This is a guest post by Hellobee community member, redsmarties. You can follow her on her blog Baking and Babies.
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The majority of infertility success stories that are shared in the media today are those that involve ART, or assisted reproductive technologies. These interventions are wonderful; I love that we have the ability to bring babies into the world for those who may not otherwise have that chance. But for my husband and myself, we knew that ART would not be an option, for a variety of reasons. And unfortunately, for a nurse-practitioner in a rural town, a couple refusing to pursue IUI or IVF was an anomaly. I was told, point-blank, that if I didn’t go to the fertility clinic, I didn’t have any other options. We were slapped with the label of “primary infertility,” and got the feeling that she truly didn’t know what to do with us.
The basal body temperature charts, the ovulation predictor kits, and the symptoms I had so painstakingly tracked were thrown out the window, dismissed by a nurse practitioner who (despite best intentions) had no use for such things. And I followed her advice; we did go to a fertility clinic and have testing done. But I was largely disillusioned with the push towards IUI and injectibles, and I began searching for another method to expand our family. After too many Google searches, we stumbled across naturopathy.
To those who don’t know, naturopathy is a system of alternative medicine that avoids conventional medications and interventions, and instead focuses on the organic causes for an illness. This sounds a little “out there” for most; I understand this. I have been called every name under the sun (and lovingly referred to as a hippy) for pursuing naturopathic medicine, but since it worked for me, I am an advocate.
After a little research, and some prompting by many women who attended my church, I called the naturopath in our small town. He fit me in almost immediately; a quality I cherished after a three-month wait to get in to the fertility clinic.
My first several visits were full of questions; he had a thousand for me, I had even more for him. We discussed my cycles, my history, every significant or insignificant medical event I could remember. We chatted about diet, exercise, the importance of vitamins and minerals, and even the functions of different organs in the body. We talked about sex (unfortunately), and how we were timing things. We looked at my charts, at my lack of luck with OPKs. And after all of this, after blood tests and stool samples and food diaries, we came to a few conclusions.
I was insulin resistant, which most likely went along with my crazy cycles to add up to Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS). I was vitamin B12 deficient, I was dairy-intolerant (which I knew), and because of my fibromyalgia, I certainly wasn’t getting the exercise I needed. I was also about 40 pounds overweight.
Each time I went for a visit, I came home with a list of steps to take. As I followed each of these steps, we reworked the list. But for a good deal of time, this is what my list looked like:
1. Vitamin B12 shots, weekly to start and monthly after that. These helped with energy, pain, and I’m sure many other things
2. Chromium pills, to battle sugar and carb cravings
3. Inositol, to help regulate my insulin and control my blood sugar
4. Alternating seeds: this was a regimen of sunflower, flax, chia, pumpkin, and sesame seeds, as well as evening primrose and cod liver oil to regulate my cycles. These were taken in order according to the phases of the moon.
5. WATER. This never left my list. The number one thing I needed to do was increase my water intake.
6. Low-carb diet – because of my insulin resistance, I needed to avoid foods that spiked my blood sugar. This meant avoiding processed carbs; flour, sugar, many grains, etc.
Some of these sound ridiculous, I realize this. But when given the choice to cut out a cupcake and down a few teaspoons of cod liver oil, or face another month of stark-white pregnancy tests…you’re going to have to make a tough decision. I also started the Couch to 5K program to get some exercise, and I joined Weight Watchers online to give me some accountability in my food choices. I ultimately ended up losing about 25 of the 40 pounds my nurse-practitioner recommended.
Many months were discouraging. I chugged my smoothies full of seeds and oils, and gagged at the texture. I watched as the full moon came and my period didn’t, though the supplements I was taking were pumping me full of things that mimicked my hormones. And I got flat-out exhausted with remembering to follow the laundry-list of ‘Do’s and ‘Don’ts’ that was taped to my fridge. Cycles passed, bringing us closer and closer to the two-year TTC mark.
But as the months went by, I felt better and better. The weight dropped, my sugar cravings disappeared, the blood-sugar crashes ended. And I was seeing cycle numbers that were unheard of for me; 40 days, 37 days, 35 days! After over twenty months of TTC, just the knowledge that my body was capable of working properly was enough to give me some hope.
