I really wish I didn’t have the experience to write about this, but . . .
Three weeks ago, my mom was in town, as were my two nieces. We decided to go get lunch and maybe shop a little bit. My VW Jetta couldn’t fit the whole crew, so my mom and oldest niece were going to take my mom’s car. I loaded the boys in their infant car seats, insisted that my 9-year old niece ride in the back seat, and headed out to lunch with my mom following us.
Less than a mile from our house, I reached the first major intersection. I had a green light and was going straight through the intersection when an SUV turned across our lane of traffic and hit us head on. Metal screeched against metal, I felt my body go forward and be jerked back by the seatbelt, and then my heart stopped as I heard Lil’ Brother cry out. With speed that would put a gold-medaling sprinter to shame, I was out of my car and opening the back door of my car, frantic to check on my little passengers. Big Brother’s eyes were wide, but he wasn’t crying and seemed to be okay. Lil’ Brother was still crying, but it seemed to be more from the shock of being woken up with a bang than from any actual pain. I put my hand on my niece’s face and asked if she was okay. She nodded, and her eyes started watering. I gave her a quick squeeze and told her that it had scared me, too.
After their first ride in the car seats that would help keep them safe less than 2-months later.
Our ped had a few questions to determine whether he would recommend that we take the boys to be checked out.
- Were there visible injuries on the baby?
- How were the boys acting? Were they acting abnormally?
- Did the airbags deploy?
Even though the boys looked and acted fine and the airbags did not deploy, due to their young age, our pediatrician recommended that we take them to the ER to be examined. We did, and thankfully everything appeared to be fine. We heard from multiple medical personnel that the absolute safest thing for kids is to be properly restrained in a rear-facing car seat. Everyone had a story of how bleeding and broken people would come to the ER in need of major medical attention; meanwhile, in the same car, a child in a rear-facing car seat would come away without a scratch. It further strengthened my resolve to leave our boys rear facing as long as possible.
Speaking of car seats, anytime you are in an accident involving car seats, you need to consider whether the car seats’ ability to perform have been compromised. If you have any question whatsoever, you should mention it to either you or the other driver’s insurance because new car seats will often be covered under the policy.
The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration makes the following recommendations:
– Car seats should be replaced after any moderate or severe car accident.
– Car seats do not need to be replaced after a minor accident.
– For an accident to be considered “minor,” it must meet each of the following criteria:
- The vehicle could be driven away from the accident.
- The door nearest to the seat was not damaged.
- There were no injuries to anyone in the vehicle (not just the baby in the car seat).
- The air bags did not deploy.
- There was no visible damage to the car seat itself.
Because our accident involved minor injuries (my niece had whiplash and a sprained wrist & I had whiplash) and our car was later classified non-driveable, the insurance company paid for replacement car seats. I’m sure ours were probably fine, but when you have such precious cargo, why risk it?
Thankfully, our accident didn’t result in any major injuries, though it did take about 10 years off my life. It did, however, total my car, so stay tuned for the hunt for a mommy car!
Have you ever been in an accident with children in the car?
admin / wonderful grape / 20724 posts
I’m so glad you and all of your precious cargo are ok!! So, so scary!!!
pomegranate / 3414 posts
I’m glad no one had major injuries. I’ve been rear-ended twice without my kids in the car which was scary enough, I can’t image if they had been in the car.
grapefruit / 4187 posts
Oh my goodness, you poor thing! I’m so glad to hear everyone is okay!
pomegranate / 3160 posts
Holy balls, I was terrified just reading this; I can’t imagine how you felt!!! SO happy everyone is safe!!!
watermelon / 14467 posts
I am so glad you guys are okay! That is super scary. I have only been in one accident, and that was terrifying. Even though we drove away, our car was deemed totaled when further inspection revealed how badly the frame was damaged. I can’t imagine how terrifying it would be had children been in the car with us.
honeydew / 7091 posts
Oh my goodness, so terrifying!! I am so glad your babies and you and your niece are fine! I can’t even imagine how fast your heart was beating!
blogger / persimmon / 1231 posts
I am so glad you all are alright! I can’t even imagine how scary that must have been. Thank you for sharing your experience!
pomegranate / 3244 posts
Yikes! How scary! Glad that your boys are safe, and that you and your niece only had minor injuries.
wonderful grape / 20453 posts
How scary!!! I’m glad you all were ok!!!
GOLD / wonderful pomegranate / 28905 posts
OMG my heart leaped into my throat!!!!
