Remember this post where I was boo-hoo-ing over the end of naps for Lil’ CB?
I take it allllll back.
Because you know what? Life without naps has actually been kind of…lovely.
No, seriously!
After fighting tooth and nail trying to get Lil’ CB to take a nap and then having him stay awake until 10pm, I decided to let him go without a nap and see what happened. Well, we pushed through what would be nap time, hanging out in Lil’ CB’s room with him looking at books and playing quietly with his toys while I read. All was well, and it was actually a lot more peaceful than the usual Lil’ CB-jumps-in-his-bed and I-repeatedly-yell- “go-to-sleep” action that usually took place during nap time.
Things started to get a little rough between 4-6pm — lots of whining, tired irrationality, etc. but, after dinner at 6 and a bath afterwards, we started our bedtime routine and Lil’ CB was out like a light at 7:05pm, a mere 5 minutes after we put him down. Awesome sauce. And *gasp* Mr. Cowboy and I had nearly 4 hours of down time together (read: he surfed the interwebs, I read) before we went to bed ourselves! It was so nice and really restful, as opposed to the hour or so we’d get after trying to wrangle Lil’ CB into his bed and continually convincing him to stop jumping and shouting for 2 hours.
So we tried it again the next day, and the day after that, and for 3 more days afterwards. After nearly a week of being napless (and often trudging through those difficult afternoon hours), we noticed that Lil’ CB was sleeping SO much better at night (not to mention sleeping MORE hours altogether) and overall, our days were more peaceful.
At that point, we instituted “quiet time.” I let Lil’ CB pick several books to bring to his bed and told him he could read them or lay down, but that he had to stay quiet and in his room until I came to get him. I expected a fight or at least to come back to mass destruction in his room, but amazingly, he did SO well. For a little over an hour, Lil’ CB read books quietly and played with his stuffed animals, and when I came to get him, he was as happy as a clam and so proud of himself! He managed to get some rest and we were able to have a great afternoon together. So, quiet time continued and continued well!
I think, to some degree, that not enforcing naps made Lil’ CB happier and he was willing and able to enjoy an hour or more of time alone knowing he didn’t have to sleep. I kept the monitor on so I could see and hear him, but I also got to have my hour (or more!) to get things done or, let’s be honest, sit and watch bad reality TV. And after an hour of rest, we were recharged and ready to enjoy the rest of our day together.
While it was a little hard to let go of the longer mid-day break (for both of us), it is nice to not be bound by nap time when we’re out and about…and though sometimes the napless-ness has affected our evening plans and how late we can be out, Lil’ CB has been sleeping an average of 12-13 hours each night, giving him at least an hour more of sleep than when we was sleeping for 2 hours at nap and 9 hours at night.
Now, there have definitely been days when Lil’ CB has fallen asleep during quiet time (and he giggles when I wake him later saying, “Ooops! I fell asleep!”) or when he’s fallen asleep in the car if we were driving during his former nap window, and we’ve let him sleep for about an hour during those times. Which then brought about the falling asleep at 9:30-10pm-ish. So, in a crazy way, naps have almost become unwanted (I know!) because of the way they affect his sleep schedule at night.
I can’t believe that I’ve been converted, but really, friends, I see the light! Because when it’s 10:30pm and your kid’s been asleep for 3 and a half hours and will likely stay asleep for another 9, it really is rather awesome saucy.
See? Even Lil’ CB himself is raisin’ the roof at this whole fast-asleep-by-7pm deal!
So, from one momma to another, if your child is starting to show signs of nap-resistance, embrace it. It’s really not that bad. (Even though I pouted and whined and met this new stage with much kicking and screaming!) And, if you want, I promise to hold your hand through the transition.
pomelo / 5178 posts
Lol at the picture.
It’s so nice to get private time with your husband in the evenings!
Honestly, I dread when DD decides to drop her nap. She still does 2-3 (sometimes even 4!) hours a day, and still falls asleep by 6:30/7. I worry that when she eventually does drop her nap, she’ll have to go to bed at like 5, just to make up all that lost sleep!
blogger / pomelo / 5361 posts
That’s great! I love the idea of instituting a “quiet time” for reading, etc. instead!
GOLD / wonderful pomegranate / 28905 posts
You know – this whole nap thing is so new to me. My nieces and nephews were never nappers past the age of 1. And honestly they were fine.
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts
how old is CB? It seems that every child is so different in the ages they give up naps.
I must admit, Cobi is only 6 months old (!!) and I already dread the day he gives up naps.
The only advantage I see is that day outings will be much more pleasant.