After six to eight months of following an intense protocol, losing weight, exercising, and charting BBT, I found myself staring down a positive OPK on cycle day 14 (instead of 30+). And a mere fourteen days after that, my temperature spiked, and my slew of home pregnancy tests read “Positive.”
Though the journey didn’t end there, with that plus sign on a pee stick, it gave me an incredible sense of well-being. I defied the odds put against me by my nurse-practitioner, and with the help of natural remedies, I got my body back on track. I’m now twenty-nine weeks into a healthy pregnancy, waiting for our precious baby girl to arrive. I’ve heard wonders about naturopathic treatments for post-partum recovery, so I’m sure I’ll be calling the naturopath once again.
To be honest, it’s hard to know where we would be if it weren’t for alternative medicine. Our self-imposed deadline for TTC was January of this year; if I wasn’t pregnant, we would have begun the adoption process. I’m sure my body would still be doing its own thing; cycles every 45-80 days, weight that just kept piling on, and a general sense of un-wellness. Facing the minimum two-year wait that is domestic adoption here in Ontario, I may have re-evaluated my stance on ART, and caved in to the pressure from our doctors despite our beliefs.
Ultimately, I know that alternative medicine has its fair share of skeptics. But as living proof that naturopathy can work, I’m willing to take a little skepticism. After a total of 24 months of TTC, I’m grateful that I was given an alternative that suited our needs as a family. I’m thankful for the caring hands and listening ears that sorted out the problems in an otherwise-healthy 24 year old. And I’m blessed to have such an exciting story to tell.
Would you consider alternative medicines for infertility?
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I wasn’t seeing a naturopath, but was diagnosed with pcos too. I wasn’t trying to get pregnant, but I started dietary changes, lost a little weight and my cycles suddenly came back, and were pretty regular, under 40 days. I can always tell how healthful I was in a particular month based on how long my cycle was. Being overweight, and being told to lose weight is so discouraging. A naturopath seems to help you so much more in the changes needed to be done than a doctor does. The just tell you, never actually help you. Your naturopath seems to have been a great help.
GOLD / wonderful pomegranate / 28905 posts
What an amazing success story. I think it’s interesting that all the changes your naturopath asked you to make are changes that overall (to me at least) makes you a healthier person. And a healthier you equals better chances of conception. Can you say then besides just accepting our body at this very moment is ready for a baby that we should really have our body at its best prior to TTC? To give it the best chance? I think most people when they try to get their body ready for TTC -myself included- assume it just means a number on the scale and prenatal pills.
And I’m sorry my post is so disjointed! I don’t know how to phrase everything properly.
Overall I am so happy for you. I am interested in pursuing the route of a naturopath for overall health reasons now esp for my husband. Thanks for sharing!
P.S. Did your naturopath accept general insurance or did you have to pay out of pocket?
blogger / nectarine / 2608 posts
Thank you so much for sharing this information. I really admire you for putting such a personal journey in the public eye, knowing that it might benefit someone else. That is so unbelievably generous of you! Not to mention how hard you obviously worked with your naturopath. I don’t know that I would have the gumption to stick with the regimen that you did. You are one dedicated mama!
pomegranate / 3244 posts
What a great list of things to think about! I’m glad you were able to seek interventions that you were comfortable with, and that helped you become a healthier person. I think the advice you gave are things we should all consider!
Congrats on the upcoming birth of your baby girl!
pomelo / 5228 posts
Thank you for sharing your story
I’m in the middle of working with a naturopath myself, and I hope to have the same happy results as you!
cherry / 175 posts
Very inspiring! Thanks for sharing
coconut / 8079 posts
Congrats on your baby girl!
clementine / 943 posts
What a great story! Do you think you’ll continue to follow the advice and recommendations of your naturopath even after you are done having children?
I think it’s awesome that you found so much success. Thank you for sharing!
blogger / eggplant / 11551 posts
I am a strong believer in alternative medicine, and I loved reading this!! I think the list of things you provided is so accessible to anyone looking to tweak their diet, and none of this sounds “kooky” to me – it just sounds like a more precise way of figuring out your body’s needs and then finding the right substitutes to balance it.