Thank god everyone is OK!
grapefruit / 4817 posts
Oh my gosh, I was so scared reading this. Thank heavens you were all ok! I am so paranoid driving now that I have a child. I can’t imagine what it must have been like for you guys. I
nectarine / 2771 posts
My heart kept skipping beats while reading this! How absolutely horrifying, but so so so glad that everyone is safe. Thank you for sharing!
grapefruit / 4800 posts
Wow, I’m glad you guys are all right, so sorry you had to go through that. I think I’d have had to use a lot of restraint to talk to the woman driving the SUV politely.
pear / 1632 posts
Wow, scary!!! Glad you were all okay
nectarine / 2600 posts
Wow, so scary!!
glad the babes, and you 2 ladies came out ok!
grapefruit / 4278 posts
I’m glad you area all ok! I would have been freaking out!
pomegranate / 3401 posts
Omg so glad everyone is ok! I think this is also a good reminder to strap in the babies tightly in their car seat. I’ve totally been guilty of loosening up the straps say while LO is sleeping while at our destination (visiting with a friend) and then forgetting to tighten them back up when getting back in the car.
wonderful cherry / 21504 posts
I remember when you posted on the boards about this, but reading the whole story is so scary. This has finally convinced me that my baby will be rear facing for a long long time… is 12 too old?
pineapple / 12802 posts
Wow! Totally scary! So glad to hear everyone is ok.
honeydew / 7504 posts
So glad you are all ok! Those tips about what’s considered a “minor” accident are great to keep in mind.
pineapple / 12793 posts
So scary! This is a very helpful post, I just wish you didn’t have to have the first hand experience!
blogger / coconut / 8306 posts
I’m so glad you and your family are okay! This had to have been the scariest day ever!
grapefruit / 4671 posts
Oh my God, this totally has me freaked out. so glad you are all okay.
pineapple / 12053 posts
So scary. My eyes welled up with tears as I read that you heard lil bro cry out! I’m glad you all are okay and hope you and your niece are healing up.
blogger / pomelo / 5361 posts
@Maysprout: It was a struggle. She had the nerve to say, “This is going to make me late for work.” Ugh…..,you just hit MY KIDS, and you’re concerned about being late to work??!!! Gah.
bananas / 9229 posts
Holy cow!!! So glad you all were safe (for the most part)! Car accidents are the worst – you end up so shaken up afterwards!
And the nerve of that other driver!! Going to be late to work?! Hello, not just one but TWO infants were in the car you just hit!! Oh man. I don’t think I would have been able to be around her for fear of saying something…
grapefruit / 4800 posts
What a self absorbed biatch. I’d have had a really hard time after that comment (who am I kidding I would have cussed her out), which would have just made things worse, glad you had a level head in such a tough situation.
cherry / 116 posts
Oh my goodness… that is every mother’s nightmare! You must have been so scared and I am so relieved that your little ones are OK. They are so so very precious and tiny!
I got into a car accident with my baby, technically. I was 39 weeks pregnant and got into a major accident (I also got hit head on). Airbags deployed… I lost conciousness in the impact. Although I was injured, thankfully baby was OK! Someone told me after that amniotic fluid is the best airbag!
I’m relieved to hear how safe rear-facing carseats are! I’m so scared to drive with LO and that puts me more at ease!
blogger / nectarine / 2600 posts
Im so glad you and everyone involved are safe and sound. I actually was hit from behind/side when Drake was 11 months old. I was driving to work and about to go through an intersection with a green light when a cop came speeding through the section causing me to stop and the van beside me couldnt in time and hit me and the side of the car. The cop sped off and I freaked out as the van hit the side where Drake was sitting. It didnt hit him as it hit the side of my car and didnt touch the door he was by but I of course was hysterical. EMTS and cops and such came quickly and they said the same thing you did, to watch Drake for any unusual changes and such. In the end I took him to the ER just to be safe where he charmed the staff pretty good. I didnt change his car seat as it was minor damage to my car and didnt even hit the door where Drake was thankfully and a month later he moved to a larger car seat anyway and now that seat is gone as my cats decided to use it as a restroom one day
Its terrifying to be in a car accident especially with young children so you get a huge hug from me.
blogger / pomelo / 5361 posts
@alleyflowers: Omg, how terrifying! I cannot imagine. At least I could immediately look and be relatively confident that they were okay!
blogger / watermelon / 14218 posts
I am so glad everyone is ok. Wagon Sr. recently got into an accident that totaled our car, and I didn’t even THINK about our carseats until I read this. The impact was right on the side where LMW’s carseat was (even though the kids were not in the car, both carseats are installed there). And our stroller, in the trunk, was broken (two of the wheels broke from the impact). And the airbags deployed. So now it’s time to call the insurance company about replacement carseats.
Thank you for this. I did not even think about the carseats…!! It was such a huge process to get a new car and get the stroller fixed and everything… not to mention Wagon Sr.’s minor injuries (all muscle strain related)… so the carseats totally slipped my mind and I am now freaking out just a little. On the phone with insurance RIGHT NOW!!!
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts
oh my goodness I was near tears reading this!!! wow!!! I am SO HAPPY you and the boys, and your niece, are okay!!
so scary..
I remember reading that about carseats (thanks to HB!) and was under the impression that ALL accidents require new carseats??
I’m so thankful the boys were rear facing and buckled correctly! Just reiterates how important those things are. Good job mama!
grapefruit / 4669 posts
That’s so scary! I’m glad everyone is okay.
blogger / eggplant / 11551 posts
My heart stopped at your first sentence. Thank goodness your babies came away unscathed, and that you and your niece only had minor injuries. That sounds like a miracle given that your car was TOTALED. I feel relief now that I got through your entire post – so so sooo glad that your whole fam is healthy and safe!!
