A little while back I shared that Miss H will be transitioning from her nanny share to a daycare. When I wrote the post the changes still felt so far away. Now, we’re at less than 2 weeks away from big changes! Time is moving too fast.
Backpack on and ready for school!
When I originally shared about Miss H’s new daycare, it was still a very new center. So new, in fact, that it wasn’t even open yet! We’d made our decision based on how passionate the center director was about what she was going to do there, and how comfortable Mr. H felt with her (as I wasn’t able to visit). I’m excited to share that the center has been open for almost 2 months now, and a couple of weeks ago Mr. H and I were able to drop by for a visit.
I fell in love with the daycare/pre school almost immediately! It is bright and cheery. The center director is incredibly passionate about the curriculum, the advances they’ve made, and the future plans that are in the works. We met Miss H’s teacher, who seems excited about her job and the 2-year-olds she’s charged with each day. We saw Miss H’s adorable little classroom, with the cute and easily accessible bathroom in the corner of the room, the little cubbies for each child, the snack table, nap cots and dress up clothes. But more importantly, I loved seeing the materials Miss H will be working on when she moves up to the 3-year-old classroom – how she will learn to write her alphabet, the math lessons, etc.
But while this is all fabulous and great from my perspective, this transition is going to be a huge one for Miss H. As much as we can try and talk through the changes (and watch the episode of Daniel Tiger over and over again where he goes to school for the first time), there are certain things we can’t prepare her for in advance:
- How hard it is going to be for her to not see her beloved nanny and nanny share buddy 3 days a week (sniffle)
- What a change it will be to nap on a little cot in a room of 13 other 2-year-olds
- Sharing the attention of the teacher and the teacher’s aid with 13 other 2-year-olds
- Adjusting to a new environment and routine/schedule
Right now when we drop Miss H off with her nanny, she’s so happy to be there and playing that she doesn’t give us a second look when we go to leave. In truth, it’s amazing because we’ve never had to deal with separation anxiety in the mornings. It’s simply part of our routine that on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays she’s off with her buddies and everything is so familiar. And while we can’t completely avoid the tough transitions I listed above, what we can do is proactively try and provide some extra comfort and familiarity for Miss H, such as:
- Keeping to our same Monday, Wednesday, and Friday schedule (Miss H will still spend her Tuesdays and Thursdays with Mr. H, as she’s done since I went back to work!). When she’s a little older and more comfortable, we’ll transition to 5 days a week.
- Having her pick out the “lovey” she’ll keep at daycare
- Sending over her favorite snuggly blanket for naps
- Keeping her favorite sippy cup at daycare so that she knows exactly which cup is hers
- Letting her help pack her backpack in the mornings before daycare
- Walking by her daycare in advance of her first day so that she can see her “school”
- Talking about “school” as much as possible!
While anxious on the inside about the upcoming change, I am trying to look forward to the time when Miss H is fully adjusted to daycare because I know that my little girl is going to thrive in a classroom environment! She loves to sing, dance, do art, and play (like most 2-year-olds!) and I can tell that the program she’ll be in will provide so many great learning and socialization opportunities for her.
Is there anything I’ve left off of our list that would help Miss H transition to daycare?
kiwi / 511 posts
We had our oldest start daycare at 19 months when my adoption leave was over, and the week before he went full time I at the daycare’s suggestion I took him in for an hour or so for three days, the first one I sat with him during story time, the second one I sat off to the side and the third one I dropped him off and came back. If you have the opportunity I would see if you can do some time at daycare prior to her actually going.
The other thing that was helpful was that we knew what the daycare schedule was for snack, lunch, nap, snack and we moved him to that schedule prior to having him in daycare.
Kids make friends easily and while I am certain she will miss her nanny and buddy she will likely quickly find a new set of friends. Potentially the shift to daycare will be harder on you and for a longer period of time.
Drop off sucks, and I am very thankful my DH does it 99% of the time. Kids feed off you and your emotions so if you seem all wobbly they get all wobbly, practice your stiff upper lip and enthusiasm about how fun it will be. You can collapse in the car. Most kids recover quite quickly once the parent is out of sight if they are crying and melting, if you like your daycare providers trust that they will comfort your child in your absence, they have had practice.
Oh and if you are interested in a book there the Spot book (author was Eric Hill I think) about going to school, not to mention Pete the Cat …he has a ton of books but one of them is called Rockin’ in his school shoes. We typically call daycare school, because they do work on letters, colors, days of the week etc.
blogger / nectarine / 2600 posts
I think these are great tips. I never did anything to adjust Drake to changing babysitters in the past but he was young too so wasnt really aware I felt. I did many of the things you mentioned though when he started pre-school. Talking it up helped a lot I think as well as touring the center before school started. Good luck!
blogger / pomegranate / 3491 posts
Good luck with your transition!!!
blogger / nectarine / 2010 posts
Good luck with the transition, I bet she’ll love it! One thought re: the transition unrelated to emotional readiness, is to do things to boost her immune system. Daily children’s probiotics made a huge difference between last year and this with the number of illnesses. Anything you can start doing now to head-off the number of days she’ll miss next winter when germs are passed around like wildfire will be worth the effort, I’m sure! Good luck, little H, have fun!!
hostess / wonderful honeydew / 32460 posts
awww, good luck with the transition!! no advice, but can’t believe how fast your baby girl is growing up!
blogger / persimmon / 1398 posts
I second @Mrs. Stroller. Vitamins/probiotics were critical to our transition… everyone started taking them when Mini started daycare. It definitely helped us avoid some of the stuff that flew through there.
Also, we found that having a photo of our family in his cubby was a must. When he got sad (that happened A. LOT.), he was allowed to take a peek and hug the paper. Some will say this is a bad idea, but we knew that he needed it and our providers agreed.
blogger / nectarine / 2687 posts
I can’t over how cute she is!!! Hope the transition goes well!
blogger / apricot / 366 posts
Thank you all for the tips and well wishes!
@Mrs. Stroller: & @Mrs. Paintbrush: we have been interested in probiotics! What brands do you recommend?
blogger / persimmon / 1398 posts
@Mrs. Hopscotch: I believe I used Culturelle Kids. We also have been told by our pediatrician that activia yogurt is good too…
blogger / nectarine / 2010 posts
@Mrs. Hopscotch: I just use whatever kids brand they have at the commissary, but I was also really happy with Udo’s Choice at Whole Foods.
ETA: and I swear by Pearl brand for me!