Congrats on your BFP! I can only imagine what that day felt like for you!
pear / 1580 posts
Would I consider alternative medicines for infertility? After reading your story, YES! Absolutely! What an amazing and persuasive success story! I’m at the end of the line with IUIs, and DH is very uncomfortable with IVF, and I don’t want to rely on it as the next step. So after reading this post, seeing a ND sounds like a great next step! I went from considering a ND “not at all” to “seriously, seriously considering it”! Thanks for this post!
grapefruit / 4187 posts
This is such a wonderful story! Very inspiring. If I were younger at the start of our TTC journey, I absolutely would have tried this method first. But since I was already almost 31 when we decided we were finally ready to start TTC and I was immediatley diagnosed with a hormone imbalance that was guaranteed to slow the process down, I immediately called the fertility center. I’m so glad I did since they made me go through months of testing before starting me on clomid so that wait alone was long enough!
blogger / nectarine / 2010 posts
Thank you so much for this post! I’ve never considered alternative medicine, but I’ve also never known anything about it. I’m intrigued now. Congratulations on not only your pregnancy, but on having the strength to keep going down an uncertain path. I’m so happy for you!
grapefruit / 4817 posts
Interesting post, for sure! I’ve never even heard of a naturopath, but what an awesome story. I think alternative medicines certainly have their place and I’m so happy it worked out for you!
nectarine / 2771 posts
What an amazing story, thank you for sharing! And big congrats on your baby girl
pear / 1986 posts
Thank you for this post and I’m so happy that you found alternative medicine worked so well for your case. I also sought out alternative therapies during my time TTC and found that acupuncture was a great stress reliever even though in the end it couldn’t solve our issues and the need for IVF – I had a blocked tube and DH had male factor infertility. During my own journey, I was surprised to learn how much food, weight, and environment can impact female and male hormones and we definitely have a healthier lifestyle now because of it. If hormone issues are contributing to infertility issues, I definitely think alternative therapies can have a big impact. Congratulations on your pregnancy!!
nectarine / 2433 posts
Thank you so much for writing this. You have no idea how much it means to me to hear of your success as I sit here daunted by the list of supplements to take and dietary changes I need to make for very similar reasons. I can only hope that in time I will be able to join you on the “other side” of IF.
guest
Thanks so much for your post! Although I’m not a mama and am not trying to get pregnant right now, I found your post so encouraging. I was diagnosed with PCOS at 19, first dr visit away from home in college. It was such a bad experience. My dr who is otherwise wonderful, handed me several print outs about the possibility of infertility and heart disease among several other risks and a script for birth control. I have since married and learned more about having children with PCOS and the ways to be healthy. Do you think that you would recommend starting these regimines early from your experience? I have an appointment in the fall with a specialist (I have the luxury or living in a large city) to get off birth control because it is so harmful to your body. I know part of what your naturopath recommended will be on my to do list. I’m wondering if this is a good idea to start preparing my body to be healthy to have children in a few years. Anyways, thanks so much for sharing!
cantaloupe / 6669 posts
I loved this post! You did a great job explaining the path you took, and its so inspiring how you took ownership of your own health!
squash / 13764 posts
So interesting…and so happy for you that your work paid off!
pear / 1693 posts
I’m a holistic nutritionist and strongly believe in “alternative” medicine. I love hearing stories like yours! There is so much that can be done with changing our diet and lifestyle!
pomelo / 5628 posts
I believe so much in the power of diet! I think a lot of people would say to those who try alternative medicine that it was a coincidence that you got pregnant when you did. But your ever shortening and regulating of your cycles proves that wrong. I’m so glad this worked for you!
Regarding ART, I agree that people are pushed to powerful meds too quickly. I especially worry about injectibles and IUI because its so hard to control the number of eggs released. But done right, it works wonders.
pomegranate / 3401 posts
What a great post! Congratulations!
guest
I am looking into everything I can to try and get pregnant, I definitely want to try and find a naturopath. Did you have to go to one who was specialized in fertility, or did he just do pretty much everything? Did you pay out of pocket or did they take insurance? It may be different since you are in Ontario, just curious. Congratulations on your success!
blogger / honeydew / 7081 posts
@Christine, @regberadaisy: I’m not sure how insurance works in the States, but my naturopath took our health insurance. I had about $1000 coverage, which got me through about 6 months (the initial consults are expensive). After that, we paid out of pocket, but got a GREAT deal because our naturopath was a member of our church.
