When Mr. H and I found out we were having twins, we immediately went into action to get out of the house we were in and into a home with a better set up for our (quickly!) growing family. Our space just did not lend itself to having three children under the age of three, and because we knew we’d have to move sooner rather than later, we didn’t want to try and move while our small house was cluttered with too much baby gear.
What we were dealing with in our current space was: no parking, no yard, and three bedrooms split between three levels of the home. Not exactly ideal for a lot of young children. The upside was that we were in a very desirable area of the city, near an awesome park with a great neighborhood full of family-friendly activities, in a good public school district.
Miss H walking down the stairs at our old house. I thought we’d have pictures of her standing there for her first day of kindergarten!
But space for us trumped everything. So, right after we learned we were having twins, we got in touch with our real estate agent and shared with her our very aggressive time frame. Fortunately she is also very fast acting and aggressive so she got to work quickly.
In just a few weeks we had our home de-cluttered, de-personalized, extra furniture moved out and stored, staged by a professional stager, photographed, and listed. Considering that less than a month before that we had no plans to sell or move, getting to this point was a lot of work! Once we were listed, we realized how tough it can be logistically to have house showings when you have a young child (everyone seems to want to come on Saturdays during naptime or weekday evenings during bedtime!), but fortunately we were under contract within a week. Whew!
On the flip side, we needed to find a new house, and fast! Over the course of about 3 weeks we saw over 20 prospective houses. Our criteria was as follows:
- In a good public school district (top priority for us with 3 kids)
- In a suburb that was somewhat close to the city (as Mr. H and I both work downtown), with somewhat close access to a train line (walkable to the train a bonus, but not a must)
- At least 3 bedrooms and a basement
- Decently updated/livable (i.e. we knew we wouldn’t have time for any major projects – we needed something that was move-in ready)
- On a quiet street
- A home with enough space that would allow us to stay at least 5-10 years (we hope)
As it turned out, many of the homes we initially looked at didn’t fit the bill. The first suburb we were looking at had a fantastic school system and we know many people moving to that area, but our budget didn’t stretch as far as we would have liked. Most of the homes we saw needed a fair amount of work to be livable for us – there was a lot of wood paneling, musty basements, bathrooms that had not been updated from their original 1960s finishes, destroyed floors, etc.
Once we expanded our search to a couple of other suburbs, we started to see more homes that were even better for our budget and were more updated. But we also started seeing something that we had to decide if it was a deal breaker for us or not: difficult floor plans!
Many of the homes we saw had two bedrooms upstairs and one bedroom on the main level. One thing we were trying to get away from was having stairs between us and our kids. When they’re confined to cribs, this isn’t as much of a problem (other than being a bit annoying), but when they’re old enough to start leaving their room in the middle of the night, the last thing I would want is for them to attempt to go up or down stairs on their own.
It was very hard to walk away from some homes that could have been wonderful but had floor plans that just didn’t accommodate so many young children. And while we know that won’t be a forever thing, it will still be enough of an issue for our first few years in the home that we didn’t want to have to deal with the separation on a regular basis.
What we were finding that could work for us were ranch-style homes. I had a very hard time being ok with these homes because I felt like “better” space meant you had an upstairs (for bedrooms) and a downstairs (for living/eating/cooking). With a ranch-style home everyone is on one level. Close together. I thought we would feel too cramped.
When we found what is now our new home it was everything we could have wanted: completely updated, large finished basement, nice backyard, two-car garage, good public schools, close to the city and the highway, and under our initial budget. The downside? You guessed it: it’s a ranch.
I immediately walked out of the house and told Mr. H it wasn’t for us. On the flip side, he wanted to make an offer on it immediately. After thinking through everything we’d seen and considering our time line (I was almost 27 weeks pregnant at that point and wanted to be moved ASAP), I decided that I could make myself like the home enough to want to buy it.
Miss H “cooking” in our new kitchen. She absolutely adores the new house!
And I’m happy to share now that we’ve been in the house for a little over a month, I am in love with it! Floor plan and all! It’s awesome having everything close together – Miss H’s toys can stay in her room so we don’t need to have a cluttered living room, the bathroom is always nearby which is great for potty training, and once we put the finishing touches on the basement, it’s going to be an awesome family room/play space for the kids.
When the twins are born, I’m so excited to have their nursery close to our bedroom. My hope is to be able to have them in their cribs early on because they’ll be so close by for late-night feedings. (When Miss H was a newborn I had to go down two flights of stairs just to get to her!) And over the next year as our soon-to-be-born twins grow and we have three kids on the move, I know I will appreciate more and more having everything be easily accessible and close together.
Have you recently been house hunting with young children in mind? Were there things that swayed you toward a home that previously would not have been appealing to you?
blogger / pomegranate / 3044 posts
Glad you found a great house, Miss H looks so cute! I remember how stressful house hunting was, and that was pre-kids for us!
