app and turn the mute button on and just leave it going all night. Also the app I have has lots of options (we use ocean waves crashing) so maybe you could find one that works for all. I tried to find the name of it but it seems to just be called “white noise” I think it was 4.99
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
@Ms.SK: You were amazing! Thanks so much for sharing
@Leslie: The waves keep me awake (giggle). I’m always waiting for the next one. We have a really nice ap for the iPhone, it’s on Mr. Jacks’ phone, but we think we’re going to get another different machine too, since Mr. Jacks also likes to use his phone as a kindle sometimes. I’ll let you know how this new machine turns out, but thank you so much for the suggestion and I’m definitely going to use the iPhone more, especially while we’re out and about!
persimmon / 1255 posts
My LO isn’t a bad sleeper but would always wake up at least once until I stopped breastfeeding her completely @ 17mos. Magically, she’s been sleeping through the night ever since.
GOLD / pear / 1845 posts
Your little girls are so adorable! Glad the sleep is improving. My toddler and baby sleep okay, but seem to be tag teaming to kill my sleep lately. It’ll pass.
GOLD / wonderful grape / 20289 posts
Yay for good sleep! Ive been extremely lucky with that. It was rough at first, but when lo turned 8 months she finally decided she loves napping in the crib and life has been awesome since.
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts
achieve a zippylef??
Wow, amazing for little Jacks! She is sooo freakin cute. That’s amazing. Has she always been able to keep the pacifier in her mouth on her own? I think that’s our problem. LO could fall asleep on his own with a pacifier, but he can’t keep the thing in his mouth!
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
@Coco Bee: We started using the Harvey Karp methods for keeping the binky in her mouth from the beginning. You put the binky in their mouth, and then when they start sucking on it you start to pull it away. This strengthens their binky suck.
She’ll still spit it out, but not as often and usually only after she’s fallen sound asleep.
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts
@Mrs. Jacks: I tried that too! haha my son gets lazy and just lets me take it out lol even if I tug really gently he just gives up!
apple seed / 3 posts
Which paci clip holder is that? I like that the string isn’t too thick:)