I LOVE how many people are considering alternative medicine – makes me all the more excited to have gotten to share my story.
nectarine / 2220 posts
Wow, this seems so simple and concise when it’s all written down in one post!
Having followed your story in real time, it makes me a little teary to see the whole ordeal wrapped up in one happy ending short story :). So so happy for you!
cantaloupe / 6869 posts
Awesome story! Thank you!
guest
My husband and I started seeing a REI Specialist in January. I was also told I was insulin resistant (eventually it would develop to full blown type 2 diabetes) and that was the cause of our infertility. As soon as we got this news but before I was able to really jump head first into a weight loss, lifestyle change – I miraculously got pregnant. I am extremely disappointed that I wasn’t able to become healthier before getting pregnant (your exact method was my plan!), but I am inspired that it happened for you after making the necessary changes. Thanks for the post.
kiwi / 550 posts
I loved this. Thanks for sharing your story! I hadn’t realistically considered a naturopath because I figured they would prescribe random herbal remedies. Which may or may not be effective but would be difficult to find outside sources of information on them. But the holistic approach your naturopath prescribed sounds like it was really beneficial! I’d love to get more info on the scheduled seed plan…and then suggestions on how to get my wife to eat them.
pineapple / 12053 posts
great post! i’m a huge fan of alternative medicine before western medicine, especially with preventative care and when the alternative to “alternative” medicine is surgery, etc! i’m so excited for you and the arrival of your little lady!! xo
nectarine / 2163 posts
what an interesting post!! I definitely imagine that if I were faced with infertility I would much prefer to turn to “alternative” medicine, instead of jumping right into ART. thanks so much for sharing!!
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
Aside from the “phases of the moon” your treatment really doesn’t seem that “alternative” to me. It sounds like you had a good ND who really listened and took the time to treat the underlying causes of you infertility. Congratulations and way to be proactive.
pear / 1571 posts
Love your story! I’m totally a fan of alternative, drug-free methods and it’s always so exciting to hear stories like this. I have two different friends who have been treated for secondary infertility and reproductive issues by our local naturopath and both have had successful pregnancies now- one of them got knocked up again, not on purpose at all. She credits it to getting healthy and then bam, everything else works like it should.
pea / 10 posts
Another alternative medicine success story here (and another follower of your story in real time – hi friend!).
I too saw a naturopath for irregular cycles, and followed her advice regarding diet, lifestyle and herbal supplements, after my gp spent a year telling me it was normal for women’s cycles to fluctuate from 28 to 47 days, and refused to send me for further testing until I reached 2 years TTC.
My naturopath said it would take about 3 months to regulate my cycles, and then we’d have the same chance as any healthy couple. Amazingly, 4 months later (after 15 months TTC), we got our BFP, and are now 22 weeks along. I had blood tests taken before and during treatment and have the progesterone results to prove that her treatments were working for me. She also helped my hubby improve his sperm count, which was low due to his IBS.
I have no doubt we are pregnant due to AT, and am the biggest advocate of starting with it before moving to any drugs. Thanks for sharing your story here, so pleased to hear you’re going well!
pear / 1531 posts
I think natural cures are wonderful, but I would hate for people to get the impression that they are appropriate for all types of infertility. PCOS responds well to diet changes, but other causes do not, like structural damage to the ovaries or tubes for instance.
honeydew / 7968 posts
@raintreebee: good point. I wonder though, if it would help for unknown diagnosis.
Thx for sharing your story! I wish I went that route early on… So at least I’d be more healthy. But then, I wouldn’t have my babies lol. But I would love to see an nd now for my ntnp. Hmmmm.
honeydew / 7909 posts
Thank you for sharing your story!! I wish more people knew about alternative medicines… so happy you had success!!