When D was first diagnosed with CP I thought we would have to move to a ranch-style house for wheelchair access (ours is 2 levels), but thankfully it looks like those fears were unfounded
pomegranate / 3225 posts
congrats on the new home! So exciting!
apricot / 420 posts
We just bought a house and we liked the ranch style but it didn’t work for us because our father -in-law moved into our basement and they tend to have the same amount of space on both floors. We needed more space than he did and we were afraid he would “overrun” any area in the basement we tried to reclaim, so we went for 2 stories. I like that the kids are on the same floor as us, but that the tv and everything are below. Congrats on moving so quickly – we sold our house in 2 days, thank goodness, but it was so much work to get it ready. I couldn’t imagine doing it while pregnant.
blogger / coconut / 8306 posts
Glad you foun a great house!
I grew up living in a two story home, but we bought a split entry. It’s like a ranch, because all of our living space is on the same floor. It isn’t our ideal forever home – we lack space! – but it’s GREAT for raising our young family. I love having everything within reach (though I hate how cluttered everything always is!) and it’s been fantastic with the little kids. I can go in the bedroom to put clothes away & not worry about the kids in the living room.
We want to move to a two story home that’s much larger, though!
wonderful olive / 19353 posts
I only ever wanted a ranch style house, but our current home is 2-story. DH loves it because he always dreamed about having a 2-story home. Glad y’all love it though!!
blogger / eggplant / 11551 posts
I’ve always wanted a ranch style home! Glad you’ve grown to love it, wow, this whole process must’ve been stressful!
kiwi / 511 posts
I never wanted a ranch because my grandparents house was a ranch and you could never get away from the noise. I really liked being able to retreat if needed. My house growing up was a two story, plus a basement with the TV in the basement. I like that a lot.
The house we are in we bought pre kids but envisioned having kids there. We bought for the yard (the house sits on just under an acre), the neighborhood is peaceful and not a busy street. But this took sometime to get over it is a raised ranch, so not so much a split level but it does look like it from the outside, it is more ranch. If you use the front door (we rarely do but our guests do) you are immediately hit with steps go up or down, it makes greeting people very tight I do not like it at all.
All the living area is upstairs, three bedrooms on one end of the house, the bathroom, then comes the kitchen right in front of the stairs, and then there is a family room and office/guest room. It is a lllloooonnnngggg house, which gives me what I wanted space to retreat, but it makes it a PITA to heat because it is lllloooonnnggg so we have long heat runs which is not efficient. I should note that the reason it is so long is that in the 80s there was an addition added, which was a double car garage and over that is the family room and office/guestroom. So the furnace is not centrally located, it is centrally located to the original house.
The upside is that we only have two baby gates left, one to the stairs and one to the office because that room is decidedly not baby proof but we didn’t like keeping the door close. The down side other than the front door thing, if I or my DH are in the kitchen doing stuff it can wake the kids, because they don’t like to have their door closed. Well the older one does not the younger hasn’t shown a preference either way.
Overall I love our house and when we have the cash I would love to update the main bath and master bath from their vintage 70s fixtures (they work but powdered blue seashell toilet in one and avocado green, tub, sink, and toilet) is not our look but they work perfectly fine. I also am not a fan of the 70s press board cabinets but a lot of time painting makes them livable, but I would like better functionality such as adjustable shelves, a corner shelf on top of the counter and below it a lazy susan corner shelf, the layout is good.
The last thing we would do which would actually give us just the extra space we need would be to take out our chimney, which will happen when we have to upgrade the furnace because it would meet code to vent up and out via a chimney it would be out the side of the house.
pomegranate / 3401 posts
Congrats on the new house!
I would LOVE to have a ranch style house. I.Hate.Stairs.
But a big sprawling ranch style house is hard to find here…everything is two stories now because land is $$$$$ and they really want to pack in the houses.
olive / 57 posts
Congrats on finding a great home! We also had a huge debate about moving when we found out we were having twins. We live in downtown DC with 3 bedrooms, but they are on separate floors as well. Makes me nervous! We ultimately decided to stay, mostly because we aren’t sure where we want to be in a couple years and don’t want to move an extra time if we can avoid it. It’s great that you know you want to stay in Chicago so you’re set! Hope you’re feeling ok!
blogger / pomegranate / 3201 posts
Congrats on your new home!
apricot / 370 posts
congratulations on the house! we bought our home pre-kids, a ranch style. a part of me then, and even a little still now, wishes we had a 2 story because it means more space, and like another poster said, you could retreat if you were on another floor. but i do overall like having 1 floor, with no stairs to worry about with the kids, and no lugging stuff up and down stairs, and more space just means more cleaning
blogger / persimmon / 1398 posts
Hooray for new digs!! When we thought we were re-locating for my husband’s job, we looked at all sorts of homes… and ranches kept popping up on us too. And we *liked* them. Never thought I would say that… but we did. That said, most of them had finished basements which helps with the “single floor” mentality some.
pomegranate / 3053 posts
Congrats on a new home! I’m glad you found one you liked and is on one floor. House hunting was brutal for us and this was before we had kids. I think b/c we were taking into account of when we do have kids. We’re not currently living it in b/c we’re on an overseas assignment for a few years and our apartment is one level and I actually like it. I don’t have to walk up and down the stairs looking for or getting things. By the time we move back to our 3-level house the boys will be old enough to go look for things themselves, hopefully!
I do miss having a basement and having a more adult family room though. I like to keep the kids’ bedrooms free of clutter which means our office and our family room has more clutter, but I don’t mind since it’s just temporary.