I am raising dirty kids. For starters with four kids all running around I doubt I could avoid it, but I also don’t want to… not entirely. I never have been a super neat freak who uses antibacterial wipes and soaps on every surface, which is odd since microbiology in college really grossed me out, but still I don’t. That is not to say that I don’t like things to be clean. It just means there is a time and a place for dirt and I love letting my kids explore their environment.
There is a school of thought called the Hygiene hypothesis. Without getting into the details of the immune system’s reactions, it basically states that in early childhood the lack of natural exposure to microorganisms and infectious agents can suppress the immune system’s development. It has been linked to higher probabilities of allergic diseases such as asthma and eczema. There have been studies that show that there are much higher allergy related disorders in industrialized areas than in more rural communities. It’s interesting to think that all the things we do to prevent disease could cause other problems, but it really can.
So what does this mean for my kids? It means we have tons of fun dirty activities. I am not afraid of a mess and at the end of a fun activity, there is always time for a bath. It does not mean that I have chicken pox parties or purposefully expose my children to things that could harm them. I just don’t worry about the little things. If my kids put their mouths on something, I simply remind them not to do it and move on.
So how do we get dirty? We love to run around in the rain. There are trees around our block with roots that are pushing up the street so there is a giant puddle right outside our house. When it rains, this is my kids’ favorite thing to do. And I am right there with them, usually up to my ankles in street water. In the fall, we love to play in the dry leaves. We can actually do this all winter long. We live in Los Angeles so leaves are pretty much the only sign of winter we have.
We love to play in the mud. If there is nothing to do on a hot afternoon, why not add a little water to a pile of dirt and let them have at it? My daughter is no exception to the love of getting dirty. I am sure if I would let her she would sit and eat dirt all afternoon. I do try to teach them that you are not supposed to shovel dirt, mud and leaves into your mouth.
One thing we also do almost every time we go into our front yard is to look for bugs. Oh yes… it is as fun as it sounds! A grown up has to assist and we pick up the bricks to look at the wet soil underneath. We have taught them respect for the animals they find. We do not touch or disturb; we simply look and then gently replace the brick. Another one of my kids’ favorite dirty activity is gardening. We “garden” all year long. I say it like that because obviously there are seasons for growing things, but my kids don’t care — a few days ago we planted old sticks and made a fairy forest!
We play outside almost everyday. We have a large fenced in front yard and the kids play for hours out there. They get dirty and sometimes need a change of clothes or a hosing off, but they are loving every minute of it. I am not particularly worried about germs or other microbes. I don’t really like them tracking mud on the carpet, but that is another story all together.
Do you let your kids get dirty?
coconut / 8279 posts
I don’t like to get dirty, I’m not outdoorsy. But I would totally let DS play in the dirt all he wants. I’m one for a good hand-washing, but definitely don’t overdo it on the Purell, Lysol, etc.
We went to a picnic over the summer, DS was teething and began gnawing on the table. So gross! But really, what am I going to do? I wipe down surfaces and shopping carts but he’s going to put his face on them at least once at some point.
Totally knocking on wood here, but besides one overnight case of the sniffles when he was getting his two front teeth, he’s never been sick so far at 13 months. I know he will someday, but I’d like to think that me not being a germaphobe has contributed to him having a pretty good immune system.
cantaloupe / 6800 posts
This is something I strongly believe in. My kids are absolutely going to be allowed to get dirty. Heck, I’ll encourage it! I won’t ever be one of those moms with a mini-hand sanitizer hooked onto their 2 year old. I love that you encourage exploration with your kids. This is something I fully plan on doing with my own.
guest
I know that my house isn’t sanitary or very clean by any means. It’s just not how we are and some parents or family members might find us incredibly gross by comparison to them. I do however want my child to love to be outside and enjoy camping. Some people that are overly sanitary can’t even handle a simple picnic.
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22276 posts
We keep a clean home, and I do love hand sanitizer, but I will let my kids play in the dirt, have fun, and get dirty!
hostess / wonderful persimmon / 25556 posts
I loved doing all of these things when I was a kid and will definitely let our daughter do these things, too! The hardest part will be where to stop the dirt coming into the house. In our house growing up, we had a “mudroom” which was also our laundry room. It was perfect for dumping your clothes and running upstairs in your underwear to the bath. In our current house, most doors come straight into the kitchen. We need to figure out where the dirt stops on the way in.
Oh and we have dogs. I know our house isn’t perfect with the mutts running amok all over the place but I think the dogs are great for our baby. She will learn about animals and all the trials that come with them from a very early age – “Whooops, Clover pooped on the floor, we need to take her out more often…now let’s clean this up… and this is why pooping is not okay in the house…” Etc.
