Hellobee

It’s normal!
I don’t like being pregnant either. It makes me fat, ugly, moody and tired. It also caused me to dry up at 3 months .. I really wanted to keep nursing my Lo.
I let her comfort nurse (nothing comes out) but I wish my boobs were still producing milk!

I’m super thankful for my baby2 and a healthy pregnancy though!!

Totally normal! Especially at the stage where you’re at. Like you said, it’s tough to have that kind of concrete connection before you have heard a heartbeat or seen an ultrasound and meanwhile you’re feeling awful. It will get better, but to be honest I always kind of thought it was rough. The weight gain alone was enough to make me over it!

Ha! As much as I pray for a BFP, I’m really not looking forward to being pregnant. I’m also not looking forward to delivery or being up all night or being worried if I’m completey screwing up my child. And who says that we have to embrace the crappy parts? It’s not like it makes you any less deserving of having a child. And if anything, those crappy parts will hopefully make you appreciate the good times more!

I hated every second of pregnancy. I didn’t even have a complicated pregnancy! I was in severe (for me) rib pain from 22 weeks to delivery. I had morning sickness from 6-15ish weeks. I felt ugly the WHOLE time. I was swollen. My hands stung at night and were numb in the day from swelling. I had contractions from 27 weeks from a car accident. Heartburn for more than half of my pregnancy, etc etc etc.

But…. all that is “normal.” And I can’t really say “it was worth it” but I know I would do it again for another baby….

I hated 90% of my pregnancies, and if I’m being honest, sometimes being a parent sucks, too. It’s those individual moments of “I’m not sure I can do this anymore” that are really tough, and even though there are a million good moments for every bad one, everyone experiences this at some time. It’s nothing to feel guilty about; it’s the nature of life. We all struggle sometimes, we all have hard moments. Just concentrate on those wonderful moments when they come and remind yourself that eventually you’ll get through the rough patch and things will get easier.

I am not even sick, but I am over the fatigue. Plus the constant worrying doesn’t help at all. It is all I can think about. I CAN NOT wait for the 2nd trimester and feeling some what like myself again. I know that it will all be worth it when we get to hold our sweet baby but for now I am not enjoying it either.

yep that first trimester is one of the hardest to get through. Just like you said, day after day of feeling yucky just wears you out. I just kept reminding myself though, that if I feel yucky and sick and tired and nauseated, that was a good thing, that meant baby was alive and kicking and growing. don’t feel guilty, allow yourself to complain a little about it (my favorite line was, I’m so sick and tired of being sick and tired), but just know that it’s temporary, you’ll get there, you’ll get better. especially when you start hearing the heart beat, and when you start feeling baby thumping around, you’ll smile.

I loved being prego the first time around with my oldest child. this time? not so much. I’m miserable sick all day can’t sleep, wanting to throw up but can’t and just I don’t like food. but I feel guilty complaining just like you because it was a long road to having this second little one and I cannot wait to get out of this first trimester.

I didn’t necessarily have the same issues early in my pregnancy but am hating the third trimester this time around.

honestly don’t worry about it. It actually makes you realize you ARE pregnant. I had ZERO symptoms and sometimes it would drive me bananas, like I was simply imagining I was pregnant seeing I was never nauseous.

If you were to look at my google search history from weeks six – ten you’d find a lot of “pregnant and miserable” type searches. It gets better.

I felt so guilty for hating the pregnancy symptoms. I had tried so hard and prayed for so long to get pregnant. Then we adopted and immediately became pregnant with twins. I was so freaked out about the thought of three babies and I was so sick that I had trouble enjoying it. I had horrible guilt about it. I tried not to complain to anyone for fear that they would throw it in my face that being pregnant was what I wanted when all I wanted to do was cry. I spent hours sick in the bathroom with my infant on the floor with me. None of that is beautiful or joyful, it’s just plain not fun. No one likes being sick and it’s ok to feel that way. In my opinion there are good and bad about pregnancy. Morning sickness sucks but it’s a sign that things are developing, feeling your baby move is awesome then they kick you in the ribs or bladder and it’s not so fun, (mine bruised the inside of my ribs). A growing belly is an outward sign of your growing family and it’s beautiful, it’s also incredibly uncomfortable. So try not to feel guilty about not liking every second of pregnancy, it’s totally normal!!!!

I felt the same way. I was pretty miserable the entire pregnancy and I felt so incredibly guilty because we had to do fertility treatments. It took us a year and a half to get pregnant. I thought I would be over the moon excited and I was… until that first wave of nausea hit at week 8 and didn’t go away until almost week 20. After that it was watching myself gain weight and dealing with back and pelvic pain.

