Growing up, I always saw Santa as a fictional character. I immigrated to the States when I was four and I don’t think it crossed my parents’ minds to make a big hoopla out of the jolly old man. It was a mix of reasons I’m sure, from Santa being completely foreign to them, to being busy working long hours, to simply not doing many “kiddish” things when we were growing up. Mr. Pizza grew up similar to the way I did and did not believe in Santa either.
This Santa business is completely foreign to us. I honestly don’t like him entirely. Why is this man giving out gifts to just the “good kids”? (I had to do a little history lesson on good old Santa and how he came to be!) Do kids talk about what Santa left for them with their friends? And if so, will certain kids feel cheated because one kid got an iPad while another kid got a stuffed animal? Does Santa generally give the “best” gift? My questions are endless!
I also get a little uncomfortable with the idea of having my kids sit on a strange man’s lap. I know I’m probably overthinking it. We are still navigating how much of a big deal we want it to be in our house because we want to center our Christmas around the birth of Jesus. However, we love the wonder and excitement Santa can bring to Christmas. Lil’ Pizza is really into role playing, so we have reenacted Santa talking to Rudolph many times (she is currently obsessed with the Rudolph story which has given me a break from her unicorn obsession). We have also reenacted the story of Jesus being born and Lil’ Pizza loves to be pregnant Mary, riding me – the donkey – and Baby Pizza is always playing baby Jesus. We’ve been borrowing Christmas theme books all month as well as listening to Christmas music nonstop, which sparks up lots of fun conversations about anything Christmas. We’ll see how the whole Santa thing plays out by Christmas day!
Holidays have definitely been more exciting for us now that we have our own family and are figuring out what kinds of traditions we want to start because growing up, both Mr. Pizza and I didn’t do a lot of the traditional things a lot of American kids grew up doing. It has gotten us talking about some of our favorite childhood memories around this time of year (even if it only happened once), like the time Mr. Pizza went caroling with his family or the times that I piled in the family car in our pjs to drive around and see the Christmas lights in some of the best lit neighborhoods. We hope that we can carry on some traditions with our girls that can create fond memories that we can share together but also traditions that can instill love, hope, joy, generosity and kindness.
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What are some of your absolute favorite family traditions around this time of year, whether it was when you were growing up as a kid or one that you started with your own kids?
GOLD / wonderful pomegranate / 28905 posts
Same childhood experience with Santa. I am still unsure about how big of I deal I want to make of Santa. DD1 is 3.5 and for now I’m not bringing it up myself. But when she talks about Santa, I do respond, but in a non-committal way.
I think the season can be magical without Santa!
hostess / cantaloupe / 6486 posts
We didn’t do Santa because my mom said she felt bad “lying” to us. LO is only 2 so she knows who Santa is but I don’t plan on him ever bringing her gifts or anything like that. Right now he’s just a cool character to her, when she gets old enough to ask more questions (probably within the next 2 years) I plan on being truthful with her. We always pretend that we believed as a kid so I will likely continue that with my own children but I don’t plan on making him to be real.
My favorite/most memorable tradition as a kid was on Christmas Eve we read the Christmas Story from Luke and then we would open all the gifts under the tree while drinking sparkling grape juice and munching on crackers, cheese and sausages. Then on Christmas morning we each would get 3 extra special/wow gifts to symbolize the 3 gifts of the magi. When my kids are a bit older I plan on continuing this tradition.
cantaloupe / 6131 posts
So funny, DH and I were just talking about how we feel like its a little weird to go take pictures with Santa and how frightening it could be to some children.
Santa was real for DH’s family and not for mine, but DH got wise pretty early on, so we’ve decided not to bother with the mythology of Santa. We’re more interested in the Jesus aspect of Christmas. We don’t mind Santa as a fictional character, but things like a Santa-themed Advent calendar we saw yesterday at Target sort of cracked us up – how confusing!
I didn’t grow up with any Christmas traditions other than going to church, so I’m excited to create our own. DS is a little young this year to understand, but I think a lot about things that might be fun. I definitely want to do an Advent calendar and give Christmas jammies on Christmas Eve, maybe open 1 gift before bed on Christmas Eve, and have some kind of cozy breakfast in the morning, like chocolate chip pancakes. I’m also looking forward to my kids being old enough to participate in Christmas pageants or choirs or something. Can’t wait!
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I love the tradition of Santa. I just think it was so much fun when I was a kid and even now with my child. He’s only two but he is already pretty fascinated by him. When I was a kid, all of our presents were from Santa and it never even crossed my mind to wonder why we didn’t have parents from our mom & dad haha. when I became an adult, it kind of surprised me that Samta only left one present in some families. I had never heard of that! I do think kids talk but I can’t say I’m worried about it. You get what you get and you don’t throw a fit. People are always going to have or get something “better” than you. Kids might as well start learning to be happy with what you have now, in my opinion. A hard lesson sometimes, but an important one.
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Oops typo! Any presents from our mom & dad, not parents lol.
blogger / apricot / 431 posts
@regberadaisy: yes, you are right..there is magic in Christmas with or without Christmas!
@Mrs. Sunshine: Great tradition to pass on with your children!
blogger / kiwi / 675 posts
@Mrs. Sunshine: I really love your family tradition! Such a beautiful idea!