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts
I am so glad the boys, niece and you were ok. Scary!
cantaloupe / 6146 posts
Terrifying! Glad the kids are all ok. Hope your niece is doing well.
And so glad you got the seats replaced. Good luck with the hunt for a new car.
grapefruit / 4717 posts
Oh my goodness, what a terrifying experience. I’m so glad that you’re all ok and that nobody was majorly hurt. Phew. Sounds like a good idea to get new carseats, too, and glad that insurance covered it. Yikes.
nectarine / 2134 posts
Oh my gosh! So glad you are all okay! How scary!
But thanks for the information — this is so important for everyone to have!
GOLD / wonderful pea / 17697 posts
Oh my gosh my heart was in my throat reading this! I’m SO glad you are all okay!
persimmon / 1116 posts
Good gracious!! I am so thankful everyone was okay!! I got in an accident once as a Nanny, and it was terrifying! Driver in the RIGHT lane took a LEFT turn and hit us, we were in the left lane. I know exactly what you mean about busting out of the car faster than God knows what to check on the babies in the back. We were all okay as well. I am a HUGE proponent of rear facing as long as possible!
wonderful olive / 19353 posts
Holy cow!! This is absolutely frightening!! So glad to hear everyone is okay though.
pomegranate / 3225 posts
Omg. I’m horrified for you. So glad everyone is ok!
blogger / pomelo / 5400 posts
So scary. Just got a new seat so I can keep my almost-2-year-old rear-facing for as long as we can … very, very happy I did!
watermelon / 14206 posts
so scary! I’m glad everyone is ok!
pea / 20 posts
Those “minor” crash guidelines are helpful, but I would like to add that in the U.S. Britax seats and the Diono Monterrey booster are the only ones who currently allow for those guidelines to be used. ALL other seats are required to be replaced in the event of even a minor crash. If you are still unsure, consult your carseat manual or contact the manufacturer for clarification.
blogger / nectarine / 2687 posts
Oh my goodness!!!! How terrifying! So thankful everyone is okay!!!
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This is one of the scariest things I can think of! I’m so sorry you went through this – but thank goodness you’re all okay and the car seats did what they’re supposed to do.
GOLD / coconut / 8266 posts
So glad everyone is OK!
blogger / pomelo / 5361 posts
@mrs. wagon: I’m so glad that this was helpful! Hope you had success with the insurance company!
blogger / watermelon / 14218 posts
@Mrs. Blue: insurance check for both seats on the way! All thanks to you.
blogger / watermelon / 14218 posts
@Mrs. Blue: they’re sending us $150 per seat and if we spend more than that, we just have to send them our receipt and they will reimburse us for the rest. amazing. Thank you again.
clementine / 930 posts
Wow! So glad you and all the kiddos are ok. What a scary experience.
pineapple / 12526 posts
Im so glad you all are okay!
I was read-ended when C was about 3 months old. My car was driveable, but totaled due to the metal frame beneath the bumper being bent. Our insurance company replaced our seat no problem too.
Its definitely terrifying!
pomegranate / 3053 posts
Wow, SO glad everyone was okay. Your post sent chills all over my body. What a scary, scary experience. I’m glad the other driver took immediate responsibility.
bananas / 9357 posts
How scary! I’m so glad that everyone was ok!!!
persimmon / 1194 posts
Oh no! Glad everyone is ok!!
We got t-boned a couple weeks ago (on Mother’s Day) and our car was also totaled. Very scary experience, airbags deployed on the drivers side and luckily DD was on the passenger side. She cried from the noise but was dancing less than ten minutes later. We’ve since replaced the carseat and moved it to the center seat. Her car seat was originally behind the passenger seat but after the accident we realized that we were lucky because had her airbags deployed as well she would have definitely been hurt.
pomelo / 5321 posts
Reading this brought tears to my eyes! I am so glad you are all okay!
nectarine / 2705 posts
Oh my gosh! How scary! So glad you, your boys and your niece are ok. Thank you for sharing the tips on the car seats after accidents.
pear / 1579 posts
Oh my, how scary that must have been for everyone. Happy to hear everyone is ok!
nectarine / 2936 posts
How scary! I’m so glad everyone is ok!
pea / 13 posts
Oh thank goodness you are all ok! I almost couldn’t read your post because the title was too scary.
On a different note, we bought a Honda Odyssey and love, love, love it! We plan to put the twins in the center seats and the preschooler in the back.
blogger / pomegranate / 3300 posts
I’m so glad you are ok. It can be so scary when kids are involved.
GOLD / pomelo / 5167 posts
Oh my! happy to hear you are okay but boy how scary.
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22646 posts
So so scary
I’m so happy to hear you all are okay!!
blogger / persimmon / 1398 posts
I don’t think I breathed throughout this whole post. So glad everyone is ok!!