I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: breastfeeding is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. It is a lot of work and a huge commitment, especially while working full time. I met and exceeded my goal of breastfeeding for a year and now that I don’t have a goal, I’m just taking it one day at a time.
This week is the first one where I haven’t brought my pump to work since the school year began last August. I definitely did a happy dance when I packed it away on Sunday night, knowing that we would be reunited one day in the future, but not for at least another year. Now that I’m no longer pumping at work, I am so much more aware of how much time, energy, and planning it took as part of my daily life.
The Routine
5:30am – Wake up if I needed to pump before Liam woke up – there were a few months when I did this because he was eating more than I was pumping at work.
6:30am – Nurse Liam
7:00am – Pack pump bag unless I did it the night before, but that was rare.
10:30am – Pump at work: lock my classroom door, get a snack and water ready so I can reach them once I start, put my cover on, get my parts hooked up, pump for 20 minutes while eating and grading or lesson planning, put milk and parts in the fridge, pack up pump.
12:30pm – Repeat the process above during my lunch break, heat up lunch before I start if needed.
3:20pm – Repeat the process above after school – it was really hard to not be available to my students during lunch and after school.
4:00pm – Get home, put milk away, and nurse Liam.
6:30pm – Nurse Liam before he goes to bed. Sometimes I’d nurse him between these last two feedings if he wanted to.
8:00pm – Wash pump parts and bottles from the day. I ended up having 4 sets of pump parts so I didn’t have to wash them constantly. In the beginning, I only had two sets and was using them both everyday, which made me super grumpy. I spent a little extra money on more parts and relieved a lot of stress.
The Breakup
Stopping pumping was like breaking up with someone. I had spent so much time with this machine for a whole year, and I couldn’t just quit cold turkey or I risked developing mastitis. I started by going down to one session a day a little bit before Liam turned one. This freed up my lunch so I could use it to just eat and relax – it was an amazing feeling! I could also be available for students who needed help during that time. Liam’s birthday was at the end of my spring break, so when I came back, I decided to shorten my one pumping session a little bit each day and by Friday, I brought my pump to work, but didn’t use it! At the time I usually would pump, my eyes started watering, not because I was sad about not pumping (believe me, I was SO happy to be done), but because that is my body’s natural reaction to skipping a feed (weird, I know). That weekend I packed the pump and all my parts up and put them in a closet.
Liam’s Reaction
That same week I weaned off the pump, I asked our nanny to stop giving Liam bottles and to just give him breast milk in a sippy cup. He wasn’t a big fan of the milk in the sippy, but he also didn’t seem to care about not having a bottle. At that point, he had gone down to just one small bottle a day and since it was after my spring break when he didn’t have any bottles, it worked out perfectly. I packed up all but two of the bottles because I know he’ll want milk in a bottle before bed if I’m not there, which is rare, but happens occasionally. Then, when he had his one year appointment, the doctor said since he was nursing three times per day, he actually didn’t need more milk than that. However, after going a few days without him having any milk when I was at work, he started waking up in the middle of the night. And while it could also be from his new teeth coming in, when he got milk during the day yesterday he slept all night last night, so I’m going to ask our nanny to give him a few ounces in a sippy cup just in case he was reverse cycling (read more about that here). Once my freezer stash runs out, which will be soon because I don’t have much, we will give him a little bit of cow’s or goat’s milk during the day instead.
Of course, the reward I’ve received for all this hard work is a healthy, happy, ADORABLE (if I do say so myself) baby boy who makes my heart sing with joy every single day. What more could I ask for?
When did you put away your pump for good?
hostess / wonderful persimmon / 25556 posts
Megan is 10 months old and this is coming up for me. I’m down to 2 pump sessions a day (I was a 3 pump a day girl – 9, 12 and 3) and am looking forward to weaning from the pump. I am NOT looking forward to weaning from the babe, though…
grapefruit / 4442 posts
I’m glad you wrote this, I just can’t pump. Nothing really comes out and I’m pumping to try to maintain a supply at night for my LO (7 months). I want to break up with my pump for good.
cherry / 186 posts
Just last night at 8.5 months I’ve decided to wean myself from the pump. I have to pump late at night (11pm/12am) and wake up early to pump (6am) and I just decided I am done with being sleep deprived/cranky and that my LO will probably be better off with a happy mama. I haven’t read up on how to start weaning yet, but I think I’m just now trying to let go…. I HATE PUMPING! Congrats on your breakup though!!
blogger / pomegranate / 3201 posts
@mediagirl: I am so not looking forward to that, either.
GOLD / papaya / 10206 posts
Congrats on making it to 1 year. I’m always in awe of working mama’s who pump for that whole year!!
grapefruit / 4278 posts
We are at 11 months on Friday and I am counting down the days to his first birthday when I can break up with that pump! I pump 5x a day while working full time and I am just so so over it.
blogger / pomegranate / 3201 posts
@prettylizy: Thanks! I’m proud of myself for going all the way.
blogger / eggplant / 11551 posts
this will be my life soon once i go back to work next week… and i already can’t wait to break up with my pump! you’re so dedicated for surpassing your goal – awesome job, mama!
GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts
@mediagirl: I feel the same way! I LOATHE pumping and am down to 2 sessions a day at work, but maaaaaaan does it kill my productivity (not to mention make it difficult to do basic tasks like depositions and mediations!). I am seriously kicking around the idea of day weaning because my plate runneth over, my supply stinks, and pumping is just so stressful!
ETA: I would NEVER work this hard to do something for myself! The love mamas have for their LOs is breathtaking!
honeydew / 7091 posts
So motivational to hear you made it a whole year! I have so long to go, that it seems overwhelming. I just have to remind myself one day at a time…
@MsLipGloss: Right?! It is incredible how hard I work for that little stinker!!
blogger / pomegranate / 3201 posts
@Mrs. High Heels: Thank you!
@MsLipGloss: @swurlygurl: so true. It’s funny how he always has clean clothes put away while mine sit in a wrinkled pile in a basket…
GOLD / eggplant / 11517 posts
I’m counting down the days until I can return the pump to the hospital and quit paying $60 to rent the damn thing!
But I have a long ways to go. I feel like I’ve been pumping forever (since she was 2 days old) but she’s not even 5 months yet. So, we’ve still got awhile.
If I can make it to a year, I will be so proud. It is, by far, the most difficult and all-encompassing thing I’ve ever done. I was totally unprepared for the commitment.
pomelo / 5628 posts
Condolences on your break up :). Great job sticking with it so long! I teach too and am going back in two weeks. I’m at 3 pumps a day so my plan is 5:30 am, and 2:45 right after school. I’m definitely worried about not being there for the students, but I’m glad I get to eat lunch with people!
pomegranate / 3225 posts
I can’t wait to be done pumping!
blogger / pomegranate / 3201 posts
@Mrs Green Grass: Thanks! I’ve always been a loner at lunch, so that hasn’t changed much (I like staying in my room and working/internet surfing through lunch). Good luck!
persimmon / 1472 posts
Awesome on sticking with it for a year! It is most definitely a lot of dedication and hard work to pump for so long. My pump weaning was very similar to yours – I dropped to one session around 11 months and stopped pumping at 11.5 months (stress at work killed my daytime production). I was SO SO SO happy to quit pumping but I am not looking forward to weaning for real. =P
blogger / pear / 1964 posts
Ohhh I can’t wait for next November! I love nursing but Im looking forward to dumping my pump!
nectarine / 2667 posts
I teach as well and pumping I’d the bane of my day! I don’t mind the actual process, but the scheduling, isolation, and washing (oh the washing!) all are stressors. I feel so lucky I only started work in Jan and will have less than 2 months to go before its over. I’m nervous about next fall. School starts mid-August and LO is 1 at the end of September. I really want to give exclusive breast milk until 1, but I can’t imagine still pumping next year.
blogger / pomegranate / 3201 posts
@mewtill: maybe you can pump extra over the summer to build a freezer stash and use that when you go back to work so you don’t have to pump at work? Also, I have a mini fridge in my room so I don’t have to wash the parts in between sessions.
grapefruit / 4717 posts
This post is so timely. Congrats on surpassing your goal — amazing! My LO is turning 10 mo this week, and I can’t wait to break up with the pump. Did you go from 4x/day to 1 all at once? I’m doing 4x/day now (3 at work and 1 before I go to bed at night). Also want to avoid clogged ducts, etc. and make it to a year of pumping. Any idea when I should consider dropping a pump session?
blogger / pomegranate / 3201 posts
@pregnantbee: I dropped my early morning session maybe around 10 months. Then I went down to two sessions a day, dropping the one after work, around 11 months. I went to one session a day a couple of weeks before he turned one. Good luck!
grapefruit / 4717 posts
@mrs. tictactoe: Thanks for the reply! I hope that if I drop slowly enough, he’ll still have enough for daycare until 1 year, and I’ll still have enough supply to nurse morning and night for awhile.
blogger / pomegranate / 3201 posts
@pregnantbee: Yeah, I took his cues – he started eating a lot more food and drinking less milk during the day on his own, then I cut down on pumping. So far, I seem to have enough milk to nurse three times a day (he’s not complaining).
blogger / nectarine / 2010 posts
Congratulations on your breakup! I broke up with mine for good when M was about 13 months old, maybe a touch older. I was getting so little that it was really stressing me out. So I stopped. We still nurse a few times a day, more on the weekends. And I have lots of 6oz bags frozen (but dwindling quickly) so I’m able to send him with one bottle during the day. But no more pumping for me, whew
hostess / wonderful honeydew / 32460 posts
Congrats!!!!
I broke up with my pump at around 3 months pp with my DD.
Broke up with it FOR GOOD a few weeks ago. DS went on a bottle strike and I decided not to fight it.
I sent my pump to a friend!
grapefruit / 4671 posts
I can’t wait to ditch the pump. DD is 10 months old this week and I will drop to two pumpin sessions a day and then when she turns 1 I will stop pumping completely. Yay!