When I started back to work after having Little Oats, I honestly thought I wasn’t going to survive. Yes, this is dramatic…but so am I. Between getting myself and Little Oats (and Mr O) ready to be out the door, to packing lunches (rather than blowing the budget by eating out all the time), to managing to keep the house in a semi-tidy state, I felt like everything was slipping out from under me. By Christmastime, I was horrified by both my eating habits (Cheerios for lunch, because I couldn’t be bothered to prep something), and the condition of our home life. We were so exhausted that we just crashed on the couch after dinner, struggled to put Little Oats to bed, and then just watched TV for 3 hours until it was time for bed. Nothing was getting done, and by being so cluttered and disorganized, we were really just perpetuating the cycle.
January was a time for resolutions, making plans, and re-evaluating our choices. I’d just found out I was pregnant with Baby Oats, and we knew that if we couldn’t handle things around the house with one kid, we certainly couldn’t do it with a toddler and a newborn. We sat down, developed a plan, and this is what we came up with. Four months in, and its made life infinitely easier:
1. Organics Live fruit and veggie delivery: This company is a small local one, but they are similar to many other programs. Once a week, we get a box delivered to our door of fresh, organic, (mostly) local fruits and vegetables, for less than what we would pay at the grocery store. Because our produce is delivered, it means we only have to go to the grocery store once every week/week and a half or so, and the store trips are much, much shorter. We’re also saving money, AND eating organic, which is great.
2. Creating a meal plan: for us, the struggle with dinner is walking in the door at 5/5:30, pulling open the fridge, and trying to figure out what we can make in a reasonable amount of time. Breakfast for dinner and chicken fingers were becoming a staple, and our waistlines were noticing the difference. When we receive our list of produce for the week (see above re:delivery), we check out the flyers and the freezer, and make a general meal plan for the week. Knowing what we’re going to cook in advance takes the guesswork out of prepping dinner; whoever gets home first just starts in on the planned meal.
3. Cancelling cable: We found that, when we had cable, we would sit on the couch after Little Oats went to bed and just watch hours of TV. I think we were up to about 12-15 shows that we DVRed on a regular basis, plus whatever else we happened to find on that night. Those three hours per night could be used so much more effectively. So we cancelled our cable (but kept Netflix), and not only are we saving at least $60 per month, we’re also freeing up a lot of time that we didn’t realize we had.
4. Hiring help: With the money saved from our monthly cable bill, we also hired someone to come in every few weeks and do a deep clean of the house. Sure, we keep things tidy ourselves, but the woman we found is incredible. She will change sheets and do a few loads of laundry, wash floors, vacuum, clean the bathrooms, and also do those dreaded jobs like cleaning the oven and scrubbing the baseboards. Coming home every other Monday to a spotless and sparkling house makes me feel incredible…and more inclined to keep it that way!
5. Take twenty minutes: On the cleaning note, we’ve fallen into a fantastic routine. As soon as dinner is finished and Little Oats goes to bed, before we sit down on the couch and open our computers, we spend twenty minutes blitz cleaning. The dishes from dinner are done, the toys are tidied, and sometimes a load of laundry is put in. By spending twenty minutes a day tidying, it saves us from the hours-long ‘big clean’ we used to do every Saturday afternoon. Also, waking up in the morning knowing that there aren’t the night-before’s dishes on the counter and a maze of toys on the floor is incredibly relaxing.
6. TV time: We’re TV watching people – it’s what we like to do. So naturally, we aren’t surprised that Little Oats also likes to watch TV. In the mornings, I get up and shower, then take Little Oats downstairs for breakfast. We put Paw Patrol on the TV (thanks, Netflix!), give Little Oats her breakfast, and then can proceed with making our lunches, getting our own breakfast, and packing up her daycare bag. That 30 minutes in front of the TV each morning is frowned upon by some, but it’s a surefire way to get ourselves ready to go, and I honestly don’t see the harm in it.
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Though a six-point list really doesn’t seem like much, these six things have drastically changed our lives. We aren’t quite as scattered and disorganized, and I don’t spend my days at work dreading coming home to a mountain of dishes and laundry. It helps us strike a balance so that we can enjoy time as a family on the weekends, and not spend the entire time doing chores. I think we’re more relaxed, more calm, and certainly more in control of the situation.
Have you made any changes to help with the work-life balance in your home?
grapefruit / 4187 posts
Taking 20 minutes is absolutely key! We started doing laundry during the week the second we got our own washer/dryer (and didnt live in a building where laundry room hours were 9-5) and it changed our lives. I also run every errand possible during the week on my lunch hour and order everything online. We dont have cableeither! We listen to music most nights then watch a show or two on netflix. I can’t wait until lo watches tv! Still too young for that, he is not interested.
eggplant / 11716 posts
The 20 minute rule is great, and I kind of do my own version alone before DH gets home. Since I get home with LO a couple of hours before he gets home, I let her watch 30 mintues of TV while I prep her/our dinner, and then I go around the living room and kitchen and try to put away toys, put dishes in the dishwasher, put away clutter, straighten couch cushions–it makes a big impact when DH walks in the door.