GOLD / papaya / 10166 posts
I love to be outside, and I want to share that with my daughter, but the problem we have is that 8-9 months out of the year, it’s extremely hot and extremely humid, that it’s miserable to be outside (not to mention that I hate to sweat). I guess I’m going to have to suck it up and invest in lots of water toys
guest
I have never been one interested in bugs, dirt, or sweat really….even with three brothers… But with a little boy on the way I have a feeling that might have to change : ) Here’s hoping he is most excited to get Daddy in mud and not me haha
pear / 1895 posts
This is how I was raised, and it’s definitely seemed to work for me! I think I have a pretty stout immune system. Definitely want to implement the same philosophy with my kids.
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts
this was me as a kid! We have this awesome photo of my brothers and I playing in the “mud tuddle” which was the sandbox my dad dug in our backyard – we would dig a big hole, fill with water and play in it for hours in the summer! My mom made us hose off before coming inside
it was great fun.
I think that getting dirty in nature is entirely different than germs in public. In nature it’s all “natural”. If my kid sucks on a rock or eats grass it’s really not too big of a deal to me.
But things like public restrooms and grocery carts – those are germs I do NOT want to condition my child to.
nectarine / 2690 posts
I just wanted to chime in and say I think this is awesome. I don’t have any kiddos yet, but it makes me sad to see parents over protective of their children playing outside. We grew up playing outside and getting dirty, so I definitely want the same for my (future) kid(s). I most likely won’t go looking for bugs though LOL but they just aren’t my thing. Dad can have that duty!
pomegranate / 3383 posts
@mediagirl: my husband sent me an article awhile back about how children who have pets (dogs specifically) have stronger immune systems!
I love this post and how you get right into the dirt with your kids! I completely agree that exposure (to a degree) is a good thing.
grapefruit / 4669 posts
I love this philosophy!
blogger / pomegranate / 3300 posts
@mediagirl: we have dogs too. I have yet to figure out how to not have hair everywhere. My kids are around them all the time and I love it.
@BabyBoecksMom: during the summer we get really high temps. We just play with water for short time periods then come inside and get water to drink. I am not s fan of play outside in 100+ temps but I manage for a little bit
@Mrs. Pen: ugh… Public restrooms are the worst, so gross. I more so mean outside having fun. I actually don’t fuss about shopping carts I just tell them no and move on. But restrooms can be so gross. When I have to go in with four littles ones we definitely do some hand scrubbing because I know someone touched something gross while I was taking care of a sibling.
@JennyLayneAZ: yeah the bugs are gross but my biologist side likes to look too. I just don’t like them touching me.
@Sammyfab: I am usually just as dirty if not worse than they are, mostly because they like to decorate me. my husband just laughs, watches and says I am not getting in that muck!
GOLD / papaya / 10206 posts
Lovely post! I totally agree, bring on the dirt
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
I’m a big fan of the hygiene hypothesis!
blogger / pomelo / 5361 posts
I have never particularly thought about the hygiene hypothesis, but it totally makes sense. Plus, dirty activities are some of my favorite childhood memories. We lived in the country and whe it rained, our favorite thing do to was ride our bikes through the mud puddles. I’m sure we tracked all kinds of mud into our house, but my mom was a-okay with us getting a little dirty. I hope to give my kids some of those same dirty but amazing memories!
admin / watermelon / 14210 posts
i don’t mind dirt because i was a big ol tomboy, but i am a bit of a germaphobe i must admit! i don’t think i can ever help that. i am a hand washing, wipes carrying maniac!
wonderful olive / 19353 posts
I’d definitely let my kids get dirty because that’s part of the fun and building some childhood memories! But it also doesn’t mean I’ll let them eat dirt or random things they play with from the ground.
blogger / pomegranate / 3201 posts
Thank you for this post! Sometimes I feel like a bad mom because I’m not super anal about things he puts his mouth on (if I can stop him, I do, but sometimes I can’t, so oh well). We have two dogs, so the floors in our house are clean for like 5 minutes after I clean them and I do not have time to clean them every 5 minutes (or even every 5 days). So far, he’s only had one little cold in almost 10 months, so I think my system is working (I hope I don’t eat my words).
pomelo / 5866 posts
DD loved reading the book Dirty Larry over and over again. We have rainboots and a sand table for great dirty moments The pitfalls of this lifestyle include intense washing of sand out of the hair and other moms’ looks of shock.