I have always planned on implementing “quiet time” in place on naps though.
GOLD / pear / 1845 posts
So, what are you reading?
hostess / wonderful honeydew / 32460 posts
HAHA i love that picture of him!
blogger / nectarine / 2687 posts
@Mrs. Superhero: i was reading insurgent during this nap transition phase, and now i’m reading total chick lit fluff! (meg cabot’s queen of babble series)
blogger / nectarine / 2687 posts
@Coco Bee: CB will be 3 at the beginning of september. right around 2 and 9 months is when the nap resistence started. i was reading some stuff on this, and read that about 25% of kids stop napping between 2 and 3, another 25% at 3-4, another 25% at 4-5 and the final 25% at after 5. so, i guess you never know where your child will fall until it happens! and it happened so quickly and suddenly!
blogger / nectarine / 2687 posts
@Honeybee: yup, we had to move cb’s bedtime up by an hour and a half — he was going to bed at 8:30 when he was napping. but, he sleeps for a straight 12-13 hours, which is awesome!
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts
@Mrs. Cowgirl: wow 25% after 5?! that seems very late. most kids I know it’s around 3-4.
blogger / nectarine / 2687 posts
@Coco Bee: every year, i have 2-3 kids who come in to school in september and cannot make it through the entire day of full day kindergarten! and at that time they’re between 5-6 years-old. this year, we had a little girl who fell asleep every afternoon at 2 for the first 3 weeks of school! we try to encourage parents at registration (in may) to phase out naps by august if their LOs are still napping.
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts
@Mrs. Cowgirl: aww that is so sad and so sweet at the same time. The poor little kids..
admin / watermelon / 14210 posts
awesome that quiet time is working!
i seriously dread the day charlie drops his nap. i don’t think he’ll drop it in the next year since he’ll be in daycare, and naps well there since everyone else does. that means he’ll be 3 1/2. i think he’ll have to drop if after then when he starts pre-k!
GOLD / pomelo / 5167 posts
Mavrick naps at daycare but sometimes on weekends he doesn’t want. When we can see he’s exhausted we force him but other times we let it go which also means he’s sleeping aka knocked out at 7. I kinda like that to be honest. But I do love me some afternoon naps. I want to nap too. Lol
honeydew / 7917 posts
Glad to hear that CB has been getting more sleep after dropping his nap. I admit that I fear the day when my LO will drop his final nap, but it’s encouraging to know that it’s not so bad. I love that both of you have quiet time during the day. Such a great idea!
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21628 posts
The fact that you and Mr. CB get some quiet time in the evenings sounds great. The picture of C is adorable! Oh, and I love the Queen of Babble series.
GOLD / grape / 85 posts
Also love the quiet time idea! Em’s slowly dropping his naps, one-by-one, and I’m really loving my coffee these days.
GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts
I had no choice in the matter since DD stopped napping consistently at 15 months! At first you freak out, then you’re super tired, then you get used to it, then you love it. I won’t turn her down if she wants to nap (LOL), but it’s also great if she can just stay up. We can do so much more during the weekends and that’s our main family time so if she doesn’t nap, then that is fine. She also goes to bed early so DH and I have lots of time together at night. I do wish that she would do quiet time in her room, like CB, if we were home….maybe when she is a bit older!
pomegranate / 3383 posts
Awesome saucy…I love it!
I cannot wait until my lo transitions to 1 nap and then no nap (although I’d rather not deal with the actual transition period)…but we are quite a ways off!
cherry / 161 posts
A huge ‘thank you’ for writing this post! DS1 has always been difficult to get down to nap, and lately started taking naps at 4:30, and then I would have to go and wake him up at 6, and he would fight bedtime around 9. He honestly wouldn’t fall asleep until around 11:30!
But lately both the kids have been on different nap schedules and that meant delaying DS1’s nap. Well, after having some difficult days of him completely resisting, I kinda gave up on it. The first few days took some adjusting, mostly on my part, but now he is much happier, and so am I! He gets special “momma time” with me minus DS2, and goes to sleep between 7-8, happily and easily. I won’t lie and say its been easy, and I’m still concerned that this will be harmful to his development, but it seems like the right thing to do for our family.
blogger / nectarine / 2687 posts
@Katm558: how old is DS1? cb will be 3 in september, and at this point, about a third of his little buddies seem to have stopped napping before their third birthday. and the consensus seems to be that no nap = more sleep and better sleep! i was very skeptical before i actually experienced it myself! and you’re right, this is what’s right for us right now! (sheesh, how many times can i use the word “right” in a sentence?!)