On the rare day DH works from home, I’m *shocked* at home messy the house seems because I can’t get him on board with the 10 minute cleaning rule while I’m the one that’s gone, haha. So it’s like a toy explosion in the living room and a dishes explosion on the kitchen counter.
wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts
I def need to get into a better routine too! We get by but I feel so disorganized too! This is a great blog post!
kiwi / 511 posts
(1) Meal planning for the month it only takes marginally longer than planning for the week and then it is done. I have 6 months of full month planned meals they were all fall/winter type foods but it did make it easier to just copy and paste a whole week when I wasn’t inspired. I am starting my next 6 months for spring/summer type foods. I do a weekly grocery list though. Finding out that mashed potatoes are possible on a week night if I prep the night before by peeling and cutting, apparently potatoes keep if refrigerated and kept in water for 24 hrs. 5:30 challenge is good ( http://tinyurl.com/mmsyzvk) for quick meals that are good food. Also learning about making sweet potatoes in the microwave earth shattering since my kids love them.
(2) Crock pot, I have embraced it and love it but I had to get over a big fear of leaving it unattended. Also freezer meals (http://tinyurl.com/knapblx) And Sweet potatoes in the crock pot again earth shattering and so soft better than making them in the microwave, not that the microwave is bad but you do have to turn them every 4ish minutes.
(3) Having a cleaning service (no laundry or dishes but they do vacuum and mop, dust, clean the bathrooms and kitchen (including the stove). And they get major smudges off the windows but don’t do windows per se.
We do the dishes after dinner as the boys play and make lunches for the following day. For DH and I it is generally that night’s left overs (we are left over people) for the boys 99% of the time it is soy nut butter and jelly sandwiches (usually a little bit of fruit too on the side), a snack (yogurt, nutrigrain bar, granola (only homemade because of nut allergies and our daycare is nut free) etc) they are done. Their daycare provides afternoon snack.
We only clean (aka pick up) the night before the cleaning crew comes in or my MIL is babysitting, she picks up constantly she calls it her exercise I let her do her thing.
I want to cut cable but I am a TV person that is how I unwind my DH not so much. I am afraid to cut it because we have had so many issues watching things online with buffering etc so the fear keeps me tied but I am getting closer to cutting it.
kiwi / 511 posts
@snowjewelz: Take one thing at time, don’t try to organize your whole schedule at once. I like the snowball effect, once you find one area is organized it energizes you to get another area because you have more energy/time because you organized one place. I also found that once I started organizing one section of my life some of my supposed ‘problems’ vanished because they were not really problems themselves just a symptom of an area that was disorganized.
apricot / 409 posts
We are really struggling with finding a WOH balance too. I’d love to hire help, particularly a yard man, but DH doesn’t want to. He’s intent on doing it himself. We only have one LO and I’d love another, but am worried about balancing it all.
wonderful pear / 26210 posts
The best tip I have regarding weekday laundry is to check if your washing machine has a timer/delay setting, you can pop a load in the morning, but have it run the hour before you get home, so you can get the clothes into the dryer without having them sit wet in the tumbler all day.
blogger / apricot / 310 posts
This is so great – I just had to email this to my husband so we could think about formalizing our routine! I feel like our house is in constant clutter and we definitely decompress in front of the TV.
We just started a meal delivery service too (whole meals, three per week) which I love because as a non-cooker, I can get involved and help lift the load of cooking off Mr. Milk.
Can I ask where you found your cleaning service? I want to do this exact thing, but besides Angie’s List, am coming up short on reliable places to find a great person/company.
clementine / 750 posts
We struggle mightly with these types of issues. Right now we have one two year old and a baby due in early August.
I do have an every other week cleaning lady that is a godsend.
Laundry drives me insane and my husband is drowning in paperwork. Our meals and meal planning stink. We are gone from 6:45 am to 6:00 pm most days. It’s crazy.
clementine / 750 posts
@Mrs. Milk: I found my cleaning lady though a co-worker who had found her though a friend. She’s on my third place with me. Single girl condo, condo we had when got married and now a single family house.
kiwi / 511 posts
@Mrs. Milk: I tried Angie’s List and they were horrible. We did interview a few from Angie’s List that had great reviews but in person, no way I was letting them have a key to my house. I ended up just googling house cleaner and my city and interviewing a few and picking one.
I would never recommend Angie’s List we tried them for house cleaners, landscaper, snow removal and then I just gave up and was so happy that I didn’t shell out for a year’s membership.
blogger / apricot / 310 posts
@kayakgirl73: @Mrs.Maven: thank you both, ha! I was thinking of asking co-workers, and I totally did just google/yelp it. Mrs. Maven – that’s nuts that AL was so off base! Great to know. Honestly, thanks friends!
blogger / honeydew / 7081 posts
@looch: ooh! I just checked this…but our washer doesn’t have a delay setting. Sad.@Mrs. Milk: we went by word of mouth, and honestly, she is completely incredible. Surprisingly affordable too!@tiramisu: this is how Mr O is about jobs around the house (repairs). My dad has offered to come and do it, but he insists that he can do it himself.
persimmon / 1479 posts
Good idea! We definitely need to be better about regular cleaning and picking up. I loooooove when our home is super clean and everything is picked up. I’m going to try to be consistently better at the blitz cleaning!
grapefruit / 4089 posts
@Mrs. Oatmeal: I’m so jealous of your cleaning service! DH wants to hire someone to come in every other week to do a deeper clean because he hates cleaning and I hate nagging him to help me. We are planning on cutting cable come summer, too… using that money to pay for cleaning is a great idea! I don’t know if she’s looking for additional work but if so, I may get her name from you!
grape / 98 posts
I appreciate your insight and can totally relate. Thanks for the reminder to be mindful of things like these.