Just remember that you get a baby in the end. That’s the only thing that got me through all those months.

I had the same feelings during the first trimester!! Luckily, I am feeling 100% better now (since about 14 weeks). It is so nice to finally enjoy pregnancy. Although Mrs. Sunglasses makes a good point – when I started feeling better but couldn’t feel the baby I was paranoid that something was wrong. I spent a lot of time during those early weeks looking at baby clothes online (and reading a lot of hellobee!) to try to keep myself focused on the end goal of baby instead of how crappy I was feeling.

I recently wrote a post a bout feeling guilty about my pregnancy, I think it happens to everyone at some point. Here is the post: http://singlemamalife.com/2012/07/20/guilt/

No I really hated it most of the time. 1st trimester I was all-day nauseous (never threw up but wished I could have) and had horrible food aversions. I couldn’t drink water because it tasted disgusting and I had whatever that condition is where you overproduce saliva. This was in addition to being constantly hungry- and the only things that I wanted to eat were carbs so I put on more weight that I should have. I know it’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel now but for most everyone I know (including myself) things got better by the 2nd trimester. And when you can start to feel the baby move it definitely feels a little more worth it to put up with the annoying stuff!

Not a fan of the nausea, but what I’m really hating is this exhaustion combined with having a harder time falling asleep/staying asleep! Uggggg. I’m one of those people that normally gets through the day by riding the energy highs and then chillaxing if/when I run out of energy. So I really can’t function at all right now! I’ve read a lot of blogs/interviews with fitness chicks who talked about feeling amazing and so full of energy in their 2nd trimester, so whenever I’m really hating it I’m just reminding myself that it’s just one more month. But then I’m so scared that I’m going to be one of those women who just keeps feeling crappy for the entire 9 months. noooooo.

Honestly, I don’t have very many symptoms and I pray for nausea, as then at least I would feel less anxious about whether or not the baby is okay. I think the grass is always greener

You are in good company. I found being pregnant so difficult, and I would always think if it’s this hard when the baby is on the inside, what the heck am I going to do when the baby is born. But I LOVE, LOVE being a mom, and it’s all so much easier when you physically feel good. Hang in there – the second trimester gets way better and it’s fun when you start really showing! Plus people keep telling you how beautiful and everyone tells you about their babies – no matter if their babies are full grown adults. The first trimester is the worst I thought.

Hated both pregnancies, pretty my the whole time. I was super sick and had pubic symphysis (sp?) pain. Doesn’t mean you don ‘t/won’t live your baby. It’s easier when you feel them move.

Very normal! We all go through this, thankful for the pregnancy, not thankful for the sickness that comes alone the first few weeks. Once you hit 2nd trimester and feel movement, feel better you will forget all about the morning sickness!

” I would embrace morning sickness and fatigue and anything else because my heart would be so full of love and thankfulness for the life growing inside me.”

I tell myself this all the time! I hope I enjoy being pregnant once I am

I felt the exact same way. Over the moon thrilled that I was finally pregnant after years of infertility, but hated every single second of being pregnant. I had a difficult, high-risk pregnancy filled with IV bags, lots of pain, and eventually bedrest. In the end though? Totally worth it. About seven weeks after I gave birth to my son, I was shocked to discover that I was actually considering doing it again.

I had all the same feelings you’re describing, and when I was still throwing up at 18 weeks I was absolutely miserable. That said, at 18 weeks I also felt movement for the first time! and then, at 20 we found out that “it” is really a “she” … now at almost 24 weeks, she’s moving around like crazy, we’re stocking up on the pink … AND I actually feel {really} good. I can honestly say those first 18 weeks are behind me and I’m truly loving being pregnant. I can only wish the same for you … only I hope the sickness leaves you earlier than it did me!!

Right there with you, and I wrote the same guilty blog entry on my personal blog. I don’t think it’s that we;re ungrateful, but pregnancy is NOT an easy ride for most of us. I hope you feel better soon, I promise the 2nd trimester is GOLDEN!

Don’t beat yourself up – pregnancy is not all rainbows and unicorns. Even if you really want something, you can still dislike the effects it has on you. I hated being pregnant. And it was a planned pregnancy. Society says you should have “the glow” and when you don’t, you feel bad even though you shouldn’t! Or, as my PPD therapist calls it: irrational guilt. So now, I try really hard to counteract society’s pressure. When my friends asked what I thought about being pregnant, or if I miss it, I’m truthful and say “Hell no! I didn’t like being pregnant and I love being unpregnant. And I miss my body and wish I was Heidi Klum, but I’m not.”
Make the next 8 months easier on yourself and embrace the fact that sometimes being pregnant just sucks.